Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 15)

[meliesmummy]

Hello! If you have recently miscarried and are thinking of or actively trying again come and join us! We offer plenty of cake, tea and wine if needed! Come in and laugh, cry and rant as needed, and don't be afraid of asking whatever questions you need answers to and we'll try our best to answer them.

Add yourself to the stats list whenever you are ready.

wtcc = waiting to try to conceive
ucl = usual cycle length
wtf cycle = the time after your mc when you have no idea whats going on with your normal cycle

Lets hope this is a lucky thread and we all get our bfps!

part 14 of the thread

stats to follow

Just lurking before I go to bed, but I just had to post in reply to hopeful as I am so so [shocked] and at that woman on your belhalf. Was lying down reading and pelted up in shock. That is truely one of the WORST stories I have heard!!! You really MUST complain. She clearly thinks that is acceptable and god knows how many other women she is upsetting and offending!!! She was so insensitive and hugely inappropriate and needs telling. I understand why you feel unconfortable compldinibg while having treatment, bit don't, they'd ve fools to run the risk of further complaints from you. But you could always complain after you become pg.

((hugs)) for mels and Brooke who have having to put up with rubbish friends. It is sad that some friends manage to let you down at this time, I know as I was shocked at some of my own. You both have good reason to ve angry and upset. We're here for you though!

Sorry for not doing proper catch up, had mum over for dinner and she's only just gone and I can't wait to get in bed!

Night all x

So sorry Mumtum please take care of yourself and take it easy, hope you have a lovely wedding day and that that little baby comes along very soon afterwards - thinking of you x

YAY for Laylas

YAY for cep - fantastic scan news, so happy for you!

lovely to see you harassed, take care of yourself and eat as much choc as you like!!

mellies sorry youre having a rough time at fb - it is so hard to deal with pg announcements, scan pics etc on there, I just don't think people think about it - tbh I know I didn't until I mc'd.

Bump hope things are getting better with DH

Still no sign of AF here - wasted a useless "invalid" test this morning (I'm in Oz these days so it's Wed am here) so will need to wait til later - so frustrated!! Deliberately got up early so that could do it before DH went to work, all planned, and it was invalid!!!

Sorry for rant! Waves to everyone!

I need a glass of shame it's 11 in the morning, maybe a will do

BFN here :( - so where is AF and why do I feel so pukey?!

seriously weird... hope the mc hasn't completely stuffed my body up

Sorry for mememe - I will be more sociable later, I promise!

hopeful that's disgusting, that is not a joke that's cruel. can understand why you want to wait to complain but i definately would and ask for a different nurse next time. good luck for today.

wellie sorry for the bfn hon. but do i get it right that it wasn't fmu, try again in the morning with fmu.

brooke i think i'd avoid the friend for a while, obviously just hasn't got a clue.

Thanks collie and cep for your support, felt like i was going crazy but obviously have a right to feel angry and will complain if and when I get a bfp!!

Brooke I am sorry that you friend is not being very sensitive, but it is good that you have people around you that can support you.

Wellie good luck with the next hpt fx for next fmu

Morning

Brooke I'm glad your af is here so that you know where you are, sorry your friend is being so insensitive, some people really don't get it do they?!

Hi minnie, fx for this month then! It is worth having a chat with your gp, after 6 months of trying our gp sent dh for a sperm analysis and me for a scan.

hopeful that is truly terrible, I cannot believe that she was so unprofessional!! Could you have a quiet word with the nurse in charge of the clinic, you wouldn't necessarily have to make a formal complaint but she can't go around making 'jokes' like that. She gives us nurses a bad name!! How are you feeling otherwise?

:( for the invalid test and bfn wellie, how frustrating! Any sign of af?

Hi to Cep and collie and everyone else x

Are you ok Chloe?

Melies thank you for your post, do I assume from what you wrote that you are a nurse? I am a community nurse and would never treat anyone like that which is why I feel more angry. What kind of nursing do you do?

Hopeful That is terrible, you poor thing. IMHO she should be fired. I would report her - I can understand you might not want to right now though. Feel a bit sick thinking she might do her 'little joke' on a regular basis.

Brooke Sorry your friend is being so insensitive, she clearly doesn't know what she's talking about and sad you have to be at the receiving end of her wisdom.

Wellie Sorry the sticks aren't working out this morning, so frustrating for you. Are you going to test again or wait to see if AF arrives today/tomorrow?

Ladies, it's my birthday today! I have postponed any fun in RL until I feel a bit better about things but thought I would celebrate with you girls so.. and . Happy birthday me!

I'm a neonatal nurse hopeful. Do you work with adults in the community?

Sorry x posts, happy birthday really!!!! Have some cake on me!

Melies wow you are a braver person than me. I strugggled through my child placement at uni as looking after sick children was really hard but looking after sick babies is even harder. But what an amazing job you do. I look after the other end, I look after adults in the community so mostly the elderly.

Really happy birthday I will join you in a birthday and cake. Hope you have a lovely day whatever you decide to do.

