Good things come to those who wait...and wait...and wait!!! All aboard, we're IIT!

[bebejones]

Old thread here

Make yourselves at home everyone. Jake & George are just loading everyone's 'baggage'!

Oh Flipping heck Bebe that's just crap isn't it. I think sometimes companies do take the piss out of people. RE the sweets, I will have a look for them, but I've got some sweet rosy apple boiled sweet things that seem to be quite nice too, which I can get form the local newspaper shop.

Squirrel, not eaten cheese since 1994, I don't miss it, and didn't bother me when I stopped as it made me so poorly.

flutter6y, welcome to the thread, it's a lovely little support group for people. We are thinking of branching out into 2 different threads so you aren't surrounded by people who are actively trying or who are upduffed.

What shall we call the new IIT thread for the ones who are all mixed in? I'm quite happy to start one.

Like the BESH and PESH threads I think we should have ourselves known as the IITs or what about calling ourselves the WIITs as in Were In It Together. Then just doing the new thread as "The new thread for WIITs" Then we can branch out on the name for the follow up threads.
Or, which I kind of like a bit more, sung in a "if you're happy and you know it clap your hands" way, Using something like "If you're a WIIT and you know it post in here"

Love the idea of the two threads- good ideas for names 100years. What about something along the lines of...

we started off waiting and are now WAIIT ing?
(We Are In It Together)

You sound much brighter 100years, I hope you are feeling a bit better. I laughed at your knowing statement about the waiting continuing after you are PG! Roll on 2nd trimester and glowing rather than puking!

That is horrendous Bebe- can you complain? Talk to someone higher up and explain that your OH works from home so next week is not acceptable? it probably would not make any difference though, how annoying! I have read about people on MN using the herbal Nytol and finding it effective- not sure what's in it and if it would be suitable but something like that might help stop the pattern of broken sleep for you?

Whywait- thanks for the advice re temping- I think I got a thermal shift yesterday so am hoping that there was an egg around when there where some....ahem...little guys around. Wait and see time. When will you test this month WW? Did you say it was this weekend?

Oh Whywait please don't feel like that! I wish I could say something to make you feel better

I think we have a much higher than average hit rate of 1st time PG achievers on this thread so don't let this affect you. Totally fertile couples often take up to a year of trying and you are nowhere near this yet. (I know you know all this and it doesn't really help when you are so disappointed but try to keep it in mind)

It sounds like you have a wonderful DH too x

Hey,

Sorry I've been MIA for a while. Had my sister down this weekend and we went out and had a few massive arguments with OH. We've sorted things now though. But it was touch and go for a few days!

WW - sorry for the AF situation. I can't imagine how you must be feeling. I think some self indulgence is called for!

I think I'll stick with the 'waiting to TTC' thread so that i can whinge about not being able to try for a baby yet and also because i can barely keep up with this one! .

However, I'm so pleased to have been part of this forum towards the end and discovered the pregnancies we've had on here! It's amazing stuff. Thank you to all of you who have supported me and given me advice. xxx

Hello all

WW so sorry to hear about AF... must be very frustrating. sounds like DH is wonderful

Astro thats a lovely comment

I have been feeling quite a bit better today. Still was sick this morning, but after that i managed a small pear for breakfast, AND i enjoyed the small bowl of soup i had at lunch unlike uesturday when it was such an effort to eat.

The children at school have been making pineapple upside down cake so i have also eaten a bit if pineapple, and a few warm cake crumbs.
Im still not right but its nice to not feel like im gonna throw up all day... who knows, i might even manage to eat some tea tonight which will make a change if i can.

Otherwise all my bras are no uncomfortable . i switched to my non-underwired sports bra today but even that seems to be digging in... think bra shopping is in order but didnt realise it would be necessary so soon

think i was over optimistic at saying i felt better....
just experianced the looking at food making me vomit managed a yogurt and a little plain spaghetti later...

