Sixth Form Common Room part III - post mc ttc & pregnancy

[ZamMummyInGabs]

Hoping to continue the trend of the lucky thread....

mummya I?ve just read your posts and wanted to post to say I am so sorry for what you are going through. As everyone on here has already so eloquently said, you are such a lovely person, always the first to offer up caring and heart felt support to people who need it. I know I for one was so touched my your kindness when I first joined the mc thread. It makes me sad that you are going through this as you are the last person who deserves it, especially after all you?ve been through. But, you have most certainly done the right thing, EB and violence is just not acceptable and you are doing the right thing for yourself and your children. You seem to be such a strong woman that I have no doubt that, although difficult, you?ll get through this for the better. I?m just so that you are having to especially when you have been wanting and waiting for this baby for so long. But with or without your OH, I just know your little bean is going to grow up so lucky to have you as its mummy.

izzy how are you during this difficult time? I hope the holiday is nicely distracting. I think the scan is a really good idea ? was your original idea to try and get an NHS one at that stage? I assume you had no luck with that? I know it will be hard going in for it, but I am sure this time it will be fine for you.

Mouse YAY for AF ? this time and this time only.

yrmotb glad you hear you had a lovely break in Scotland, welcome back. Get yourself on the list ? you too freezing As velvet says mentalling is not compulsory and it really is nice to see the weeks tick by.

A&R you sound seriously busy but you sound like you have another focus which is positive. Sorry to hear about the cyst, I hope its nothing to worry about as your consultant suggests.

. Hoping to see more of you in the freak out room very very soon. x

mummya sorry to hear that your marriage isn't working out - but as other people have said you're better off without him if he isn't a supportive and loving equal partner. You're amazing and deserve the best.

Mouse congrats on the AF :)

AandR sounding busy - have they started building your house yet?

nothing much going on with me - had a lovely long weekend away with DH and DS .... We were camping and while it was very fun it is definitely nice to be back in my own bed again

Thanks again ladies - and thanks to jolls for the on the list!

I've just been looking through some of the am I / aren't I threads and the new bfp threads and I feel excited at the prospect of seeing one of those myself (rather than terrified!) I just love that feeling when you first see the second line appear! and to think that might be me again before the year's out is super exciting!

How's things with you today mummya ?

Waves to knitter aandr jolls bbb blackkat collie yrmotb freezing velvet tina izzy zam and any I've missed

Gosh - no posts all day - are you all out suning yourselves or something!

Did a bit of DH grabbing yesterday.... have warned him that there is more to come today and tomorrow

haha knitter maybe DH grabbing should be an olympic sport good luck!!

I haven't been sunning I've been cleaning and sorting again.

knitter

I've been madly packing for holiday, but still got masses to do. We're off on Saturday but going to ILs tonight as they're much closer to the airport. Looks like I'm just going to be shoving everything in the car and then repacking tomorrow but then I am a champion procrastinator. I wouldn't really do it any other way.

Big waves to all, sorry can't namecheck, and probably won't be posting until we get back (unless we're delayed at the airport)

xx

Good luck Knitter! Love the 'dh grabbing'. Right up there with (I think it was nickster's) 'sperm snatching'!

Had another scan today and measuring bang on 7+2 with a strong heartbeat. Am v . They want me to repeat Natural Killer tests again though (another £300) and I'm not sure what to do. One of the NKs had flared last month but they've left my meds exactly the same as they were and not recommended any sort of immunotherapy to try and suppress them. We've spent over £3k at the clinic now and I just feel that it's one thing after another but at the same time I feel like they've got us over a barrel and we could we be taking huge risks if we refused to do them

wiggle does sound very expensive but I agree that it'll be one of those things you regret if you don't and then something goes wrong... Have you used the BRAIN acronym to think this through...

B - benefits of doing it
R - risks of doing it
A - alternatives to doing it
I - Instinctive response
N - is 'do-nothing' an option

Hope that helps...

freezing guess you'll be changing your name to 'sunningmyarseoff' then ... have a good holiday

Husband grabbing going well :)

wiggle hmmmm - a tough deision. What does your gut instinct tell you?
knitter glad the grabbing went well - are you on 2 ww now then??
freezing am very jealous of your holiday. I badly need some sun!
velvet cleaning????do you want to come and do my place?
mouse glad AF is here, of course this is the only time she will be welcome. She can buggar off after that.

