Freak out room for those newly updiffed after mc - Part V

[MummyAbroad]

Just found out you are pregnant after a previous miscarriage? There is plenty of support, hand holding and problem-shared-problem-halved going on over here. All welcome to join in.

Great news on a good midwife izzy and what a lovely performance from velvetbean - blowing kisses is seriously talented!

minnie - hope you're doing ok - anything more overnight? All sorts of multi-coloured goo seems to be quite normal and not necessarily bad news. If it would help you mental less, then I would book in for the scan anyway and as for getting to the docs - your health is always more important than work ..... sending hugs and positive vibes.

Good luck to daisy and wombat today. I think we allow a 24 hour mentalling amnesty with no fish-slapping prior to scans, don't we?

Congrats to all the newcomers - freshly baked pain au chocolats all round!

Good luck daisy and wombat! I too have been losing the plot somewhat over my impending 20 week scan next week especially as ive changed my mind and think it was gas rather than pinkbean I've bern feeling these last few weeks

I feel less bad about not really believing I'm actually going to have a baby later thus year now, as I went to see a friend yesterday who's about 37 weeks pg after a MC and she doesn't really believe she's having one either!!!
Big waves to the newbies!! V exciting!

Have a lovely day all! Xxx

37 weeks and still not believing?! Wow - she's going to get a shock pink? In the best British tradition, stiff upper lip and all that in advance of next week's scan (mentalling allowed a little!)

Morning all

Very surprisingly had a great night's sleep, despite this afternoon's impending scan....

Pink I'm having 'odd' feelings, nothing regular, but they're 'down there' ie right in my lady bits I don't know if they're bean's movements or some very random muscle spasms.

Onions you're definitely right about Grin and Bear it. I can't face trotting out how I'm feeling to yet another person - poor OH is sick of hearing it, I'm sick of hearing it! I'm def not ready to look round the delivery rooms yet - the thought of that is making me hyperventilate....

Sorry, have probably spewed most of you with mouthfuls of Wombat's haggis - god I'm missing that stuff!!!!

Hi, can I just ask some advice please? Was so hoping to come back and join you but want to get past my first danger day. Tomorrow.

I'm 5 weeks today I think, got bfp before 1st post mc af, but cycles are good and regular and I ov'd around day 14 as normal.

My boobs have been very sore, but don't seem so sore today. Normal? Or hcg dropping do you think?

Good luck for all the scanners today, there seems to be a few.

daisy you don't have to be all excited in the waiting room, it doesn't matter what everyone else is doing or saying what matters is you and dh. be how you want to be.

hihp it's normal for symptoms to go up and down, i didn't really get sore boobs at all. If you're worried about your hcg levels could you ask the dr? or check on a clear blue digital, cause that should have gone up to it's higher number on 5 weeks.

hope everyone else is ok.

guys guys guys how cool is this: [cgrin] hehehe

harrassed I think it could well be normal - mine were hurting on and off all the way through to 12 weeks and really freaked me out when they stopped hurting. I'm keeping everything crossed for you that this is a sticky one!

daisy I just wanted to agree with everyone else - just be however you feel like being at the time, no-one's expecting a display and I would have thought every woman reacts differently. I was just thinking back, and wonder if the obstetrician thought I was weird when I had no reaction when I was having the early scans - I was excited but don't suppose I showed it because I'd prepared myself for the worst IYSWIM? So it probably came across as just being indifferent but he didn't say anything. I don't know whether that helps or not....

Thanks Cep and Pink! Maybe you should just slap me a fish or two. I'm just waiting for it all to go wrong tbh. Have checked edd, but that's all. Dh and I have hardly spoken about it, think we're both trying to pretend it's not happening really.

I saw my gp last night and she wants me to phone mw today and get booked in early and say I need a dating scan. Not sure when they'll do that, but I'll def get a reassurance scan at 8 weeks at least. My epu do it when you've had two consecutive mc's.

Big thanks to Cep for plumping my bean bag .

harrassed you definitely don't deserve a fish slap! Good work seeing the gp and speaking to the MW, I think it's a good plan. It's really good they'll give you an 8week reassurance scan - glad to hear at least some NHS trusts are sensible!!!

I have to say Pink that I've had fab care on both my mc's.

No hanging around, in the same day for a scan. Even on the second one when I was only 5+1, I phoned mw at 9.30 and had an appointment at 10.30. Some of the tales I've heard on the mc board are just horrendous...

How are you keeping?? Hope it's all good!

Loving the [cgrin]'s

Thanks wiw!

I've spoken to mw and have booking in appoinment in 3 weeks. In the meantime I have birth centre number, epu number and mw's work mobile if I have any questions at all. I'll get a reassurance/dating scan booked in about 3 weeks too. She said around 8 weeks is a good time to scan, and epu scanning is crazy busy with bank hols and appointments are bow 2 weeks plus anyway except for emergencies.

Feeling a little happier now! She said symptoms coming and going is normal, and so is crampig. Phew!