Oh dear nannyl, at least you are having times when you feel ok and can eat- maybe today will be better :)
How are you finding being at work? Can you manage to get through the day or do you have to keep rushing to the loo? Do you only feel sick when food is around or do other things set you off?

Got home from shopping to find a BT man knocking on my door!!! Not even he was 100% sure what had happened with our line, looks like there were 2 lines that were made into one & the bits we were plugged into were coming off the 2nd line which came loose & therefore were't actually our phone line! Long story short, it's working now! If they try & charge us there will be HELL to pay. Just pleased to have my broadband back!

Nannyl - sor sorry you are feeling so rubbish. I'm all out of tips I'm afraid. Just try to eat whatever you fancy whenever you can. My GP told me (when I had been sick all day every day for about 4 weeks) that he didn't care if all I could face was McDonalds coz I needed the calories! Really hope that it passes for you soon, try & take heart that it is 'considered' to be a good sign of lots of good baby hormones. (Which isn't much consolidation when you feel like crap! )

I would appreciate a waiting thread, but also don't want to 'leave' this one IYSWIM? So 2 is probably a good idea. :)

WW - So sorry AF got you again. This month just wasn't meant to be your month, and when you are pregnant & you have your little one it will be because that was the bean that was meant to be!

No news here (apart from having a working phoneline again) trying not to give up hope re:DH! Not sure what to do about him coming to the consultants with me next month. He says it's up to me! On the one hand I'd really like him to be there for support & to talk to while I'm waiting!! On the other hand, I don't want him there while I explain to the doctor that I stopped my meds to have a baby that is now not happening! I don't want to go back on my meds just for DH to change his mind & then have to wait another 3 months to be clear to TTC! Aaaaaargggghhh, doing my head in!

Glad you got your BT sorted Bebe, they are awful aren't they!?

Your dilemma is a bit of a complicated one isn't it? My thoughts were that if he comes with you to the consultant, then maybe that will make it more your shared problem to solve, rather than yours individually. At least now the whole issue is out in the open even if it's painful to discuss and you're not in agreement yet. He's always known you were coming off your meds, hasn't he? It's his joint responsibility that you're now having to decide what to do, with the not-very-nice option of backtracking, in part because he didn't discuss his feelings with you fully enough and early enough!

If he comes with you to the consultant you'll have to decide on a joint 'line' on the issue in advance, which might be a good chance to come to some sort of agreement about where you currently stand? ('we're talking about the possibility of TTC again, though we're not decided at the moment', maybe?) You never know, having to think it all through with your POV in mind might help change his perspective?

No movement on the whole 'waiting' issue in this household - just found out that another of our friends is pg, bringing it up to 4 currently from last year's wedding bonanza. It's impossible not to be broody in those circumstances!! DP is taking an interest in their pregnancies though - he saw one of the pg friends the other day and came home and reported back on her morning sickness, mat leave etc with no prompting from me, which I think gets some points!

I am shattered today - working all the hours juggling 3 different 'jobs' at the mo, one of which is writing an enormous application which will secure the financial security of our company, or not. It feels like a huge responsibility as if we don't get it the results are pretty dire, without wanting to go into too much detail. Wish I was still on holiday - January is crap!

Quod - I think I'm inclined to agree about him coming with me. It might make him 'wake up' to my situation. I often wonder if I am being selfish about the whole TTC thing but essentially I'm trying to think longer term & what is best for our family. His decision not to TTC & to have no more children is a selfish one based on his feelings alone, whatever they may be?! I really don't think he has taken on board my reasoning at all! Of course he could come with me & the consultant could turn round & tell me to go back on meds, in which case DH will get his own way & be all 'I-told-you-so'!

That sounds a nightmare for you job wise. Very similar to my DHs 'job' where he has to do so much & cover so many different areas of the company, he doesn't know if he is coming or going. Think his workload is a huge factor in not TTC! When will you find out if your application is succesful?

I agree with you on the point that when you disagree like this is feels like both you're being selfish and the other person is! I don't know what the way round it is apart from trying to accept that you have different feelings.

