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Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 15)

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meliesmummy · 25/03/2011 16:50

Hello! If you have recently miscarried and are thinking of or actively trying again come and join us! We offer plenty of cake, tea and wine if needed! Come in and laugh, cry and rant as needed, and don't be afraid of asking whatever questions you need answers to and we'll try our best to answer them.

Add yourself to the stats list whenever you are ready.

wtcc = waiting to try to conceive
ucl = usual cycle length
wtf cycle = the time after your mc when you have no idea whats going on with your normal cycle

Lets hope this is a lucky thread and we all get our bfps!

part 14 of the thread

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lily06 · 09/05/2011 20:52

Evening ladies,

Welcome, Mummytobe, sorry you find yourself here but do rest assured we're all with you and know what you're going through. Feel free to rant, cry, moan, do whatever you need to do.

Hadrian sorry you're having such a hard time, hope the epu can reassure you. Oh for the bliss others have of being pg without having experience mc.

Bump hope your GP can help, and find out what is causing you so much pain.

Mel hang in there, it will be your turn soon, I just know it. And bump is so right about sibling gaps. There's only 2 years between me and my sister but we never got on when we lived at home and since then we went 2 years without speaking and even now just a few times a year on the phone. My best friend is 8 years younger than her brother and they are really close, he's always looking out for her. I guess we've all got a picture of what we want and its really hard when life just doesn't want to play along.

Oli what kind of monitor do you have? Do you find it helps? Considering using one next month just to see if it sheds some light on things.

Cep really pleased to read your good scan news, how are you feeling now?

Collie hope you had a great weekend, glad your scan went well

Blackkat hows things? Hope all is well with you

Nothing good to report here - I was going to wait until CD29 to test, but caved in today on cd26. Wish I hadn't - BFN. Now its just a waiting game until AF and start again. This month it will be 2 years since we decided to start TTC. Since then I've had one ectopic and one mc and somehow just can't believe I'm ever going to have a family.

meliesmummy · 09/05/2011 21:23

Thanks lily, I'm feeling down about it all too. Have you had any tests done as you've been trying for so long? I had a scan in dec (actually the month I got pg) which was fine. If nothing happens this month I think I'll ask for bloods, although they might send me packing as I did have a pregnancy this year.

Hello mummytobe, come and chat as you want.

Dont worry about no symptoms Hadrian, it's such early days yet but I can understand your fear. Good luck with epu x

Waves to olis bump and everyone else x

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lily06 · 09/05/2011 21:43

Mel I changed hospital after seeing a useless consultant after my ectopic, and have seen four different ones at the new hospital. I'm currently on Clomid (3rd month) because my day 21 progesterone levels are very low - going back in June to see if there's any progress. I'm also on bromocriptine (1st month) because my prolactin levels are high. I'm not sure if the rules are different between different local authorities, but I didn't have to wait for 3 x mc or for 12 months ttc to go for the tests etc. I felt really positive after seeing a new consultant last month but the optimism has worn off now. I feel so stupid for leaving it so long before ttc, I kept thinking maybe next year etc and just assumed I would start ttc and have a baby 9 months later.

hadrian · 09/05/2011 22:49

Tell me about it lily - before I started TTC I thought it was the most straightforward thing in the world to have a baby. How naive I was to think that I'd just come off the pill and a few months later there'd be a bun in the oven. I often catch myself wishing I hadn't left it so late but then I tell myself that there's no point thinking like that as there's nothing I can do about it now - it's a totally redundant thought that serves no purpose except to make me more miserable!

Sorry to hear you don't think this is the month for you...although CD26 is pretty early isn't it?

How are you doing today melies?

Blackkat · 10/05/2011 10:17

Mel and Lily so sorry to hear that you are having such tough times Sad. I know how demoralising and devastating it is to be on such a long journey, I'm sure you'll remember me saying that it took us 3 1/2 years to get our first BFP. Looking back now, we didn't get enough help. Yes we had great medical help from our GP and a fantastic consultant. But we both needed to talk to someone about the fact we felt that our lives were on hold and that all our friends were leaving us behind. I will never ever forget the despair that I felt (and still do feel sometimes). Please remember that however tough it is, and I know it is, people really do understand. ((((hugs)))

lily I can't remember, are you being monitored each month for the Clomid? Good luck with it, sometimes it takes a few months to kick in (I got BFP on month 6)

mel well worth getting some tests lined up at the doctors. I'm sure your friendly (FX) GP will be willing to test you for your Day 21 progesterone level - remember that this test needs to be done 7DPO so hang out for the right date for you if you know your cycle. Anything above 30 means you're definitely ovulating though I've been told a higher figure is better ( I finally got to 50 on Clomid after being 1 naturally!). The next tests would be DH swimmers, (easy he just gets given a jar and has to keep it warm for 30 mins until it's handed over at the surgery!). If those tests come back ok then you might have to be prepared for the medics to suggest that you need to give it some more time. Have experience of the next level of tests which are far more invasive but will save that unless you need to go there.

