We are all jolly well going to get preggers this month in a nonchalant non-psycho way, and hang onto it, and there will be no brooking of any argument whatsoever!

[ScreamIfYouWantToGoFaster]

Welcome across Rat Smackers! Glad you found the place okay. This is THE MONTH when we get those deceitful pee sticks to own up to the BLINDINGLY OBVIOUS - we are all already preggers! After all; positive people get positive pee sticks!

I hope you all like what I've done with our new home

You'll note the updated title, courtesy of farfalla. Various healthy snacks have been set out on the coffee tables, to ensure our bumps are receiving the appropriate nutritional balance

Also, my personal favourite adjustment, you'll note the strategically positioned peephole, right here, providing us with a sneaky preview of the utopian delights awaiting us in the NO BROOKING vomitorium ante-natal thread.

So let's get to it preggos! Remember: see a rat - smack it!

Hi Biscuits I think whatever you decide to do will be fine. If you feel able to tell your friend undergoing IVF I am sure she will understand your concerns & respect your privacy. If you decide you don't want to then she may well guess but will most likely understand your reluctance to tell anyone so early on.
Are you mainly worried about telling people too early? Ive had a few friends that have confided their BFPs to me earlier than they would prob want to because they sensed I had guessed. One particular friend had previously had a mc & as I was aware of that I congratulated her but then took a position of only discussing her PG (until her scan) if she brought it up as I did not want to cause her any stress ( she now has a lovely DS 2 months old). I'm sort of rambling now! I basically wanted to say go with your gut instincts!

If you do tell her definitely do it by text or email so she has space to cry if she needs to. Of course she will be happy for you but I'm sure all of us here have experienced that sinking slightly irrational feeling when you hear someone in RL has got their BFP.

Anyway Biscuits it shows what a good friend you are to be so concerned about your friends feelings

Aw Biscuits it's nice that you are so concerned about your friend. Like you say, she will guess soon enough, but I agree with others that you should tell her via text or email and be a bit cautious about it. Like all of us on this thread, she will be pleased for you and will understand that you've had some challenges getting to this point, but she will feel a bit sad that it isn't happening for her just yet.

Well, I went for my lunchtime hair appointment and I have BIG hair! I went to a salon I haven't used before and they were very anti hair straighteners and wouldn't straighten it, so consequently I have very big 'bouncy' hair. I don't like it and shall be using the GHDs on it later! Oh well, hopefully DH will like it and we will have a lovely meal and then I'll be able to surreptitiously seduce him and make the baby we all know I'm already carrying!

Any jelly snakes healthy snacks around?

Eek! Did anyone see that RAT? SMACK IT!

Oh and scream I am totally with you - I am not trying to conceive. I am conceiving. This cycle. No arguments.

Oh and ANOTHER thing - the bloomin' hairdresser was asking me about my plans to have another child - I mean she doesn't even know me! I know she was making idle conversation, but still. I just said 'Oh we haven't even thought about it yet'.

Pink CM with a couple of spots my ride might be coming to an end this afternoon.

However that would make it Day 1 of my pregnancy! Which is very exciting and a GOOD THING!

By the way Generic I think your hair looks lovely with added volume - very L'Oreal! (We have excellent lighting in here, it brings out that healthy pregnancy hair glow!)

That sounds like a really tough dilemma Biscuits. I think I should leave it to the wiser preggos in here to give advice, but here's a BIG HUG as my contribution :)

Like your positive thinking Scream

Hope you are wrong scream and thanks re pregnancy hair!

Date night is off! BIL and SIL can't make it and I thought there would be more chance of SWI if we stayed in and had a nice meal at home and not too much to drink Also I am going to try the watching a film idea, possibly a scary one so we can cuddle up - oh he won't know what's hit him!

scream it's implantation. Obviously.
Forgot to say we too have date night tonight. Dinner then cinema :)
biscuits why not send her a 'thinking if you' card but add a letter with general news including bfp 'though you'd want to know'?

Have fun tonight on date night Have What film are you seeing?

Sorry to hear your babysitters let you down Generic but your back up plan sounds great.

Ah scream I too hope it's implantation.

Sorry date night is off Generic though a cosy night in sounds lovely too Also loving the hair. Very, as Thierry Henry would say, 'va va voom'

Have a lovely date Have

Hope you have sorted your dilemma Biscuit I am sure whatever you decide yo do, your friend will understand.

DH came home and I burst in to floods of tears. Oh dear, I am an emotional wreck today. But I assure you fellow rat smackers. Tomorrow I will most definitely be brooking no argument. Mark my words

We're seeing Harry Potter. First time watching a 3d film. Just had a Nando's, yum yum :)
maybe it's rubbish when you feel ill at the best of times but when ttc and af us late and the tests are stupid ambiguous you are well entitled to cry on DH!

Thanks Have It did make me feel a little better. Very jealous at Harry Potter! Have fun, we saw Transformers in 3D, it was amazing

Evening all

Scream - hope this is just implantation going on. Either way I am liking your positive attitude!

Generic, sorry date night is off but at least you are making the most of it and having a lovely night in. Am sure your hair looks radiant and very pregnant :) Hope you have a lovely snuggly romantic time

Maybe we're allowed to burst into tears at the drop of a hat. it's our prerogative and reminds our DHs that we are delicate flowers who they must protect. hope you are being suitably spoilt rotten this evening. Hope you feel better soon too xxx

Have hope you have a lovely night. Let us know what you thought of HP - I thought it was pretty good and the 3D was cool too. I haven't been to Nandos in aaaaaaaaaages - I miss it!

