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Freak out room for those newly updiffed after MC to hold hands and support each other...

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DachshundsWantPuppies · 30/01/2011 08:37

Hello!

Newly updiffed and freaking out about spotting, cramping, the wait until your first scan and each little twinge? Settle in for lots of hand holding and supprt until you're ready to move to grads

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Ladybee · 13/02/2011 14:15

digi I keep meaning to say about the lack of heavy womb feeling. I think I know what it is you are missing, I had it with my first two pgs (mc1 and ds) - that feeling of 'fullness' from quite early on. But I haven't had it with any of the three pgs since - now I thought the first time post ds it was because it was blighted ovum so womb wasn't as full, but last time and this I know are embryonic at least, so now I suspect it might be because uterus has already experienced all the increased blood flow so perhaps there's not as much activity going on there with new capillaries etc????

It's a theory at least.

dachs well if pup2 does continue on you will be living proof that knowing your dates doesn't necessarily mean you will know an accurate gestational age - it's amazing to think they could have implanted a couple of days apart. Hope you don't feel too much like a science experiment. Really hope it continues to progress.

wombat hope that bleed has eased. Can not imagine what it's like for you. I don't suppose it becomes any easier to accept as just one of those things - you're right to get it checked each time. And try not to stress about scans.

orange tbh yes I suspect if I get that far I will probably want to have something between 12 and 16 wks.

owlbooty stretching aches are fine I'm sure. There are ligaments on each side of the uterus that do stretch as it grows.

Waves to all - ds is napping so I'm going to too

lemonsherbet · 13/02/2011 15:21

Just wanted to wave to everyone. Hairy am thinking of you today. Hope you can leave the hospital soon and enjoy a nice glass of wine.

owlbooty · 13/02/2011 15:44

Ah, Macc - I was at Stepping Hill so a little further north. You're v.lucky about the local clinics - I get the splendid choice of one session on a Thurs afternoon, at my surgery, which is nowhere near where I work, and it starts at 2pm. Helpful? No, not really.

Bee am sure you're right about the stretching. And I also know what you mean about the fullness thing as had it with the mc from very early on, but weirdly not at all until very recently with this one.

Emoo · 13/02/2011 18:45

hairy I hope you are being well looked after today and are able to go home soon if not already.

dachs that's fantastic news about your scan. Glad pup1 is doing well, and it sounds as if pup2's still in with a chance. 22nd seems like a long time away though, but at least by then things should be a bit clearer.

wombat hope things have settled down today for you and that you find a scan soon.

Got a lovely roast in the oven including yorkshires, which I am utterly disastrous at, but they still taste yum even when they're pancakes!!!

Sending hugs to everyone else including the lovely loola - nice to see you chickie!

3 busy work days for me , then one day of mentalling then scan on Friday - eeeek!

lovemysleep · 13/02/2011 19:23

hairy hope you are ok, and that you'll get home soon. Been thinking of you.

Big hugs to everyone - Emoo I'm on countdown until my Friday scan too - so eek! here aswell.

Need to rant about DH AGAIN......God, what is it about bloody men sometimes? I am hormonal, on steroids and trying to hold myself together, but no allowance is made for this? So, being slightly irritable just puts his back up (obviously, he's such a delicate, sensitive thing..ggggggrtrrrrr), and then makes him into some obstinate twat that drags his feet and arses about, doing things on his time. I get stressed - then angry, as I think of what that is doing to the bean - an it all blows up. Shouting in front of DD, and everything.

Had forgotten about the rage in pg, and I have less of a handle on it because of the steroids.

Just would like him to maybe show little more care and thought to how this is affecting me. I know he's got to go through it too, and he must be worrying - I don't want him to do much - just be a bit more thoughtful.

Sorry ladies - rant over. Maybe I am expecting too much.Hope I don't sound too irrational and like some prima-donna.........

KnitterNotTwitter · 13/02/2011 19:58

hippy hi and thanks for the nice words - I do remember you :)

lovemysleep ah... the rage thing. Had to seriously stop myself smashing a glass against a wall tonight (rational part of my brain knew that it would be just more tidying up for me!) We were having dinner and discussing inviting DFIL over for dinner in a few weeks. I asked DH if he wanted to phone or if I should and he said he'd do it but not right now because he was eating. FFS - like I'd asked him to do it that instant.... It's a very annoying childish habit of his - it happens a lot.

hairy good luck for everything in the short, medium and long-term

Glad everyone else seems to be ok....

I'm 5 weeks tomorrow - definitely the junior member of the gang :) Still feel like everything is going ok but really looking forward to the 22nd when we have our scan to check it's in the right place.... so want to see it and know that everything is ok so far....

nickstermum · 13/02/2011 20:32

God what is it about DH's? Fecker is supposed to keeping me de-stressed, and to his credit has done tons round the house..but talking about trying to rile me to react!!

