Sixth Form Common Room part III - post mc ttc & pregnancy

[ZamMummyInGabs]

Hoping to continue the trend of the lucky thread....

mummyA - why on earth would you think you are not welcome in here. there will be no more talk like that young lady! How are you getting on? Take each day as it comes, you will get there xx

tigger thankyou for your congrats xx I am hoping this one is the sticky one for us.

Wave to everyone else, am feeling sick as anything so have spent the day on the sofa.DP has gone back to germany today and I don't know when he will be home again I cried on the way back from the station. Damn hormones:(

Hello everyone...it's meliesmummy here, I fancied a name change to go with my new chilled out philosophy!

battery how long is dh away? I hope that your sickness isn't too crippling.

mummya you are so brave and you are doing the right thing for your children in having a new start. I hope that you are able to find some support in old friends x

I hope your af arrives as expected mouse.

Great to hear positive scan stories!

Dh is out and I'm a right wimp when I'm home without him! Hence still mumsnetting at 11:30!

Hello all - just logged on quickly but will keep it brief before my phone bill goes through the ceiling (extortionate charges for data roaming while in Spain!)

hurray for great scan news from battery freezing and wiggle - lovely to hear things are going well!

bbb sounds like all is going as it should for you - don't worry too much about the teeth; I have always ground my teeth in my sleep (maybe I'm permanently stressed?!) and have never suffered any damage to them.

mummya I'm really pleased and relieved to see you, I've been worrying about how you are, but I'm so sorry you're going through such a tough time . I've only been able to catch up with things very quickly but it sounds as though this is a permanent problem. I'm sorry about that, but if he has been emotionally abusive and violent then, sadly, as you well know, you're best getting out of it, and particularly before your children are old enough to be really affected by it. I hope the counselling is helping.

I'm sure not feeling movement is normal at this stage, especially if you've got a lot on your mind, because you're not focussing on it so much, but do try and get a scan if you're worried.

The isolation is a problem, and you must be feeling terribly lonely. I think it's a great idea to reconnect with some rl friends you've lost touch with, and maybe look to join something, anything, to meet new ones. As others have rightly said, you are such a warm, supportive and generous person that i think you will find you have more friends than you realise when you look for them . Is your learning to drive a possibility? That might give you some independence and a bit more freedom.

if you do decide to come to the uk, is there a way of getting round lack of consent eg through court in exceptional circumstances?

In terms of worrying about the future, it might seem impossible now but you will be ok. You are a great person and will continue to be a fantastic mum to both your children.

There isn't time for me to say everything I want now but I'm sending big (((hugs))) and wishing I could be there to give you a rl hug instead. Hope you're ok xx

Sorry for not name-checking more, got to go before I hit my overseas data limit - to all x

Hello everyone
Sorry I haven't been on and posted properly for a while. My nausea has taken a turn for the worse in the past few days - a good thing of course, but it has meant that I've mostly been crashed out on a sofa or bed somewhere trying to force some food down me. It does get better in the evening though when I really should be in bed. DH has been fab but he's back to work tomorrow so not so sure how I'm going to cope with DD or work Anyway, our holiday to Tuscany isn't looking quite so attractive right now, but I'll battle through as best I can

BBB I'm glad things sound good from a symptom point of view. I couldn't help but laugh about the progesterone, er, rejection

MissTeaspoon I like the new name and the new philosophy. I may need to learn a thing or two.

Battery it's rubbish that your DP is off again. Look after yourself as best you can. Hopefully the sickness bit will be over quite soon.

AandR I hope you're okay, I know you're v busy but let us know you are okay especially after all your tests

Mouse any news on AF?

MummyA battery is right why wouldn't you be welcome here? Connecting back with your old friends is a good thing. You are doing the right thing if he's been violent - I'm so sorry though that you have to go through all this. Keep posting and we'll be here for you.

Anyone heard from jolls and YRMOTB?

And big hello to Zam, LadyBee, Tigger, Wiggle, Knitter, digital and any other lurkers

Oh and Izzy get back to your holiday now!

