Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 10)

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Had a miscarriage and ready to try again? This is the place for you, support in the form of virtual wine, chocolate and a great big shoulder to cry on (tears not essential). The new year beckons us, lots of BFP's for everyone

UCL= Usual cycle Length
CD= cycle day

bah to you all being a bad influence on me, I have poas and still negative! Still getting that pre af cramping feeling but she's still not here, so watch this space! But I still think I'm heading for her arrival!

Nix not long now 'till the 12 week scan!

Waves to loola chloe mummy izzy ochaye and everyone else around.

Might not get a chance to pop back tonight and tomorrow we are heading back to Kent at the crack of dawn to house hunt and won't be back 'till late so almost certain not to catch up until Sunday... will be looking out for a post from yrmotb

(((hugs))) Orange - one foot in front of the other. It's all you can do. Every day is a day closer to your scan and no more bleeding is a very good thing xxx

Wow this thread moves fast but it is such a nice supportive thread - I have been put off posting on MN in the past due to some of the more judgemental parts of it but this thread has really kept my spirits up over the last 3 weeks.

I feel my hormones are beginning to settle a bit, which DS will be pleased about as have shouted at him far too much over the last week or two. Not felt sad as much as angry very quickly - PMT like. I have been wondering about TTC again too as seemed to be struggling with having one let alone two but think it was just the hormones. Still have a bit of pain at times along my left hand side but have been given the all clear so not sure what it is.

My parents (who some may rememeber have been pretty useless post mc in terms of support) have decided to come up and help us out with all the DIY this weekend , so have a whole weekend of painting walls ahead - hurrah! Hope you guys have better plans.

Good luck to those soon to POAS. Thinking of those who are having earlier pregnancies worries. Hope everything works out well for you all. Sorry I am so rubbish at individual comments. hope you all have good weekends

Ooh mamap and restaurant AND a house!! Now that's REAL shopping Happy hunting (and good luck for AF's continued absence!)

x-posts orange sorry you're feeling low chick, keep thinking positive (easier said than done I know), big hugs xxx

@ loola's chaffing suspenders.

I dont think the 5 month thing is anything physical. IMO its the time when you realise your initial expectations of being over the sadness/getting pregnant again within a few months have not been met. Plus everyone else around you has moved on and expects you to do the same and you no longer feel "allowed" to be sad or deserving of sympathy because you "should be over it by now" With a due date still looming ahead you still have reminders of what happened so you cant fully move on, and you cant fully grieve because you no longer feel entitled to. Unless you come on this thread where you can moan as much as you like and get all the sympathy you need!! xxxx

x-posts again! How fast!!!!! thanks wombat it is a major shopping trip alreet but it's kinda scarey spending lots and lots of money on major, life changing, purchases!! eek! I hope af stays away too

Jiggle I too had lots of weird aches and pains for weeks after MC. I had a further scan done and urine test and all was fine. It settled down eventually and the doc seemed to think the most likely explanation was just everything shrinking back to size and place after having been pg. He said that women who give birth expect to feel after pains. Women who MC have been pregnant too and, depending on how far along they were, will experience the same thing to a greater or lesser extent. That seemed to make a lot of sense to me, so unless you have any other symptoms of infection (unusual discharge, fever), I wouldn't worry too much.

Happy painting!

Thanks wombat - makes sense - wish my stomach and thighs would shrink a bit more though!! Hope you get reassurance soon from the Drs, thinking of you.

Look it is far too hot over here to keep suspenders on for long - so all POAS ladies - get on with it and give us some cheering BFPs.

Have done only brief scan but Dachs 10 is super brilliant!! mummyA glad you survived the dye thing - any feedback yet ESP re lining. Hard to wait but at same tine you have been so patient for so long and in the overall scheme of things a month isn't much unless this counts as one of your 3 months?

MamaP whooooooop whoooooop - good luck house hunting and cycle extending - (BFPing - are you using the expensive kind? The other really are worthless at the early point!). Waves to all must beat jetlag and go back to bef

Or bed even .... no evac around here - very unreal what is happening in Brisbane My Uni is completely under water. Other than no fruit and veg and milk in the shops you would never know that 30 mins from here there is complete chaos

AR glad you are untouched..my friend mailed me today to sa where she lives is still totally cut off, dont have any water or anything! Have a lovely trip, dont get too brown x

wombat great you got the 3+ that shows things are moving in the right direction!

orange yay for the nausea and the sore boobs x

Hello all!

Thanks for all your best wishes lovely ladies. I've actually been ok thanks, had a cry before going to sleep last night and a meltdown in the toilets at work today but apart from feeling a bit fragile it wasn't anything like as bad ad I thought it would be. you remember me telling you about my colleague who shows me baby pictures? Well I think he remembered due date as he came over and specifically checked I was ok-thought that was really nice. Anyway after meltdown I pulled myself together and just got on with work and I feel surprisingly liberated, hopefully i can stop with the "I should have been...... now" and get on with stuff. It feels like it was forever ago I was pregnant, it's actually hard to believe I ever was iyswim?

Hi Terry so sorry for your loss. It took me a while to get a negative preg test but periods came bak after 28 days. However, after that they started going mad, all the way out to 37 days and once I started checking these things, found I was oving on day 23 which explains the long cycle. Fingers crossed they are back to a sensible length now.

wombie sorry things are so confusing at the moment :( hopefully bloods will be positive and the scan in a week will bring happy news.

Chloe sorry about naff dog walk!! Could the ovary twinge be groin muscles you pulled from walking through the mud? I agree, 5month mark sucks!!

mamap and YRMOTB big respect for your restrained pee sticking :) good luck for the weekend!!

