Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 13)

[Chloe55]

This is the place to be for all those wanting to TTC after miscarriage, or have plans on TTC in the relatively near future. This thread is full of support from people who have been there and no how you are feeling so jump on board and share the and chocolate (or water and celery for those of you off alcohol and caffeine )

The thread moves fast so bob in and out as you please. Ask any questions that have been niggling you or that you are concerned about, perhaps someone here has experienced the same in the past.

If you want to join the stats, just add yourself to the list:

WTTC = waiting to TTC
UCL = usual cycle length

Good luck to all - here's hoping for lots of healthy, sticky BFPs by the end of the thread

This is the old thread ref:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1135533-Just-MC-and-ready-to-try-again-Pack-your-cake-wine-and-tightie-whities-and-join-us-for-more-ranting-weeping-and-most-of-all-laughing-All-welcome-Part-12

Stats to follow.

I was going to say the same thing as A&R...I think it sounds like implantation bleeding cep. Glad it's gone this morning.

I'm new to the OPK too lili, tried my first yesterday. I think you are meant to use them everyday until you get a +ve. I've read that they don't work for everyone . I've got 10 cheapies from ebay, but I don't think I'll buy them again. SWI as often as possible will give you the result you need without spending a fortune....plus its way more fun.

I honestly never realised that TTC / pregnancy is such a lucrative business. I think I've spent well over £100 on tests, vitamins etc...I guess its a sign of the expense that's in store for us once a little one comes along.

ninu just imagine how much they rake in every year. scary thought isn't it.

I hope so i'm just putting a bad slant on every ache at the moment.

It is raining really heavily here today such a shame as was glorious this morning.

Hello, hope you are all having a nice sunday. I'm banished to the kitchen on my own bcos dds asleep and dh is in the living room answering research questions (we are taking part in a long term research project called changing society, it basically involves a lady coming to our house once a year and asking loads of questions about our finances, work, wellbeing, political views etc for a government funded project. We get paid in high st vouchers and have to do it separately).

I know what you all mean about tcc bring expensive, I'd hate to think how much I've spent on vits and opks in the last 9 months, not to mention underwear to keep dtd interesting! I've used the wilkinson opks LILI but I find the tesco ones better bcos you get 7 so more opportunities to use them and I found they were more sensitive - the wilko ones line didn't go as dark, I know I ovulated that month bcos I got pg! Still better than forking out for fr / cb tho, and they gave me an idea.

cep I'm glad all seems to be well with you.

mouse I'm off for a fanjocam (my phone tried to change that to cannibal heehee!) in the morning, I've never heard it called that, but your name for it made me smile, let's hope I don't accidentally call it that whilst I'm there!

oh fx for tomorrow mel

Good luck tomorrow Mel

Mouse hope you didn't actually end up killing your husband.

cep any more goo today?

Been getting some funny cramps today, started on my left hand side, must be ovulation pain ( I always get pain on my right ovary, but not always my left), but now its feelign more like heavy pains all over, a bit like AF. I guess it has something to do with the WTF cycle.

mel good luck tomorrow

cep hoping all still ok?

chloe hope you had a lovely weekend away?

collie you ok?

XPost sorry Ninu - I've got funny ov pains and some weird like pre mc - pre AF goo, so hoping that's what it is. WTF is rubbish isn't it!

thanks for the good luck messages. I'm dreading going back to the epu and back into that scanning room, but im eager to know whats going on in there so I suppose I'll have to endure it! I'll just have to remember it as the room where I saw my dd for the first time (I bled loads that pg) not the room where I had the bad news this time.

ninu blackout I hope your cycles get back to normal soon, Chloe i hope you had a lovely weekend away and cep hope now this weekends over you feel more pg and that your little spots have stopped x

hi everyone, not too bad today no blood. odd aches and pains but nothing really worrying today. taking it one day at a time.

ninu and blackkat remind me how many weeks has it been now? is it about the 5-6 weeks?

mel it's not nice going back, but it's better to know that everything is ok again, it bring an odd feeling of relief.

