Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 15)

[meliesmummy]

Hello! If you have recently miscarried and are thinking of or actively trying again come and join us! We offer plenty of cake, tea and wine if needed! Come in and laugh, cry and rant as needed, and don't be afraid of asking whatever questions you need answers to and we'll try our best to answer them.

Add yourself to the stats list whenever you are ready.

wtcc = waiting to try to conceive
ucl = usual cycle length
wtf cycle = the time after your mc when you have no idea whats going on with your normal cycle

Lets hope this is a lucky thread and we all get our bfps!

part 14 of the thread

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Hi chloe, I can join you in the blood stained cm club, just had more pink arrrrhhhhh! When will this end?! I caved and did a cb digi earlier - bfn of course! So screw it, I had a glass of wine with dinner. Which in itself was a drama - cue broken cork and wine on my newish top! I did momentarily wonder if I wasn't meant to have it...

juicee that's a really positive sign that you've had a bfn, it's still worth going for a scan though, just to check. I had to go back to the epu for mine which was horrendous, do you have to too?

Its good to look at the silver lining in our big monstrous black cloud really. Im glad the bleedings settling.

Waves to Cep collie mumtum blackkat laylas yrmotb and everyone else x

Hi Reallyuseful thanks for the wine, defo in order. I think what i am going to do is go back to docs and find out if i really have to go and have it. Collie I told the gp when she referred me that I had, had a bfn, it wasn't my usual gp, and to be honest I am not sure if she heard me. Melie, I am glad I had the bfn as I felt it was a step in the right direction, I haven't had any bleeding for a week and a half now. I think I will take collies advice and revisit my gp and see what she says. thanks again ladies. x

Okay if Juicee is going for a scan, so will I.

Brilliant.

Layla I hope you're locked in the cupboard and leaving the sticks alone .

Cep Hoping you have a good night's sleep and no horrible nightmares.

And a big wave to everyone else xxx

thats possibly the weirdest thing anyones ever said to me RUE
hope you have a better undisturbed night cep
waves back to mel hope your body sorts itself out soon.

Well...I'm out of limbo...I'm properly bleeding now, cramps and all! Im actually quite relieved! Something normal! So back to cd1 for me and no more obsessive testing (for this month anyway...). I'll update the list tomorrow with the laptop.

Mel so sorry AF has got you enjoy the xx

laylas LOL at your in the cupboard, do hope it's only the sticks and not you locked away

Welcome to Angela, juicee and freelance sorry you're here and for your losses, but these ladies have kept me sane since my m/c in Jan. Thanks again all!!

I second all that's been said about scans - if you are offered one, and you haven't yet had a BFN, then please have it. If there are retained products there (and apologies for horrible medical term) then you need to know so they can be treated, as infection could follow and that could cause future fertility problems, so please, please don't worry or stress about any pain or niggle alone, seek help from your GP or EPU.

Chloe FX it's implantation, remember Clomid can change your cycle length from month to month ((hugs)) - are you doing some days for the vets practice, sorry I can't keep up!!

cep so sorry you had such an awful dream, can imagine how awful that must have been.

mumtum YAY what amazing news!! 8DPO you are one brave lady!!

to everyone else that I haven't namechecked, sorry not to be able to keep up properly

Hey everyone just checking in
mumtum Congratulations- that's such fantastic news! 8 dpo too!

cep dream sounds awful, hope you have a better night tonight.

to freelance from the other thread. Hopefully the bleeding's sorting itself out x

Hi all,
yes I have been lurking - OU assignment to do, so no time for MN over last couple of days. :(

anyway, done now, I think it was pretty rubbish but such is life and the next one will be better... [hopeful emoticon]

cep so sorry to hear about horrible dreams , I hate nightmares at the best of times, but you do get vivid dreams when pg, and mc dreams while pg must be so :( - big hugs to you

hello to newbies- so sorry for your losses but this is a lovely encouraging gentle place to be, hope you find it as helpful as I have.

Huge congrats mumtum on the BFP , that's amazing news!!

Nice to see you blackkat

Hope you are OK chloe, fx that it may be implantation, hang in there

collie is everything OK with you?

waves to everyone else!

to wellie nice to see you too - bet the assignment isn't as rubbish as you think, they never are! Hope all ok with you

hi to minnie too

to everyone else.