How would you feel if the consultant told you to go back on the meds? (Surely he can only suggest it, he can't tell you?!)

We find out about application at the end of March. I was thinking today actually that maybe TTC has to wait until then for me - it'll potentially have such a massive bearing on the next few years whether we get this money or not. If we don't then the future is ridiculously uncertain. If we do, then I've got a nice flexible guaranteed - and part-time - role, which I could imagine doing and coping with kids at the same time. Aggh.

Fingers crossed for you for March then! Must be a really nerve wracking time, especially since so much is resting on it.

I'd feel a bit gutted if the consultant said about going back on meds. I know he can only suggest it, the nurses are really supportive of decisions & therapies but the consultant is very much a 'drugs are the answer' sort of bloke! Mostly I'm just worried that they'll want to stick me back in the MRI! I don't like it!!

Re the DH thing, I think it's human nature to be a bit selfish. At the end of the day it's very difficult to imagine how someone else is feeling or what they are thinking unless you have been in the exact situation yourself! You can empathise but you never really understand, does that make sense?

Good morning Ladies!
Sorry I've not been online much this week. I am working for a new Director and it's suddenly got really busy and I've not even had time to email my DH, nevermind browse MN!!

bebe I hope that your appointment goes well. I would be in 2 minds as to what to do too. I can understand that you want support but may not want to be told by the consultant to go back on your meds when your DH is with you.

As Quod said, it could be a good chance to chat to your DH again and decide on what to say in the appointment. He may have had time to think about what you discussed too and you may be surprised at what he has to say.

I also like the idea of a dedicated Waiting thread as well as one here where we can all stay in touch.

x

Quod - also FX for March

Good luck! (maybe try to include lots of buzz words like inclusion and providing for different types of learners, having an opportunity to develop literacy, numeracy and IT skills in every lesson etc- they love all that stuff!)

:)

Massive Good Luck vibes being sent to you from me!! Fingers & toes crossed!

Evening all!

bebe glad you got the phone sorted :) How are you feeling now? Maybe you can take the chance to talk to your DH again before the consultant appointment? He might say that you're okay off the meds (which could make your DH feel better), and if he says you should go back on them then at least you have the chance to quiz him about the pros and cons with your DH there to hear.

nannyl I hope the sickness eases soon for you, it sounds miserable.

quod good luck with your big application!

js sounds like you've been busy! Hope working for the new director is good.

whywait good luck with the interview! What kind of teacher do you want to be?

Things are good here today, I'm glad it's the weekend though. I don't have much planned, just a relaxed weekend at home. Anyone have exciting plans?

bookmarking, it had disappeared of my page :(

Evening Squirrel! :)

No exciting plans here. Was going to be sorting the kitchen cupboards...but i did that today!

Busy touting for cake making work! :o A friend of DHs has enquired about me making her wedding cake! So if that comes off, my first, paid for, cake will be a wedding cake....scared!!

JS - Hope the job is going well even if you are ridiculously busy!

Think I am going to get DH to come to appt with me, and will try & talk to him before we go about what we might want to ask/say to the consultant. Just everyone please keep your fingers crossed (although probably best not to do it from now until the appt (10th) coz your fingers will hurt ) that they don't want to MRI me again. DH thinks it's unlikely coz it costs them so much money! I'm not so sure, it's the only way they can track the progression (if any) of the MS. Really hope not, I hate it! :(

Just very quickly as am on phone not computer - will reply to all on sun when I have some time! Whywait mention differentiation and how you plan to meet needs of all pupils. Sure you'll be fine, mine wasn't nearly as bad as I'd expected. Good luck!!

Whywait good luck for this morning x

Good luck WW, FX for you! :)

DD has woken up with a streaming cold...marvellous! Will be doing everything I can not to get it, although give it a couple of days & no doubt I'll be a snotty mess too!

Hope everyone has a lovely weekend :)