The resurrection of the 6th form common room for those inbetweeners who are TTC/PG after mc and are too long in the tooth to fit anywhere else

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The resurrection of the 6th form common room, a place to put your feet up, wallow in self pity (me) or rejoice (and tremble in fright) at new growing beans and baybees after mc. No lists. No stats. No babydust. No feeling bad if you can't keep up.

Go.

Oh ladybee big ((hugs)) from here. What you have just written is so on point. You definitely deserve to do something fun this weekend.

Blimey I have missed loads

Bee I hope you find something good to do this weekend, you deserve Very Nice Things Indeed.

Mouse I truly wish we could round up a posse on your behalf. Absolutely unbelievable. Can you hire a muckspreader and redecorate your boss's house? I think that would be fair.

Wiggle Yay!!!!! May this be the most boring 9 months ever. :)

Izzy I am in awe of your will-power, I just look at chocolate and have to eat it :)

Ladybee oh poor you, I (& everyone) know how you feel, you describe the worries & fears so well. Big hugs to you. Keep taking care of yourself - we're here for you too

infection isn't great but at least drs know what the problem is now so that's good at least. I was terrified it was a complication of my arthritis & would have to change medication to bad stuff that would mean not being able to TTC. but it's not so am SO relieved, I'll take a w/e in hosp for that no complaints.

Night night all, have a good w/e.

Thanks for all the good wishes ladies. It seems that the BFP was v well timed in terms of being monitored by the clinic. I had hcg done yesterday and came back at 53, did blood test again today though and it has dropped to 45. Doesn't look good does it?

I will go back on Mon to test again (will prob try home test on Sun too) but am preparing myself for bad news. I could end up miscarrying the week of my dd, a double whammy

On the positive side, if this one hasn't stuck at least the clinic can see at which point it has failed (I have a feeling my last mc didn't go much past the early weeks too) so this may help for future pgs.

I'm also having full immunes done on Mon. Ah well, I enjoyed the feeling of being pg for the 48 hours it lasted?.

Sorry for not doing proper catch up. Hugs to all those needing them tonight x

oh getawiggle I'm sorry its not reassuring news I really hope some kind of terrible mistake has been made and Mondays results turn out alright! The thought of miscarrying on your dd is so awful let us know how the home test goes. HTH xxx

Oh wiggle so sorry you've got this worry :(. On the up-side at least you're being managed/in good hands. I had that MC/DD clash last Feb, when I had an MMC confirmed 4 days before EDD, and actually MC 2 days after it, so I get your sadness. In some ways it's best to just think of them as dates, they happen every day and they're just numbers [trying to be upbeat and supportive emoticon]. Squeeze for you today x

Wave to everyone else; better check the sausages... x

Hi All! Can I sneak back in and pop into the gloomy corner? It seems I am mcing again? Can't quite believe it is happening. Last time was an ERPC so I am not sure what to expect with a natural mc. Do I have to take a drug or something to kick it off properly or can it sort itself out? No pain or cramping just loads of blood.
I have scan booked for Monday so hopefully they will be able to sort out whatever needs to happen.

freezing hope hosp isn't too grim - how crap to be in there. Make sure you download all sorts of apps.

mouse does your boss know what you have been through? What a cow.

bee hope your body sorts itself out - it is always such a long wait to get the all clear bfn. I completely get your thoughts on TTC. I feel like we should take the time to work out if there is something wrong but at the same time I don't want to miss an opportunity.

wiggle hope your stats go up.

a and R You come in and snuggle down with us. Poor you - I really know how you feel as do the other ladies on here. I know you were asking about testing on the other thread. I have included the link to the web page that my gp used when starting me off on tests. See if you find it helpful (no rush though - take time), but am sending you lots of hugs too x I have never MC naturally but I don't think they give you any meds, but also if the pain or bleeding gets too much you must go to A+E or at least call them for advice if you are worried.

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wiggle crap news too :( I hope it's a random dip - but am sending thoughts and love your way too. xx

lady how long is it since your ERPC and have you had another scan at all?

Sorry can't name check more - must get a move on and get washed and dressed. Big waves to everyone else. xx

I'm so sorry to hear your news A&R I really hope it's good news on Monday but I know how hard it is to stay positive. You too wiggle Im pleased you're being properly monitored. Good luck for Monday.

My boss knows everything about what's been going on. This is just how she reacts when she feels under pressure - she takes it out on other people

Have got DS a proper big boy bed and it's being delivered today so I get to take him out for coffee (me) and cake (me and ds) while dh builds it as a suprise . Ah the simple things in life.