So, , I took the plunge last night and tested, (AF can sometimes be 40+ days turning up so I was prepared for a negative) and I got a faint line. Thought it was my eyesight, or bcs it was dark or bcs it was a rubbish cheapy test so not true. Couldn't believe it given the 3 years it had taken to get BFP 1. But, done two more this am, including a CBdigi and got a positive on both. So I'm in total shock, terrified and am going for a big lie down. DH is at work (fireman) but I just woke up his whole watch by ringing to tell him!

Sorry for me me me

Sorry too if another BFP upsets any of you TTCers - believe me when I say I do know how you are feeling, and how fortunate I am. ((hugs)) X

blackkat that's fantastic news. i'm so so pleased for you.

mel sorry af arrived. Hopefully that'll be the end of mysterious bleeds.

weirdest dream last night, i was shopping with ds in pushchair, and bumped ino a friend (friend actually lives over 100 miles away so no chance of bumping) as her if she fancied going shopping together, she bluntly said no, then i was suddenly somewhere else in town and realised i'd left ds around somewhere and had to go checking all the shops to see where i'd left him. no new baby in this one. bizarre

Whoohoo blackkat!!!!!!! !!!! how many weeks did the digi say? Am very excited for you!

Don't worry about the dream Cep, I've had loads where I'm out somewhere and realise that I've left dd on her own at home so I try to get home in a panic but I always wake up before I get there. I think it's common, maybe just our subconscious worrying about them or something.

Thanks Cep amd Mel, CBDigi said 1-2 so reckon I'm 4+2, and o/v without any help...blimey!!

Cep another wierd dream, but at least not as bad as night before good sign all those hormones are working

can't stop smiling for you.

mel how are you feeling this morning?

last nights didn't upset me (unlike the previous) it was just so weird, i've never dreamt about leaving him somewhere before, or if i have i've forgotten it by next morning.

woooooo blackkat congratulations!!!!

Sorry melies that AF has got you, but i think this april is going to be the month!

Wierd dream cep! How are you feeling?

Still no AF here for me....

x

I'm okay thanks Cep, it's a relief to have a normal bleed (might change my mind later though when the pain really starts - I've got prescription drugs for it because some months it's so bad I vomit). The only thing is I'm a bit worried about my luteal phase - I'm hoping that this month is a one off, I don't want to be spotting for a whole week before every af - before the mc it was only for 2 days. I'm looking forward to my reflexology later too and I've got a few nice things planned for the next 2 weekends because I'm off work so I'm focusing on positive things.

Hi brooke, how long since your mc now? Hopefully you won't be waiting much longer.

mel the only thing I've done differently this time round is reflexology. I've had 3 sessions and have another booked today, FX it does the trick for you too. x

Thursdays List

ZamMummyInGabs TTC#3 cycle 3

TTC
BackOnceAgain TTC#3, Cycle 7 UCL28-32 CD49
Blackkat TTC#1, MC#1 Jan 2011, UCLrandom CD31
wellieboots cycle 2, UCL 29 or 30, CD29
HidingInTheUndergrowth TTC#1, cycle 5 UCL 28 CD27
MumTumWanted TTC#2, cycle 2, UCL29 CD22
laylasmummy09 ttc#2 mc#2 28/28days cycle 1 CD21
Chloe55 TTC #2, cycle 7 post MC#2 UCLrandom CD20
IfAtFirstUDontSucceed: TTC no1, MC no2, Jan 2011, UCL 28/29 CD19
Minnie74 ttc#1 cycle 4, ucl28 CD18
lily06 TTC#1 EP Jan 10, MC May 10, UCL 25-? CD16
Shorty ttc#2 cycle 2, ucl 30 CD12
Hadrian TTC#1, MC#1 Dec 2010, cycle 2, UCL35-40,CD12
Loola2shu TTC#3 Cycle 6 UCL35-38,CD35 postMC#2 UCL26-32, CD11
vegasmum ttc#3 wttc ucl28-30 CD8
tokyotwist TTC#2 MC#1 Feb2011 CD8
harassedinherpants TTC#4, MC#3, UCL 28 or 31, WTF cycle, CD9
Youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 8 UCL33 CD5
Meliesmummy TTC #2 cycle 2 CD2
Skitoo TTC#1, WTF CD?
Angela95 ttc#2 cycle 1 ucl ?

