The resurrection of the 6th form common room for those inbetweeners who are TTC/PG after mc and are too long in the tooth to fit anywhere else

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The resurrection of the 6th form common room, a place to put your feet up, wallow in self pity (me) or rejoice (and tremble in fright) at new growing beans and baybees after mc. No lists. No stats. No babydust. No feeling bad if you can't keep up.

Go.

Hello ladies, I'm ok thanks. Finally ditched the surgical stockings this morning so seem to be on the mend physically.

I had a very emotional day at work on monday. My boss decided to tell me that if x, y and z (and lots more inbetween) weren't sorted in a few weeks time then she would begin capability procedings...not what a teacher wants to hear.

I don't think she'd have a leg to stand on after all I've been through since october but it was horrific to have struggled into work 48 hours after my surgery to be told that.

I'm just exhausted by it all to be honest and wish I'd had more guts and just taken a couple of months off after the mmc in Jan.

I really hope I'm on the road to recovery now.

Good luck to all those SWI or POAS, I hope to be joining you in oh, shall we say May?!

xxx

Mouse thats shit. Cant you raise a grievance for victimisation with her boss? Silly cow... (her not you!) Very on your behalf :(

Evening all - sorry haven't posted much over last few days, I am actually managing pretty well on the not-obsessing this month and have been really busy at work, and getting stupidly excited about new furry arrivals (the guinea pigs!) in a couple of weeks! Anyway I've checked the list and see I'm on cd19 now so into the home straight...again!! Effort's not been the best this month so I'm not expecting miracles but after a particularly rubbish start to the month I have almost followed SMEP

mouse and ladybee well done both on getting back to work. mouse your boss is an Arse. I don't know what else to say really, I can't believe you're having to deal with all that crap on top of everything else . I hope it works out ok. However if you need any extra time off, do take it and don't let yourself be bullied x

bee I hope you're coping and that the appointment was ok xx

bb I know very little about scar tissue etc, so I would listen to mummya It doesn't sound like they were overly worried though, which is a good thing.

battery your post made me chuckle!! I would love to have seen the look on his face!!

Keeping my fx for Chloe and jolls - always hoping for some more bfps to brighten the week!!

babe how's it going, engaged lady?!! The ring sounds absolutely gorgeous, lucky you! It's fabulous having a wedding to plan, and just the sort of mega-distraction to guarantee diffment - especially after you've ordered the dress!! Anyway I see from the list you're gearing up for swi prime time now - are you following SMEP this month?

Oh and whoever asked about my weight loss - I've lost 11.5 lb since January, only 4.5 to go!! Next weigh-in tomorrow!!

Eek - how many typos?! bb and mummya I don't know why that all went bold. And I'm definitely not leaving the I just wanted to pour it out and join you in a glass!

battery forgot to say, enjoy the DeutscheShagFest!

Been lurking for news from mouse and am so upset for you that your boss has been such a first grade arse, again, . But, as you say she wouldn't have a leg to stand on, which is a small glimmer of positive. Hope you're feeling on the mend soon, and are getting lots of TLC at home. Thinking of you XX

to izz guinea pigs sound fun , mummya so glad all is going well, YRMOTB congratulations Chloe and to everyone else

mouse that's horrendous. I'm astounded. I feel so sorry for you having to deal with work stress at a time like this. I've had amazing support at work and I still feel like I can barely cope with a slightly narky email let alone anything with real stress involved.

My appt today was ok, nurse was super super sympathetic, apologised for not knowing and also for asking 'so now how many weeks are you'. However she said she thought I should still be on the clexane as the hormones that can increase clotting risk in pg hang around for a while even after MC. She confirmed with the consultant and has prescribed more, but I'm not feeling that happy about starting it up again, I've been off it for 2 weeks now. Gah.
Oh and I've done something to my back. Feel like an old woman. In fact, I think I might go to bed now.

Mouse I am raging on your behalf. Can you not talk to your union about this? I know you have said she doesn't have a case but she shouldn't be allowed to put you through this - its too much on top of what you're trying to deal with. Why are you back at work so soon anyway? I got a line for 2 weeks after my surgeries and had to persuade my doc to sign me fit to go back to work after 10 days. I'm sure you would have no problem getting signed off.

Well done Iz, that's quite an achievement. Good on you! Battery that is quite a tale from the airport, that'll teach him! BB glad you got through the test with minimum discomfort x

Evening ladies, this thread has fallen off my active list again so I figured it's time for a catch up!

Mouse Sorry you're having such a hard time and that work is adding to all the sh*t that you are going through. (())

Hugs too for Bee You are very strong going back to work so soon but as you say, work is sometimes a good distraction. How did the appt go yesterday?

