Freak out room for those newly updiffed after mc - Part VI

[CollieandPup]

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage and too nervous to move over the to pregnancy boards? Freaking out about spotting, cramping, symptoms (or lack there of) and nervously awaiting your first scan? Here is a lovely place for lot's of support, hand holding and problem sharing.

Courtesy of owlbooty here are the Ten Commandments of the Freak Out Room.

1. Thou shalt check thy knickers to the point of insanity until the baby actually arrives.
2. Thou shalt also check the loo roll post-wipeage (sorry, gross, I know)
3. Thou shalt bore thy physician and midwife to tears with the mentalling.
4. And thy husband/boyfriend/family/neighbour's cat.
5. Thou shalt obsess over the absence of symptoms.
6. And the presence of symptoms.
7. And the fluctuation of symptoms.
8. Thou shalt pee on a vast number of sticks and keep ClearBlue and First Response in business.
9. The day before any scan extreme mentalling is permitted without recourse to the Haddock.

10. Self-diagnosis with Dr Google is Forbidden.

The Haddock will be applied liberally to all transgressors.

See here for the old thread.

Thanks Harassed for the welcome. Believe me, I would love to punch her for getting it wrong. Am pissed off that she didn't know the basics, she kept grinning too. An absolute utter cow. Am sorry you are mentalling too but good to meet someone in the same boat. As fortunate as I feel to be pregnant again I think an AF would have been good as a marker, or as closure of the m/c.

I am very good at mentalling .

Dachs- call up antenatal or go to a walk in - St mary's fertility has a scanning bit which will probably let you in if you walk up there and burst into tears.

It could be just one of those things (body remembering it's around period time). The least likely thing is mc now. Remember you have DCDA twins which are the lowest risk variety. The chances are that everything is fine but get a scan asap to set your mind at rest and find out if you need to be on bed rest.

Good luck and thinking of you.

dachs hope you're ok.

rue hiya did i miss that announcement on the mc thread?? congratulations hon, i'm thrilled for you.

collie i know you said this the other day, so sorry for the late reply. There's no point me getting one it would cause too much friction. even though it would settle my mind dh really doesn't want me to have one. I'm really frustrated cause i know i'll get fobbed off when i talk to him about being worried.

Sending big hugs to Dachs - I know quite a few other people who have random unexplained bleeds about the time you are now and Tigger is right, it is most likely that it is just one of these rather than anything more sinister - am keeping everything crossed for you lovely xxx

Morning All....

Big hug and a squeeze for Dachs - thinking of you. Hoping all is okay - as the other ladies have said, there are a zillion things it could be. I hope you're getting it checked out as we speak.

A warm welcome to all the newbies. So happy to see the new "faces" and also fab to see the list getting longer.

Feel positively sick this AM (to my stomach with nerves) for scan on Weds. DH just sent me the 12 week scan photos from a colleague that just announced her pg. I couldn't bring myself to open them in case I don't get pics like that when I go for my scan on Weds.

Big hugs Dachs it sounds a bit like the bleed I had at about 18+4? FX it's nothing sinister but I'm so sorry you're having the worry, it's horrid. Hope your silence means you're off somewhere getting scanned xxx

Morning all and good luck to other scanees today!

Baby 1 has reduced fluid. Cervix open. Waiting for my obstetrician to get here. Will be on strict bed rest forever. Not looking good.

Good your obstetrician is en route. Please, please try and stay calm. Is your DH with you?

quick note to give a massive to dachs. It must be terrifying but there are all sorts of harmless explanations for bleeding. Fx you are out getting a scan and someone is putting your mind at rest.

dachs I am thinking about you and hoping so hard that the news is going to be so much better than you think. xxx

sorry dachs xposts. We are here to hold your hands and help you through this. So glad your obstetrician is coming to help.

Dachs really sorry to hear that but keep calm. They can close the cervix at this stage. They can redistribute fluid as well - remember Mrsstevo on twins thread? Bed rest is not much fun but so long as you get healthy babies at the end that's the most important thing. I hope to hear better things from you.

Oh Dachs - So glad you OB is on their way, FWIW I have several friends who had placenta praevia, which is really scary with bleeding and bed rest, but they all turned out their babies ok. Very much certain you will be fine too... (((BIGHUGS))) to you lovely... xx

Dachs very sorry to hear that, you must be so worried. Hope the obs is there now, and they can sort you out! Amazing what they can do these days. Fingers firmly x'd and thinking of you.

Hi all. I had a mc in feb this year at 6 weeks - it was my first pregnancy. I waited 6 weeks for a period and then started ttc again. Did a clearblue last night which said I conceived 3+ weeks ago. My calculations are that I'm now 5 weeks. I'm really nervous about having another mc - I'm 35 years old so time is not on my side! Dreading these next few days/weeks.

Oh Dachs FX your obs can help. Huge huge hugs. We're all here holding your hand xxx

Thinking of you dachs. Sorry you're having to go through this xx

Oh dachs i'm sorry. I hope your ob has arrived quickly. Must be very scary, but lots of good advice on here. I hope that they are able to do something. Baby can be ok with lower fluid too. Bed rest not ideal, but it will all ne worth it. Thinking of you.

Just seen doc. Most likely scenario is losing both twins over next couple of days. Gutted.

Oh Dachs I'm so sorry. I really really really hope that they're wrong. Isn't there anything they can do to close your cervix? I definitely remember reading about having cervical stitches at this point. If your dh isn't there already get him to come asap and advocate on your behalf because you're going to be in no state to do so. Get a 2nd and 3rd opinion if you can. Thinking of you continually.

dacha is there nothing they can do? Could they explain what's happened?

salsa sorry to hear about your MC but congratulations on the BFP! this is a great place for you to be in a 'problem shared, problem halved' kind of way!!

dacha is DH with you? Where are you?

Dachs I'm so very very sorry lovely. I hope this is worst case scenario, and that it doesn't come to it.

I second tiggers suggestion...... I have a friend currently on bed rest with a cervical stitch in. Surely that would be a start, at least something.

Thinking of you and sending you and dh much love x

salsa welcome to our thread! I'm sorry you have to be here, but congratulations on your bfp.

What the hell, Dachs... Please, please get a second opinion right away.

Is anyone with you? Please make sure you have good support with you right now. If you want to off-load to any of us, please, please do - we're here.