WTTC
Choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 6 UCL 27
Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#2
MaybeBaby TTC#1 MC#1
babypops
WildSheepChase TTC#2 MC#6 Jan 2011, UCL 33-36
LadyBee TTC#2, UCL27
Brooke ttc#1? wttc ucl? WTF
Milkyway2007 ttc#? wttc ucl? WTF
jkklpu wtc ucl? WTF
securegal, TTC#1 MC#1 March 2011, WTF, UCL 28
Reallyusefulengine TTC#3 MC#Mar 2011, UCL 26-28 days
Freelancegirl ttc#2 WTF cycle ucl 28-38
Gimmegimmegimme ttc #3 mmc mar 11 ucl 28-32

MIA
BrownB TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC2) UCL 24-26
Getawiggleon TTC#2, Cycle7 UCL28-32 (Lurking)

RECENT BFP's
Emoo TTC#2, Cycle 1 (post MC1) UCL 26-30, 30/1/11
DachshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL28 CD32 BFP 25 Jan 2011
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 22 UCL24-9 CD30 BFP 16 Jan 2011
Pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 5, UCL 28-35 CD30 BFP!!
Lemonsherbert BFP 18 Jan 2011
HongKongBaby#2, cycle 5 (post mc1), UCL 37, CD31 BFP 18 Jan 2011
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 5 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD29
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 3 (post MC) UCL 31
PrettyQuichey TTC#1, (round 7) UCL 28-30
Lovebeingadaddysgirl TTC#? WTC cycle
GetDownYouWillFall TTC#2
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, MC#2, cycle 6 UCL 25-30 CD29 BFP 7/2/2011
Velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 6 UCL 30-33, 18/2/11
MummyAbroad TTC #2, cycle 2 (Post AS Op)) BFP 23/02/11
Cep TTC#2 Cycle 2 UCL24-28 BFP 24/2/11
Hils74 TTC#1 MC#1 Jan 2011 BFP 28/2/11
Ochaye TTC#3 cycle 1 UCL 31 bfp 02/3/11
Ninunina TTC#1, MC#1, WTF cycle, bfp 09/03/11
Collie TTC#1 MC#1 Cycle 1 UCL 40 BFP 17/03/2011
Banana87, TTC#2, MC#3, UCL35-37 bfp 17/3/2011
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 8 UCL 24-30 BFP 18/03/2011
Iggly TTC#2, UCL 29-31 bfp 18/3/11

RECENT GRADUATES

VivClicquot BFP 25 August
Loopymumsy BFP 29 August
CaribouMoo BFP 7 September
StarflowerGirl BFP 24 Sep
Appleblossoms BFP 9 Oct
Littlemiss72
Urbanlolly BFP 1 Nov
Inbetweener BFP 10 Nov
Owlbooty BFP
Nickstermum BFP

Just taking myself to the bottom :(

Blackkat and mumtum I havent moved you because I want to wait until you are ready, hope thats ok? Ive just stuffed myself with chocolate croissant, not great for my cholesterol but so so yummy!

woooooo blackkat congratulations!!!! we are practically mirroring eachother in terms of dates of mc and then bfp

Sorry melies that AF has got you,

cep sorry for another bad dream though i can imagine how upsetting they are , they are only dreams and we all know you would never leave him in RL, be strong hun x

melies Sorry that AF got you but as you say you know where you are at now and that can only be a positive thing....im happy to stay where i am on the list at the mo, though that cb digi says 1-2 weeks im so nervous still as not actually due af til 8th march so until im past that milestone im unsure about taking that nxt step ..... [v worried emoticon]

think i may venture into the freak out room just to lurk mind ....

I also second blackkats emotion that i realise how fortunate i am for the bfp. i hope that in my excitement yesterday and the me me me posts that i didnt upset anyone biggest apologies if i did

right best do some work .... Have a good day ladies ( though mine appears to be a bit slow today so no doubt i will be lurking !

