TTC after MC, ERPC anyone want to join me??

[nurse47]

Hi ive been posting on the miscarrage forum but now feel ready to start all over again!
My story, Had my first MMC in nov 2007, followed by an erpc (worst moment of my life) this was my first pregnancy and i felt robbed. Waited for two periods and got pg with my little DD in feb 2008, i had a great pg and birth but was on constant knicker alert. We decided when she was two we would like another baby to add to the familiy, we decided to try in sept this year and got pg first time! (very shocked) I was so hoping this would be my time to have a stress free pg and actually enjoy the experience! How wrong i was, i started to spot at six weeks had a scan which showed a sac but no baby, i then enjoured the worst two week of my life by having scan and blood tests. I was told on the 8th on nov the pregnany was not going to continue and i had a blighted ovum, and on the 9th i had a erpc. I have recovered well and stopped bleeding the day after the procedure. I went to see my doc last week who told me i could start ttc asap as long as i feel up to it?? anyone else ttc straight away, last time i was told to wait and i did but this time i have read that there is no lit to say wait apart from to date the pg?? Im hoping there are some people who can share there experiences and someone who wants to join me!

Hec, you are royalty precisely because you don't think you are (although you probably know that you are), and you spend far too much valuable time on here giving salient advice and making amusing comments, that's why I heart you
Now piss off out of here, us wimmin are trying to make babies, we've no time for this!

Far too much time indeed

I will indeed piss off out of here and leave you to it.

I wish each and every one of you the very best of luck and hope you all soon have loads of beautiful babies. You deserve them. xx

So I made it there and on my way back. Didn't need my passport and had a fab time. Shame it'll take so long to get back. Feeling a bit tipsy so hopefully that'll make the travelling go faster.

worm any news?

Ah - so glad you had a good time yellow but did you fall asleep on the way back? I'm a shocker for alcohol and public transport - guaranteed to have me snoring, mouth open, dribbling and all sorts - I used to have a ploy when I worked in London of setting my alarm on my mobile a few mins before we were due in at my local station as the experience of sleeping through to the end of the line was not a particularly good one....!

Moved here as I was offered a transfer and it was a bit of an escape to a rather messy end of first marriage tbh. One of the best decisions I ever made.

sparkly - you are toooooo funny! Hecate - do stay and add some celeb glamour to our thread (plus your good luck message was v kind ) I have only just discovered the AIBU thread and goodness there are some strong opinions there

So, 2DPO for me and will take it easy on consumption but not going for total abstinence - couldn't face that and a pea ban

Hi Ladies
Well I'm back in good old blighty with.............a BFN AF still not here though and boobs feeling tender so i just dunno! I looked at the test again 10 minutes later after you are not supposed to, and it is possible there was the faintest of lines so faint it was most probably my imagination DH reckons he couldn't see it.

sparkly pmsl at you getting busted discussing you "ginnel" spat! Well hencate does have queen in her name after all!

I am so knackered..........must stay awake must stay awake..........[Yawn]

Everything crossed for you for thurday yellow

Welcome back worm how annoying re bfn and no af. I hate that limbo time. I guess you can only wait and if no af then test again. I have heard of people not getting a bfp until af is quite a few days late. Keeping fingers crossed for you.

No I didn't fall asleep but I have previously had quite a few disasters before falling asleep on tubes or night buses! I should probably not have drunk so much last night but after all this time I now don't cut it out until I get a bfp. It is all too much for me otherwise.

I have no symptoms at all, I'm sure this week is going to drag painfully, need to try to distract myself! Must actually finish my essay as there is only a week to go, this term has gone so fast.

Welcome back worm and sorry re: no BFP - as yellow says, there is still some hope.... perhaps the air travel has messed up your system a bit? Hope you and the family get back into the swing of things quickly.

good luck with the essay yellow - I found it sooooo difficult to crack on with studying while working full time.

I have been mentally writing my note to you all about when I get my bfp - is that sad or what?!

Morning all

All bless you wombat that is really sweet, not sad at all. I think these positive imaginings are what keep us going on the tough ttc path.

My temp has dropped today which is not a good sign. I felt really upset when I saw that.....I guess I need to wait and see what it is tomorrow but it's not looking good. I've got no symptoms either.

re the essay and I don't even have the excuse of working full time at the moment. I am just such a procrastinator. Not really sure why cos I am interested in the topic and want to do it but just can't seem to get stuck in.

Any news worm?

And sparkly how is the 2ww going? And pecka where's your chart?

How you doing harassed? Hope you are feeling a bit better....

Shall we all have a bacon sarnie bowl of muesli to start the week properly?