Wave to babe collie izzy AandR digi and anyone else I have missed xx

Nothing going on here, I am 10 weeks now (hopefully) I did have a big old mental session yesterday - no symptoms so I 'borrowed' a doppler and tried to hear the babys' heartbeat. At 10 weeks. Someone shoot me now. So I took myself off to see my accupuncture lady who always calms me down, and I feel better today.
Dp is back for oe day in June - (week day) so I tried to organise my 12 week scan for then but no luck, so he won't be able to come with me. I hope it's not bad news :(

xxx

battery - still in husband grabbing mode as I'm not entirely sure where I'll be in my cycle - last one (post the TOP) was 36 days but I'm normally 30 days... so grabbing will continue until about Tuesday I think!

for the wobble too

Happy sunny Saturday! I'm enjoying my only few hours not working/sleeping this weekend (roll on Friday for my holiday!)

Enjoy the grabbing knitter!

battery how sad that dh will miss the scan :(. Will they give you a photo? (I only ask because when I had dd the only photo they would let us buy have was at the 20 week scan, I was told no at the epu and dating scan)

wiggle what a tough decision. I guess I would have the tests, because god forbid if anything happened at least you would know that you did your absolute best.

Enjoy the holiday freezing!

Glad you are feeling positive mouse.

How are things mummya?

Waves to yrmotbfp collie AandR velvet and everyone else x

I'm sick of this 2ww! I would have expected to be spotting by now and nothing yet...so caved and did an ic (not fmu) and got a bfn. Anyone else had any experience with ic's? Ive always used shop bought tests before so not sure how accurate they are? We're having a takeaway later and if I'm not pg I'd love a drink! The mc thread has had an influx of newbies which is :( for them obviously, but nice it's keeping going. Makes me feel a bit long in the tooth though...I'm one of the longest members now :(.

Hi ladies, sorry I have been MIA, just lying low and licking my wounds. I am on Anti d's now and starting to feel much better. Still not quite able to talk to anyone about being pregnant or book any doctors appointments, but I figure as long as I sort it out for the 20 weeks scan I should be OK (I am 18+2)

tina its not nice realising you have been on the MC thread for an age. I went though the same thing, and it got harder and harder to read all the new comers stories each time I got pregnant the month I moved over from that thread to this one, hope the same thing happens to you!

sorry for not name checking, you have all said such lovely things though, its very comforting to read them, thank you xxx

Hi ladies can i join this thread i feel the same as tina been on the just MC thread a while now and no longer know may people. :( (i used to be olismum23)

Hi Tina and falcon

I was also an old timer on the other thread so I know how you feel. I also felt I needed to move on from fresh mc stories so I could start to put myself back together. Make yourselves comfy in here and I'll order your beanbags for the freakout room :)

Helloooo everyone else, hope you have all had lovely weekends.

mummya lovely to see you, I hope you are getting on ok xxx

Hi falcon, I'm glad you've made it over here!

I'm glad you're feeling better mummya

I got a bfn on a cb digi this morning, and some pre af brown gunk earlier on, I wish af would just hurry on up! I think the mc may have made my cycles a bit longer, pre dd they were 30 days.

Hope you all had nice weekends

wiggle that is a tough decision...not sure what I would do, although I suspect I'd probably guilt-trip myself into it

knitter go go go on the sperm-snatching Are you back to your patented three-a-day technique?

battery hurray for 10 weeks, and yes it was slightly mad to try Doppler-ing then! I did manage to find a brief something on the Doppler at about 11+4, but hadn't tried earlier and suspect I was on the very limit of it working.

freezing have a fab holiday

Welcome to Tina and falcon - I too spent quite a long time on the ttc thread until I knew virtually no one and it just got really disheartening! Things are more chilled here and hopefully we'll see you in the fo room before long.

I hope you're ok, lovely; it sounds like the anti-ds were a good move and don't worry, 20 weeks is plenty early enough to get things sorted. Big ((hug)) to you x

I had a lovely time in Spain, I'm about 15 weeks now so it's all getting pretty tense. Mostly I'm trying to ignore it because when I start thinking about it all I really start to panic - usually a quick fix on the Doppler helps then, although I had an awful moment on Saturday when I couldn't find the hb at all and honestly thought things were going exactly the same way as last time. Luckily two hours later after eating a pile of biscuits (to make bean move into better position) I found it straight away. I am dreading the scan on Thursday but if it shows a hb and a baby that's measuring ok it will be a huge relief.

