Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 12)

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eggy I had bleeding for 3 weeks after my erpc. It would come and go, sometimes heavier and sometimes brown. When the bleeding stopped I did get some brown cm here and there too before AF proper.

If you have any pain, chills, fever, unpleasant smells, go to hospital as it could be an infection.

so the idiot at the hospital freaked me out for no reason and i could be on my merry way to my conference instead of crying over a keyboard?

errrr. Perhaps. If you feel well in yourself, I think that's the best indicator, or if you had excessive bleeding, ie changing a pad in less than an hour, then that's more worrying. I am sorry for your loss.

Eggie - yes it is normal as your body can take a little while to get back to normal. I would only be concerned if it was really smelly (worse than a period type smell) or if you were in any pain.

Feel free to go to work if you feel it will take your mind of things but also make sure you give yourself plenty of time to grieve and rest. A few of us on here have made the fatal mistake of trying to throw ourselves back into real life before we were actually emotionally ready and are suffering the consequences now.

YRMOTB maybe it is because its not the very first thing i do...but it is almost. I really need to do better to remember as the temps chart is useless. I reposted and hope it worked, but look here thanks xx

YRM before you buy yellow grapefruit juice have a look for pink! Its much much nicer xx

i thought i was fine - kept saying to myself it's a blighted ovum, there was never a baby, just get on and back to it, but today since i spoke to doc i just can't stop crying - i mean really i cannot control my crying at all. and i never cry uncontrollably - i thought it was cos i was scared about needing to go back in to hospital, but now i feel less scared but still blubbing

Eggy i can't comment on bleeding after an erpc as i mc naturally but i'd completely agree with chloe . It can hit you emotionally after you have physically recovered, and take you off guard. Also I know that even though i had stopped bleeding heavily i was still really weak and drained for a good week after and was easily exhausted. Take the time you need to recover, work will be there next week.

Sorry for you loss eggy xx

Eggy - what you are feeling is contrally natural. Everyone of these girls could tell you that at time they thought they were fine then BAM! It hits you like a tonne of bricks A lot of people won't understand what you are a=going through if they have never experienced this. Don't try and downplay what you have been through physically and emotionally, you are allowed to feel the way you do and at throughout the next few days/weeks/months/years you will think you are 'over it' and then you will get upset all over again. We have all been through this. Feel free to pour out your emotions on here, we are good listeners

What on earth is contrally? I think I am losing the plot

Ohh eggy of course you are not ok and are emotional. Its completely normal. As far as you were concerned you were carrying your baby and for all the weeks you carried for you spent wondering what that baby would be like and how much you'd love it. I think for many of us who miscarry early we are grieving for what we should have had, and thought we were going to have, as well as what we have lost.

As the ladies on here told me just a couple of days ago, let it out and let yourslef grieve.

((Big Hugs))

Perfectly put chloe xx

collie I think perhaps you need to try before you get up, and as soon as you wake up. The higher temps look in the range of my post-ov temps, but that can vary from person to person, so you may have to wait til a pattern emerges. When AF does turn up, it may be easier to get a pattern knowing where you are in a cycle.

Eggy it takes time to get over it lovely. A blighted ovum is no less a MC than an MMC..it was still your baby, to you. It does hit you like a brick, and will come and go. Give yourself time to grieve and it will get better with time, i promise you that xx

Morning all

Hi AR Did you have a fabulous jolly?

Mummy and yrmotb good luck with the grapefruit and all and other tricks you are trying

Izzy velvet we can't wait for you and the whole gang to join us, and I have a feeling in my waters it'll be sooner rather than later

I had a horrid dream last night, I got to my scan and the sac was empty and I'd had a mmc! Totally freaked me out so am on high knicker alert this morn! How ridiculous (like checking me knick's would stop anything bad happening)!

hi all just a quicky as u work and sneaking on phone. Sorry if already missed ughs answer. Does it matter if juice is from concentrate? Will catch up with posts when i get home.

Hey ladies
Just dropping in to say hi... I didn't even lurk yesterday as it was my due date and I needed a day off... I also had the delight of having to see my companies doctor about everything. He turned out to be a sweetheart and has said that I can work mornings only for as long as I want (with the afternoons as paid sick) so that is fab and I feel very lucky.
The due date actually wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be - maybe because I'd had my wobble 4 weeks ago?

