IVF / ICSI - everyone welcome for questions, hand holding, and waggle dancing

[Gardenpixie]

Ladies, we ran out of space on the old thread so here is a sparkly new one with dedicated areas for waggle dancing, hormonal outbreaks of bonkersness, sniffing, injecting and progesterone pessary related fartiness.

For anyone thinking about starting IVF / ICSI or going through it at the moment, do come and say hello. These wonderful ladies have kept me sane through the last few months and are a source of all knowledge concerning tests, down-regging, ov stimulating, DIY injections and much more so if you need any info or just some company, do join us.

So here's a welcome for everyone and an enormous waggle dance for many many more BFPs to come

Luck, I'm so sorry to hear your news :( there isnt much I can say to make it better I know, but all my fingers and toes are crossed for your FET, I'm sure little Frosty embryo will be super-strength to have gone through the freezing process, and so will be ultra-sticky too :)

Luck I've been thinking about you all day and wondering - what sad news. Hugs to you and MrLuck xxx

luck my heart goes out to you, be kind and getle to yourselves hugs.

Oh I'm so sorry luck, thinking of you and sending love and hugs.

Keeping everything crossed for you and Frosty.

So so sorry luck am thinking of you and your DH and second the others advice to look after yourselves. Take care xxx

Thank you lovely ladies.

I've had a good sleep and have woken up feeling better. This LO was obviously not meant to be. We'll have a go with Frosty in the new year, and if he/she doesn't work then that'll be it for us. Dh will be 47 next year and, while having a child would be wonderful, it's not the be-all and end-all for us. We have a large family, with nephews and nieces of varying ages, all of whom we love dearly. In my family, there are several strong couples/women who are all child-free and they are living fabulous, fulfilled lives. Some of them tried to have kids but to no avail - so I'm not talking about militant antis here. They are good examples to me right now.

It may sound like I 'protest too much', but I'm just trying to be pragmatic. I've cried a lot today, but we knew the low odds from the outset so it's not a hideous shock, it's just very disappointing. But if we can be helpful and useful for the rest of our families and friends then that will be good too. Besides, we both have elderly parents who may need more care in the next few years. If it means I look after my mother while my sis brings up her family, so be it.

Don't get me wrong, I would love to hold our baby in my arms, but am also fairly reconciled to the fact that it may not (probably won't) happen. But what I would say to anyone who is lurking and who is under 35 is: get cracking now! I've left it too late, and that is my one regret.

oooh I've just reread this and I sound a bit like I've been smoking something naughty and am really chilled out...I wish!! I'm not, I'm just trying to look at the other side of all this. Don't worry, I'm not turning in to some sort of MN Pollyanna! Believe me, I'm upset, but am trying to turn it around.

love to you all, you are the most fabulous group of supportive, brilliant ladies I have ever met. It has helped me so much to be part of this thread, and a huge special thanks must go to gardenpixie for starting it in the first place.

love you all longtime
xx

Luck I am thinking of you tonight and sending you loads and loads of love and hugs. I know the disappointment first hand- make sure you get time to pamper yourself before the new year and then how lovely to have a baby in waiting on ice, I've read lots about successful FET recently x
Huge hugs xxxxxx

Hello Luck first of all am so very sorry that it was a BFN today. I have just got home from work and have been thinking alot about you today. It is very sad and you are justified in being very upset. I have said before to someone else and someone said to me after our failed cycle-nothing anyone says can make you feel better at this point-it hurts and you need time and time does help in a small way. It s also important that you have support and it sounds like you do-you are sounding very brave and are a very strong woman indeed. That said, any future decisions will be the right thing for you as a couple and as a family-please be good to yourself and DH, lots and lots of love xxx

luck I'm so terribly sorry - your post is so fabulously strong and has made me have a good old weep at the computer. I really hope that Frosty Luck makes it as he/she would be as blessed to have you as you would be to have him or her xxx.

My superteds didn't turn out to be very super after all and haven't developed over the last day. I have both on board but Guys were pretty damning about the chances. Ho hum. Am off to imagine I'm drinking a vat of rather than water and mung beans xxx.

nocake ellan just spotted your news too. nc so glad that your little ones are safely on board and ellan great news - lots of love and luck for Saturday xx.

Luck in case you're still reading, I just wanted to say it's clear to see what a special person you are. You clearly enrich the lives of many people - a wonderful, kind, supportive wife, daughter, Auntie and friend (amongst many others I'm sure). I would dearly love to think that you'll be able to add mummy to that list, but whatever the future holds, so many lives are blessed by you being in them. Xxx

Hello ladies, DH and I are right at the beginning of this process so thought I'd hop on to say hello.
So sorry to read your news Luck, but I thought your last post was really positive and pragmatic. At the start of this journey it's important to know it might not work out.

Having had all the prep tests (numerous times) and spent a year on the NHS waiting lists, we've decided to go private and have our first appt at the Bridge in London in two weeks time.

Question - how fast do things move if at that consultation they agree that IVF is the right route forward?

Thanks x

Teds fingers crossed for you. When I was mentalling the 2ww I saw loads of stuff on the internet that suggested the correlation between bfp and embryo quality is less important than you'd think. Stay positive

bext We went from first consultation in mid May to bfp early August. The treatment (first drugs to bfp) lasted 8 weeks so I guess we started in early June. HTH

Hang in there Teds, maybe have some ribena in a glass and look after yourself xxx

Groan, I just re read that post - ribena in a wine glass?! Who am I trying to kid?!!

Oh no, teds, I'm sorry it isn't more hopeful. Well, they put them in, and it ain't over til the fat lady sings, and I ain't singing at the moment so hold on!

You just never know

owl, thanks for that, really helpful, and congrats!

Hello everyone. Once again tons has happened in just 3 days.

