Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 15)

[meliesmummy]

Hello! If you have recently miscarried and are thinking of or actively trying again come and join us! We offer plenty of cake, tea and wine if needed! Come in and laugh, cry and rant as needed, and don't be afraid of asking whatever questions you need answers to and we'll try our best to answer them.

Add yourself to the stats list whenever you are ready.

wtcc = waiting to try to conceive
ucl = usual cycle length
wtf cycle = the time after your mc when you have no idea whats going on with your normal cycle

Lets hope this is a lucky thread and we all get our bfps!

part 14 of the thread

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Thanks stitch i have done the same at 20 pound a month for clear blue sticks i bought a 4 pound BBT so i can track it instead although i may use the monitor for one more month to see if it falls in line with my temps :)

oli well done for weight loss that's really good

Afternoon ladies.

I'm feeling :( this afternoon. I really think this month is a loss, I'm thinking that as it's a year next month since we started trying I might have to come round to the idea of having an only child. Last weekend seeing dd play by herself/with me in the playground made me so :(. She would love a sibling and she'll be at least 4 if and when she gets one, a bigger gap than I wanted really. I feel like such an idiot for thinking that it'd be easy and quick like last time and not trying sooner. :(

Sorry for being me me me.

oh mel sweetie, am so sorry you're feeling low. i know staying positive is so hard, it took me longer to get pg with the one i lost than with ds. could you maybe go to the dr's and talk to them about it, although i know down here they don't do anything till you've been trying for a yr, and i was told that it would start from the mc as i did get pg. Obviously don't know what the rules are near you.

melies please dont feel bad about feeling bad iykwim. All i can say is i feel the same it took me 14mths to fall pregnant with DS and i have been trying since he was born 2yrs 3mths it was 2 years inbetween him and MC and its not happening any quicker now. I took DS to a play center yesterday and a 6mth old baby came in DS kept saying "baby" i broke down and went home. :(

Pale brown cm here which means af tomorrow or Monday :(. I'm thinking I need to take a step back now, tcc has taken up nearly a year of my life and I can't carry on obsessing about it otherwise I won't know where it ends iykwim. I'll console myself by thinking at least I didn't waste any money on tests and I'm having a textbook cycle I think! And wine and takeaway tomorrow (working tonight), and the mooncup wasn't a waste of money!

I took my basal body temp this morning and it was not even on my chart it was so low 35.34 or something like that which has been attributed to thyroid function so going to go to the docs on monday to get a test to get it checked. It may be a reason for a lot of my problems.

Im sorry melies hope you fell better soon.

melies sorry to hear about af, and your sadness re ttc - can the GP offer any advice, are you using a monitor at all? I really thought I'd be having a baby this year but its just so hard! Good luck and big hugs.

I'm officially on the 2ww although will dtd tonight as well as still on peak day 2. Am so hoping it works this time. Any others on 2ww? Must make it to 10dpo without testing!

Waves hello to all others - how are you feeling bump?

Sorry to hear you're feeling melies. I know what you mean about feeling like an idiot...if I manage to hold on to this bean it will be my first and before I first started TTC I thought having a baby would be the simplest thing in the world. So naive. There's still hope this month isn't there?

Good luck loup, fingers crossed for you too.

All OK here I think...so far anyway. I get pretty panicky when I don't feel any symptoms but in the afternoons I feel awful, sick and tired, am hoping that's a good sign. I'd give anything to actually throw up...ridiculous isn't it

Good luck with the GP olis, and good luck not testing loup!

It's still early days Hadrian, I didn't get nausea till 5+ weeks with dd and I didn't throw up unless I was exhausted.

Thanks for trying to cheer me up. The brown cm has stopped now, and there was only a few tiny bits, they were very very pale brown so maybe it doesn't mean af?! I would expect proper dark brown gunk by now...and my boobs feel sort of painful in a stabby way?! Its strange and I really don't want to get my hopes up. Im not sure whether to do a test when I get up tomorrow afternoon or just wait and see, any thoughts? I've got a few Internet cheapies and a cb digi in the house, which should I use?

Ignore last message, pink cm now so no need to test. :( I feel like giving up, I can't take this stress every month, I feel so :( but maybe if we stop trying we can enjoy what we have and focus on dd.

Oh mels ((huge big squishy hug)) I understand how you must be feeling but please try not to give up hope. A year is a long time I know but you've been unlucky enough to have mc a pg in that time, which really prolongs the time you've been ttc. I know it's frustrating but a few people have experienced messed up cycles after their mc, futher prolonging ttc. This is really only your first proper cycle after your mc. I know that's really not helpful, but please try to take some reassuance from it. I understand know dearly you want it to happen, and it will, I know it. Taking a back seat from ttc though, might not be the worst idea though, it really does take over your life. Chloe seems so much happier these days. Also, maybe pop onto the common room thread. yrmotb took a back seat for a couple of months- no temping or opking, just regular swi- and it got her a bfp. Ask her about it maybe?