Still no sign... grrrrr....

mouse I feel your pain. My last wtf luteal phase was nearly 16 days - despite that being a non ttc cycle too. Temp didn't drop till cd2 of next cycle too.
And in a weird parallel I'm STILL waiting to ovulate. Am 4 days post positive opk and temp still not gone up. So much for the miracle of metformin [sulkface]

freezing pleased to hear symptoms have kicked in even if it will put a dampener on your holiday!

missteaspoon lovely new name!

Morning all!

Hope everybody's well. I come to you nice and refreshed from my week away, but seeing as I'm back to work today, lets see how long that lasts for.. Scotland was lovely, but freezing. It's sucha beautiful place though, you can't really hold the weather against it. Did all the usual stuff, visited castles, went to see sights, and spent some lovely time with sil and her 6 week old baby. All lovely. I am however absolutely knackered ALL the time. Quite faint, constantly nauseous, and weeing 3 times a night. All good news.

freezing battery and wiggle yey hurray for your lovely scans. That's such awesome news for all of you. I just got my 12 week scan date through when I was away, it's for the 22nd June, so not that long off, only 3 weeks. Think I might just wait it out now.

mummya I'm so sorry to hear of the breakdown of your marriage. Obviously as izz and others have said, it is for the best if there's emotional and physical abuse present, but it is still so hard to walk away from a relationship like that, especially when you are made to believe that you have no worth ( not that I am insinuating that this is the case, just that I have been in an emotionally abusive relationship in which this was the case)

mouse and digi sorry you're both still in limbo. It's so frustrating when you feel out of control, and I hope it all becomes clear soon.

Izz hope you're well, and having a lovely holiday.

ladybee are you settled yet?

jolls and bb hope you're both well out there.

tina nice name. are you well?

Waves to all

Seeing as I'm not going to have a scan before 12 weeks I thought I might be brave and join the freakout list today. Anyone else? I am 8+5 today. Thinking positive and all that jazz...

Hi again,
We think we've got a place to live - just got to get papers signed and deposits over and it's official, although we've got an offer in writing already. Phew! And it's lovely, and in a great zone for primary school and got several options for childcare nearby and good public transport, so yay all round.
Our stuff doesn't reach us til early July, though, so we now have to work out what the bare minimum we can live with is until it comes and try to beg and borrow bits from family.

mummyA I saw you have been having some tough times in your relationship and I just wanted to let you know I think you'll do just fine, I know it must be gut-wrenching and overwhelming to think about how to deal with it, but you are an incredibly capable and intelligent woman, you will cope with whatever happens, you just need to think about the next immediate steps and find solutions for those, not the ones that come after and the ones that come after. Concentrate on today and tomorrow, not next month or next year. Courage, lady.

So sorry about lack of other personal notes, but pleased the recent scans went well. I've been sleeping in odd beds and living out of suitcases so my temp-taking has been completely rubbish and my logging it on FertilityFriend even worse, so have no idea where I am. But I'm pretty sure it was a washout this cycle with the bad timing etc.
It's odd, isn't it how some cycles you can get swept into a whole belief that you MUST be pregnant, you JUST KNOW, and others you're pretty sure you're not. Dóesn't seem to have much correlation with the actual test results but I wonder where that comes from? Boredom? Wishful thinking? or do we have an inkling even if it's a pregnancy that goes nowhere almost before it's begun?

YRMOTB Glad you had a good week away despite the weather. I keep thinking about joining the freak out room but then change my mind as I think I will feel obliged to freak out whereas now I'm just about holding onto my sanity.

Ladybee great news about finding a house, it sounds ideal location. July will be here before you know it.

mouse any news yet? so frustrating for you. And probably not helped by me asking all the time - sorry

freezing I actually had a lurk, and then retreated and thought to myself I might be better over here til after 12 weeks.

Freezing and YRMOTB there is no obligation to freak out in there, we are all perfectly sane and don't bite so get yourselves over there [

Bee I'm so glad you've got somewhere to live. When we moved back home from Madrid we had a month of living in other peoples house, out of suitcases etc and it was very tiring.

mouse I'm hoping your body gets back to behaving itself soon. How has work been? Hooray for half term eh?

It's here, it's here, it's here!!!!!!