Hadrian repeat, symptoms come and go! I've not had many at all, had far more with my MMC. Trying not to stress, it's not easy is it??
Early scan (t'other thread) sounds like a good idea. Pay. You will be seen more quickly and won't have to sit in a waiting room with preggers chavs. Or walk past them smoking outside the hospital. Bitter, moi??

Bump how're you going?? Have you seen GP yet?

Olis how are you, still so impressed by your weight loss regime!!

to Collie (wow where did those 3 months go?? Grin) and Cep

Chloe huge hugs to you if you're reading/lurking.

Mummytobelizz so sorry to read your news, Sad. This really is a great place to be.

Right, better do some work!

olismum23 · 10/05/2011 11:40

Morning all,
weight loss slow this week only 1lb weigh in tomorrow but dont think it will change much.Lily the monitor has been rubbish for me all lows got so down using it so not going to anymore just temping. If you PM me with your address you can have mine as i no longer need it. I have heard others use it with great success.
melies I feel so similar to you and lily but i do feel that it will happen again thats after 27 months of trying! I feel down most days but i think it will happen.
hadrian when i was pg with DS i had no symptoms for 6 weeks because i had no idea i was pregnant till then, try not to worry.

meliesmummy · 10/05/2011 16:42

blackkat dh had a sperm analysis when I had the scan, he had a good count but slightly abnormal morphology and some clumping so he started on vit c and he was meant to go back but then I got pg so he didn't and now he thinks that because I did they won't retest him so he doesn't want to ask. I might work on that though!

Hi to everyone else, sorry for not name checking but I worked last night and need to catch up on everything!

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meliesmummy · 11/05/2011 11:10

Hi everyone! Quiet here today. How is everyone? I'm ok apart from the period pain, although this month doesn't compare to last month, I have been able to leave the house this time! And I'm loving the mooncup...I actually had a bath last night with no mess at all, normally during my period baths are a big no which is annoying because they help so much with the pain. I was very always sceptical about mooncups when people recommended them but I take it all back!

Are you going to test again this month lily?

How are you bump?

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Loup23 · 11/05/2011 11:33

Welcome to mummytobelizz sorry for your loss, hope you get lots of support in RL, this thread is a great support.

Any news lily? Was CD26 too early? I hope so and I hope AF stays away. Glad to hear you're doing ok melies you've educated me with the mooncup! If my AF comes this month I think I might invest in one, I'd never heard of them before!

hadrian how are you getting on? Hope symptoms are coming and going for you!

olis good luck for the weigh in, a pound is still a pound and it's the right direction!

bump how are you doing? I hope the pain is easing up, do you see your dr this Friday? Hope it goes well.

I am on 4 or 5 dpo (probably 4) and for some reason am feeling positive this month.... last month I was sure it was a BFN but this month just feels different, no idea why. Only possible symptom I have is bigger boobs (which I get after O anyway) and lots of cm (not sure if that's a good sign but the month I got a BFP I also had lots of cm so Fx). Anyway I don't have any tests at home so am going to stay away from Boots until mid next week I hope! Fx for all those on the 2ww or waiting for O day x

meliesmummy · 11/05/2011 11:41

loup they sell them in boots but I got mine off amazon, it was a bit cheaper. Fx you won't need one though!

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CollieandPup · 11/05/2011 11:49

Morning all

Sorry for your loss mummytobelizz and sorry you find yourself here but its a lovely supportive thread.

Mel gald you're having less pain with this AF. Just watched the dvd on the mooncup website - revolutionary! Is it easy to insert/take out? What about if you are at work /out and need to empty it?

Loup fx for you, i had lots of cm after av with my bfp - but never really took much notice of my cm before that though.

Lily still no AF? CD 26 could have been too soon - i don't tend to get even faint lines until well about 15 dpo. fx for you.

Well done on all the weight loss olis

I know 3 months - can't actually believe i made it this far. Your not too far behind me. Once I got past those very early weeks they did really fly by!

Waves to everyone, my the ttc list has shrank! Where did everyone go?

stitchinline · 11/05/2011 11:58

Wednesday's list

Tokyotwist ttc #2 cycle 1 cd 49 ucl unknown
Stitchinline ttc#1 cycle 3 cd 31 ucl 33
Lily06 ttc#1 cycle 4 cd 28 ucl 30
Olismum23 ttc#2 cycle 3 cd 23 ucl 30-33
Loup23 ttc#1 cycle 4 cd 22 ucl 33ish
Meliesmummy ttc #2 cycle 4 cd 3 ucl 28

First time doing the list so hope it's OK

Not much happening here, just waiting for AF so I can get started again

meliesmummy · 11/05/2011 12:52

Hope af hurries up for you then stitch!

collie I wash it out properly at home, when I'm out I've been just wiping it out with tissue or wet wipes. It's easier to use than I thought, the only problem I've had is when it doesn't unfold properly when it's in but I think I've solved that now.