Am still lurking. Still waiting to ovulate, now cd32. According to the opks i have had two separate LH surges but temping shows no egg yet. {sigh}

In other news I did a very un-Digi thing and saw a reiki healer who also does spiritual readings. Or, a psychic. And she told me good things. I am going to get pg again and it's all going to be fine. I'll be in and out of a clinic but it will all be ok, I'm going to give birth to a full term baby. And I should go for my boss's job (he's just quit) as I'm more than capable of doing it. Good eh? Unfortunately I forgot to ask for next week's winning lottery numbers, but I'll take the baby over that anyway.

Do you usually have such mixed up cycles digi?

Definate spotting here now :(, cd1 tomorrow probably. I've made the decision to move on from the old thread and join you all over here properly if you'll have me? I've also decided that since my cycle length seems to have changed that I'll start back on the opks this month as I've got some digi ones left. And I'll think of the good points of not being pregnant - I can go in the spa pool on holiday next week and drink lots of wine! :)

Welcome 'new' people - not that I've been here long enough to be the official welcom-er but anyway :-)

I've just updated the stats for today and it would be lovely if people fancied adding/updating themselves...

digi your healer sounds interesting - I love a good reflexology session myself and have a fairly strong belief in those sort of things.... As long as they don't ask me to hand over blank cheques then I'm happy...

Have been looking at my spreadsheet and wondering whether I need to extend the SWI... My normal cycle is 30 days which would mean I'm ovulating RIGHT NOW (pop!)... but the last one which was the first one after the TOP/ERPC was 36 days which would mean ovulation any day up to Sunday....

Izzy we do try for 3-times a day...but in reality it seems that it ends up at about one :( .... 3x a day requires a morning shag, and early evening one and a bedtime one.... Somehow it never quite happens!

missteaspoon yes, I have pcos but with acupuncture usually manage to get cycles to around 37-41 days. But looks like it'll be a lot longer this cycle. Sorry you think AF is on the way.

knitter reflexology is the only thing I haven't tried. Don't be , one swi a day is pretty good going too (it's my unpatented formula and definitely worked last time). We had to stop for three days this cycle due to the dreaded thrush, but have recovered now and thankfully didn't ovulate during the hiatus.

Hello to newcomers! This seems to have been a lucky thread so hopefully not too long for you all.

digi... can't remember where in the country you are but my lovely reflexologist who I saw when I was pg with DS has just moved to Edinburgh. She's recommended me a replacement fertility/pregnancy reflexologist near me - SW London - too... Happy to send you the details if either is convenient for you!

Slightly excitingly I've just been to the loo and there was EWCM when I wiped.... looks like I need to carry on DH grabbing for at least a few more days!

Digi Can I second knitter I've been having reflexology since my m/c and throughout this pregnancy. I have PCOS too and have never had regular cycles. I had two bang on 28 day cycles post m/c, and think the reflexology must've had sth to do with it?? Who can tell? Certainly it relaxes me and has taught me some techniques to calm down myself during the week inbetween appts. I am going to continue for as long as I can afford it. Mines £30 for 90 minutes (a bargain I think)

Knitter for the EWCM

Thanks for welcoming me ladies >>>

I have also left other thread. I went to the doctors today she did not seem concerned by my chemical pg :( however she has orderd bloods for a thyroid check so i get that tomorrow.

I may have missed something but has anyone heard from cep?

Hello ladies, welcome newbies

It'll be good to have a few more people over here - I live in fear of this thread disappearing and being all on my lonesome

So, I had the meeting with scary boss today and have decided to take a sabbatical from my management responsibilities. It was a heart wrenching decision but I cannot go on with the stress and intimidation I was suffering whilst ttc and possibly dealing with ofsted too. Its obviously not what I imagined this year to be like at all but at least now I can 'just' be a class teacher and maybe scary boss will leave me alone.

So, £2500 a year poorer just tops off my shitty, shitty year!

AF has all but gone so I'll be on the look out for ov in a couple of weeks (not ttc this cycle though - the consultant would tell me off!) then I'll beback on the waggon - woohoo!!

knitter you have a spreadsheet?! Wow that's organised!

I tried reflexology after my mc, it doesn't seem to have got me pregnant but it sorted out my cycles out (either that or they sorted themselves out and I'm trying to justify the £150 I spent on it!)

falcon Cep is taking some time out to relax, as far as I know though she's fine.

mouse I will still be here! I hope your boss leaves you alone now.

Big waves to blackkat!