Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 9)

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Had an mc and need some wine, chocolate and somewhere to moan and cry? This is the place to be! We chat a LOT so it can be hard to keep up, but everyone on here is great and will hold your hand until you get your BFP.

Hello you lot, wow so much happening over these festive few days!

Nix are you going for your scan today? I hope you come out with a big smile on your face, I am sure you will

Ladybeen I'm 35 and my OBGYN here in HK has advised me to give it 6 months then 'seek some help'. He says 80% of couples will conceive in this time. I don't know if he factors in age to this. We pay for healthcare here so doctors are a bit more gung ho about getting involved here than would be on NHS I think. For me it will be end of Feb and then go in to see OBGYN. Its scary to think of going down assisted conception route for various reasons not least cost but in my view you have nothing to lose by going for tests anyway.

Pink bummer that AF arrived, with every day that passes you are getting closer to that bean though!

Gotta go all DD just woken up. Hello to everyone else.

oh forgot to say snowy fab news on BFP and phew about the drugs

sorry - trying to write faster than brain works, which is not very fast actually, I mean Izzy bummer that AF arrived, with every day that passes you are getting closer to that bean though!

Sorry for confusing everyone, put it down to too much festive sherry....

Not much computer time this week as DH is on holiday which is really great and hate to tell you but we have lovely sunshine and blue skies with a refreshing chill in the air here in HK so its the place to be I reckon!

Morning all. Home time for us today, I am really looking forward to my own bed :) and Sky telly

Izzy damn the red witch, I hope that's the last visit and she stays away next month
Lady I hope you're feeling better soon, do you have time off that you can rest? I feel like I've been dodging colds left right and centre at the mo
Pink I can't say anything, it's hard not to look. I had a tentative browse yesterday for advice, and saw there was a May bus and remembered I should have been on the April bus :(

would be going to the epu....if only i could get through

Urm heres hoping a fetish hasnt formed inside me.... preferably a fetus that has....no idea what a stipple sac is !! and sadly i hadnt been drinking!!! ah yes i remember i was saying last time the fetus hadnt formed and my body had held onto a stoopid sac! Doh

Pink....stop pecking at that ulcer!
Dont go orange..... I have stayed... but then i never did get the hang of understanding when had outstayed my welcome

Izzy well done for getting trolleyed! Naughty DS and no you arent too old! Sorry the red witch got you lovely i thought it was your month :( xx

Thanks for the vote of confidence HK, i hope so too... if i can ever get hold of them!!

Threw up this morning, does it count when you choke on your toothpaste?!

Ok finally got through, the midwives most unhelpful. EPU closed today, was open yesterday (despite being told it was shut!) so now cant get an apt til thursday.... which i have WHOOPEE!

Arsecrackers that we missed yesterday though!

The MW did say that its very likely to be old implantation blood but will see....!

That means you have got me wittering for another couple of days yet!!

Nix and Orange (and pretty!) my take on this is that you are welcome to stay for as long as you feel that our support is helpful, especially as it's so worrying in the early days or you're feeling very superstitious about 'jinxing' by moving on to the pregnancy board. But don't forget that all the ladies on the graduates thread have been through exactly what you're going through, the fear and worry and it can be very reassuring to see lots of ladies who have miscarried all at different stages of successful pregnancies. I think possibly the only rule is not too much complaining about pregnancy symptoms because as you know, we'd all give our eye teeth to have those rather than pesky ol' 2ww ones

I'm feeling quite a lot better today still tired but not completely knocked out like I was yesterday. Should go and pay attention to my family..although they all seem quite happily occupied. Hurrah, online sales then

nix that's really annoying about the epu, but great news about the brown goo stopping, and you will see much more on Thursday. Try not to panic, I'll be thinking of you x

hope you're feeling better bee

I second ladybee about not wanting to hurry you off the thread. It must be terrifying and personally I think it's great if we can carry on providing support in those scary early days. Also from a selfish point of view I've got to know some of you quite well over the last six ( six - !!) months and would miss you if you vanished now!!!

