TTC after a Miscarriage - Love and Luck to all who need it!

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Well its about time you had a new thread.
I wanted to wish you all the best of luck with your trying to conceive and say that it might take weeks months or years, but you won't find a better group for support.
We have all been through the same experinces and talking to someone who has felt the same makes a world of difference.
You will all get your BFP's soon and in the meantime, lets try and keep as calm and de-stressed as possible.

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LUCK TO EVERYONE ...........XXXX

That might account for no BFP's Mincepee.

I cant work out why I kept all mine but everytime I go to throw it all out, it upsets me more than finding it.

I got so upset about a month ago when I found all my positive tests. It was awful. I eventually threw them out, I had to otherwise I would have gone insane.

I want to see baby dust on this at least everyday until christmas.......

Our cyber pressies for each other

Hi all, at work today so it looks like cleaning or work for us ladies today.

Hi all, at work today so it looks like cleaning or work for us ladies today.

sounds like a good idea MP

Anyone else aving trouble with MN today? Tried to post this ages ago...

Ahhhh, back from the chaos that was Tuesday morning! Can't believe I slept in . I can't wait for the school hols - get to have a lie in!!

Got to join you in the cleaning, Kat!! My house is a wreck! I only did it at the weekend but with 4 men in the house it soon turns in to the set for a nuclear disaster movie!

I'm so hungry too, but I have got to diet before christmas. I have put on so much weight! I was 8st 12lb a few weeks ago, I'v egone up to 9st 3lb on my scales. boo-hoo I can't afford to put any more weight on

Help me girls, please!!

Lets hope it works this time!

lovely message crimbokat

ASH - how on earth can you over sleep with 3 kids in the house

Nothing major planned for today, had a busy day yesterday so i'm gonna try and take it easy today, or i'll be exhausted, i also ahve a cold coming, which is very annoying, as its getting me even more out of breath than normal.

Going to try and find some more xmas activities for the kids to do, can't see to find anything that doesnt involve sticking. need to fnd something esle.

no probs with MN here,

I'm sure it doesnt matter that you've put ona few pounds ASH, Its prob your body storing up for the cold months.

someone please tell me off, cos i have been very naughty this morning i found a test and i tested bfn my af isnt due till sat but this test said it could pick up hcg 7-10 dpo and if i am correct i ovd last sat which would make today 10dpo so surely i would have got something even just a really faint line??? but nothing have i just tested to early? i promise i wont do anymore till saturday at the earliest but i have a feeling af will turn up

Mincepee - I didn't know you were leaving work. Are you leaving the "force" altogether or just moving jobs or what.

I think Babydust everyday is a fab idea. Mincepee, can we leave you in charge of that?

Well, AF is still here Its been 14 days now Should be OVing about now. Haven't got a clue if I will or if it will wait til all this stops. Putting TTCing on hold for now till all this gets sorted out. Theres no way of knowing if I'm OVing or not without spending vast amounts of much needed money on OV kits. Will just wait.

I kept all my stuff from my PG. I even have my notes. I wasn't booked in offically but I had been given my notes to fill out (seeing as I had done it 3 times before!!). Can't bring myself to throw anything away. I have got a pretty littel box I keep my PG tests in, a few words I wrote and a little pink rose bud from my garden. I tied a ribbon around it and I have put it away. I don't open it but I know its there. Its all I have to show my baby did exist even if for only a few week. Sorry...

Carly - way too early my lovely. Remember you may have OVed last Saturday but you might have conceived later. I think you should wait til Saturday. NO MORE TESTING!!!

ASH think that was a lovely thing to do, makes me feel bad for moaning now xx
Hope everyone else is ok this morning xx

carly - i have never had a bfp before af is due, regardless of the test i used, so don't worry at the moment, there is still hope.

Well ASH you did it,

You made me cry! Thats an absolutely gorgeous thing to do, I think I will have to find something to put it all in, at the mo it's all at the bottom of my drawer so no wonder I keep finding it.

