We are all jolly well going to get preggers this month in a nonchalant non-psycho way, and hang onto it, and there will be no brooking of any argument whatsoever!

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Welcome across Rat Smackers! Glad you found the place okay. This is THE MONTH when we get those deceitful pee sticks to own up to the BLINDINGLY OBVIOUS - we are all already preggers! After all; positive people get positive pee sticks!

I hope you all like what I've done with our new home

You'll note the updated title, courtesy of farfalla. Various healthy snacks have been set out on the coffee tables, to ensure our bumps are receiving the appropriate nutritional balance

Also, my personal favourite adjustment, you'll note the strategically positioned peephole, right here, providing us with a sneaky preview of the utopian delights awaiting us in the NO BROOKING vomitorium ante-natal thread.

So let's get to it preggos! Remember: see a rat - smack it!

I'm a paediatric nurse Have I'm so sick of working full time and doing rubbish shifts. I'm hoping to get into something a little easier after my imminent mat leave!

Sorry to hear you've been feeling a bit rubbish Little TTC is such an emotional roller coaster. I was feeling down a few months ago, I don't know what made me feel better but have felt a lot more positive lately. Maybe its just because I've been really busy.

Despite saying I feel positive just got really annoyed at an email. A friend I went to uni with has just sent me an email to tell me she was pregnant. I replied saying congratulations etc and have just received a message back saying it was an accident and had i not thought about having a baby yet seeing as ive been married for a while. She said even though it was unplanned that it was probably for the best as we are not getting any younger. Oh my god, somehow I stopped myself from sending a nasty message back. What is wrong with people?!!!!

Girls I just had to let you know the good news that my OH has decided to take the whole of September off between his current and new jobs, and I have someone cunningly booked holiday for the likely week of OV that month...if little baby Fedex does not prove himself on a pee stick this cycle, that rat will damn well be smacked in Sept, even if it kills me!!!

Congratulations Imps a holiday and lots of time with DH sounds like a guarantee for a BFP (poetic?) How exciting.

Babysade well done for not responding how you really wanted to, tempting though it was. No one with sense would ask such a question.

babysade, three cheers for your AMAZING self restraint!!!!! I would (I've done it once in the past- v bad result) NEVER EVER ask anyone if they'd like another child/ a child as you just don't know who is TTC, or spent their life savings on the IVF to have their child etc etc. It's very thoughtless. I did once ask someone- in my defence I was only about 20 and a bit naive stupid if they wanted to have a baby and she explained they'd been trying three years with no luck and decided not to go down the IVF/adoption route. I was mortified I'd aked and gutted for the girl. NEVER again. (by the way, that friend- who is still a friend despite my thoughtlessness now has a 2 year old!)

imps, marvellous news. If you haven't already got that rat smacked there is no chance of it not happening in September!!

farfalla, you never know, I think once you give up on it it sometimes just happens...?

little, i know what you mean, I think I've put the pressure on myself too but saying so much on here it's happening this month that I don't dare think of when if it doesn't... Got the swings between complete positivity and panic and despair... The pressure to get it right is hard.

And I think I may have just found some EWCM when I went for a wee!!! A smidgin (?spelling) to be fair, and couldn't find any more (TMI...sorry) but so excited I may be ovulating (bit blooming late on day 19), coupled with a bit gutted as didn't DTD last night and extremely doubtful for tonight after DH's hideous day... dare i start to think i'm ruled out for this month to avoid beoming an emotional wreck with a bfn?

babysade, must be hard also working with all those families too...

It's such a minefield! I'm sure at some stage in the past I must have thoughtlessly asked a friend or relative if they were planning to have a child soon. Now I would NEVER do such a thing unless they bring it up themselves.