Good luck for tomorrow mel are you just going back for a check up?

I even asked the doc if I should take a pg test after my erpc and was told no! I'm pleased I'm obsessed persistant.

Thank you for the good wishes blackkat you're right about wed and thurs

cep I'm hoping all your days will be worry free like today.

It's been 3 weeks since my mc, and 2 weeks since I stopped bleeding. Did you experience something similar?

mouse you do right to be persistant!

cep, I'm 4 weeks 3 days since emergency ERPC (natural incomplete) and 3wks since stopping bleeding, so not unusual for a WTF, I don't think.

I think i had allsorts during my wtf cycle. (wierdly seems an eon ago) anything that shows your cycles are going back to normal is good. Have you been back for a scan to mke sure everything is as it should be??

Hi ladies

My WTF post erpc was 9 weeks - I think I hold the record! I had no infection or anything it just took a really long time. I still had a faint positive about 5 weeks after too but was in a daze still so didn't think about getting it checked out. I hope this helps!

I've taken a HPT and it's come up -ve (it was an internet cheapy though). Was told I don't need to go back for a scan, since it was a complete mc with first scan. I'm pretty sure everything is clear...who knows, maybe its a sign that I've just conceived? I did feel something similar when I conceived (wishful thinking!!!)

blackkat really glad the service went well on Friday. It sounds terribly sad yet also comforting I think. So sad to read about that man all alone. I thought about him lots yesterday and felt for him and his OH. Really thoughtful of your dh to book a hotel, I bet that was a nice thing to have after an emotional day.

Cep so glad you have had a boring day, but sorry you've had a bit of blood. I am sure it's only implantation bleed or something though. Fx

Goodluck swi bananna

mouse sorry to hear your hcg levels are still high.... Although I have to confess I don't know much about hcg levels, never had mine done, or of did was never told. How high is 286? Good luck for thursday. I hope it's nothing serious and it's just your body taking time to readjust.

cep ninu not at all convinced by the pom juice link..... but still bought some I'll try anyting!! Got brazil nuts too!!

LILI yes keep poas every day till you get a +ive. They worked for me pre mc. I poas in the morning but you are supposed to do it mid day after not drinking or peeing for 4 hours so I've got lots of cheapies now and am poas twice a day- am and pm. Think I paid about £5/6 for 40 or so off eBay. Are you charting your temp too? Here's a link to my ff chart if you want to take a look. I'm still waiting to ov so don't know how helpful it is yet, but anything is worth a go.

melies the research project your doing sounds interesting.
Good look for your apt tomorrow.

I'm ok. Still waiting to ovulate. God i sound like a broken record!!!! Sticking to the SMEG plan though so am hopeful. Am I the only one left on the first cycle of the SMEG test???

No real news, had a blissfully quiet weekend. Although was out cleaning the windows on Saturday morning and had to abandon everything and run inside when pg (same dates as me) friend/neighbour pulled up. Must have looked like a nutter! But then again I am.
Went out to buy a necklace in memory of the baby we lost on Saturday too. Got a lovely handmade one with silver pebble with little heart cut out. Will never take it off now. Feels nice to have something close. Have also decided not to try again with the latern , for those that can remember the fiasco. Even though it didn't really go very well, now that I'm less emotional about it I do feel like it still allowed me to say goodbye, even if it wasn't in the way I had imagined.
Feeling strangely 'together' this weekend. Starting to feel like my old self, which I am obviously so glad about, although I also can't help but feel guilty... That I am moving on and life is resuming. Does anyone else feel the same? I know it's silly.

Anyway, i need my beauty sleep so I'm off. Sorry it's a mamouth post again!!!