Obviously i'm starting to obsess about what might be going on in the womb department... I'm on day 23 now... so probably about 9dpo assuming I've got a 14 day LP.... I don't feel 'wildly pregnant' like I have some months (and then not been) and I don't feel 'definitely not pregnant' (and also not been pg) So maybe this month is different?

Based on the theory that it's probably another BFN I'v also signed up to FF... now just have to work out how to use it before AF turns up :)

Anyone know if actual grapefruit has the same effect as grapefruit juice? I'm having it for breakfast most mornings at the moment as I'm doing Slimming World (8lb lost in first three weeks whoop whoop). Also I've definitely noticed an improvement in my skin since I've started taking the EPO as suggested by my counsellor.

Eggy - to be honest if you're (like me) the sort of person who is normally very strong and doesn't cry then you may find that this is the trigger for having a good cry about all sorts of things that you didn't know were even still lurking in your brain. Have a big cry and take it easy for a bit.... Work will understand I'm sure.

MummyA sorry about AF turning up, and I'll watch the experiment with interest

Izzy like the pens in the top pocket of your white coat - very geek-chic

AandR welcome back

MammaP bloomin' dreams/nightmares it's just your subconcious messing with you obviously but life would be so much easier if it seemed like your subconsious was actually on your side!

Hi to everyone else and feel free to help yourself to this plate of biscuits - made by my son and surprisingly good :)

V.glad your work doctor is so ace, that's really good :)

welcome home lovely hope your jolly was incredible xxx

Ooh biscuits. Don't mind if I do!

Big dd hugs to Knitter!

Welcome to eggy I'm sorry you find yourself here and are having such a tough time of it. It does get better, but it's swings and roundabouts for a while as others have said.

Welcome back A&R - looks like perfect timing to be out of Oz - 200 mph winds - eekk!! Hope you had a fab trip x

owl and wombat thanks for the hugs - much appreciated

Knitter sorry about the dreaded dd you had to face, oddly I think everyone has had a pre dd melt down that has prevented the actual date being horrific! Big hugs

MamaP dreams are horrible but my Mum always says they mean the opposite - which is comforting for some dreams but to be ignored for others!! My DSis who is into every alternative around spent a while interpreting dreams (she is now into seeing her psychic on a weekly basis) and says that you ignore what happens and look at what you were feeling - not surprisingly you are peeing your pants over your next scan - when is it?! Next week?

Oz was fab - you would never know so many disasters were taking place just moments from where we were. It is bloody expensive though!

I went and saw my DSis's acupuncturist whilst I was there. It was an interesting experience especially as I didn't realise she is a herbalist as well. Her english wasn't brilliant and at the end of the session she hands me some herbs she has been pounding away at for the last hour whilst I was quivering in needles and had no idea what she was up to and tells me I owe her around £150 for them on top of the £90 for the acupuncture - ouch! I declined the herbs as I have no idea what was in them and could you imagine being picked up at customs with them! It was a bit disturbing though as she kept saying that my lining would be severely damaged by my mmc and cp and needed to be repaired. I couldn't work out whether she was specifically talking about my womb or whether it was a general statement regarding anyone who has had a mc. I don't like taking drugs and especially ones I have no idea what is in them but I would like to know whether my lining is in a position to hold a baby. MummyA did your restoration worker give any ideas on what you can do to restore the nutrients in your lining?

My DSis had her little boy whilst we were there and I had very mixed emotions. He is gorgeous and looks a lot like my DDs did when first born and I just wanted to pack him in my bag and take him home with me. I ended up bursting into uncontrollable tears once we were alone - much to my DHs confusion given that I had been so genuinely happy holding him. So see Eggy roller coaster emotions are very normal!! It took me two weeks to stop bleeding after my ERPC and it would come and go in bursts. As others have said, don't try to 'get back to normal' as soon as possible. Give yourself the space to let it all out.

Big hugs Knitter - mine looms soon and I'm not looking forward to it! Hopefully it is a turning point for you as it seems to have been for many of the others on here.

Hi all - glad to be back. Work looms large and must be done and we will have a decision on planning for our house tomorrow night which I am bricking it about. Good for stopping any obsessing over upduffedness or lack there of - pick me Mr Poisson pick me - pleeeeaaaassse. I want to join the cool girls new thread!!!

I second Nix's grapefruit juice comment re snails - dh thinks I am constantly horny!!!

A&R glad you avoided the hurricanes etc :)

I had a CP 2 months before getting this bfp and I think someone else in here MamaP ? has also done something similar. I suspect the herbs are, if you'll pardon my french, a load of expensive Woo which you have done well to avoid .