Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 10)

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Had a miscarriage and ready to try again? This is the place for you, support in the form of virtual wine, chocolate and a great big shoulder to cry on (tears not essential). The new year beckons us, lots of BFP's for everyone

UCL= Usual cycle Length
CD= cycle day

BEE have you POAS'd yet!?

Ha! No - I bought a couple of First Responses today in my lunch break, but I don't believe in Non-FMU Pee-sticking, especially when I'm still only 13dpo. So I'll pee tomorrow.

Actually - I'm feeling really reluctant to test . I think because for the first time there is actually the possibility that it might have worked, it's as though the moment I get a +ve (if I do, AF could still make an appearance), up springs a set of hurdles to jump over. While I haven't had a +ve, I can still live in fantasy world that it'll all work out ok. As soon as I do, I have to face up to it Not working, as well as setting in train all the worry about contacting consultant, getting the injections, etc etc.
I can now completely understand why my friend lived in denial til she was 20 weeks after 2 MCs.

Still, I do want to know. I just hope that if I get a line, it's a proper line, and not a 'maybe'.

Going to find out what else has been happening today then ladies...back soon.

Lots of old faces names!

backonceagain Hellloooo! I was wondering how you have been getting on. Welcome back again!

knitter How have you been? Lovely to hear from you.

tigger wow 2 months is a long wait for a positive, are you going to make the most of it and do knitters three a day plan?

Hairy welcome back. I myself am straddling the testing thread and this one, (and starting gazzilions of my own, thread whore that I am ) Welcome back over here

owl phew!! Great stuff

ladyB any news? Hope its not making you too mental, I would be all over the place.

emoo I have had/am having the hot and cold thing from DH. I thought it was all settled but last night we had a big humdinger of a row about exactly that. Not helped at all by me unleashing my pent up frustrations from the last 6 weeks of high dose hormone therapy hell on him Timing couldnt be worse because we are supposed to be about to TTC and we only have a 3 month window after which chances decrease dramatically.
What's your coping strategy?

Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrgggh ... I can't keep up! A new page started even as I was trying to read through the 3 pages I missed!

I just want to say a big thank you to everyone who's commented on my dilemma of whether to get checked or not. I got a clear BFN today so was verging on phoning the doc then decided not to.

I still don't know what to do. I feel completely back to normal again and think if I phone them they'll just get me in and the though of going through a process of confirming what I already know makes me think I might just get really sad.

I am completely useless but just want to say brilliant news orange on your scan! And wow Bee - it sounds very promising for you, and double wow at your self control. I completely understand what you're saying about not wanting to know in some ways, but it still wouldn't stop me. I have NO willpower.

Hello to everyone else and I will try not to get this far behind again (although I'm not optimistic as I go back to work on Thursday ).

forgot to say to chocks that I am sorry your DH isnt being that sympathetic about the due date. Mine wasnt either Hope these days before the due date are OK for you. I really felt rough before mine but then on the day felt I had crossed a line, and I have not really felt grief since.

Hi all!

Congrats owl on the scan.

We have no Internet at home so I'm having to lurk on here til I can get on and type a long post. Just wanted to pop in and say hi coz I think you have all forgotten about me :(

Oh and I need to change my name back but can't be arsed to work out how to do it on phone!!

Good luck POASers and SWIers!!

ocheye hello, sorry havent really introduced myself before. Mad in here isnt it? You can loose several hours of your day if you try and catch up with everyone all the time
(thats my way of apologising for the selective catch up everyone )

oh - and did you read this? I am sure someone will have recommended it before, its quite good for helping with the getting checked/when to ttc/whats normal questions.

www.pregnancyloss.info/waitingforaf.htm
www.pregnancyloss.info/trying_again.htm

Hi Pink love the positivity plan. Just what I need because my head is full of negative angry thoughts from last nights row... Its amazing how just being conscious of what you are thinking and whether its negative or positive can have such a calming effect. I really like the affirmations bit. I chose to be more positive

velvet I missed you! how have you been?