Blimey it's been busy on here this morning!

YAAAYYY!!! blackkat that is BLOOMING MARVELLOUS news!! Congratulations sweet, I am mega mega chuffed for you!!! I too am grining ear to ear for you

mels for you that AF caught up, but glad at least it brings you some relief. Your 2 weeks off sounds lovely, and good luck for the reflexology tomorrow, I hope it works for you and this next cycle is your month x

chloe glad you are enjoying the vet nursing. It's good for you to have another focus for a while. Don't blame you for not getting your hopes up yet, but I'm sitting here with my fingers tightly crossed for you anyway x

glad your study is done, I think blackkat is right, you always think they are worse than they are! How is life down under going? I'm ok thanks, still mentalling worrying about every little thing.

cep your dream sounds awful. I hate bad dreams. I've been having vivid dreams too. Dream last night about my cousin and his dw who are struggling ttc#1 think they've been trying unsuccessfully for a couple of years. Dreamt my aunt told them my news and they were devastated

mumtum how are you feeling today?

Had gp apt yesterday. He was lovely (and quite a dis. [disgraful emoticon] ) and sympathetic. Has refere me to epu and have scan on monday. Dreading going back there.

Right I'm at work so better go and get some done!

Oh my gosh!

What an exciting morning!

Blakkat That is amazing news for you and DH. Congratulations!

Layla Did you resist?

Cep Sorry for another disturbing dream, I hope you get a better nights sleep tonight.

Melies So sorry you got your AF and hoping there might be more clarity with your cycle this month.

Mumtum I hope you're okay and not freaking out too much. It is lovely news and good to see a light at the end of the tunnel.

Morning ladies!

Congrats Blackkat that is so exciting - we aer on a roll on this board...more BFPs please!!

Cep sorry you had another weird dream. I had a weird one about being in Vegas with people from school and there was a big tidal wave last night and it flooded the Bellagio...very random!

Melies sorry you got your AF but hope it clears everything out and you can start from fresh on a good cycle next month

Collie glad the gp was so nice. I am sure going back won't be nice but hopefully the scan will provide you with some reassurance.

Hi to everyone else on here!

Ok apologies in advance but I am going to go on a bit of a me me me rant now. I think my AF is coming (fingers crosed - weird - I would never have said that before) so I am particularly hormonal but I am so upset with my P (he is not DP this morning). So originally we weren't planning on getting pregnant so early basically for financial reasons but then I did and so after the MC we had a chat about when to try again. Having been pregnant I so desperately wanted to get pregnant again and so we agreed to wait until after my first AF and try again.

So we were chatting about money last night over dinner as we've bought a few things for the house this month and he said, I've been thinking and I think maybe we ought to wait at least another month before we try again.

Well I just didn't know what to say. I feel totally gutted. He says he really wants a baby and he only says wait for financial reasons but then why doesn't he stop spending (example - he came home with a painting last night which I agreed we could get but I would never have said we should if it meant delaying having a baby)

He just doesn't seem to get that for me, every day I'm thinking about what it would have been like if I was still pregnant. Like Sunday, we were going to tell our Mums on Mother's Day. He just doesn't get it and how having been pregnant I just desperately want to be again. Now I feel like I am in a position where I want to have a baby and try and get pregnant but I am trying to do it with someone who really doesn't want to

Just want to cry at my desk and go home

xx

collie that's a sad dream, i'm sure they'll be happy for you, even if sad for themselves. do they know about the mc?

bumpwanted oh hon. What difference does he think a month would make?? i think i'd have said that if he was that worried about the finances then the painting could go back. I know how you feel, but at least he says he does want them. My dh doesn't want another baby at all, we've only been trying because of how much i want another one. I had till sept to get preg, if we hadn't succeeded he we would have given up. Once it's here he'll be fine but until then he's not really interested.

Melie Good luck at the reflexologists - looking forward to hearing about it.

Bump You poor thing. It might make a difference financially to wait another month but it will cost ALOT more emotionally to you to wait another month. If you explain it to him like you've explained it to us, surely he'll understand?

My DH has been similar in the past, sometimes it gets tiring thinking you have to cajole them into doing things which will make them happier too.