. Actually feeling quite stoical about it this time. I've stopped expecting that bfp every month and started to see it more as a long-term plan. TTC is becoming a way of life. How sad is that

Hey izz did we join this thread at the same time? I think I've been around for about 6 months too - scary eh, time really does fly....! I was starting to move to a more sustainable long-term TTC position too until stupid CP last month, hopefully can get myself back on an even keel again quickly, think my level of chilledness definitely affects how long my cycles are.

Hope you're all having a nice chilled out Christmas, I'm thinking I should go and switch on my work blackberry though....

I think thats one reason i have stuck around, the people i have got to know, more than the support i get! (but that just goes without saying!) i hope i still manage to give back too!! I would die if anyone thought i was complaining of symptoms.... i wish i had more to complain about i dont fit with the grads thread atm, all the ladies are giving birth (which is wonderful!) and whilst am sure they are happy to help i still feel a little intimidated to ask for advice/guidance! I did have a little chuckle though to see there was a little bickering about the list, funny to see it doesnt just happen on here!!

Tis a while since we joined, i have been on here since August. It wont be for much longer ladies, that bfp is just around the corner i can smell it! pink hope you have stopped pecking that ulcer, mean this in the nicest possible way, please stop torturing yourself by visiting due in Jan 2011

Very pleased to hear prettys news...hope those feet are up and your drukcs are kicking in xxxx

Pink, I've done just the same on the due in February thread. Why I don't know. It does hurt to see what I'm missing out on. I try to stop myself but have done it about once a month. Is very crap.

I think we did join about the same time...I had my "bad news" 16 wk appt on 9 July and ERPC on the 13th, came here a few weeks later. So I think we've been muddling through together for quite a while and I have to admit I do find it comforting that I'm not the only one approaching veteran status still hanging around!

Disclaimer (because that may have sounded awful and it wasn't meant to!): obviously I would love you (and everyone else) to move on to grad status - and I'm so so sorry about the cp last cycle because I would have loved that to have worked out for you. I just meant I appreciate you and the others being here while you are iykwim.

I also know exactly what you mean re calmness affecting cycles - I'm hoping a more philosophical attitude will help. After all, ds and dd took 8-9 months to conceive and I'm up to 6 now so maybe my time (and yours!) will come soon.

Now step away from the Jan 2011 thread - that way madness lies!!!

still crossing my fingers for you on Thurs chica!!

kat - I repeat my advice above to pink - now step away from the AN threads!!!

Well done for resisting Izz - yeah, I feel quite chilled about the long term-ness approach too. I do think when you first start out, there just this overwhelming urge to get back what you lost. And for some it obviously does happen quickly and that's fantastic, but for lots of people it's a longer journey I think I've accepted that's how it's going to be for me this time.

I am a mad women this 2ww though, for no other reason that it took 5 months in total to get pg with DS and 5 months to get my first pg this year. So obviously I'm hoping I don't break that deadline this time around, but quite sure I will. Think it's worse because I'm at home, not working so more time to Dwell.

Oh and nix I knew as soon as typed it that you'd be paranoid I was accusing you of complaining about symptoms, I wasn't, I was just putting it out there in a very general non-specific way that it could be considered Poor Form on this thread

Right, another symptom that can't possibly be a symptom. Sort-of odd breathless, rib-not-quite-in-the-right-place pain. What d'ya reckon. Definitely pregnant, right?

No?
Hmmm. Give me one of those chocolates then.

ladybee definitely definitely a bona fide symptom

Hehe Izz don't stress, I know exactly what you mean - absolutely no offence caused

kat glad to hear I'm not the only one that does things that are clearly a bad idea!! We'll get on a grad thread eventually, it just won't be called Jan / Feb 2011....

Had 10 yo cousin over for the weekend - I love him to pieces but in a way grateful for the peace now - perhaps my ttc mentalling is misplaced afterall!!! Have no idea how you mums deal with that all the time!

Hi - hope I can join?! I have lots of Christmas chocolate to share!