Is it the DH or is it the pregnancy hormone?! Empathise with you ladies!

nickstermum · 13/02/2011 20:32

But.....stress is bad for beans!!!!!!! Note to self and note to all... Grin Brew xx

Emoo · 13/02/2011 22:45

Wonder if pregnancy stimulates a pheromone that acts indirectly on the male brain ( wherever he may keep it!) and turns the owner into a fuckwit???!!! Sympathies to all of you struggling with DHs at the moment.

love you don't sound like an irrational prima Donna, but you do sound as if you're a lady who needs to find the next moment that you and DH are both calm, and tell him how you are feeling - there's a long way to go yet. How long do you have to be on the steroids for?

digitalgirl · 14/02/2011 08:25

Right, off to my appt then.

lovemysleep · 14/02/2011 08:46

Had a good chat with DH last night and all is fine. Think it's going to take us both a while to get used to this!

It was the due date of my 4th mc yesterday aswell, so I think that was playing on my mind a bit. Oh, this is such a rollercoaster ride.....

Bloody hormones! PMT can make me nuts, this is so much more volatile though. Although it's reassuring to hear that lots of you are having the same experiences.

Got diarrhea this morning too - how lovely Blush

Digital hope your appointment goes well.

Ladybee · 14/02/2011 09:20

Digi best of luck today - hope everything is in the right place

hairylights · 14/02/2011 09:29

Escaped around nine pm. - all over and done with we think. Will continue to lurk here for news of you all!

lovemysleep · 14/02/2011 09:33

hairy glad you are back home. Take it easy xx

owlbooty · 14/02/2011 10:00

Good luck today Digi !

Glad you've escaped Hairy x

digitalgirl · 14/02/2011 10:11

All in the right place. Mean measurement of gest sac is 6.7mm which apparently is 4-5 weeks (supposed to be 5+2). Yolk sac seen but not fetal pole. Ovulated from right ovary. Rescan next Friday as i want the weekend to deal with the results.

Can't describe how nervous I was. Off for a cuppa with dh. Will try to relax over the next couple of weeks.

SameOldJollster · 14/02/2011 10:18

digi that's great.. x

Mamapower · 14/02/2011 10:43

Great news digi enjoy your Brew

Hairy Glad you are home, hope you are getting lots of R and R.

sleepy glad you and dh had a good chat. DD's always add to the emotions!

emoo nix MEN!! They won't change and Grin at knitter wanting to smash glass, I was bloomin mental for the first 2 weeks, hormones did me over completely and I mean totally menkal, can't believe dh survived!

Play us a tune orange , such a cool b-day pressie, belated wishes Grin

wombat how you doing chicadee?

Valentines kisses to all

lovemysleep · 14/02/2011 10:54

Digi whoopee! Sounds good - happy for you. x

youremindmeofthebabe · 14/02/2011 11:19

Yey digi!

owlbooty · 14/02/2011 11:21

Digi Whoop! Excellent news :)

Wombat33 · 14/02/2011 11:42

Valentines kisses all round!

digi great news on the scan! Sounds like it.s all on track! Smile

hairy big hugs lovely. It.s great to have you continuing to lurk on here xxx

To all those having DH issues. I think it.s universal Grin My poor DH probably doesn't know whether he's coming or going poor bloke with my mood swings. I can't be easy to live with. And the whole process must be stressful for him too. It.s no wonder really if has the occasional wobble. I suspect he might be quite glad to be away on business this week! Grin

Thanks for all your good wishes. I saw my gp this morning. Given it.s just been brown blood he's not referring me for a scan for the moment. I have to hold out for my 12wk scan on 28 feb unless things get worse in the meantime. i also have a private one booked for 25 feb. Not sure what to do about that one. Might wait and see how i feel next week. If i can hold out over the weekend them I save the money to have the private one a bit later when we're going to be depraraue to get info on potential abnormalities... Oh this pg lark is so stressful isn't it?!?!

Lots of love to everyone else around this morning xxx

Wombat33 · 14/02/2011 11:44

oops! Sorry for typos! Am on phone on train!

nickstermum · 14/02/2011 12:22

emoo PMSL at your Fuckwit comment.. i think you may be right Grin

hairy glad the worst is over... give yourself some time hon xxx Big hugs xxx

wombat glad your GP doesnt think its a massive issue. Feetup and rest hon (if you can) Brew

Dig thats fab news hon, cant ask for any more than that at this stage honey xxx Its hideously stressful.....

knitter aka junior you have good symptoms there hon.

Well i think i have had a bug ontop of everything else this weekend. DS has been vomiting veronica and also had a temp. I have been needing to have a sleep at lunchtime (didnt need to do that during first trimester!!) and feeling lousy. Question. Should i take spa-tone? Could that be why i feel shite? Energyless and struggle to get up the stairs.... could be anaemia? [hypochondriac emoticon] Hmm

Back at work today with having had 5 days of rest. No further bleed, or cramping (although was up most of the night with DS/temp and having cramps, but that was bowel... too many peanuts and raisins i think!) Other than feeling energy-less feeling ok and getting stuck back into work but without trying to get stressed!!

KnitterNotTwitter · 14/02/2011 12:40

digi really glad for you

wombat glad that doctor is being cool calm and collected about everything (although m'thinks a scan would be quite nice for you?)

(love I have diarrhoea too - you have my sympathies)

Having one of those days where I feel less pregnant but I'm not panicking as I know that is also normal....

Mind you I was dripping with sweat last night, the smell of cigarettes is making me gag and my food seems very bland - all good symptoms m'thinks....