In a way, I think it can be even harder when you suspect there might be a problem. My uncle is in his 40's and his wife (absolutely lovely woman) is in her late 30's. Before they got married they both talked about how much they want kids, but they've been married for 3 years now and so far there are no mini people - they no longer ever talk about it. The wife (I can't call her my aunt because she's too close to my own age!) is rather generously proportioned (in addition to being gorgeous!) so there's a general unspoken concern in my family that this might be causing problems. It's hard because everyone's thinking there's a problem but no one says anything because they haven't directly told anyone. It feels like we're failing to support them though :(

Imps that sounds like a foolproof plan! Could you be more updiffed!?!

Dream I know what you mean about trying to rein in expectations sometimes. Even when I try to get myself to accept that it isn't possible in a particular month (like the month when ov decided to turn up three days early whilst DH was out of town!) I still can't really let go off the hope/need until AF actually arrives. So I never escape the BFN emotional wreckage! TTC is such a pain, isn't it lucky we're all pregnant now and won't have to worry about this until our next DC!

Imps your September plan sounds marvellous and even though it will be ruined by your morning sickness and pregnancy tiredness, I'm sure you'll have a lovely time.

Baby people are really insensitive about this issue, although like others have said until you've been ttc for a while, you don't realise what a touchy subject it can be. I remember once a colleague at work (who I was meeting for the first time) asked if I had children yet (this was years ago when I was a bright young thing!) and I said 'you shouldn't say 'yet' because some people cannot have children or don't want them' (I think I've always been sensitive to this issue even though I wasn't ttc or anything at the time).

Dream excellent news re the egg whites. Don't be disheartened, apparently the little buggers can live for 5 days, so as long as you swi a couple of days ago you should still be OK for rat smacking. Having said that, maybe a nice shag will be just what DH needs after a trying day?

Right. I shall persude him. The food theme continues. Dinner will be risotto. Mostly now already made while DD naps (blimey,looking at the time may even have to wake her up soon, totally knackered the baby on a playdate!).

scream, you're so right. its the hope despite all evidence to the contrary belief that it WILL happen thats the problem. Though I say i know it's poss not going to happen, the inner part of me will still be screaming 'i am i am i am!!! until the evil witch arrives. I was doing this even in the couple of months we were trying all the blooming time IN CASE i may ov before AF returned. Hence why I am now in month 3 of putting off my smear- now confirmed by ninja posting the link to the guidelines- which say avoid if possibly pg or pg, unless abnormal results in past etc. Therefore as I've clearly be SO upduffed for 3 months i still haven't booked. Maybe I should for next month which will guarantee my bfp this month?! (hmm, though i'm away when it would be most convenient before ov next month can't do it for after as i'll be SO preggers again...)

don't know why i'm worrying about booking this smear, as you say scream, because i'm so preggers, i' only have to cancel and wouldn't want to waste an nhs appt now would i?!

dream could you not book your smear for in between your next visit from AF and SWI?
Obviously there will be no AF as you will with child by then, but if you booked it in advance for around CD8 that would surely be ok?

You will then of course have to cancel the appointment.

Thanks guys, im glad I didnt send her a nasty message. She is actually a very nice person and im sure she would be mortified if she thought she had upset me. On the positive side there will be another little baby for me to coo over soon. Have I mentioned I love babies and kids?!

Luckily my work hasnt bothered me yet, being around all those cute babies just convinces me that TTC is definately the right thing to be doing (despite money worries!). Unfortunately as there are so many things I cant do at work if pregnant nearly everyone I work with knows we are trying. Luckily my work colleugues are very sensitive and only mention it if I bring it up. Lots of people have also shared their TTC stories which is really helpful.

Imps that is fab news, how lovely it will be to have your DH around more. It sounds like he could do with a break. Baby Fedex will be here before you know it

Congratulations on finding a bit of EWCM Dream, good luck getting some more rat smacking done. I think you will be covered anyway either way. Here is to the 2WW!

hello hello lovely pregnant ones. I have been absent for nearly a month sulking about not being pregnant. But I am now 9DPO and most definitely updiffed so I thought I would drop in and see how everyone is doing. This month I have no symptoms except for many zits which is exactly the opposite of the last few months which were full of symptoms and no spots.

