Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 15)

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Hello! If you have recently miscarried and are thinking of or actively trying again come and join us! We offer plenty of cake, tea and wine if needed! Come in and laugh, cry and rant as needed, and don't be afraid of asking whatever questions you need answers to and we'll try our best to answer them.

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ucl = usual cycle length
wtf cycle = the time after your mc when you have no idea whats going on with your normal cycle

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part 14 of the thread

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mumtum again am really sorry sweetie. i hope you have a fantastic weeding and fx for a honeymoon baby.

thank you ladies as yrmotb says i can relax for today.

at terry's stalking was doing the rounds.

bump forgot to say that ds hasn't had a nap during the day in well over a year. have realised he has loads of vit b though so am not giving his multivit for a few days and see what happens. do you think maybe he's worried about mcing again? i reckon once your upduffed he'll be well on board. (my dh jokingly rolled his eyes in a oh no kind of way when they said baby was ok. i did know he was joking allbeit in very bad taste.)

mel oh sorry sweetie, you're not being oversensitive, is normal. fb is awful after mc's i had 2 friends announce their news, i avoided it for a little while, even now i avoid the news from those 2 friends. i hope you're ok.

Cep yaaay for sticky bean!! So pleased for you ...

Mumtum I'm so very sorry lovely. Having had two mc's close together, I know how you're feeling. Maybe a ttc break will do you good, and you have a wedding to plan! I got married almost two years ago, and I'd love to do it again...... to dh obviously. Big ((()))'s for you x

Mel not selfish at all love. Some people are twats imo! I had a big arguement with one of my sil's on Friday after she "joked" about being prg as an april fool. Stupid cow. Hide her, I've hidden loads of people. Particularly the ones moaning about being prg, I don't know if I'd be able to resist posting something sarky so don't tempt myself.

Thanks....I'm just annoyed with her generally for NEVER asking how I am when I still (try) to take an interest when I see her...I will always see her bump/baby/child and wonder what should have been. I like to think that if the situation was reversed I wouldn't post on fb about it. I wonder if I even entered her head, I should be having my scan around now and I'm not. (that doesn't mean that I'm not happy for all of you pg ladies though, I don't want any of you to think that)

Sorry for being all about me.

Love to mumtum xxxx

mel don't worry about me me moments it happens to all of us. i second hihp i'd hide her until you're feeling a bit better about it all. (((hugs)))

Cep Lovely news, so pleased it went well . It must feel like a weight off your mind. Do you think you'll be able to relax more (in a freak out kind of way?) in the next few weeks?

Mumtum Am sorry to hear you news, I hope you are okay. Wishing you the best, have a fantastic wedding, enjoy the big day, the amazing dress and wishing you a baby making honeymoon!

Bump Glad you have made up with the DH

Melies Yup, that is shitty. You poor thing. Sod it and be pleased you're a better person than her. Agree with Harassed, she does sound like an old boot.

rue unfortunately i don't think i'll totally relax until it's here. i feel a bit better but think i'll get worried before every scan to be honest.

Cep It is good that you have passed the date where you m/c last time. Did the clinic give you any reassurance at this stage?

cep YAY, YAY, YAY for good news scan , ,
Work rules my life at the moment, will check back in later xx

rue not really, just said everything looked fine. i was spot on my dates which is good (as far as i'm concerned anyway). which is reassuring but they wouldn't be able to say more than that. there's never any guarantee.

mumtum so sorry to hear that ((hugs))

As for fb announcements i am no longer on fb due to them it was driving me insane!! I thought it best to take a break for unintentionally comparing lives.

cep I am so glad the new was good :)

congratulations cep im soo happy for you, thanx for all the congratulations today, i was just wondering about weather it would be possible to have symptoms of ectopic pg already as my shoulders have been really painful all afternoon and i had some left sided cramps the last few days, please help x

laylas my last pg I had cramps at 5 weeks, I went to the gp and he said that ectopic pgs don't have symptoms that early. Also, I think that they produce less hcg so if it was ectopic you wouldn't have had a positive this early on, so please don't worry. If it still hurts tomorrow maybe get it checked just to be safe but I would say it's unlikely x

Hi to olis and blackkat and everyone else x

Layla I had an ectopic before my DC and I was in surgery for a suspected 2nd ectopic (turned out not to be there but in the right place but not growing properly ) before I m/c naturally. I recommend you read this site.

www.ectopic.org.uk/index.php/patients/symptoms-and-diagnosis/symptoms-ectopic/

I would like to add that pains in sides are utterly normal in pregnancy. And the shoulder pain is really, really specific. It feels like no other shoulder pain you have ever had. Also, and I am really not sure of this, but you wouldn't be displaying those symptoms right now IMHO. But, please let me know if you have any questions, and also, the helpline is so helpful xxx

i caved and told oh already

thanx soo much melies and RUE you have been so helpful im just going to read that link x

layla what did he say? the shoulder pain is on the tip not just shoulder pain. i don't think you need to worry at this point hon, and i had cramps/aches on the right hand side on my stomach till about 6-7 weeks.

am having an early night to go watch tv and eat popcorn in bed. I hope you lovely ladies have a fabulous night.