YAY for YRMOTB brilliant news, congratulations!!! So great to see you here. [cgrin]

Harassed good to see you over here too , think the symptoms fluctuating is entirely normal

AMIW congratulations to you too on the BFP, though so sorry to hear of your losses.

minnie so glad bleeding seem to have stopped Now, repeat: "My baby and me are more important than my job" I know it takes a while to let yourself believe it and act upon it, but it sounds like you might need to!
(I'm convinced I've only been able to get pregnant bcs I gave up one day a week (despite the financial impact) and have been strict about doing less than I used to -it's taken me nearly a year to achieve that change)

So lovely to find out about more BFP's and see that list growing

WIW your weekend sounds truly amazing, Beirut is absolutely on my list of places I want to go to know, thanks for sharing! I'm not suprised you had a little bit of pink after all that walking, think it's the body's way of nudging you to say "feet up for a bit love"

Izzy so pleased mw appt went well, FX you get the 16wk scan without any fuss. Though truly that your notes hadn't been properly updated. I think the same happened to Collie

Velvet you have a talented bean, blowing kisses sounds just lovely!

Irene hope you get some news soon, ((hugs))

Katherine keeping my FX for your results too ((hugs))

Daisy just be what you need to be, noone is looking or judging. Good luck ((hugs))

Dachs thanks for all the yummy treats!!!

to everyone else I've missed, owl, pink, wombat tunnocks, onions, cep, Lara, collie

I've finally taken the plunge and booked a scan for tomorrow, I will be 8+3. Question: Should I prepare myself for internal/external scan. I chuffing hate fanjocam. lara if all is ok, I will do two things tomorrow, promise, add myself to list and call midwife.
Bit of brown goo Monday so spent yesterday doing absolutely nothing and things much better today, concerned FCam would bring more down. Terrified, but no fish please!

Thanks for the reassuring words blackkat - now some in return (instead of a fish!) FCam is highly likely and you are much more likely to see your bean than with an external. Deep breath, focus on the screen and not the rummaging x

hi there
great to see some other newbies on here, hopefully the next few weeks will progress ok for us all and we can bravely add ourselves to the list so that LauraMi isn't so lonely on the bottom!

I'm right into my 'danger zone now' and had 2 really sleepless nights, so the worrying has stepped up. I've also got my friends hen do this weekend which I'm organising and I feel very anxious about it - I really want her to have an amazing time but I'm scared that someone will ask my why I'm not drinking or that if something goes wrong then I'll feel it's because I've done too much. Luckily I've got a scan next Tues, although I really don't want to go as scans = bad news in my head, would quite like to live in ignorance this time!

oh and blackkat i agreed with wiw that you prob need to prepare for fanjo. I had a private scan at 8+2 last time and expected it to be external given my friends didn't ever get a wiff of a fanjocam at 8 weeks. Given my reaction they agreed to do external first, but then needed to do internal in the end to get a better look. You could try asking for external first? Good luck x

quick one from phone:
wombatbean is all good, cervix is closed so that's reassuring and sonographer thinks it.s a little girl

wombat so relieved for you, fantastic news x

yay yay yay wombat - quadruple yay!

blackkat, my scan (this time) at just before 8 weeks was external. Sometimes I think it depends how good their scanner is..!

dd's scan at about 7 weeks was fanjocam though a few years back...

Loving the [cwink]

Yeyyy - all this activity and all these newbies that might be joining me at the bottom end of the list...

Big yeyyy too to Blackkat for the scan... trust me, the fanjocam is the last thing you'll be thinking about... you'll just be holding your breath waiting for her to give you news on bean.

Congrats to Wombat33....

Big hugs and lots of fondant fancies to everyone else xx

Hey blackkat I'd go with a full bladder in case they try external scan first - if they want to do internal they'll just send you to the loo. All my scans up to 12 weeks were internal, I think they get a better view that way. I agree with katherine though, probably depends on the particular scanner...

I have been shamed into being healthy by reading the Patrick Holford nutrition in pregnancy book - am in the process of making watercress soup as we speak...... Makes a change from the potato waffles I suppose. I have to say he's a bit militant about things though......

Woo hoo for Wombatbean

Blackkat I may be weird but I prefer dildo-cam, but then for me an external scan is agony trying to get my bladder to co-operate . As the others have suggested, I'd go prepped for an external scan, and then they at least have to try, and then accept the internal if they have to do it.

FX for you!!!!!!

Waves to everyone else - thanks for the reassurance, I'll be how I want to be and ignore everyone else. A quick update on the 'finding out the sex' debate: OH is still reluctant to know the sex today, and I'm not sure how we could work it so that I know and he doesn't, so we're not going to officially find out, but I'll be peering at the screen intently [cgrin]

Ooooh wombie I missed your news - congratulations!

daisy you could ask the sonographer to tell you at the end, after you've sent OH out of the room? My SIL is a sonographer and she doesn't tell people the sex until the end of the scan anyway.

hi ladies,

congrats wombat and welcome harrassed

I got a new job yesterday! Its translating working from home, I am really pleased - and starting today (!!) BUT I am obviously in deep denial about being pregnant - I didnt mention it to my employer at all!! I know that I wouldnt be eligible for maternity leave - nor expect it - I just have some vague idea that I can find someone to job share with for a few months and then pick it up again later - am I being really crazy?? [chmm]

wombat congratulations.

mummya congrats on the job. probably, but we're not at the stage you have to declare it yet, or is it different over there? how much work would it be? is it allday?