Really Happy birthday to you - it's mine on Saturday and I am just a little excited as DH taking me away.

This is a bit me me
Freaking out as POAS yesterday morning and very faint line, again this morning on CB digi and it says 1-2 weeks, eeek. Bit worried as technically not supposed to fly long haul if updiffed and 7 hours is borderline.

But it is still so early that I'm just going to try not to think about it too much - yeah right! Quite amazed that it happened so quickly this time and hoping it sticks around. DH was hilarious, started strutting around muttering about super sperm. FX it sticks.

Thankfully have an appointment with consultant next week anyway so can chat to her about the plan for this one, thinking it will be increased dosage on the injections as already on the aspirin and not sure there is much more they can do.

HopefulThat is awful, just so not funny at all.

Would like to say again how lovely you all are, I have lurked since my MC and have found it all so helpful and comforting that I am not alone in all this. I don't have many friends in RL in the UK (from Oz) and I haven't told anyone back home as just couldn't face it in the beginning and then email and text can be so cold. Plus the time difference drives me bonkers.

Congratulations stitch!!! lovely news ,!!!! where is dh taking you? Sounds lovely. :( that you haven't got anyone to talk it all through in rl though.

Thanks Melies - DH is taking me to New York, I really am incredibly lucky.

I do get a bit sad with not being able to talk to people about it but DH has been very supportive - just as well as he is the reason I am over here!

Stitch congratualtions I am sooooo pleased for you. How lovely of your dh to take you to NY, so very jealous. I was told that flying does not increase risk of mc and just an old wives tale from when air stewardess's were grounded when pregnant which was proved unnecessary.

Have a lovely time

Thanks hopeful, I think the consultant just said that flying was a bit off limits because of my already "very sticky blood" and either I might get more clots or MC, but is is still very early so really not going to stress about it. Plus am sure I am taking enough drugs to prevent it :o

I plan to have a lovely time regardless and can't wait to eat myself silly!

Morning ladies!

Happy Birthday Really!! I shall have a glass of vino for you tonight in celebration (any excuse!)

Stitch that is really great news Congrats!!! I am sure you will be fine flying this early. Very jealous of your trip!!

Hopeful cannot believe that happened. I agree she should be reported. Some people are just so insensitive. I think I would have burst into tears if it had been me - that's what she deserves really so she can see the stress it can cause.

Brooke glad your AF has arrived! You are pretty much on the same cycle as me so we can be cycle buddies this month! Sorry about your insensitive friend. I have a friend who was super sensitive when she couldn't get pregnant and now she is pregnant she is totally oblivious to potentially upsetting others. I find that hard to believe given when she went through but she is just so excited for herself she seems to have forgotten how she felt before.

Hi to everyone else. I can't believe it is only Wed and there are still 2 and 3/4 days of work to go until the weekend. Ugh.

xxx

Sorry ladies, I'm playing catch up at the moment. I didn't see Laylas post yesterday, but congratulations, what lovely news!

Hopeful on your behalf. I think your DH is right you do need to complain about that. All practitioners should know that it is as much the care they give you for your psychological wellbeing as your physical that helps a woman to conceive or to sustain a pregnancy. Your clinic will have a code of practice and she clearly fell well outside it.

Stitch NY and a line, fantastic news Congratulations

to Mel, Chloe, Olis, Wellie, Rue and to YRMOTB

Sorry and of course to everyone else, my brain is hopeless at the moment

Try not to worry about the flight stitch, like you say, you are on plenty of drugs. Have a fantastic time, I'm sure you will!

Hi bump, how are things? Have you come to a decision?

At the risk of making some if you jealous I am sitting on a deckchair in the garden enjoying the sun whilst dd has a nap.

Stitch Fantastic news . Do you think you can see your specialist this week before you fly. Mind you, agree that the drugs will do their job and keep you safe.

Melies sounds blissful

Sounds lovely Melies I went out at lunch and it is just gorgeous outside.

Really No time as too much work to do before I go tonight but I do think it will be OK and not sure they would do much at this stage.

Thanks for all the good wishes

stitch great news, congratulations and a trip to ny. wow have a fantastic time.

rue happy birthday sweet. have lots of maybe dh could take you out for a meal, if you don't fancy anything major.

mel never mind the sun the dd having a nap sounds blissful to me.

Stitch great news congratulations
rue happy birthday
hopeful I am so mad for you, how unproffessional of her,
and mel v jealous I've got no sunshine in my garden today
Hello everyone else,
I'm a bit worried today as had bfn with fmu and am praying it was just because it was a different brand hpt I'm starting tho think I was imagining the line I saw yesterday

hopeful i think that is awful! So unprofessional!!!

Thanks everyone, wierd how i've never met any of you but you've been more help than alot of my friends! The one i had a rant about yesterday....i called her and got things off my chest, felt alot better afterwards :) and she apologized!

Started a new job last week and can get on mumsnet on my computer :) You may find me posting here alot more now! Anyway im off to you the ovulation calculator woooo
xxxx