YRMOTB Congrats What a lovely story. A nice slinky wedding dress and organising a massive celebration is guaranteed to bring about diffage.

battery I've been trying to think of a German name for your swi mission this month but am failing to come up with anything remotely funny/ relevant. Your airport story made me chuckle, best just to be totally brazen in those circumstances. I did it in my local pharmacy last month whilst explaining to the hapless assistants what Pre-Seed was. "It's a sperm friendly lubricant"

Well done Izzy on the smep. Let's hope it brings about results

We have our initial consultation at the fertility clinic tomorrow afternoon so I've been focusing on that this month, trying to get bloods done with GP beforehand etc. It was only after a quick lurk this afternoon that BB reminded me where I was in my cycle. Obviously I've been merrily widdling on sticks since 8dpo for the last couple of days but only on the internet cheapies and more to satisfy the urge to poas rather than the hope of anything else.

I thought I saw the odd faint line on a couple of ocassions but sometimes the dye seems to be spread so randomly over the sticks that I don't get my hopes up. This morning I had the squiffiest of shadows though so after I read BB's post thsi afternoon I thought, oh what the heck, I'll go crazy and try a superdrug one. It only turned out to be a faint line?

I'm trying to hold off being too excited just yet as I also have a twinge/ pain on my left hand side so I'm worried that if it is a genuine bfp that it may not be in the right place!

It's great timing re appt tomorrow though as hopefully the clinic will do hcg etc and give me some answers on thyroid levels. With a bit of luck they may monitor pg too if I get that far!

Next week would've been my dd from mc last year so I guess I could've given birth any time around now had it all worked out. Maybe that little bean has been looking down on us this week Fingers crossed!

wiggle that's fantastic news, and what great timing!!!! . Fx for a sticky healthy bean and eight boring months!!!

Thanks Izzy fwiw you've done much better than we did if you managed to follow smep this month. We only managed ov day and the day before as the egg hatched early this cycle taking me by surprise so don't be disheartened.

GETAWIGGLE !!!! ooooh you tease to slip that BFP in two thirds of the way down such a long post!! I know you probably feel its too early for excitement, but I am really excited for you!! and will even go so far as to say CONGRATULATIONS!!! I have just recently discovered the first few days of mentalling are the worst, feeling like it wasnt a proper BFP, may disappear any minute, AF might come etc. Hold on tight its a bumpy ride!

woo hoo wiggle - healthy, happy and sticky thoughts truck coming your way!

have done today's list and moved you down x

morning everyone else :)

Morning everyone :)

wiggle that is fab news - brilliant timng let us know how the appointment goes - especially if they do HCG for you :)

izzy - I think your SMEP sounds like you have done enough and am very at people who have lovely organised plans. My plan seems to be :board plane, SWI like crazy, board plane. Let's hope it works for both of us! :)

mouse I agree with what the others say. Your boss sounds an arse. Apart from the fact she wouldn't have a leg to stand on - she should not be able to put you under that sort of pressure. I take it she has never had the misfortune to have suffered a MC? It really pisses me off when other women can be so uncaring and crap at times like this.

bee have you decided to go ahead with the clexane? How long have they said you have to continue?

jolls Have not looked a the list yet - any news from you at all?

moo hows your tum? Any better?

mentalingmummy hello lady. How are things form the mental side :)

So it is CD16 for me today. No sign of eggy. I am on day4 of highs on my CBFM, last month I ovulated on day 14, but before that it was 17, so I hope I get a peak tomorrow. Think maybe my hysteroscopy may have delayed me a couple of days. Which is fine as I get to have lots of SWI to build up for it!

Big wave to everyone I have missed xxx

Wiggle congratulations although I was getting confused between hsgs and hcgs and thinking you can't do an hsg if you're pg. Brain going. I hope it sticks.

Mouse I'd really recommend you talk to your union or post all details on the employment board and ask for flowerybeanbag and ribena. They are very good advisors (hr person and lawyer) and may give you useful tactics of how to head off boss in best way.

Mouse that is shocking just shocking! Your boss is a fuckwit of the highest order! If you're in a union take advice otherwise seek employment advice perhpas initially through ACAS.

wiggle congratulations

Mouse I am totally and on your behalf, re your boss. Even though she hasn't really got a leg to stand on, I don't imagine, she is making what should be your recovery time fraught. What a cow.

izz Hello! I am only cd11 so still another 10 days til ov, but will start opk in a day or 2.Silly long cycles. Will do smeg plan again.I've got something to plan now though which is lovely and may just take my mind off it a bit!

wiggle wooohooo! Congratulations! Yey for the BFP.

My profile on here now has a blurry picture of my ring on it. It's not the best, but you get the idea.

blackat thanks! u ok?

nix mamap and ma hows the other side? Anything to report?

battery go go with the DeutscheShagFest. It sounds a bit like a mullet(hair) festival to me when we call it that. Don't know why..

Having an impromptu day off as ds has been vomiting all day. bless him, he cant even move without throwing up somewhere. Hope you're all vomit free out there!

Hello ladies

mouse I agree with the others, get some advice asap about your boss. I know its probably the last thing you feel like doing, but even if you dont want to take action just yet, being informed about what your rights are, what she can/cant do, should make you feel more empowered. The lack of sympathy this woman is expressing is just staggering, I really hope someone puts her right soon.