What else has everyone done with their pg stuff?

mine is all together in a drawer as well MXW, i would love to put it all in a nice box, i'll never throw it away im such a hoarder.

mums i havent kept any of mine in the house cos i really find it too hard to look at it my mother has kept some of the earlier ones things like notes and early scan pics and pos tests, but the m/c i have had in the past year i have had nothing any sets of notes i have had i handed back to hospital and have had no good scan pics i know that probably makes me sound really cold but like i said somedays i find it really hard and just get so down and angry with myself i dont think it would be a good idea. (god im full of tyhe joys this morning arent i?

Carly - Everyone has their own ways of dealing with things. I insisted that i had a picture (they had 2 and needed one for my medical book, otherwise I would have had both) I dont know why I wanted it at that point but I had to. To this day, I dont know why I've kept them but I have, everytime I try to throw it away to start afresh, I keep putting them back in my drawer. DF Can't look at it, its too painful for him, hence in the drawer. I want to be able to show my kid (when they come) they're older bro/sis. I know that I always wished that my mum had kept her stuff when she had a mc I always wanted to see. Maybe I'm just morbid or something...

Anyway.......

Carly, that doesn't make you cold hunni, you just deal with things in a different way. I felt I couldn't throw what I had of my baby away, especially after I had to throw "my baby" away down the toilet (I was unfortunate enough to see the sack and membranes ) I don't look at the box everyday, but I just know it there. Like my baby, my baby is here all the time Soppy I know but it gets me through the day, especially days like today, when I am feeling far from okay.

MXW - i think you can see it from your childs point of view, as its happened to your mom, and its good that you're thinking of the future and planning for what might happen.

carly - we all deal with major incidents like this in such different ways, if you woudl prefer to not have anything to upset you then thats not a problem. Its your way of dealing. if i ever look at my m/c stuff i woudl get upset and you're probably right for avoiding that upset, we have enough in out memory to upset us wihtout keeping things too.

I think we're depressing each other here, so change of subject?

Did you watch the I'm A celeb final last night? CAROL THATCHER??? WHAT?!?!

ASH i know what that is like hun! when i started to bleed at 12 weeks they scanned me said they couldnt see anything (eg baby or sac) and sent me home i went home and the next morning woke up in horrific pain i went to the the toilet and (btw this is not nice and i wont be offended if you choose not to read on .....

i felt something come out of me when i stood up i looked down the toilet and there to my utter was a perfectly formed "baby" i didnt know what to do and luckily for me my sis was there and called ambulance cos at this point i had collapsed a mixture of just pure grief and shock. Anyway i couldnt believe the hosp had just sent me home, so for some reason unbeknown to me i asked the paramedics to scoop my "baby" out and led it onto kitchen paper and took a photo on my phone (the only thing i had to hand) i was then going to use this as proof and sue the hosp for neglect, its funny how grief affects you cos anyone who knows me would know i havent got the nerve to sue something as big as the nhs and to this day i still have that picture as grim as it sounds

Oh, Carly, I am so sorry you had to go through that I was only 7 weeks so all I saw was wht looked like a white egg yolk. Due to the fact I have a (unhealty) obsession with all things to do with PG and maternity, I knew exactly what it was, I had seen medical photos and vids, and just couldn't bring myself to "flush" my child away. But having read what you had to go through my experience now seems very trivial. I really feel for you hun

If I had photos I would keep tham too, if that makes you feel more normal.

Oh carly - thats so sad. I had a similar experince, was sent home, definityl felt "something" coming out fo me, wasn't a fuly formed baby though, was just a big piece of tissue, didn't look like a baby, not sure i woudl of coped with that. I was fascinated by what came out of me, and almost kept it to see if they could test it for anything, but i knew they probably wouldn't.
Life is so bloody unfair, we shouldn't even have been through this. im very sorry if any of you are religious, but how on earth can anyone believe in a god who would let this happen to so many women.