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Feck off with your babydust - The hut of gl/doom, home of inadequate reproduction

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wewishyouamerrylissiemas · 22/12/2010 14:05

ok, so the hut disappeared so I decided to open a new one. tis a 20's style gin joint!

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queenrollo · 06/05/2011 11:10

well - DH has just phoned and got a bit tearful at the good news that he is 'normal'......so i'm Smile but also Sad because that means it's probably me......so now I have to arrange appt with GP to get blood tests and whatever else is necessary.

um......if i didn't have to drive i would pour myself a big whisky now.

NinjaChipmunk · 06/05/2011 11:14

There may be nothing wrong with either of you! Me and DP have been trying over a year and are both normal, ds was concieved first moonth of trying, this time nothing... who knows why it is like it is? If you saw that 'inside the human body' program last night I'm amazed anyone gets pregnant at all!

glad to hear he is ok, and don't be so down on yourself. am off out now so will try to check in over the weekend, chin up love and have a virtual gin on me x

queenrollo · 06/05/2011 11:18

ah you're right of course ninja it could just be 'one of those things'.......

I suppose that getting myself checked out will answer those questions for me, and there will either be a problem that we can address, or a problem we can't address or no problem at all, and we'll have to see where we go from there.

I've been reasonably relaxed about it all, just keeping an eye on my cycle, but i think i'll get the BBT back out and make a proper attempt at charting for a couple of cycles. can't hurt can it?

Bexamundo · 06/05/2011 22:13

Sorry to hear you're stressing queen, but ninja may well be right. It could be that you're halfway to finding out things are normal and you just need more time!
I'm charting and luring Dh into bed at regular intervals this cycle, giving it all we've got!

queenrollo · 07/05/2011 08:40

the thing is I know exactly what the GP will say to me when I go. He'll tell me to put some weight on, because my BMI is very low. I bought some scales last week and i only weigh 6 and half stone Confused. I have always been very small, and eternally struggled to put weight on. I was half a stone heavier when i fell for DS, and after he was born eventually settled at 8 stone. I was happy at 8 and felt healthier than I had for years, but i lost that extra weight through the stress diet and now even though i'm the happiest i've been for a very long time I just can't seem to get my weight up again.
I do feel that this is possibly having an impact on my fertility - so i've been addressing my diet again this week and seeing how i can cram more calories into my daily intake, but this does make eating a bit of a chore.....

Bexamundo · 07/05/2011 08:52

Would you like some of mine? I really need to get my bmi under 30 (probably around 31 atm). Just about to weigh self after holiday.Hmm
There's some simple (dietetic) ways to gain weight like switching to full cream milk, adding cream to soups. You could try 'build up' soups too from Amy pharmacy, taste like soup but with extra calories and vitamins.

Bexamundo · 07/05/2011 08:52

*any not Amy!

ellangirl · 09/05/2011 23:13

Hey all! Long time no speak. Sorry there's no good news for any of you- boo hiss! DH and I will be starting ICSI in the summer all being well, so there. Consultant confirmed DS is a medical miracle, she has no idea how it was possible. I have to have a raft of tests, but hey, who needs dignity- bring on those swabs!

queenrollo · 10/05/2011 20:41

hope it goes well for you ellangirl

well i feel somewhat cheered by a chat with my herbalist/friend yesterday. it's now been 17 months since I came off the pill, so over a year since we started TTC but as my herbalist/friend pointed out i've only been having a regular cycle for six months of that. I was so erratic before that and really not sure I ovulated at any point. She says that I should consider the proper TTC to have begun six months ago.

I have an appt with my GP on thurs am to see about next steps for me, and AF is due on Fri/sat. This is the first month that I haven't gone crazy torturing myself with the thoughts of am I/aren't I? Kind of resigned to AF putting in an appearance.......

NinjaChipmunk · 11/05/2011 09:20

thats good news ellangirl, and whilst somewhat intrusive is most certainly a step forwards for you.
glad you are feeling positive too queenrollo

Well af got me this morning but I am most confused as I'm not due till 16th/ 17th! And it deffo seems to be af and not implantation bleed as is heavy. Not getting pg but having a regular cycle I can just about cope with but suddenly out of nowhere having a cycle change had done my head in! Anyone got any thoughts as to why this may have happened? I have had 27/ 28 day cycles ever since I can remember. Thats put my positive mood for the month out completely. Ah well, at least I can get pissed at the wedding this weekend.

Bexamundo · 11/05/2011 22:31

Ninja are you charting or using opk? Is it possible it's a random anovulatory cycle? (My Gp said most women have a couple if year). At least you can get pissed and enjoy the weekend!
I'm glad that both queenrollo and ellangirl are trying to stay positive, at least things are moving forward.
I'm at the start of the tww, feeling quite cynical tonight. Not sure if the timing hit ovulation or even if I did ovulate! FF said cd 10 but it did that last cycle, strung me along, got 17 temps above the coverline then it said "ooh not sure you ovulated this month!". So I'm using it but not trusting it! If there's no clear sign of ovulation this cycle I'm wagging back to the GP. Dh also has his appt (finally) at start if June so hopefully things will move forward with us too.

queenrollo · 12/05/2011 08:34

i'm off to my GP at 9.10 to get the ball rolling on my blood tests. Of course i've had 33 day cycles for 5 months and then last month it was 30 Hmm so until AF arrives (any time from Saturday) i won't know what my cycle days are, so hop ei can get a ast minute appt to have the bloods done.