Had a MC last tuesday at 11 weeks, 2nd pregnancy (have a DS who is 2) and although not quite ready to try again yet we are hoping not to wait too long and you ladies seem a friendly bunch to join. Also nice to have a place to discuss MC and TTC openly as we were just waiting for the 12 week scan until we told people in RL so, apart from parents and DH (who has been utterly fab thoughout) noone else really knows.

Have a scan to check everything is ok again next weds so hoping all cleared naturally. Never realised that MC could be quite so traumatic, both physically and emotionally so sympathies to all on this thread.

Had been TTC for nearly a year so really hoping it happens more quickly when we start trying again. Although already terrified of the same things happening again now it happened once.

Sorry very self centred post, think I needed to share with people other than DH.

Kat step away from the due threads :)

Xx

Try my form of self torture, 16 and pregnant! Or my latest was "I didn't know I was pg"!!

Bee no worries lovely, paranoid extraordinaire at the beet of times :) I would dearly love more symptoms tho :) does throwing up post brushing teeth count? Hope so :) totally agree poor form! Have to really bite my Tongue on some of the conception/pg threads and very often want to rant 'don't you know how lucky you are to be pregnant at all ?' ra ra ra ! 2ww sounds good, liking the bonafide symptoms!! Sure thing!

Izz and pink you will get therebabes' xxx

Jiggles sorry for your loss it's hideous I know. You have cone to the right place these girls are wonderful! X welcome xx

Evening all, I agree with Nix, i would never dream of complaining about symptoms - I would be mortified if I ever sounded like I was. Actually, does eating a whole chocolate penguin count as a symptom? The other threads are full of people giving birth which seems such an unreal concept to me at the moment, when I'm taking it a day at a time, so thank you for your continued much needed support

Lady I am my own worst enemy with too much time on my hands, I have currently borrowed a jigsaw for attempted distraction. And yes it is definitely a symptom

Jigglebum I am so sorry you have needed to find yourself here, but these ladies are lovely and will make you very welcome

hi jiggle love your name! So sorry for your loss. Go gentle on yourself, it is very traumatic, and might continue to be for a while yet. These ladies are great and between them know the answers to basically everything (mc related or not!) how are you doing physically?

nix 16 and pregnant is ok as long ad combined with a dose of teen mom afterwards!! Its like seeing the yin and yang or something. Somehow melts away and actually end up feeling sorry for them as i wouldn't swap places if i was offered the choice iyswim

orange why are you doing paranoid faces??? You shouldn't be stressing yourself out in your condition!!!

Hope you're all doing ok today. Thinking of you pretty hope you're managing to stay relatively chilled? Any sign of consultant yet? Xx

I thought I'd offended everyone, rather than going to bed late and getting up early

I never thought of watching teen mom to balance of 16 and pregnant

Right, time for Guitar Hero

Hello jiggle I'm so sorry for your loss . MC can be horribly traumatic, and I don't think people can fully understand that unless they've been there. Give yourself plenty of time and space to grieve and get over it a little. I hope you're getting lots of RL support and feeling ok physically. This is a great thread to be on, so feel free to lurk or post as much or as little as you want and you will find lots of support x

orange pink and nix I've taken the precaution of not watching any pg or baby related tv ever since the week after the mmc when I accidentally flicked onto special care baby unit program and just cried and cried and cried. It's not to be recommended!

Hope you're all ok this morning - nix not long till that scan now.

PeeeVeee !! How did I only just spot your post? I have so many things crossed for you that typing is proving v. difficult May 7 be lucky for you!

Jiggle welcome to the thread - you will find lots of support here & please feel free to rant/moan/vent as much as you need to - we've all done it. When you're feeling a little better and perhaps ready to TTC again you might find people flinging fish at you but it's only meant affectionately :)

All those who would have been on the Dec/Jan/Feb 11 AN thread - me too. Don't look at them. I can say this having stupidly looked at the Jan thread back in the Summer and spent a good hour snottering and wailing afterwards. Tis not good for the soul.

Nix I'm sending you good vibes for Thursday's scan, hope it goes well, chuck.

Bee that is totally a symptom.

The other reason I haven't left the thread yet (apart from sheer terror) is that I'd hate to miss the bfps as they arrive