I'm so you're feeling so I you're wrong about this month, but you know your body. Xxx

sorry to not catch up with everyone else (again) I'm actually in Belfast with friends and I'm just lurking whilst they're asleep, but just couldn't not post for mels. Proper catch up next week xx

Oh melies I'm so sorry af has arrived, its so frustrating all the not knowing each month....... I really would recommend the cbfm if you're not already using it. I hope you are getting support in RL. Good luch and big hugs x

mel im sorry af is here and your feeling so low. It might be a good idea to have a break away from here and relax like chloe is at the moment spend a little time as you say relaxing and enjoying your dd having a few drinks, might help. It is really demotivating and depressing when it takes so long, especially if the first time is really quick. >

Giant for melies. When AF arrived after my first proper cycle after MC I cried all day. DH kept telling me I was being irrational and that 'it will happen when it happens' but I was inconsolable. I felt better the next day and decided to try not to obssess about TTC quite so much as I was really feeling the strain. Can you treat yourself to something lovely?

Im really sorry melies I really thought this was your month :(

Still low on my monitor but i had ewcm last night and dtd anyhow temp way up compared to yesterday 35.4? to today 36.36 so a wee bit happier about that. :).

Thanks everyone. I'm consoling myself with a glass of whilst dh fetches a mcdonalds (naughty I know!). I'm trying to feel a bit more positive, we're going camping next weekend and at least I won't feel sick and can take dd on all the rides at peppa pig world.

That sounds positive olis. loup to be honest I'm not sure about the cbfm, it's a lot of money and I would need to start on day 1 wouldn't I? Which means that I would need to order it a few days before, when I wouldn't know if I was pg that month or not, iykwim. Plus we dtd most days or at least every other around the right time anyway so im not sure it would tell me more than the ov sticks.

Hope you had a fab weekend away collie!

Waves to Cep and Hadrian and everyone else x

mel sweetie you're allowed naughty every now and then. (nows more often in my household.) We're going to peppa pig world on the 23rd for ds's birthday. My friends just been she said it was fantastic.

Monday's list

Tokyotwist ttc #2 cycle 1 cd 47 ucl unknown
Stitchinline ttc#1 cycle 3 cd 29 ucl 33
Lily06 ttc#1 cycle 4 cd 26 ucl 30
Olismum23 ttc#2 cycle 3 cd 21 ucl 30-33
Loup23 ttc#1 cycle 4 cd 20 ucl 33ish
Meliesmummy ttc #2 cycle 4 cd 1 ucl 28

Just putting myself back at the bottom :(

Morning ladies

Have been keeping a low profile as I have been in a huge amount of pain on and off and I can't possibly believe it can be normal so everytime I go to the loo I am just waiting to see blood . On a positive note the CB test went up to 2-3 weeks and I never got that far last time. I'm 5 weeks today so even if this ends with a MC again I've got a little bit further.

Am trying to stay positive but when the pain hits it builds up to such a climas for 2-3 minutes that all I can do is cry and try not to scream. Then it goes away. Have had it every other night and some smaller pains during the day. I had this last time but I didn't get this far before I started to bleed. I guess every extra day I make it is a bonus...

Melies so so sorry you are feeling down hun. I think its really positive though that your cycle this month has gone back to normal. Its good for you to see that happen after a MC as hard as it is. Please please don't worry about your little girl and having a huge age gap with a sibling - I am sure it won't come to that anyway but there is a 10 year age gap with me and my sibling and we are so so close and always have been. I have no doubt your little girl won't have that gap with her sibling but just know a gap of a few years does not mean its not still lovely for the brothers/sisters and that they will still be close.

Loup good luck with your 2ww hun. I really hope you get a BFP.

Cep hope you're well after your fab scan!

Olis good to see the temps are going the right way!

Hi to Hadrian Collie and everyone else

xxx

bump have you been to your gp about the pain? Maybe it's a uti and you need antibiotics, it's better to be safe x

Thanks Melies I am going on Friday. I have had a UTI before though and its a different pain to this. This is very much like bad period pains in my tummy and back and a dragging session if that makes sense!?

Evening all...

Just moved across from the bleeding in 1st trimester thread. Was confirmed this morning that DH and I have lost our 'Emmy' (Embryo) at 6 weeks 3 days. Made so much harder by the fact we had a scan done at 5weeks 5 days because of bleeding and saw Emmy's heart beating.

Although only ever an embryo, we will never forget our first little life we made together. Am obviously an emotional wreck at the moment but we both definitely want to ttc once everything has settled down.

Cramps hurt like hell and my brain is fried.

x

Sorry for your loss mummytobelizz
I also went through a very similar loss in Feb saw my angels heartbeat at 5weeks 5 days too only to lose her at 6 and 2 if you every want to talk please feel free to PM me.

Welcome mummytobelizz and so sorry for your loss. This is a good place to be under the circumstances and all the ladies here understand what you are going through. I lost my baby at 8 weeks in December after seeing the heartbeat and it was such a desperately sad time. It does get better I promise.

I'm pg again now - 6+4 today - and totally convinced it's going to happen all over again. All my symptoms have disappeared and I don't feel pg at all any more . I think I'm going to call the EPU in the morning to see if I can persuade them to give me a scan.

bump I'm sorry to hear you're in pain. I've had the dragging feeling too which I thought might be a good sign - but I've also had back cramps which I'm not too keen on at all. But then I'm a nervous wreck so it's no use listening to me!