Hope you're feeling better soon freezing

Waves to jolls mummya blackkat battery lady owl and chloe

xxxx

Oh god ((( wiggle ))) and ((( aandr ))) big hugs to both of you I will be hoping and praying that you are wrong and your fears prove to be unfounded but I know how hard it can be to keep hoping.

ladybee I hope you are coping, it's so horrible waiting for that test to go -ve

I'm keeping it brief because I'm horrendously hungover this morning - went out with my sister last night. To be fair we needed a blow-out; realised yesterday we've lost 6 babies between us; 5 in the last year (her story is, sadly, worse than mine). It was the realisation that led to mucho vino

Sometimes the hangover is totally worth it izzy you definately deserved a good night out.

Thinking of you both, aandr and wiggle. Sorry that you seem to be having to go through this again.

wiggle sorry you have an anxious wait over the weekend (((hugs)))

AR I've left you messages on other thread hon but you were asking here about natural mc; My first was a natural mc. Your body will hopefully do all it has to do hon, you'll pass a lot of blood and a few clots but the scan on Monday will confirm that your body is doing what it should, if they are concerned that the mc is not completing properly they'll offer you either medical or surgical intervention. big hugs, take care and another tip, you lose a lot of blood with a natural mc so get yourself a really really good iron supplement and I also found a tonic helped my body too xxx

And chocolate. Plenty of tasty iron-filled chocolate.

Izzy your poor sis - the vino sounds like it was utterly neccessary. Nothing like a proper night out to clear your head (or in your case, fill it with cotton wool and angry bees the next morning, I suspect)

just read your really sad news A&R on the other thread but didn't want to post there. I'm so sorry this is happening to you, it's just so cruel. Thinking of you and your OH. X

wiggle I hope your worries are proven wrong.

Thanks for all your thoughts ladies, it means a lot.

Just had a call from my Mum as she knew it was my dd this week and was wondering how I was feeling. Ended up telling her everything, it was hard not to.

Have dull tummy ache but no bleeding and tests obv still positive (now cursing them all for being so sensitive as even if levels have dropped further the tests I have will still pick them up!)

Also keep bursting into tears which reminds me of last time, it feels like I have no control over the tears.

If levels have gone down again on Mon will they be able to give me something to bring on mc or do I have to wait? I'm worried my body will do what it did last time and carry on because it thinks I am still pg.

I don't really know wiggle Presumably the dropping HCG is what causes your body to mc naturally, rather than in a MMC where your hcg is still high. I'm just guessing though. Glad you could tell your mum, it's good to have someone to chat to. Sending you strength for Monday x

Thanks YRMOTB

Your ring is beautiful by the way x

(((AR))) my natural MC was pretty pain free hon... just tons of blood and large clots. Hot water bottle and paracetamol helped the light cramps as the uterus did what it needed to do. Am gutted for you pal... x

(((wiggles))) shitty you are having this worry hon, good you are being closely monitored. Everything crossed for good news xx

Getawiggle Glad you have someone in RL who can give you support - I personally think the whole "mc before 12 weeks must be kept secret" thing makes it all much harder to bear, hope your mum was able to offer lots of support. I believe its a drop in progesterone that actually makes you bleed, rather than falling HCG. Its not very common to get your progesterone level tested though, and even if you did it would probably be very hard to predict what would happen next. I imagine it will take more than one low HCG result to be able to classify this pregnancy as "unviable" but if it is confirmed then you could ask for medical management (the drug cytotec does bring on the mc) if you didnt want to wait to mc naturally. Wiggle, can I ask, why were your blood tests done 24 hours apart and not 48? Is your next lot of blood being drawn on Monday or are you getting results from a blood draw thats already been done? Take care xxx

Big hugs to wiggle and AandR. Thinking of you both. I second the hot water bottle & paracetamol.

Mummy My mum was great and will be very supportive. She's offered to come down at the drop of a hat if I need her to which is great as the clinic is known for being pretty intense!

They took progesterone at same time but not sure what those numbers were. My temps have stayed v high though so I'm guessing that the progesterone is still churning away!

I was surprised that they wanted to test again so soon (it was just less than 24 hours). I thought that a test today would have given a better indication. If the numbers hadn't risen much I probably wouldn't be quite so worried but the fact is the numbers had dropped. I'm praying it was a freak lab error but expecting the worst tbh. More blood will be drawn on Mon and I should get results the same day x

I'm so sorry aandr that you're going through this again.
wiggle fx the tests go in the right direction next time.

Good luck wiggle I do hope its a freaky lab error - or vanishing twin syndrome (HCG drops a little then rises normally) I will keep everything crossed for you.

I'm really sorry to read more sad news on here, its not been a great few weeks for our MN chums. A&R so sorry to hear what you're going through. Both my MCs were missed so can't give any advice on a natural MC but hope you're not in too much physical pain. Take care of yourself x

Wiggle sorry that you are having a worrying time too. It must be even harder to have to go through this with your due date looming, I know how much pessure we all put on ourselves with dates and milestones. Be thinking of you tomorrow x

Hope everyone else is well x