Morning!

I'm here and feeling a bit better, the sunshine is certainly helping. Thank you all for your lovely messages. It helps just knowing it's/I'm normal ish!

What a weekend! The flaming car broke down, and hopefully today we'll find out it's going to cost £600 and not £1200ish. Not sure how that's good news, but hey

Worm - anything? I had the bfn/no af happen a couple of times before our bfp, very frustrating.

wombat that sounds very sweet actually.

yellow I'm also a terrible procrastinator, and have much course work to do. What are you studying?? I'm doing anatomy & physiology, finishing off massage as I got prg with dd and couldn't finish my course, and now I'm doing auriculotherapy (ear acupuncture!). I love all things alternative, and hope to jack in my office job one day.

2ww for me too, cd21. Trying not to symptom spot but just can't help it as my tummy is quite sore, tender and a tad bloated. Prob pmt, but not the soreness. Maybe to do with erpc??

glad you are feeling a bit better harassed I do love a bit of sunshine.....fingers crossed you get the cheaper repair bill.

i'm studying psychotherapy but only just started so got about another 4 years to go!

I didn't really have any different symptoms post ERPC and don't get PMT either. I didn't get any early symptoms for either pg either so I don't have much to go on. I really HATE the last part of the 2ww....however hard I try I always get my hopes up only for them to be cruelly dashed once more...bah!

How long are your cycles normally?

I had mirena removed in June, and they settled to 28, 31 etc etc. Strange really, but it was regular which was nice. Freaked me out the first time though!

I've had crampy period type pains for 5 or 6 days now. Oh well, who knows?! I might start charting next month I think, will have a good look later at FF.

Psychotherapy sounds fascinating! Are you doing it with OU?

No I'm doing it at a place in London. It is fascinatiing if I could just stop procrastinating long enough to get stuck in!

I think charting can be helpful but it really makes a difference what time you take it and that you've been asleep just before you take the temp. I found that was stressing me quite a lot so now I only take my temp if the conditions are right and don't bother at the weekend cos I get up so much later it messes with the data.

My cycle is 27 to 31 which is considered regularly but when you are expecting period from day 27 it feels like forever when it finally turns up day 31!

I think crampy pains can be a symptom. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

Right must get on......

I know what you mean yellow - even though I was soooo interested in my last piece of studying, I just couldn't be ased at times. Very impressed with both you and harassed* even attempting it. Am fascinated by psychotherapy too - what's the most interesting thing you've learned so far? How are you feeling about Fri's interview?

harassed - do you have practice real and alive patients for your ear accupuncture or do you practice on a dummy or something first?! I'd be terrified to do practice it I'm sure! Glad to hear you are feeling a bit perkier and at least the weather is improving a bit (will try not to speak too soon though!)

worm - don't want to hassle you unnecessarily, but do you have an update for us impatient peeps....?!

sparkly, pecka - hope you both had good weekends and not stressing too much about the 2WW. I almost convinced myself I had ms this morning, but in reality it was just bad driving by the taxi driver - I'm 3DPO so who am I kidding?!!

it's difficult to pinpoint one interesting thing. I find all the different theories to do with baby/childhood development and later impacts fascinating and it is interesting to think about the impact of what you're learning with relation to your own life. We're doing dreams tonight which should be interesting. I am also finding the more that I learn the less I realise I know or understand!

Re the interview I'm putting the actual interview to the back of my mind. I've been doing research on the 4 people who will be interviewing me and also on the company as a whole and trying to memorise some facts and figures in case it comes up! So I'll prepare a little bit every day and do full on learning and revision on Thursday. I think Fri am I may go to the gym cos otherwise it's going to seem like a very long time to 4pm.

You made me smile with your ms at 3DPO.....so do you get a taxi to work then? How glamourous are you?

AAAhhhhhh just typed a update and deleted it by mistake, thats just the type of day ive had...

Im really struggeling at the moment, really sorry ladies its going to be a me me me update im afraid.

had a long weekend this weekend and was planning to do some house work and spend sometime on me, instead i spent the whole of it in my bed, feeling really down, havent got dressed since sat morning...

My would be due date is fast approaching and im not coping at all, all the would be's are really getting in the way with me getting on with my RL

My SIL had her baby today, she was just three weeks in front of me, so all bitter sweet really.

And the area i feel i normally can control, i cant.
Recorded my temps this month and messed them up by not recording them correctly!!!

had reflexology which has really messed up my cycle, not sure when i ov'd or even if i have ov'd?
Am currently on day 20 and have been testing since day 11 and nothing?? so must of ov'd early so just praying we caught it in time, but just dont feel it...am very weepy, snappy at the moment which are all signs of my PMS!!!

sorry to winge and moan, just not in a good place, and in need of chocolate and wine!!