Oh and I decided that my doctor was trying to throw too many drugs at me when there is nothing (yet) identified as wrong so am not taking anything and this month she told me that my follicles were beautiful and I would get pregnant with twins.

Anyway, I have much to catch up on as we are now on thread 3 so will scoot back and find out what everyone has been up to. apart from the obvious!

Jebel welcome back!! :) have a cookie. Why you're positively radiant! Quick update where I'm at: cd21, 10dpo, minimal swi following Hsg (bad cramping then uti) but I'm obviously pregnant!
Baby I specialise in old people, opposite end of the spectrum! That was very restrained, made me with . May be worth gently explaining not everyone gets preggers 'by accident' to ensure she is more sensitive to.others in future?!
imps that's.a lovely plan :) reckon my DH would like that!!

Thanks for welcoming me!

Nija - Happy Birthday, enjoy your meal out!

Hi to everyone, i'm trying to read all your messages and keep up with you!

Help! I ordered some pee sticks so that I wouldn't be tempted to accidently wee on them early and they arrived today (not supposed to be delivered til Fri) and I need some willpower to not test early (confirming the obvious upduffed anyway) but need to wait til I can get a confirmed result!

Hey Jebel welcome back - not meaning to be rude, but are you carrying a bit of extra weight? You are positively glowing!

Arrrg BabySade - how could your friend ask such a question??? Seriously, what is wrong with people???? Well done you for being such a calm and positive pregnant person.

Little we're all with you honey. Keeping positive is such a hard thing to do - it's so irritating that it's really the only option otherwise this whole TTC pile of shit process really would send people a bit doolally.

Scream your poor auntie and uncle. You probably are supporting them though without realising - they are probably enormously grateful that you haven't been insensitive enough to ask and that they can take their mind off it when they're with you...assuming, that is, that they are trying which I guess you'll never really know!

Hi Jebel - sulk over, time to don your cheerleader's outfit (in the maternity size that is) and do some What do we want?. Love the fact that no matter how sulky I get, all these lovely rat smackers are here to reassure me that, yes, it WILL happen for me and in fact it already has.

Right, I'm off to strip off and walk around for the rest of the evening in my underwear. Goddammit it's hot.

mines that is FLIPPING AWESOME!! What are you doing about not drinking?
surprise bfp lurking we didn't even know about! Man this thread is good :)

YYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!! Well done Minesa!!!!!! An excellent confirmation of the Blindingly Obvious to lift our spirits. Many many congrats.

p.s. does anyone else pronounce Minesa's name as "Min-ESS-a" rather than "Mine's A"?? Nope?? Just me then.

Congratulations & love to you Minesa. Happy news from this thread will definitely raise my spirits

WHAT!!!!! I just lost the whole big post i wrote.....

minesa, massive congrats and big sloppy kisses (a bfp doesn't half make me act strangely, so excited for you, well done!!!!!!). You're very brave going away with the inlaws but surely now they must STOP being so irritating in your Blindingly Obviously Glowingly Pregnant state...imps took me a while to realise how you said it, then even then couldn't stop myself... doh.

scarlett, couldn't book it for then as away on holiday, but would only have to cancel for my updiffedness. Unfortunately DH not home yet, not answering phone- usually means he's run off his feet busy. Poor Bloke. And poor me, i REALLY need to get laid tonight...

jebel, come on girl, I'll get you started:
WHAT DO WE WANT? POSITIVE PEE STICKS
WHEN DO WE WANT THEM? NOW

OH Little, It'll all come good on this thread. You SHALL be Blindingly Obviously Preggers for our synchronised BFP. Thinking of you.

Minesa way to go girlfriend! I am sooooo pleased! You have cheered me up after a very stressful day!

I love this thread!

Positive thinking really works!

sigh. I am back on here because the World's Grumpiest DH is home. Not that I'm not sympathetic, he's had a rubbish day, but I am miffed at my lack of getting laid...