Good things come to those who wait...and wait...and wait!!! All aboard, we're IIT!

[bebejones]

Old thread here

Make yourselves at home everyone. Jake & George are just loading everyone's 'baggage'!

Ladies we're coming up to the end of the thread... and I wonder if once this one's full we could start a new "in it together" thread especially for our group and a new "waiting to ttc" thread for those few of us who are still waiting at the bus stop and any newbies who might come along?

Bebe I'm sorry to hear things aren't going too well. I hope you get a decent nights rest and don't have bad dreams. Things will get better.

Morning all. BFN this morning and AF has arrived and is incredibly painful. Lucky me.

bebe sorry to hear that you are so down at the moment. I hope that you managed to get some sleep last night and didn't have any horrible dreams.

Oh JS sorry to hear that. How do you feel about it?

:( but fine I guess. The timings would have been pretty bad and now I am going to focus on getting fit and healthy and having a few big nights out before we pfficially start to TTC in May.

How is everybody else? I feel I have rather dominated the thread this week with my self indulgent "am I aren' I" dilemma!!!

JBells- pg#2 22 weeks (prob boy) EDD 23rd may
Squirrel007 - pg#1 EDD 13 July
100years - pg#1 7 weeks EDD 6th September
Nannyl- pg #1: 6 weeks EDD 13 September
WhyWait - TTC#1 since Sept 2010
MrsSatsuma - TTC#1 since Nov 2010
JustShagging - TTC#1 June 2011 unofficial-Jan 2011
AstroZola - (hopefully) TTC#1 September 2011
BebeJones - It's really complicated, TTC Feb, March, April, May....Never???
Strawberrypie- TTC#1 since Jan 2011
Amanda - TTC#1 July 2011 (subject to change!)

bebe sorry nothing is happening still for you. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that things work out for you. Your cake is fabulous :)

JS sorry AF got you, hot water bottle on belly worked for me when I had bad cramps with AF. And you are definitely not an idiot, and you haven't dominated the thread at all.

WW the weekend is getting closer?

jbells yay for movements getting stronger now. Love hearing about your LO and her language. I think my OH has already settled on a boy's name if it is a boy, given I'm only 7 weeks, I feel it's a tad early to be confirming anything!

nannyl Sorry the sickness has now got you :( It sucks, big time.

strawberry the waiting doesn't end when you have a BFP I'm afraid!!! It's all waiting and waiting.

MrsS fingers crossed for you

AC I think the two threads idea is great, because then other newbies will join in and not feel surrounded by people who are already TTC or upduffed, and it means we are staying together as a group in the other one.

Right then, me stuff....

Last night I went to work, nearly passed out twice, ended up being brought home by someone from work as I was advised by the para not to drive, now my car is at work, 15 miles from where I live with no other car in the household to go with OH to pick it up. I am feeling retched. I feel faint even before I've sat up in bed. I feel constantly sick, and am bringing up bile sometimes. I've lost just over half a stone in the past 10 days, which is fine as I am carrying a lot of weight, but it's also not as it's a lot to lose so quickly. I have no idea how people do this if they have another child and work. I cried last night at work because of feeling so poorly, and apparently I look like shit too. I've started taking the tablets the doc prescribed. And I don't know how to explain to my OH how bad I feel without sounding feeble. It's weird, I'm so happy to be pg, but it's such hard work I'm I'm really really struggling.

I have the midwife coming over this afternoon, I predict a lot of tears.

100- sorry your feeling so bad the first few weeks r the worst, i have fainted twice during this pg and feel faint a lot, and if its any consolation i have never heard that i look glowing etc, just that i look like crap unwell, grey etc (the joy of truthful mother lol) take time of work and try to relax, really hope it improved for u soon

JS- sorry u got a BFN hopefully once u start trying properly u will get a BFP very soon :)

bebe- sorry your feeling so low, mayb u cud try a nite out alone with your friends where u dont have to be wife or mum, u can just be bebe this always makes me feel betterwhen im having a bad time at home

AC- ye that sounds like an idea, i dont mind wotever everyone else thinks

whywait- yes DD is very hyper agen lol she hasnt stopped running round house and shouting nonsense ( i just wish i understood her)

herade up language is cute but i am starting to get concerned she will need speech therapy she has just turned 21 months and whilst her understanding has come on loads think she understands most of what i say her speech hasnt she hads a few words like ball, quick, kick, duck, bubble she say bubu juice is uice, and occasionall mama, dada, and a few other bits i have only heard once or twice but she doesnt really say a lot of real words andsome of them are hard to understand to anyone but me :( ive seen a lot of threads on mumsnet asking about children this age not talking so hopefully she will start more soon

sorrry if i missed anyone typing at lightning speed b4 DD disappears agen

Thanks both.

I've got loads of ginger type stuff, some ginger cake that lasted approx 15 mins in me the other day, ginger tea which I've not tried yet.

Oooh WW, double hopes then for saturday.