YRMOTB I have also told loads of people about MC, now I feel stronger about it I feel like I can without a meltdown and feel like I should so people know who they can talk to if it does happen to them and also make it less taboo. I pay £48 a go so it sounds good but only thing that would worry me is if they want all the money up front? I think it's important you get on with the person doing it so would be a shame to have to have 6 if you don't like/trust them.

dachs sorry today was a bit disappointing :( to me 10 sounds like quite a few?? I'll be willing them on for you!!

BOA sorry about PMT!! Bless your DS, maybe they're reading a book at school about it or something and he assumes all mummies have babies in tummies? I am not at all an expert in these things but I think liver in the Chinese sense is more than just liver, but I think they're linked as acupuncturist said it's not a surprise as I've been super unhealthy, not had enough sleep, super stressed and no exercise..... Hehe you never know about discounts, worth asking!! I do the same with red meat, first couple of times I assumed it was a pg sign-nope!! Hahaha unlucky our door is a swing door mamap you are so funny!!

mummya fab news! I'd wait for scan before deciding either way and maybe keep SFF in the meantime?? Also is it possible blood is from cervix? In which case not a prob?

nix 8 a day???????? Defo no doffed constipation probs for you then!!

orange sorry you're not in a goo place, signs sounds all very positive though so try and focus on that if you can.

Am trying to stay zen but have train rage, have limped all the way home from London and am now stuck indefinitely due to a broken down train and 'lots of trains ahead stuck'-IT'S FRIDAY NIGHT AND I WANT TO GO HOME!!!! shame they choose not to spend any of my extortionate fares on actually maintaining the trains..... RAGE RAGE RAGE RAGE

hi all, wow i've missed loads so far.

Pink i'm glad today was better than you thought it would be.

dachs 10 sounds good to me, how much is normal/were you hoping??

wombat hon i'm sorry you're still so worried about it, i hope your bloods come back and settle your mind a bit.

orange i'm sorry you're not in a good place at the moment. It's a good sign that the bleeding has stopped though, and that you're getting nauseaus. only 1 week left till scan, though so soon here, and hopefully will calm your nerves a bit.

izz well done on the 2lbs i think i've stayed the same this week as have not been able to stick to it very well, too much wine and baileys this week, to lose weight. So may have gained, although i only lost so much last week as didn't really eat over the weekend.

terry sorry for your loss.

boa sorry about the pmt but yey for the temping.

well last night didn't get very far so on for tonight.

i found out that work's completely changing (which i knew) a week before my dd (new info) if i hadn't mc'd i would have been on mat leave and therefore wouldn't have had to worry about it till i came back and needed retraining anyway. a bit weird that i have to deal with it all now.

sorry if i missed anyone., hope you're all ok.

thanks for all the willing on guys! :)

10 might sound good but last time i had 9 and this time i had far more follicles. So no idea how many are mature but last time 6 out of the 9 were mature, I'll find out tomorrow how many of this batch were. And last time they injected swimmers into all of them, and all fertilised but only 2 survived the weekend. So I'm guessing same stats this time which isn't great.

But I'll let you know. They call me tomorrow to let me know how many fertilised so I'll [post when i know

Take care all, FX for all of you, sorry for lack of personal posts at this point but I'm a little self obsessed right now.

I'm out for this month, told you the witch was coming early!

Will catch up with everyone tomorrow

Hey cep it's weird having to think like that, isn't it. Hopefully it will be ok when the time comes.

dachs try and chill and have a nice evening - fingers crossed for a big pile of fertilised eggs tomorrow.

Sorry velvet, that sucks. I think I'll be joining you in a couple of days, I can feel AF is winding herself up for a visit over here too.....

Sorry velvet hope you're ok x

Quickie morning post!
Sorry she got you velvet
Waves to everyone else cause eyes are blurry, not used to being up so early! We're Kent bound so have a good day and by the the time I get back this eve you'll prob be on a new thread

Morning all

on my iPhone so hard to name check but thinking of you all, ESP dacha good luck for today x

my latest, saw the mw on thu, she saw me before the start of her session. Basically said can't scan as worked out at 4 weeks and probable it wouldn't pick anything up so I have to test again in two weeks and then have my booking in appt on the 10th feb. Feels so long away.

Oh and also said to forget I am pg (WTF?, how?) just be healthy and look after myself. So am trying am having some pg symptoms that I had with dd (which I didn't notice before) like lots of dizzyness and loss of appitate and not being able to eat loads and loads.

Hope everyone has a lovely weekend free of relatives, inparticular af!

Just has a call from the embryologist - last time there were 9 eggs but only 6 were mature, this time all 10 were mature and 9 of them have fertilised :) So a few more this time, and now I'm excited about the holiday the odds are better that it'll work!

Although it's still not great odds with that few. The embryologist sounded happy though, which is a good sign! :)

I hope they do OK over the weekend - I'll go back for embryo transfer either at 11 on Monday if they aren't good enough to leave longer or 12 on Wednesday if they are

So, who's POAS this weekend?

Bloody fabulous news dachs x

Oh well done dachs 10 all mature and 9 fertilised is great. Really hope you get a good crop surviving the weekend so they can put back some great quality ones and have a few left for freezing.

nickster it's amazing how time seems to pass at different rates. It seems like yesterday you had your bfp and now you're 10+ weeks, whereas it seems like a year ago that I had mine, and I nearly cried when I looked and saw I'm only 5+2 ... Still each day is a success.

Dachs that fantastic news