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Tokyotwist · 11/05/2011 15:49

Hello Everyone

Welcome to mummytobelizz, so sorry for your loss. This thread has been a great support and hopefully will be for you too.

Day 49 and still no sign of AF. Tests all negative. I'm going spare here. Have booked an appointment with GP for 2mro. Very worried that she'll just send me home to wait. I don't even know what I should be asking her/ expect. Wretched Blooming Cycle Angry.

Sorry folk, just very frustrated here.

Loup23 · 11/05/2011 17:23

sorry to read your news tokyo how annoying... hope GP has some answers for you. good luck x

olismum23 · 11/05/2011 17:48

Sorry about your cycle tokyo i can understand your frustration.

melies that mooncup thing sounds intriguing will have to go look it up!

collie glad everything is going well

stitch hope af moves her bum!

loup fx for you someone is due luck this month!

As for me i am doubtful about bfp this month not dtd a lot and monitor always said low but you never know. I have felt crap this week as i would have been 20 weeks i think it all kind of got to me again.
I lost 2lb this week so thats 1st in 2 weeks now i am 16st 6 so only 5 stone to go lol :)

olismum23 · 11/05/2011 17:49

Sorry about your cycle tokyo i can understand your frustration.

melies that mooncup thing sounds intriguing will have to go look it up!

collie glad everything is going well

stitch hope af moves her bum!

loup fx for you someone is due luck this month!

As for me i am doubtful about bfp this month not dtd a lot and monitor always said low but you never know. I have felt crap this week as i would have been 20 weeks i think it all kind of got to me again.
I lost 2lb this week so thats 1st in 2 weeks now i am 16st 6 so only 5 stone to go lol :)

olismum23 · 11/05/2011 17:50

sorry for the double post!!!

dairyfarm · 11/05/2011 19:27

Hi everyone - joined here when I was still breastfeeding at all hours, hence the name!
MMC'd at the start of April, 2nd one as I mmc'd before having my little boy who was 1 at the weekend. Started trying in Jan and conceived immediately. Scan showed healthy heartbeat at 7 weeks but 9wk scan showed development had stopped at 7+4. Had medical management this time so that I wouldn't have to wait so long for cycles to return to normal.
AF made it's appearance on Monday so we are going to start trying again this month.
Good luck to all on here and I really hope to read some good news stories soon xx

olismum23 · 11/05/2011 20:49

Welcome dairy sorry for your losses. :(

hoping this thread will bring luck to all soon too

lily06 · 11/05/2011 21:48

Welcome dairy, sorry you've had to go through the pain of mc twice, hope your stay here is short for all the right reasons.

Olis thanks for the offer of the cbfm, have sent you a pm. Well done on the weight loss, really great! Sorry you're feeling down at the moment, its always hard when milestones come up and you think what might have been.

Tokyo how frustrating, hope your GP can help.

Mel you've really sold me on the mooncup, hadn't been tempted before but think I might give it a go.

Loup keeping fx for you, glad you are feeling positive this month.

Blackkat thanks for the kind words. I wasn't being monitored on clomid, but now I'm seeing a new consultant I'm hoping that will change. Hope everything is ok with you x

Collie how are things with you and colliepup?

I'm trying to hold off testing again until Saturday, which will be cd31, though I fully expect AF to have turned up by then.

olismum23 · 11/05/2011 22:12

lily06 not got your pm?? maybe it will turn up tomorrow? you never know you may not need it!

lily06 · 11/05/2011 22:13

Just tried again - internet was a bit flaky earlier, so maybe it didn't send. x

Loup23 · 12/05/2011 10:01

Good luck lily hope af stays away! I was feeling positive yesterday but now back to negative Confused am now thinking it's just dodgy hormones making my boobs hurt! Oh how I hate the 2ww. Have ordered some FRER from amazon and will hold off testing until mid next week.

Waves to everyone and hopes you're all doing ok x

Bumpwanted · 12/05/2011 11:43

Morning ladies

I've been a bit quiet the past few days as have still been getting terrible cramps. They were so bad I went to the EPU yest and had a scan. Not much to see other than an empty sac given I am only 5 weeks but they said everything looks on target and didn't seem concerned by the pain. I am not convinced and still think its going to end badly but am just trying to take it one day at a time and hoping by some miracle it will be ok.

Loup they are so much cheaper on amazon aren't they! Made me feel a lot less guilty for being obsessed with testing.

Hi to Oli Lily Melies and everyone else

xx

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