Luck I'm so sorry bur what an amazing positive and inspiring post, you deserve every happiness as you sound like such a giving person. Hang on in there, don't give up hope, have a few well deserved months off and then start afresh in the new year. Wishing you all the luck you deserve.

No cake and Boddecia hope your little embies are settling in nicely and getting all snug and cosy. Ellan and Teds good luck with your ET.

Garden so glad that this cycle is going well, you really deserve it - after starting this thread and being so supportive to everyone on it, it really is your time to share some positive news.

Womanly really pleased your spotting has stopped and good luck with your scan in a couple of weeks - it will go quickly I promise!

Louise ginger biscuits are supposed to be good and also try acupuncture, it really does help to educe the nausea. Hope you feel better soon. Just keep thinking, its all worth it!

Skitoo great news on your follicles, fingers crossed for your next scan.

Big waves to everyone else. I'm off to France on Saturday camping for a week so will have no internet access for a week, I'm sure loads will happen while I'm away so sending positive vibes to everyone.

Speak to you in a week or so.

xxxx

Dear luck I was so sad to read your BFN post - and like others on here, I was inspired by your recent post - you deserve all the happiness in the world. Good luck with Frosty...
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Luck You are truly amazing - Please do not give up - I hope that when you are ready you can start afresh. And while it comes together, I love how you are focused on what's important for you and how you can continue to contribute to your life and the lives of those around you - - what a real treasure you are - big hug.

Teds I agree with bod - it isn't over yet - hang in there and am waggling for you.
Yes, the bfp is just the start of another journey of worry and uncertainty - - but I think at the same time it's important not to lose sight of getting a bfp which is progress by itself. I am considering lurking more to help better manage this sense of quiet pleasure while keeping the anxieties at bay.

Skitoo good to hear about your scan results. Best of luck with your EC next week - I will be tuning in to see how you're doing :)

garden Am absolutely thrilled for you and the second scan results - looks like you and Skitto are due for EC on similar days - Very happy for you and fingers crossed :)

ellan - best of luck for ET on sat - it's just one sleep away - Good job on keeping it together even though you're not with DS and Mr. Ellan - as you say it will all be worth it - everything crossed for you :)

nocake Congrats on completing ET - great news.

caramel thank you - the spotting has stopped which now makes me keep pondering if I am still pregnant or not.. here's to staying busy, distracted - it's so easy to type this, so difficult to keep the mind steady.

I am going to go back to lurking for a bit - though I will be thinking of all of you.

womanly sorry to hear you have been spotting, I've missed quite a lot of the posts recently. Have you managed to get a reassurance scan? I live near UCH in London and you can just turn up and they fit you inn not sure if you are London based?

I'm still not 100 percent, had cramps for four days and an upset stomach as well as water infection :-( It must be linked as it only started when I got my BFP.

Hope everyone is well xxx

louise - Sorry to have worried you there - My spotting stopped on Tuesday. I hear you on it being a busy thread - - I did get in touch with my clinic and they said there is no need to come in for a blood test. They said - test again a week later and if it's positive, show up for the scan on Aug 31. :)
Sorry to hear you're not 100 percent - - hope you feel better soon.

thank you ladies, you are all fabulous!

Teds poor you, I'm sorry Guys were so negative, but as everyone else is saying, until you know otherwise, there's still a chance. It may be that they prefer your lovely womb to a tedious old petri-dish and are even now snuggling in. Useless to say it, but try not to worry too much. I recommend biscuits instead of mung beans, and a boxset of DVDs eg The Thick Of It or Green Wing.

nocake congrats on your ET and ellan good luck for tomorrow - you'll be glad to get out of Leeds, I bet!

We had some good news to cheer us today - we've exchanged on our house and it's all systems go for next Friday!! So that is a huge and very welcome distraction for me. Our offer was accepted in May so we've been waiting MONTHS. We are going out to our favourite restaurant tonight to celebrate and so that I can have many a couple of cocktails .

With the house move and everything I'll probably just lurk for a bit, but I'm still thinking of you all.

Take care and remember: it only takes one!

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Thank you all for your very kind and re-assuring words, made me feel loads better . I think Nocake hit the nail on the head with we always want more than what we're given at every stage, knew I'd need some reminding that 'it only takes one!'.

Luck what an amzing positive post, you certainly are one inspirational lady. I hope you and DH can have some much deserved time out, enjoy your new house move and then focus on your frosty in the new year. You deserve happiness and I know you'll get there. Huge (((((hugs))))).

Teds, I completely agree with Bodeccia 'it ain't over till the fat lady sings' and I've gagged her (not you btw *Bodeccia ). Hang in there, am waggling like mad for you.

Ellan fab news on your embies, and top notch quality. I hope tonight flies by, ET goes well tomorrow and you can get home to your dear family. Am sending you a super big (((hug))) up the M1.

NoCake, congrats on being PUPO. Sorry you were so poorly, hope you're feeling better now. Take it easy .

Welcome Bext, this is a great place to hang out, such an amazing bunch of ladies who are so supportive and full of advice. It only took us a few weeks from referral to getting started but then delayed as I had a cyst. Once you actually start treatment it really flies by. Lots of luck for getting going soon.

Louise sorry you've been poorly too, hope thoughts of littlelou is easing some of the yukkiness.

Enjoy your hols Caramel - look after that snugly little bite. Great idea to get it used to travelling so early on .

How did the scan go Garden, still on for Monday?

I had my scan this morning and follies have grown as hoped. I've got 6 good sized ones and some more smaller sized ones, a couple of which might catch up. So I'm hcg tomorrow night, drug free Sunday, HOORAH!, and EC Monday morning .

Wishing everyone a fabulous weekend - lots of waggles to y'all xx