Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 10)

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Had a miscarriage and ready to try again? This is the place for you, support in the form of virtual wine, chocolate and a great big shoulder to cry on (tears not essential). The new year beckons us, lots of BFP's for everyone

UCL= Usual cycle Length
CD= cycle day

@ mamapower but i get all my answers from ask geeves, google and wiki!

BOA I would ask him to wait if he wasn't in any pain, is he happy to? Though I like Wombat's post-op holiday idea
AandR there's nothing like male pride us there?!
Wiggle what good news! It's good to hear a story like that
Welcome Francesca and I am sorry for your loss. I felt exactly the same, but waited for 1st to feel a bit more like myself, and got pissed a lot/ate rare beef, etc. Mine took 4+5 weeks, but I think you should whenever you feel ready
@ sperm snatching, I missed that!
Mamap I agree, Mummya is
a goldmine of info and advice without the scary stories google throws up. Actually, yer all ace I'd love to know which one in Chelt if it's ok to tell?!

Zen is back, new effort to maintain, sorry for the wobble

orange good to see the zen making a return

mummya you are the oracle, there's no getting away from it now!!

Please tell me what to do, really feel like ian setting myself up for a massive fall.

Daddysgirl I'm so sorry I missed your post :(

It's been a while so if it was me I would be tempted just so I know where I stand. But if it's -ve how upset would you be? If you did I'd recommend a decent quality test just so there's no doubt x

daddysgirl 27 November is a long time ago, tbh if I were you yes, I would test.

orange it was on the outskirts, called the Killkenny, needed major investment and refurb and the killer was that there is a successful gastro/bistro only 2 miles away and closer to cheltenham that was called the Langton, you know it?

x-posts Dgirl agree with Izzy and Orange Big hugs x

ps dgirl any particular reason why dh is convinced? symptoms?

Thanks ladies, tbh I will be upset if -Ve mostly I think cause dh has said he thinks I am. Before I've always had a feeling so tested.

Yep I know the Langton it's awesome, I was in there new years day I don't know Killkenny, so probably a good decision as the Langton is a tough act to beat and good location

Oh Daddysgirl no pressure then! My dh was no better if that's any small consolation. He doesn't realise that it feels so personal. Yep, test!

Hi I think test dgirl you need to know so just do it and be prepared for a neg, no fish slapping, it's been a long time for you now. I would definitely if it were me

Thanks so much for all your advice ladies, very welcome and so nice to get it off my chest!! Even with close RL friends I don't know how to start,"fancy a coffee? Oh so dh is getting his knob shaved.....!!"". Recovery is around 3 weeks but no he is not in agony or anything remotely like it, it just hurts when he is aroused. Shit dilemma huh?!!! But I am on the 2ww now so will decide/have the convo with him after I have poas

I almost want to apologise for xposts already as it took me ages to write that....

Thanks you have made me feel so much better about, thought you were all going to say no point far to early. Than again that means you've all given me hope as well argghhhhhh

mummya if you happened to be searching for another nickname I would definitely called yourself MummyAKAtheOracle you are the font of mc knowledge for sure

Wombat, that holiday idea(genius!) must have logged into my consciousness as I've spent a loooong time looking at manchester to Venice flights very recently

boa i think it might be easier for him to just it over with, at least then you know you're free to go.

dgirl good luck.

All this talk of trying before the first af, my dh took it to heart the whole wait before trying again, and as he won't wear a sun hat means we haven't even dtd since.

I'm also a bit worried about the weight i gained during the last month comfort eating. The dr originally told me that i'd actually fallen pregnant because i'd lost a bit of weight. I hadn't lost it all from ds, and lost a stone then whambam. so now i gained most of it back i'm worried it's going to take me ages again.

at knob shaving and choking the chicken BOA!! Tis no laughing matter though, my little DS age 3 seems to have the problem but all the time for him :( said he will have to have his removed by age 5 :( bless his little socks. Has already had 2 operations, cant stand the thought of another.

BOA you need to time it so he has the op bang on the day after you OV, then its 3 weeks til you ov again... and off you go!

fankie sorry for your loss xx hope you are doing ok xx take time to grieve, and let your body recover, but agree it does help to have ttc to focus on :)

love test... but assume it will be neg so then its a lovely surprise when its +ve

Hello my lovely ladies!

Busy on here tonight! Thanks for the reassurance re the chart etc. I am keeping an eye on tomorrows temps, and only then will i relax and stop charting for this month. Or maybe the day sfter

francesca there's probably not much extra I can tell you. Just try when you want to try, I guess. The feeling of urgency does start to dissipate somewhat as time goes on. Or rather it changes for other desperate feelings! Sorry for your loss.

BOA I don't know really. I have always got pregnant in the month end of February (2x) so am feeling quite attatched to it. Coincidental or factual? I don't know.

Ooh, mamap I'm 4 DPO too now, we can be test buddies! I know, it's quite distressing how much my temps were different to last month in a seesaw fashion.

Daddysgirl It's been a while so I think I'd prob test too. Do you know if/when you ovulated post mc? DH was convinced I was pregnant with dd. He still can't explain why. He just thought I was 'acting stranger than usual!

Francesca Welcome and so sorry you had to experience what you did and when you did. I felt exactly the same re trying again and my personal experience was that I missed the first ov post mc (was blissfully ignorant to the workings of my own body/ best time to do opk etc) so my first af arrived (6 weeks to the day after mc) For the first couple of cycles my periods were v light which made me worry that my uterine lining might not have been thick enough to sustain a preg anyway. They have now got heavier but everyone is different and I can only echo what the others say - start when you feel physically and emotionally ready. I can recommend temping to give you an idea of what's going on in your cycle etc though.

MamaP Your new project sounds v exciting. I think I may be 4dpo now too (FF says 3dpo, am choosing to ignore it) so will add myself on list and we can be cycle buddies! (No symptom spotting for me this month though after I had spotting 7dpo, nausea, cramps, sore boobs, the works etc two months ago and it ended in a bfn!) Oh, who am I kidding?

yrmotb x posts - I'm 4dpo so will hold your poas hand too (although not literally, might get a bit wet)

Yey!

Getta he says I look mummsy WTF?!?!

daddy's do you have pg test in the house?

So whos sperm snatching tonight then ? Or is everyone on the 2ww and exhausted by now? I for one am shattered after being awake. Half the night after dreaming Ds got washed away by a freak tsunami wave :( felt so real I had to get up and make sure he was still in bed which of course he was :)

It's also official..... Starting back at work full time in feb! :( also a different role which will be more interesting and less dull which is always good :) have been in tears tonight.... Gutted really as will hardly see Ds :( I will just have to make sure weekends are jam packed with fun stuff and will have to live in a mucky house!!