Thank you all for your thoughts on my dilemma. I think I am going to say nothing unless she asks about it directly. The thing is I know I'm going to be in contact with her next week and the couple of weeks after as she goes through the transfer and 2ww and she is bound to ask because she always does. And I don't want the news to come at a bad time on an important day for her. I am sure I am rather bigging myself up here! I don't know whether to just come out with it now. I remember that on one of her cycles that didn't work in the past, she found it it hadn't worked on the day she was baby sitting for one of her sisters because her sis was off to another ante-natal appt! Talk about bad timing! She comes from a huge family and must have about 40 nieces and nephews I reckon so I just want to be thoughtful about it. I don't know whether to just get it out of the way rather than have it pop out next week.

Well hope you all have a lovely evening - you all sound like its going to be lovely and romantic. DH not home from work yet and I literally have nothing planned for tea (which is a lot like yesterday....)

Incidentally, I can't believe we started this thread yesterday and have 165 posts already. Good effort Team No Brooking :)

That's a really tough choice Biscuits whatever you decide I'm sure your concern for her feelings will show, and that in itself will soften any blow for your friend.

Argh!!! The spotting is continuing, but hasn't yet ramped up into full flow. All of my earlier calm has left me and suddenly I'm dying to test! I know what it is, it feels like my last chance to test before it becomes obvious that this month is over. It's not helpful though, if AF is coming tonight there's no stopping her and I need to hang on to my NO BROOKING spirit for the new month just starting!

Where has all my calm acceptance from earlier gone!?!

Oh man, it's taking me ages to catch up what's going on, theres far too much activity on this thread. I read and have little chortle and think of witty replies then by the time I finish reading I forget what I've read let alone what my witty reply was...

little, hope all goes well with fanny cam and it helps the rat get properly smacked this month

maybe I had a little cry reading this thread at Biscuits being preggo after such heartache and having to temper it with her friend still trying IVF. (I think I would tell her before or after her IVF, not in the text wishing her luck for it, agree text or email)

Also agree is so hard to get it right re telling people. I didn't tell people we were ttc the first time, had an early mc and was gutted and told loads of people months later as I was still upset. Also when people asked 'oh, was it first time then?' or other such awkward questions when i'd either have to breezily grin and say oh yes, or tell i had a mc. I'd never ask anyone that myself now!!!!
Didn't tell people except immediate family and one friend (and this all because of a skint friend who'd purchased me a size 8 bridesmaids dress for her wedding I'd be 6 months preggo at so had to 'fess up have dress changed and be the fat bridesmaid) til after scan with DD. Though would tell earlier in future as I puked for England and felt like death warmed up for 16 weeks and if I hadn't been off work and away for a couple of weeks and had a genuine stomach bug and was off work another i'd never have made it to 12 weeks without people guessing from my puke-a-thon.

anyway, there was more i was going to reply to but have written ENORMOUS rambling message, waiting to hear of maybe's bfp with fmu, fingers crossed for you scream, good luck all you rat smackers!!!

Thanks all - am going to text my friend now and tell her - then it's out of the way and old news when she has her BIG day next week (which I am insanely excited about for her)

Evening everyone.
So, had my fanny cam, and got my second best choice result! Which for anyone who, for whatever reason, is not totally up to date with project LittleBaby, was finding out i'm on the brink of ovulating! I really thought it was all over for this month as i'm on cd 24, but my erratic cycles are obviously still going and my left ovary has a very large follicle on it about to produce an egg. MrLittle has been warned he will be put in to action tonight! And he couldn't see anything wrong in there, could even see small follicles gearing up for next month on the other ovary. So, despite not being scientifically pregnant this month, I feel great and really positive. So, look out for my bfp when I test in 7 14 days.

Hello ladies, would you mind if I jump on to your thread and join for a while.
Been ttc now for 11 months, had a mmc at 12 weeks last sept {first baby}now been actively trying now since sept, tried charting with no avail as have to get up at varied times in the morning due to having a mobile job
Tried ov sticks for a while but not sure if we ever got them right, am now on my second month of using the fertility monitor, so not really sure if its helpfull or not.
Doctor agreed to send us for some tests as I'm 34 this year and hubby 36, so have had my 21 day bloods and have come back as normal and I'm ovulating, which I thought, so really not sure what's going on with my body.
Periods are fairly normal, been 28~31 days.
You ladies seem like a cheerfull bunch, all in simular positions to myself, and I could really do with the support if I'm honest. I'm sick of hearing from everyone {including dh} it will happen when it happens!!!! Ahhhhrrrr

That's AWESOME Little. Get to it xx

Pressed send too soon - meant to say welcome to MrsB too

welcome mrsb33. We will never tell you that it will happen when it happens, as it already has. Your bfp is only a positive pee away

Ta biscuits

Little, Fantastic news,just in case it hangs on to that egg or something you shoiuld maybe seduce DH the next few days religiously....

Hello mrsb33, biscuits is right, you're up the duff already! Settle in, grab some grub, and don't stray too far from the computer, this thread si moving seriously fast! (says she who will imminently be lost when grumpy DH comes in and rors not bloody MN again, get off the computer)

What do we want??
POSITIVE PEE STICKS
When do we want them?
NOW!!!

Also, biscuits and scream, i am to say i 'seduce' DH by demanding that we need to DTD every day from x to x, 'just in case'.... He usually complies. Last night he tried to say he was too tired/feeling ill and was harangued for not performing.... what an evil old fishwife I have become....

cd 12 for me btw, settling into swi seriously....

not that I'm Trying to conceive. For me too, this IS the month I'm conceiving. Await my BFP ladies.