Not really, nothing seems to help at the moment. :( I'm feeling really quite miserable.

whywait we do some hand signs- like if i say to her what do u want to sing she will either do the action for twinkle twinkle or do a quack quack action i do for 5 little ducks, its not proper signing just actions i do whilst singing, i always know wot she wants as she will either take me to it, try to say the word or point and shout, if i ask her to get the bubbles or socks she will so im pretty sure she knows wot things are but is having troube saying the words, still a big improvement on a few months ago when she wasnt trying to say anything or talking in her own language so fingers crossed her language is developing, shes been on the waiting list for speech therapy for 3 months now and i still havnt recieved anything from them :(

100 we can feel crap together.... was going to smile but dont think its appropriate.

this morning i vomited up water

i could barely eat any lunch... just had a few mouthfuls of soup over my lunch hour, and i have eaten (in microbites throughout most of the day) 1 & half nairns ginger oat biscuit things.

couldnt stomach my tea last night either and although i havent been actually sick while at school i have felt AWFUL all day.

saying that i have just mananged a pack of plain crips with some ginger cordial.

Maybe ill loose weight while pregnant instead of put it on?

JS so sorry about BFN

am off for a nap now befoire OH gets home

nanny while I'm over the moon at being pg, I'm also feeling really bad, and I also would 'smile' that we are going through it together I know it's not something to smile about, I'm not sure anything makes sense. I've managed to keep much more down today, but I still feel fecking awful, and I'm still not eating as much as normal. I've lost 8lbs in 10 days! I've cried loads. The midwife has been over, she is lovely. Said if it gets no better they may admit me for 24 hours to give me iv rehydration, but I'm OK at the moment. She said that I looked grey. Yep, that's how I feel. Explained all the future appointments. It was lovely and now I have a green book!

jbells I was hoping the fat stage didn't last too much longer!

strawberrypie and whywait I love Glee too :) Couldn't watch last night though as DH was away and he likes to watch too.

Sorry about AF arriving js :( May isn't too far away now.

bebe sorry to hear you're feeling down :( It's completely understandable though what with everything that's been going on.

Amanda two new threads sounds like a good idea. I guess this one doesn't attract the newbies, and I'm sure you don't always want to read about our pg updates when you're still waiting.

100years and nannyl sorry to hear you're feeling bad. I wouldn't want to go through the first trimester again and am feeling more normal now I'm in the second. If you can't keep anything down though, it is worth seeing the doctor as dehydration is not good when pg.

I am doing okay - feeling really fed up today for some reason (although I can't come up with any logical reason for feeling down) so I'm hoping it's just some hormonal thing that'll pass. Got to go and find something for dinner and I'm not sure what's in the cupboards. At times like this I'm always tempted to order pizza!

squirrel There are loads of people at work who are pg, and are always glad when they reach the definite bump stage, so they know people aren't wondering!

Yeah I will speak to the docs if I don't feel better in a few days, and will keep an eye on my fluids.

Sorry you are feeling fed up. I think sometimes you get times you cannot put your finger on what it is.

Thanks 100years :) When I'm feeling fed up I can almost always put it down to PMT, but obviously that's not the case today! But, I just ordered pizza, and feel better already!

I don't eat pizza, can't eat cheese, so that's never been something I have ever done to cheer myself up. But I have on occasions had other takeaways

Oh Squirrel of course I want to hear all your updates! That's not the reason at all. It's just nice to have a place on MN for waiters and there must be newbies who wouldn't want to join this thread at this stage.

I want to be on this thread too of course. Some of us have now joined pregnancy or ttc threads as well as this one and it seems to work.

Evening!

Am steaming angry with Bastard British Telecom! They rang our landline (apparently) to tell us they weren't coming. The landline they were coming out to fix because it is fucked (sorry, but I'm cross!) Now they aren't coming until the 26th!!!!!! And then they TEXT ME ON MY MOBILE (thus proving they had another contact number for us) to confirm next weeks appointment! So our landline doesn't work AT ALL, and we have no broadband except the mega expensive dongle thingy! I am LIVID! And DH took a whole afternoon off to wait for them, which is a huge deal, coz he can't do anything from home at the moment. He's self-employed so if he doesn't work he doesn't earn!

Had another rubbish nights sleep too so it's particularly winding me up!

Anyway, enough of my 'woes'!

100/Nannyl - try 'Preggie pops', google them! One of my friends swore by them. I used to use chuppa chups lollies, particularly apple ones. Having something to suck/in my mouth helped stop the nausea. It's miserable, I was so ill. I seem to remember one day I was actually sick 12 times before lunch time! I lost 1.5stone in the first 20 weeks! (Piled it all on, and more after that when eating was the only thing that stopped the constant puking!)

JS - Sorry it was AF, but at least you have some big events to look forward to/plan/participate in & May will be here in no time! :)

Hoping I'll be able to pop on periodically over the next week! Don't talk too much without me! :o

100years cheese is one of my favourite things, I'd be sad if I couldn't eat it!

Amanda a waiting thread is good - that's what I meant, in a roundabout way :) I don't think I'd have joined this thread when I was waiting!

bebe how annoying about BT, that's awful service :(

I finally plucked up the courage to watch OBEM, and it wasn't as scary as I thought it would be. Might make DH watch it now to give him an idea of what to expect. I haven't thought that far ahead yet, but the waterbirth looks like a good option.

hello

sorry to butt in here. (i'm from west yorks too so sure you'll forgive me) but its been bugging me for ages, whilst i lurk wondering which thread to join, but what does IIT (in thread title) stand for?

A few of us didn't know for a while either! It stands for In It Together, which refers to the fact that our waiting to try to conceive thread has now been going on for so long half of us are pregnant!

I'm planning on starting a new waiting thread, so if waiting endlessly for the right time to have that much wanted baby is your bag, you could join that.