NinjaChipmunk · 12/05/2011 10:10

good luck queenrollo, hope it goes ok for you, let us know how you get on.

bex I don't chart as I really can't be arsed and i do have opk sticks but haven't used them in months, need to start using them again i think. Have decided to have a month of chucking everything at it, just for my own amusement (started a thread for tips yesterday) and dp has agreed to give up alcohol and caffeine after this weekend! I was gobsmacked! I think this month I shall try swi from day 6 to day 18, every other day and every day if I reults on the wee sticks. I think some months I don't do it enough!

queenrollo · 12/05/2011 10:22

Well my GP has referred me to the fertility clinic. He doesn't want to attempt the blood tests himself as he said their standard procedure for which days to do them could lead to confusion with my cycle. He sat and looked at my diary and came to this conclusion. He's actually a pretty good GP, has a reputation for wanting his patients to get the relevant specialist advice sooner, rather than 'waste' months on GP investigations. (he did say 'i'm not an expert in this, you deserve to be dealt with by people who know what they are doing')

I have come home and cried. This feels like such a huge step to be taking. I feel like i've entered the realm of being a statistic Sad I am so angry with my body for not just damn well doing what it is designed to do.

NinjaChipmunk · 12/05/2011 11:02

sounds like you are at the same place as me. From previous reading you have a dc with an ex? I have ds with dp, we are now also a statistic waiting for our first appt which is in july. tis shit but at least you are now on a list and will hopefully get some answers. Or a bfp in the meantime!

queenrollo · 12/05/2011 11:17

yes Ninja i have a 5 year old ds with my ex. I was just about to start investigation for extremely irregular cycles when I got my BFP. I was taking agnus castus at the time and was never sure if that was responsible for DS or not. Wondering now whether it did do something? my herbalist has offered to consult me again and prescribe something to boost ovulation but has encouraged me to have the medical tests first.

NinjaChipmunk · 13/05/2011 09:02

Are the irregular cycles linked to your weight? Would it help mentally if between now and your referral appt you researched ways of increasing it in a healthy way? It might take your mind off ttc if you are concentrating on something else?

NinjaChipmunk · 13/05/2011 09:03

Just a thought but have you had your thyroid tested? I could be wrong but that can really affect weight gain/ loss can't it?

queenrollo · 13/05/2011 09:39

i have always been tiny, and my weight doesn't generally fluctuate. Only went up after DS was born. Family on both sides the same so think it's probably just genetics.

I do wonder if my weight has some bearing though because after DS when i went up to 8st my periods were regular.
I'm currently watching my diet closely and trying to up my calorie intake, as I have always had a very small appetite and so getting enough calories per day is actually hard work.

Had my thyroid tested years ago to see if it was behind me not gaining weight and all was fine but maybe i should ask again. I've just read the symptoms for both types of thyroid problem and I seem to have quite a few of them Confused brain fog, feeling cold, dry skin, lifeless hair.......my GP over the years has just told me I am run down. They seem to say weight gain is a problem more than weight loss. I'm not losing weight though, just never putting it on! Different GP practice now though - maybe they'll be more interested?

NinjaChipmunk · 13/05/2011 09:47

Well if its a new gp then I guess is certainly worth a try. But then again, if you manage to up the calories and that affects your weight then maybe that will help with the dry skin and hair etc. Good luck with the weight gain, I really hope it helps. Hope you are feeling a bit more positive today.

queenrollo · 13/05/2011 10:05

I have a lot on at the moment, but one major stress point was resolved yesterday so that's a weight off my mind! I'm in that limbo right now of waiting for AF. Last cycle was 30 days which takes me to today, but no AF yet (usually a first thing in the morning girl), previous cycles 33 so it's a waiting game for the next few days and resisting the urge to test.

hairylights · 13/05/2011 11:09

I need to have a bit of a wallow/rant.

I;m pregnant at 43 for the fourth time in a year. 4 + 3.

I don't get to do the being excited bit

I have refused a six week scan but will go for a 7 or 8 week one. I can't face the EPU ever again - I am truly traumatised by it, and I really cannot ever set foot in that waiting room or scan room ever, ever again. so it will be a private one.

I had very strong symptoms until Wednesday - but nothing now. Glands don't feel swollen, no sickness, and most importantly breasts no longer tender/sore.

It's fucked up again hasn't it. :(

And what's more on Tuesday we had our test results which show no causes (ie: I don't have clotting disorders, and neither of us carries genetic problems).

Which most people think is good news, but it's the worst possible news because it means my eggs are basically too old and fucked.

So she said an option might be donor eggs, but there is probably no way we'll ever get to do that. I just can't imagne putting myself through it, and there is a massive egg shortage.

Fuck it all, I feel like fucking dying.

I know it'll get better and whatever is going to happen with this pregnancy will happen, and I will feel stronger again, but fuck me, this is tough.y.

Sorry for self-indulgent rant, but I thought this was the place to do it, probably.

queenrollo · 13/05/2011 11:16

absolutely Hairy - you rant away. This place is a little refuge where you can do just that.

I will keep my fingers crossed for you x

ellangirl · 13/05/2011 11:19

Oh Hairy, I'm so sorry you can't be happy. I know you don't want to hear that it could still be ok, so I won't say it! I will just say just get through each hour and day however you can, and please never wish you weren't here any more. There is always hope- you have to believe that. I was wondering whether or not to do egg sharing for our ICSI cycle, and I do believe you have just made my mind up. If I can help people like you have the baby they always wanted, then it had to be the right thing to do doesn't it!

hairylights · 13/05/2011 12:12

Ellangirl I think egg sharing is one of the most amazing things a person can do. I also think it's a huge, huge thing to ask someone to do. And I think you are fab for wanting to help others. Heres wishing you all the best.