Freak out room for those newly updiffed after mc - Part VI

[CollieandPup]

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
6. And the presence of symptoms.
7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.

10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the old thread.

dach i'm so sorry, I agree with the others, try and get a second opinion, there must be something they can at least try and do. keeping fx for you.

salsa welcome, i'm sorry for your loss but congratulations on your bfp. here is the perfect place to worry and stress.

dachs I am so sorry ob wasn't more optimistic, big big (((hugs))) I am hoping and praying that he was trying to prepare you for the absolute worst case scenario and that things will turn out differently. Did he suggest anything that could be done or might help? Can you get a second opinion? Thinking of you xxx

salsa welcome and congrats on the bfp. This is a good place to be, these ladies are fabulous!

Oh god dachs no no! I feel sick to my stomach for you. I really hope that that is the worst possible scenario and they are looking at what they can do to prevent that. Second everyones comments, get your dh there if he's not already and make sure you fight for every possible option to prevent the worst. And seek another opinion if you need to, doing nothing isn't acceptable. I'm so so sorry, you must be going through hell. We're all thinking of you and hoping and praying for the best. Huge hugs xxx

dachs I'm so sorry this is happening. Like the others have said I hope it's worst case. This is so shit

Dach I am so sorry, what terrible news. I am praying for a miracle for you. xxx

DH here. The reason they can't do a cervical stitch is because the waters have gone on baby 1, so there is a possibility of infection already and so having a stitch would be a bad thing. Theyre going to see what happens with it. If no infection sets in and the waters stop so it seems like the hole has sealed they will put a stitch in. Until then there is apparently nothing they can do.

Thanks for updating us Dach's DH please send her all our love, and I hope you too are finding the strength you need to get through this.

Just lurking and saw news from Dachs Huge, huge hugs for you. I hope your Dh is with you. I feel physically sick with worry for you. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Like Izzy said, I hope the doc was just preparing you for the worst case scenario and it really doesn't come to that. I think everyone is right in insisting on a second and even a third opinion. Have you spoken to the clinic? I was there this morning and wonder if you might have been too?

dachs I am keeping everything crossed that things stop very soon and the babies hang on in there. Am so sorry you're going through this xxx

Sorry, x-posts with Dachs DH. Thanks for updating us. Please send her our love x

Oh Dachs and Mr Dachs I'm praying that baby 1 hangs on in there and the prognosis improves. Can they/are they giving antibiotics to prevent infection? You are all in my thoughts constantly xxx

Just wanted to send you both my love. I really hope the doc was talking worst case scenario and they can do something for you.

I'm hoping and praying for you and the babies. Big, big love xxx

am in tears reading Dachs's news, what an awful day.

hoping desperately the news improves :(

Thinking of Dachs and Mr Dachs. Praying those little ones hang on in there x

Dachs, hang on in there. I'm thinking of you and hoping for the best. Lots of positive vibes coming your way.

Sorry not to have been around for ages. I'm very boring and have had no news. Have been lurking a bit. I missed my midwife appointment on Friday by accident. I had now idea I had one and had been waiting for a letter from the surgery. Goodness knows how I got that one wrong. Now I've got to wait until the bank holiday and it will muck up a whole day when my brother is staying. I'm so stupid - and I missed an apt for DS too last week getting the date wrong, he was supposed to have MMR. I'm sure he's already had it though. Am really cross with myself, can I blame Brian?

Dachs and MrDachs am thinking of you both.

Dachs.
Oh honey.
Just want to say I'm thinking of you both and hope beyond hope that everything is well.
Love xxxx

dachsso sorry to hear your news- you are in my thoughts xxx

OMG Dachs so so sorry to hear your news. I'm just a lurker here at the moment but just wanted to say thinking of you and sending your prayers at this terrifying time.

dach and DH. I just want to say I am thinking of you both and praying for you and your little ones xxx

Dachs I'm devastated to read this is happening. Praying for you, DH and pups that there is something they can do to keep them safe x x

So sorry to hear your news dach...am praying for you and your little ones. x x

Dachs and MrDachs I have absolutely everything crossed and am thinking of you and hoping that you and the little ones are okay xx

dach and mrdach keeping fx that everything settles down and the pups are ok.