Hi Ladies
Ahh sorry pecka that all sounds horrible, have a hug even though this is Mumsnet and we don't do that sort of thing. So many reminders everywhere for you, Wine and chocolate will help it's a proven fact....... take it from me I'm a chocolate seller , well confectionary consultant to give it the poncey name . Maybe you could get some luxury smellys and eat your choc and wine in a Lush bubble bath?
You are all such a clever lot bettering yourselves mentally, I am a bit of a thicko.....

Fingers crossed for you harrassed

Well onto the Me part, I bought an expensive test and just as I was wiping up while waiting for it to change ( to BFN) I had a brown wipe........ so that was a waste of sodding money. I really thought I was PG as my boobs were and still are huge and I have had the worst weird dreams ever, how I ever thought I could get PG in the same month as going on 20-odd rollercoasters was stupid anyway......

And I am tired.......

xxxx

Aw ladies, come here for a group hug.

pecka am so sorry you had such a bad weekend and struggling with approaching die date, it's so tough ESP with the sil news. I think sometimes a wallow can be helpful but maybe see if you can plan any treats.

I never has any luck with opk's they never worked for me. And my first month of temping was a right mess too. I wish I could help you feel better, illl just say try not to beat yourself up, be kind and gentle to yourself.

And worm how disappointing, it's so hard when af is a little late, gets me everytime. Do you have chocolate or wine to self
medicate?

Thanks alot yellow and I have a car boot full of chocolate you are so lovely and supportive xxxx

A boot full of chocolate you say? How soon can you get here? I know exactly how tough the disappointment of the first sign of af can be esp combined with slight lateness and other symptoms. I am sure I'll be wailing on here by the end of the week.

Huge hug and gentle hair stroke

Wormy, Pecka, so sorry to hear you're having such a bad day!

Pecka, are you able to get out for some fresh air and sunshine, even if it's just down the road to the Offie? Seriously, I'm sorry you feel so down, the imminence of the due date (mine's 17th April) is really depressing. I'm going to plant a rose bush, perhaps you could focus on marking the date in some sort of positive way? I know that sounds glib, but it's helping me.
WormyWonka, I love it, what a fabulous job! Perhaps you can go and work for Yellow once she takes over at Cadbury's.

Sorry about AF, I am expecting it too at some point (looks furtively around for Wombat wearing a deerstalker and taking notes).

Ahh thanks ladies, you truely are supportive, my day suddenly got a lot worse as i now have to go pick up my SIL from the hospitl as theres no one else available, god is so cruel....
worm sorry af got you, im expecting that too next week.
sparkly thanks for the advice, ive got myself dressed thats a step in the right direction i suppose.....
My plan is to get a helium balloon and right a little message on it to the baby,my big sis is visiting from cyprus for three weeks, so will get plenty of support, its just the build up im finding hard.
yellow sparkly wombatim keeping my fingers crossed for a BFP fro one or all of you guys, we need some luck on this thread...
harrassed how are you doing?? ive seen u around on the ms thread....

Somebody slap me .............I am watching One born every minute whilst googling inmplantation bleeding. Jeez....

i trawled the net looking at anything that involved conception yest, very sad!!! Wet fish slap your way!!

Sorry to hear so many are having a bad day today, am chucking around general pgish feelings to you in the hope of passing on some good luck but not feeling too positive myself so will join in the group hug and donate my tin of xmas quality street to the wormywonka stash. Am now 12 weeks tomorrow but as it becomes harder to pretend its not happening and I am doing more pg things (midwife appt, wearing mat clothes to try and disguise bloated belly) i am becoming more terrified of getting to the scan and seeing no heartbeat again. Poor dh has had the brunt of it with wild mood swings and plenty of tears. Am now waiting for scan date, hopefully the wait will be over in the next couple of weeks.
Have just entertained myself with the thought of us all with wet fish doing some kind of monty python style face-slapping dance while obem plays in the background.... night all x

Just did a big catch up post and lost it, sorry! Just popping by to leave a stock of group hugs, choccies and while you lovely ladies are in your beds.

Here's to a better day tomorrow - sorry about the BFNs, late AFs - it's just pants isn't it? I had an unheard of 33 day cycle this month, v frustrating as I was sure I was not pg because of the kind of month we'd had, so kinda just wnated to be back to CD1 and in with a shot to try again!

lots of love and waves (sorry, very un mumsnet but it just feels like folk need it at the mo!)