The resurrection of the 6th form common room for those inbetweeners who are TTC/PG after mc and are too long in the tooth to fit anywhere else

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The resurrection of the 6th form common room, a place to put your feet up, wallow in self pity (me) or rejoice (and tremble in fright) at new growing beans and baybees after mc. No lists. No stats. No babydust. No feeling bad if you can't keep up.

Go.

Oh no wiggle & A&R I hope so much that you both pull through this weekend and don't get any bad news next week I am thinking of you both, just take it easy and we will all keep our fingers crossed.

Hi all can I join you lot.

I have a 10 year old and a 15 month old. Had 2 mcs since the 15 month old. My new doc has said progesterone and aspirin on next +Ive and I am just waiting for my 2nd af since the last one. I hate the whole process. I want to test just in case, am scared to test just in case and then would be back on the roller coaster of knickers checking and panicking at every twinge but would love to have another baby.

My last mc was 10 hours after we saw a heartbeat so really heart wrenching

10 hours oh my god how gutting - so you went for a scan, saw a heartbeat and then started bleeding? Life can be so cruel sometimes. Poor you pinkie.

getawiggleon I've got my fingers crossed for lab error too, or just random oddness, really hope you see a good rise.

AandR I'm so sorry, that seemed to happen very quickly. How are you feeling today? Are you holding out any hope at all that it was just an awful and substantial bleed or do you feel in yourself that it's definitely over?

I think I'm on about day 11-12 post ERPC and I think maybe the spotting is stopping now - although went shopping today and am knackered which spark another round.

Quick hugs for A&R & Wiggle Thinking of you both xx

I am in the gloomy place today so no proper catch up... just going to go to bed and mope love to all x

just popped in

CD1 for me today. Arsicles.

Have updated list for tomorrow; thinking of A&R and wiggle and hoping tomorrow brings some resolutions for your worries. What a sad time :(

Hi to all x

Arsicles all round by the sounds of things jollipops, sad for you and so sorry to hear about wiggles worrying time and sad news from A&R too. Life is being rather a bitch at the moment!

Hope you're all doing ok. Had a bad day Friday as was with niece and nephew at park which was fine, until others joined us with their kids and it was just me with no kids. I felt like the barren old Aunt. I had to excuse myself and go to the toilets as I could feel myself welling up. Not a good place to be.

Love to everyone and welcome to pinkie, we're not usually this downbeat, honest! Sorry you are here but glad you have found us.

Have a good day all x

Oh pinkie what a horrible thing to happen Welcome to the thread.

Jollster Sorry AF got you again this month.

Loola How are you feeling today? Is the gloomy place still beckoning? I hope not.

Barren What a day at the park. Well done for going along though, I bet your dns had lots of fun and enjoyed spending time with you.

Morning everybody else.

I am sat in my gloomy place in bed as AF is a killer again this month and the Clomid is making me feel drained and lightheaded. I was so hoping not to have to take the horrid stuff again this month

Can someone point me in the direction of the list please?

Chloe the list is the common room list, I'd do the link thing but am retarded when it comes to doing it on my phone. I think its on first page of conception x

Gosh, where to start...

aandr I've already posted to you on the freak out room thread but in case you're lurking here too I am so so sorry that it was bad news today . I hope you and dh are able to support each other and that you are getting lots of cuddles from your gorgeous girls xxx

wiggle I'm keeping everything crossed for you today and hope for some good news x

ladybee and freezing I hope you are both doing ok x

Big ((hugs)) too to all those in the Gloomy Place - jolls Chloe and loola. I'm on cd24 and spotting has already started so fully expecting to join you there in the next couple of days [resigned emoticon] x

AandR I'm so sorry it wasnt good news How are you feeling? xxx

Sorry that everyone is feeling glum. I wish I had a magic wand to wave to cure everybodies woes, but all I have are these chocolate iced doughnuts which I am feeling too pukey to eat - help yourselves! xxxx

Oh no. So sorry aandr that it's not good news. Thinking of you.

No news from wiggle? Hope you're ok if you're lurking.

Hey chloe, sorry af got you. I had high hopes for this month. Did you find the list? I'll link if not.

jolls . The bastard arse AF. Have some wine

bb sorry that the park was a bit melancholy in the end.

boo for spotting izz.