Hello to everyone I've missed. Still no mumtum I hope, if your lurking, that your ok xx

I say strangely bcs i'd have been 20 weeks on sat

On another note, where has all my mucus gone??? Had loads earlier in month, but gone a bit dry and not v sticky which is upsetting as ov due weds. Still drinking my grapefruit juice every day and taking EPO? Any clues anyone??? Still a bit shit at checking it though.

morning all,

ninu sorry had forgottn you'd already had a scan. no if you'd already had the all clear you wouldn't need another one so that's good. fx then for concieving it has been known to happen on the wtf cycle. especially if you've been dtd regularly.

can also be a sign of oving so carry on dtd regularly.

collie nice to see you glad you had a quiet weekend, the necklace sounds lovely i'm glad you managed to find something that you liked. I think with the way the weather has been it's makes sense to not try again at the moment. Aandr was keeping the stats for the smwegging project i don't know who's left on the list.

Don't feel guilty for moving on, you need to, you're going to forget. i'm glad that you're starting to feel better, i'd stopped counting how many weeks i would have been. I remember the due date (which is 1 week after dss b-day) it's also a week before everything at work changes (remember being so relieved that i wasn't going to be there for it)

do you use 2 fingers to check your mucus? i was struggling this last month to find any started using 2 fingers and there it was. If it has started to dry up, pre-seed is really good. it also has a good record of helping people get pg, cause it's like the best cm you can get and helps the little fellas last longer.

don't blame you about the juice, as i said i only drank it till i ov'd.

melis good luck for today. Let us know how you get on.

cep ninu collie Thanks for info on opks. I took another yesterday and it was neg. Think I'll just use these ones up and then decide whether to buy any more.

cep glad you're doing ok. Did you get any morning sickness with your ds?

collie Your necklace sounds lovely. I'm now thinking of doing the same thing as I didn't get a scan pic or anything of my baby Sometimes I feel like I've just abandoned it.

I'm still smegging - well sort of! Probably not sticking fully to it as I'm kind of going for doing it every other day anyway! I'm not temping yet but if nothing has happened in a couple of months then I will be!

Re: your question about cm, I don't know what's going on with mine either!! I had lots of watery stuff on Thursday and a bit Friday and then it went to creamy stuff! Thinking it might be worth getting some of that pre-seed as cep suggested!

Hope everyone else is ok?

melis sorry I knew there was someone else who had given me info on opks! Thanks for your info too

lili if you're dtd every other day anyway i wouldn't worry too much about the opks. oh hon you haven't abandoned your baby, abandoning has a level of choice and you didn't choose for this to happen. I think necklace or charm bracelet or something sounds like a lovely idea. I was given a scan pic at the first scan, but then it disappeared, no idea where it went, it vanished a few weeks before the bad news scan.

If you do go for the preseed a warning, a little goes a very long way. It says "most women" use up to the 3rd line on syringe so i tried that and dh said he had no sensation it was just too wet. (sorry tmi) and that was with putting it in about 20 mins before dtd.

i only felt sick with ds when i wasn't eating, i was never actually sick. i didn't get sore boobs then (haven't now either) was very tired and had a lot of trapped wind for the first couple of months. but that was about it.

Morning all. I am BORED of waiting in this godforsaken epu, I feel sick and nervous which must just be my natural state here, it's my 5th visit (3 with dd) and even tho im not sitting here wondering if there'll be a hb I just must be wired to feel like this here.

I've got a cm question too (look away now if squeamish!) is it normal to have the same consistency cm as after af after a mc but brown not clear? Did any of you have this?

Hope you are all having a nicer morning than me!

just a quick msg to say good luck mel i hope your day gets easier x

I am discharged from epu, all seems to be as it should. The nurse was very nice and says we can start trying again whenever we want, so I'll be jumping back on the horse so to speak! It does mean I've got to go back to work tonight tho.

Yay for being discharged mel. Now you can get TTC again..loads os sticky vibes coming your way!! And yes, its normal to have a fair amount of brown CM after mc.

Have SWI'd Thurs, Fri, and Sat am. DD has come in with us the past 2 nights so nothing since, but will jump DH tonight after shes gone to bed. Had more EWCM Sat and Sun, and this morning so hope I've covered it.

Waves to all!