Lol @ Layla....... I would have told too!! I can't help with ectopic symptoms, but fingers x'd for you.

I need a a quick moan: my boobs are killing!! Swollen and sore. Will be two weeks tomorrow since I started mc'ing, what's going on?! Aarrgh.....

Enjoy the popcorn Cep, are you still on cloud 9??!!!

mel i'm still feeling chilled about it at the moment. relieved, i really did think it was going to be bad news. hopefully it'll be a few days before i start worrying again. i told ds today as he likes to jump on my belly. and when dh got home he got told that mummy had a baby in her tummy, patting my stomach, then he patted his own and said he had a baby in his tummy as well....i leave that talk for another day i think. Thankfully at his age if it still goes wrong he'll forget, i won't mention it very often to him, might leave it now till after next scan whenever that is. I hope you're feeling better about the whole fb thing sweetie.

right i am off to bed. speak to you tomorrow.

thanx everyone,the link was very helpful RUE i think its all ok, the pain is all in my shoulders not just at the tip and hopefully the cramps are normal thanx cep enjoy your popcorn, hope you are feeling better soon hihp x

Hi Ladies!

yay for cep very happy for you :)

I've been lurking on here recently so havent posted much...finding it all a bit hard again atm :( I have a preg friend who got preg after my MC who I am trying to stay happy for but honestly, its not working. She is being so patronising txting me saying..."well it just wasnt your time and everything happens for a reason, im sure you'll get there some day theres no rush for you" AGHHHHHHHH I just want to scream at her, it should of been my f*ing time and I was pregnant before you! Ahhh rant over, on the up side i do have alot of friends that have been amazing including a very close preg friend who always txts me nice positive messages and i am really happy for her and her DP...guess some people are just mean and selfish!

AF HAS ARRIVED WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO Started on Monday and it is proper minging but i'm happy that everything is back to normal and we can move on :)

Hope everyone is having a good evening xxxxx

Hey girls

mumtum so sorry to hear your news. Hope you're getting lots of big hugs in rl. Sending one to add to them x

cep great news about the scan

layla congratulations!!!!!!!!

mel fb is a pain in the arse! One of my friends does weekly updates of "Now i'm 16 weeks i look like this and am this big " kind of thing. Try not to get fed up but it's bloody difficult. Especially as she thought nothing of telling me they weren't even really trying and just happened to manage it first time! She is 14 years younger than me though! I could be her mum!

bump I'm on day 23 and we are ttc again-have been for last 4 months since mc really. Pretty sure nothing going on this month but we did manage to dtd on the right two days so fx! It's 18 months from starting to try now so am starting to wonder whether we should be getting checked out somehow?

Hi to all the rest of you lovely ladies x

Layla I cant help with ectopic advice but will keep my fx for you, I am sure all is okay. I had cramps for the first 6 weeks with dd.

Well have I got a story to tell you!!!! I went to the fertility clinic today for a scan (due to have IUI tomorrow) so they were checking follicle size. They said I needed the hcg injection to make me ovulate before IUI tomorrow so had to wait to see the nurse. My dh doesnt make sperm so we have to use donor sperm. I saw the nurse who asked if I had checked we had sperm in stock. I told her we did have sperm but that I hadnt checked with the clinic, but she said that I always had to check this at the beginning of each cycle (which 3 cycles in and no one has ever told us that!). She said she would get my injection ready and also check on our sperm supply. Whilst she was gone I could very clearly hear the conversation next door. There was a lady having a scan and they had found a hb and all was okay which selfishly at this stage I didnt want to hear. When the nurse got back she said to me that there was no sperm for me. I said sorry can you say that again, and she said there isnt any sperm (even though we pay annually for its storage). At this point I began to panic and felt really sick thinking I had gone through all this treatment for nothing. After a few seconds (which felt more like a lifetime) she said I am only joking, just wanted to see the look on your face.....can you believe this???? 2 weeks ago I miscarry, I am on my second cycle after mc so already really anxious and she is making stupid jokes. She seems to have totally forgot that she is dealing with very vulnerable women!!!! I told dh when I left and he wants to make a complaint but I dont want to say anything until we eventually do get pregnant just in case but feel so angry at her total lack of professionalism!!!!!!

So sorry about the rant but feel really let down. Anyway IUI booked for tomorrow at 4.15pm. fx it works and I dont have to go back there for a while.

brooke great news about af! Ignore the rubbish friend and focus on the good ones. I had some who didn't even contact me in person! Some others that did were very much of the "well at least you know you can get pregnant now" (We'd been trying a year) Well yes i do know that but not that I will again or any will ever stick!

Sorry for rant- it's still a sore point which does get brought up by certain friends quite regularly:( So glad blackkat introduced me to this thread with such kind people who do really understand -although for sad reasons

Anyway off to cheer myself up with some cake now! Yeah not good for the diet but my almost sil made it and it would be rude not to eat it!