Waves to mummya izz ladybee loola pinkie and everyone else. I'm only starting my swi today, day 16? Am a bit late. Need to get sorted or this months effort will be a non-event...

Sorry it's brief, got lots on today.

yay for commencement of swi!! Good luck!

I'm feeling fairly stoical this month actually - so hoping cd1 won't bee too much of a trauma, for once!

bb sorry you had a rubbish trip to the park...I hate it when I feel suddenly ambushed. ((hugs))

pinkie I've just realised I never welcomed you - sorry! . It's so cruel to mc when you've seen the hb, particularly so soon afterwards . Hope you get a sticky bfp soon x

Welcome pinkie, sorry that you're here though IYKWIM

Not a great start to the week for many people, I'm sorry. I'm not always very good at choosing the right words but I'm really thinking of you all and wanting to wave a magic wand and make all better.

I found out today that a friend I've slightly lost touch with has just twins. They also have a 5 yo girl & have trying for many years to have another child. She had a very dramatic ectopic pregnancy followed by several miscarriages and fertility problems. They had just about convinced themselves that they were very lucky to have 1 child when they found out they were having twins. Of course the pregnancy had it own trials & tribulations but now they have their dreams come true. It has given me fresh hope that we'll all get there eventually. Just wanted to share that with you.

After an somewhat interesting (but also rather dull weekend in hospital I am much better. I just need the drs to agree with me & let me go home.

Waves& hugs to all x

Sorry for the crap typing

Dropping in briefly for quick update. Still waiting for blood results but not holding out any hope, temp dropped this morning and I've been spotting so just waiting for my body to start going through the motions really.

Will post more later xx

Oh wiggle I still hope you are wrong but appreciate that you're not getting much cause for hope with the signs. (((hugs))) x

big hug for Wiggle

wiggle Thinking of you x

What an awful start to the week for some:( A and R I am so so sorry for you, there are no words that can take away the awful pain when this happens. You are amongst people that sadly understand. I hope you are getting lots of TLC xx

wiggle I would love you to log on and say it is all fine, but am also aware that that may not be the case.I am thinking of you xx

jolls arse and bollocks to CD1. I think that sums it up.

freezing that is a hopeful and nice story :)

Big waves to everyone - I don't really feel like doing a big name check - too sad for everyone today :(

Nothing happening here, back from germany - back to work - boo. Hope everyone is ok xxx

Thanks again for all your lovely supportive messages. You're a lovely bunch and I don't know what I'd do without this board

HCG down to 12 today so this one hasn't stuck unfortunately . Feeling much better this eve though as the hormones seem to have calmed down (although felt v sad entering 'miscarriage' into ff after chart previously showed 'pregnant'. No more staring at that chart for a while I think)

We'll prob go ahead with immune testing at clinic now but probably leave it at that for now. I'm going to check out recurrent buns thread too.

It was so lovely feeling pregnant for two days . I'm just hoping the bleeding will start soon so my cycle will get back on track again soon.

Struggling with reactions of others at the mo. My mum and DH don't really know how to act around me and keep trying to help but somehow making me feel worse by saying the wrong things. Why is the grief of miscarriage so isolating? Don't think I'm helping matters and communicating very well though which can't be helping. DD has been the best, she just turned to me over breakfast, stroked my arm, then took my hand and said 'snuggle cuddle'. That's all I needed today, no awkward, complicated, adult words or emotions.

Big waves to all and hugs to all in need of them tonight. I'll be back to do more personal catch up soon xx

Wiggle - really sorry to hear your news. I hope the next one is much stickier.

((( wiggle ))) I'm so so sorry MC can be a horrendously lonely time, I know - I hope you continue to get lots of lovely cuddles from your dd to ease the pain a little xxx

wiggle so sorry to hear your sad news, big hug for you.

wiggle I'm sorry it didnt work out. I think your DD sounds just adorable, I am glad she is giving you some comfort. "Why is the grief of miscarriage so isolating?" such a great question. I hate it that I didnt know anything about mc's before it happened to me, that nobody I spoke to after knew anything at all (or anything useful) and that its still so taboo and difficult to talk about. That extra isolation and loneliness seems so needless too - why cant the world get a bit more educated and learn to help women who are going through it? Big hug for you xxx

a big sad squeeze for AandR and wiggle.

wave to everyone else... from Eeyore corner.