Sorry everyone for that small outburst! I must try harder .

Thanks MummyAbroad for those pages. I'll definitely have a closer look at those.

And owl - so sorry I missed your great scan result!

Woop woop for *owl! So exciting! when does that put your due date at then?

pink I love your positivity plan! It's ace!

I will post more tomorrow pm, I've been to Pilates for the first time in 3 weeks and i'm knackered!

ladybee I have my suspenders on!! I's gotta good feeling...

Ladybee I'm popping on the suspenders too!

Hi mummya I am feeling abnormally positive and cheerful - it's all pinks vibes oozing through the screen methinks :) I have accepted the mc and am starting to move on - I've almost stopped with the "I should be.." mentality and I'm getting on with planning this year without factoring in being pg. Have actually had loads of swoi this week, it just happens to be timed perfectly :)

Anyway, just wanted to say to those feeling down - this is a rollercoaster and a few weeks ago I didn't think I would crawl out from under the mc cloud but fx I'm starting to now.

Make sure you remind me of this when af arrives in 2 weeks time!

Wombat - I'm sure I've asked insensitive questions in the past too, back in the days when I was sweet'n'innocent and didn't know how difficult things could get. I don't blame/judge people for asking, but I hate the way it makes me feel iyswim.

Back - nice to meet you!

Owl - lovely news, hope it's not a vole! Congrats.

Fingers crossed for your sister, Izzy. I guess if she has no symptoms yet it's just a question of watch and wait, but it must be very difficult for her.

That sounds promising Hiding, whether or not AF turns up in the end..

Choccy - DH's can be so crap can't they... perhaps we should adopt the to signify clueless DHs? I've always wondered what it was for. In fact, I've always thought they look a bit , well, boobish! Perhaps =my DH is being a tit! Hadrian - that's a good idea to write things down for him. Might try that.

Orange - hope you are doing okay and finding something to distract you.

Tigger - sending positive thoughts. Pink - your plan is slightly new age for my tastes - I like the positive affirmations but am unconvinced by the face tapping. I will cement my affirmations with a swig of wine instead.

Nix - I think you may have misunderstood! DH is making no effort to SWI, or to S at all for that matter... As you can imagine, that's doing shed-loads for my self-esteem.

MummyA - sorry to hear that your DH is being similarly unhelpful. Unfortunately I don't have a coping strategy yet. I wish I did. It's especially difficult if there's a particular sense of urgency, I would imagine.

Ladybee - impressed by your self-control, and looking forward to some good news in the morning!

Ochaye - if you've had a negative pregnancy test and no symptoms, I'd stop worrying. I wasn't keen to go for the follow-up scan and the gynae doctor told me I could phone to cancel it if I'd had a negative wee test. The scan was fine (empty) and I got the negative a few days later, but I wish it had been the other way round, as it was hard going back to the same scan room so soon after the bad news.

{grin] loola you made me laugh, but oof for the DS's comments. Hard to deal with but you sound like you've got your sense of humour strapped on tightly.

Owl woop woop fantastic news! Well done on a wriggling bean!!

MummyAbroad so pleased to hear you'll be back in the saddle again soon (ahem). I feel remarkably calm actually. However I reserve the right to completely fall to pieces whichever result it is tomorrow.

loopybear and katherine welcome, you had a tough old year last year, I really hope this next one brings better things.

Pink, my temp rise is almost always 2 days after my first peak day. If it's not on the 2nd day then it's been on the 3rd.

wombat good on you for actively choosing to believe the good result. I think it does take a force of will to believe that good things can happen to us. (not quite there myself yet)

Nice to see you both again knitter, backonceagain and emoo and jigglebum great that you seem to be reaching the end of the MC and starting to feel up to ttc again.
Jigglebum I think it's best to be a little bit frank with comments like that? My standby response is 'we'd like to, we've been unlucky'. People can read into that what they will whether it's lack of conception or loss of conception but at least it reminds them that it's not a simple matter.
Oh and emoo I like that you're putting suspenders on without quite knowing why

Tigger hoorah on the OPK +ve!