First AF since 16.07.10

velvet work continues to be monumentally shite but hey ho...

yippeeeee for AF (this one time only!) yay mouse so pleased she is finally here. Sorry work is shite - mine is too :( maybe it's just the state of schools in general.

Oh no! What's going on with you? x

budget cuts! I have to pay for my own photocopying and now they are axing all long term supply for next term. We have 2 in my department so their classes are being given to people who had yr 11. Some people had 5 yr 11 classes but only gain 1 extra class, I had 1 yr 11 and gain 1 class. However they are a really shitty year 10 and their teacher has been off with stress since November so they have had supply. They are rude and aggressive and I just don't see how I'm suposed to deal with them when I have to sit down through most of the lesson because of dodgy hips and low blood pressure! It's almost impossible to break in a class in term 6!!

They are alse reducing TA hours so that only statemented kids get any TA allowance at all. It's crazy!

Loads of other stuff going on to but I wont rant any longer :)

Proffers celebratory drinks to Mouse so pleased that AF has shown her face, for this and this time only.

to the rest of the sixth form x

Oh god, what a nightmare. After DS I went back in spring 2 and that was a nightmare and I only teach Y1! I hope the next 7 weeks pass super fast for you

Yay for mouse!!!!

Congratulations Mouse!

Thanks ladies

I'm now going to confess I've spent this evening working out when my next AF will be and when ov will be after that... I think I like forward planning that much! August bfp here I come...

All I can say possum is what a cock! You are a super star lady and no matter what gets thrown at you, you will stand up and face it as you have faced everything else thrown at you (intermittent melt downs and wibbles perfectly acceptable) You have grace and strength, you are incredibly intelligent and determined and you have two lovely DCs to keep you well occupied. I was just thinking of you the other day on my way to work - when I was pondering on the strength and determination of the woman on here.

Huge congrats mouse for that elusive af - what a relief. Happy planning.

Freezing thanks for asking after me. I am beyond busy at the moment - my life is so tightly scheduled it is a bit of a joke but I am really enjoying being at work and having space to think. I love my ride to work - although the flat tyre this afternoon and subsequent 4 mile hike was a bit of a bummer but the sun was shining and I found a Polish place which sells my favourite smelly sausage and met a lovely guy on the train - so not all bad. I feel like I am ticking through the tests. My thyroid consultant is so blase about my cyst that I have decided to stop worrying about it. I have a test in a couple of weeks and I will just see what happens. I have rescheduled the mammogram for pre-ov time as I don't want the worry of radiation if I do end up upduffed this cycle and I am being very slow to organise all my mc blood tests as I think the issue is hormonal imbalance not blood clotting or anything like that. I am pretty sure stress has been at the bottom of it all. I empathise with the teeth clenchers - I have cracked my veneers due to clenching so hard and I strained a muscle in my face after the first mc.

Glad all of the scanners had such lovely good news.

velvet why don't you call Jaimie Oliver in!?! I couldn't think of anything worse than facing a room full of sulking teenagers - although some of the power struggles and Neanderthal breast thumping that goes on in the office I am in must come close sometimes.

LadyB I have often pondered that one myself. I have a friend who can tell as the sperm hits the egg that she is pregnant! I tend to have all the symptoms at 5dpo and then they drop away and sometimes I am pregnant and sometimes I'm not. Need to do one of those 'Get in touch with your body' courses - not sure if I want to examine myself with a mirror though. Glad you have found somewhere lovely to rent - think about your period of no furniture as an architectural exercise allowing you to experience the space before deciding where everything will go - could be a very zen experience . A model of our house is in the Royal Academy summer exhibition - how cool is that!?!?

YRMOB and Freezing stay with us! I don't intend to go to the freak out room let alone grads until the baby is born!!

Yay for Mouse

Good to hear from you AandR your cycle ride to work makes me jealous, even with a flat.

Woop for mouse's af. Just a one off visit I hope though, she won't be welcome around these parts next month!

Hurrah for mouse. Brill news.

aandr you sound mentally busy. Glad you're managing not to stress too much about the cyst, as you say, if the consultant isn't too worried...

velvet that sounds shite. How old is year 10? Sounds awful, you have my sympathies.