Feck off with your babydust - The hut of gl/doom, home of inadequate reproduction

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ok, so the hut disappeared so I decided to open a new one. tis a 20's style gin joint!

Thanks, nobody understands and I hate feeling jealous of others. I want to be happy for them but Ive spent all day in tears trying desperately to hide it.

DP will be home soon and he will be rolling his eyes at me, another knife through the heart.

Welcome changing- sorry things so crap for you.

That dentist thread is - quite why anyone would think it's a light hearted topic I don't know.

Sorry pooch lissie hairy and all others having bad day. Hairy - I have not forgotten the gossip who spread to all and sundry about my loss at 21 weeks. The last thing you want as you say is the fake "are you ok" when what they want is details to spread.

And while I am on the envy thing why is it the stupidest annoying people who are pregnant? Holly willoughby myleene klass emma bunton.. It will be Jordan next ...

changing sorry you are here and feeling so crap. sleazy despite my posts which may have given the impression I'm having a bad day I'm ok - get unbelievably depressed when af starts and few days after then snap out of it til next cycle starts.
Yes hate hearing of friends who are pg - think one is but avoiding telling me - bless her - Changing - why should you be happy for them - we're not saints - you want to be pg then you'll be happy - there's nowt wrong with that. (as you can see I ain't no fuckin Mother Theresa).

Oh yes one thing that has annoyed me today is my next door neighbour who is about to drop and has the window open all the time while she has a fag - where's the justice???

Pooch, DP says Im not fit to have a child at the moment because Im so down! Yeah, cos I havent managed to get pregnant! Fuck off!

Shite isnt it.

Actually changing, my DH said something similar. It really bloody sucks, because they just can't understand what it feels like for you. You need them on your side, but believe me when I say that no amount of talking about it will make him understand. It just makes my DH cross when I'm feeling sorry for myself.
Personally, I've decided to man up and get on with it. Determined to stay positive, because I want to keep my relationship on track. Ain't gonna be no baby without him after all...

Pooch- I agree that once af kicks in I get over it. Also it's the selfish cows like your neighbour who annoy me - not people I like or who I know have struggled. And couldn't agree more it's my baby I want - not some random.

Myleen actually had a hard time ttc #2 I read an interview with her, they were at the point of considering ivf. So i'm not so resentful if her. I'm well mardy tonight. I'm fertile but Dh has some kind of infection 'down there' which is making him sore so I have a horrid feeling this month is not gonna happen. Grr! Hugs to those feeling crappy.

Yes but I hate her (unreasonably) as associate her eldest with son I lost. I softened sliightly re no 2 but she is still on my (hugely lengthy) shit list . that's rubbish re dh bexamundo.

Mine out so may go to bed soon

well ive ruined it for myself tonight by crying and DP has lost his temper with me, back to the drawing board then!

changing ellan - had loads of issues with DH over reproducing, it lasted several years until one night in November I told him I'd leave him & find someone who did want children and that our DD would be calling someone else 'Daddy'. Sounds harsh but he'd practically had an affair when I was pg with DD & had got angry with me after 12 week MMC in Nov. Bizarrely ever since then our relationship has never been better. As long as I've got lovely girlfriends & team gloom to talk too I just have to accept this is one huge subject he can never understand...

Sleazy - my shit list: Klass, Willoughby, Posh Spice, Jessica Alba - in fact anyone on tv who is PG PLUS anyone who gets PG without trying PLUS anyone who gets PG & stays PG without any problems.

Posh could at least look bloody happy about being pregnant, mind you holly willoughby is positively smug all the time...

holly willoughby strikes me as someone who uses words like babydust and other such irritating shite on a regular basis.

Hello. And welcome Changing.

I'm having a better day today.

I've spent the last year getting my credit card bill down. But fuck it, I'm going to book a holiday in April.

(my partner has so far suggested Egypt and Bahrain cos they'll be cheap at the moment )

Knickers to the lot of it, I am going on a jolly!

Healthy diet and fitness regime starts Monday - I need to lose 2 stone.

ooh exciting, where do you want to go?

Yes agree ninja re Holly- she would also say "it will
Happen for you one day babes" . Pooch that sounds tough but glad things bit better.

Hairy - holiday sounds a good idea. Apart from booze what does it need to involve?

Bollocks to it all! Had long chat with Dh last night. He seems pretty depressed (off to the docs with him.tomorrow). Basically he is struggling.with lots of stuff including work and family stuff from his past. Us ttc and the lack of success has been the last straw and its all got too much. His libido is right down, I'm not sure but I think you have to have sex more than once a month to increase chance of conception yes? So I have had to put his needs above my desire for a baby. The plan is a vague 'few months' of not trying but I refused to go on the pill so I don't screw with my hormones and so I can chart for those months to understand my cycle. I am, essentially, gutted. Words of comfort please?

Ps hairy you def deserve a holiday! We're off to Fuerteventura in 2 weeks can't wait. since I'm not ttc and we're all inclusive I'm planning to get wasted!

Bexa I would suggest 'being devious' - keep track of your cycle, know exactly when you're going to OV - then don't have sex for a good week before that day - 'treat' him - if you know what I mean - in other ways a couple of days before DDay - then on day before or day of OV have SWI - it may mean you only have one go at it a month but at least there's still a chance of BFP but hopefully without him getting stressed about it - plus obviously not talking about the whole subject at all so he thinks you're not trying. Yes you're right having SWI more than once is good but TBH I've conceived by only having sex once on 3 occasions now... Good luck - sorry you're having a shit time.

hairy where r u going - I'm going to be living vicariously through you as we're skint.

No idea wheee to go. It needs to involve sun and a beach.

Aaahh the list is endless. I'm there already, cocktail in hand, sun setting, slightly burnt feeling on entire body from overdoing it that day, waves lapping....

Bexamundo- I would agree that quality not quantity can work. Also is Age a factor - a couple of months may not be too bad if helps your dh feel better.

Hairy- when do you want to go as that makes a difference (even slightly out of season in sunshine resort can be dull)?

Day off today so will sort out the last round of blood tests .

Morning. Just been for day 21 bloods. Was told they'd only requested progesterone test but i had thought the doc originally wanted to test for more things? Anyone got any experience?
Bex don't give up hope. A holiday and a bit of time off might do your dp some good. Plus getting pissed and relaxing may lead to shagging with or without intent!