Pink thanks so much for sharing details of your actions for positive thinking. I find it really easy to say 'oh I must think more positively' but don't get much further than that. At least now I have some terms and ideas to look up and explore further.

Velvetcu who could forget about you, m'dear? Why no internet at home - is that usual? You do sound a lot more chilled. Amazing what time can do, isn't it?

right ladies, I will do my best to be brave and POAS tomorrow. I so hope it's a good result.

Good luck ladybee!!!

Emoo your suspenders confusion had me doubled up with fits of giggles on my crowded commuter train. They all now think I'm certifiable

velvet hello! We haven't forgotten you! Good to have you back and feeling stronger xxx

hello everyone else! Am on phone again and late night memory is letting me down a bit. I'll catch up more tomorrow xxx

Hello everyone! No time to respond to everyone as already am half asleep after first day back at work. Will also catch up more tomorrow. But is very nice to see all the good news and positive attitudes today, especially pink and velvet - has cheered me up muchly after a rough few days.
lady good luck with the POAS, fingers are crossed for you :)

Good luck lady I'm tapping my face for you!

Must put phone down before quick catch up turns into mammoth 3am posting session...

Hi, just a quickie to say when I was on my way to pick up my drucks from the hospital they called and said they'd squeeze me in for a scan.
It's all so far so good.
Heartbeat and in a comfy place.
Rilly hope it stays there.
Getting scanned every 2 weeks due to my dramas and history.

I just want to say, never give up.
This is thread 10 of our little support corner.
I was one of the laydees that started no.1.
You lot can't half chat and its fab to see the support has continued.

This time last year I had my 6th and hopefully final MC, I'm not ready to graduate just yet but will be lurking as much as possible.
I just want to keep low for a while, at least until 12 weeks.

Just a quickie for mrs pretty that is the most fabulous news, so so so so so so so excited for you!!! I will attempt one of owly's contorted yoga poses to keep literally everything crossed for you (although I'm probably quite a lot less bendy than her....)

Also, ladybee, POAS yet?? I have checked in early especially to see whether there's any news????

Have a good day ladies!

Ps. I like the idea of drinking wine rather than bashing my face while thinking positive thoughts

lady!!!! where are you?????

Just popping in to say hurrah for tigger and pretty and to see where ladybee is...?

And choccy my dh was and is exactly the same...

Got to dash, first day back at work, but to all x

A bit too early for me pink I was still clinging to sleep then. but yes, I've peed and it's good news +ve on first response.

You're right about the little lines nix skinny.

Feel weirdly distanced from it all - guess because I know there's a good chance it won't turn out the way I hope but will do best to remember positive thoughts.

ladybee I know you're still feeling tentative but I've just got to do a big WOOOOO-HOOOO!!!! for you . That's fantastic news x

Woohoo for pretty. I am loving this. So glad that you had a scan without having time for all the horrid build up before too! First hurdle cleared, and it's onwards and upwards! We are all so grateful that you and others started this thread back then, and I for one have found it an amazing source of support. It's a rollercoaster out there, but we can do it! It will all be worth it.

ladybee that's amazing news! It's so scary isn't it, but you've done the first part ok, and you're 14 dpo, which is good too.

I am loving this thread recently. The optimism and good cheer of all of you, considering what we go through, is fantastic, and the BFP's are helping my positivity! Love you all!

Whoo hoo!!! What FAB news to log on to this morning!!!

Pretty I'm thrilled for you! So good they got you in for a scan and to see a heartbeat already that's fantastic! How far along are you now?

And ladybee YEY!!! Congratulations! I totally understand what you mean about feeling distanced from it at the moment. It.s self preservation I think. I'm keeping everything firmly crossed for you that this time is lucky for you!

I'm also sending huge hugs to anyone who's thrilled at the news but feeling a bit and that it.s not them (as I have felt so often over the last few months). it WILL happen for us all! [practices positive thinking for the day] xxx