YRMOTB your ring looks lovely! Hope you are enjoying showing it off

YRMOTB Battery I can report that nausea has reared its ugly head over here. Its my least favourite symptom - I had hyperemis with the mmc pregnancy but not with DS, so it had very unfavourable connotations for me.

wiggle how is day 2? Are you getting a stronger line (took about 4 days for me to get a "decent" line, but by then I had done a blood test!)

big wave to all posters and lurkers

Hi all just a quick wave as I have had a crappy week and just want pjs and wine asap!

congratulations wiggle fantastic news!

love the ring YRM

mouse you're boss amazes me

Will 'speak' to you all soon x

Congrats to you Wiggle that's fab news! Hope you're keeping the head in these early days.

I'm still a little ropey here with my dodgy bum bother. Seems like its easing off though, tummy is very sore. Called the doc today for advice to make sure the wee man will be ok, which she assures will be the case. Poor DD was vomitting yesterday so its doing the rounds YRMOTB - hope your DS gets better soon.

That's a very pretty ring YRMOTB - are you still floating?

wiggle gosh, that sounds very exciting, can I congratulate you?

I thought I was on the "things are calming down after the ERPC" stretch - had several days of bleeding, then several days of spotting, thought I was going to able to mark my first day of nothing and then whammo, heavy flow again after work this evening. I am taking it as a sign to take it a bit more easy, so have invited a friend around tomorrow, and will just do a half day at home. I did go and buy some tests (they're so expensive when you just get them at a Boots ) so will do one tomorrow at 10 days post-erpc. If it's showing -ve or very light +ve then I think I won't take the clexane. Think my overall risk of a clot is quite small, having not suffered one (or had any placenta problems with DS).

Will also make the phone calls tomorrow to check out recurrent MC testing on private insurance. I have a GP appt lined up for next week so will be good know one way or another what is possible for referral from that.

battery you made me grin with the monitor at the airport story. I'm dreading packing for our flight to NZ, I can't put all that stuff in the shipping container as it will take forever for it to arrive. It needs to go with me, but it's going to look so very odd.

Thank you so much for all the support - I really appreciate it. I feel like I'm going insane sometimes. I really need to start writing things down with dates etc.

I think the time has come to ring the union. Ugh. I never thought it would come to this...

Thanks for the recommendation about the employment boards I'll head over there now ttt (hope you're feeling well) x

Congratulations wiggle I hope you see that line getting darker in the next few days

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morning all:)

mouse it is a shame when you have to go down the union route, however, thats is what they are there for, and if this person is bullying you or making you feel that way then it needs to stop.

lady you do right to listen to your body. Try to have a relaxing day and weekend :)

babe that is some bling and is very pretty :)

hello to loola moo MummyA , izzy and wiggle - is that line darker today?

I got a nice peak on my monitor today - so I am pleased I am in the right place at the right time for once!

Happy Friday everyone!

Gorgeous ring yrmotb have you set a date yet? No change here, morn sickness is all day sickness in my case (and on some occasions all night), but I don't care... in fact it's quite reassuring! Looking forward to having you all on the other side mentalling with us sooooon

Have a good weekend all

Hi ladies
Have been lurking on my iPhone but not managing to do a proper catch up post. am on phone now so this might be a bit scrambled
mouse so sorry to hear about your ordeal at work. What a bitch
bee glad you are listening to your body & trying to rest some more. Take care of yourself
wiggle contests tis loverly having more bfps to celebrate, here's to an eventfree 8 months
izzy keep us updated on the g p's. I want persuade dh that they would be a good idea

I always thought I knew all the acronyms but what the heck is SMEP?

Been a fairly interesting week for me. I finished my antibiotics for chest infection on wed but by thurs pm was feeling more than rubbish. I was admitted to hosp last night for iv antibiotics. I think I will be here for a couple of days. Thank goodness for my lovely dh who bought me an iPhone a few weeks ago
Waves to everyone, sorry not to namecheck you all but i need another rest

Freezing how do you feel? Gosh that is a serious infection to have got hold of you, no wonder you were feeling rubbish. Poor you being in on the weekend...it IS a good thing you've got a lovely new toy to play with. I hope you'll be able to take it easy when they release you too?

battery hooray for being in the right spot/right time! Fingers crossed for you.

Damn, did my test this morning and it's still a clear +ve. Knocked the stuffing out of me a bit, although at least I've gone back to just spotting now so getting somewhere I guess (not sure where). Have mostly been staring out of windows today, and then getting up to walk around as my back is v sore. Might take a painkiller seeing i can. It's so odd knowing I've got HCG in my system but being back in the limbo stage. It feels so familiar, sadly, that feeling of waiting, wanting to start again but dreading starting to try again. Knowing I should give it a break but desperately just wanting to be pg again even with all the fear and risk of suffering another loss. It feels so much like a lottery at the moment, if I get pg or not, and if that pg remains or not. And how can I win if I'm not 'playing'? Oh well, weekend is here. Time to plan something fun I think.