TTC after MC, ERPC anyone want to join me??

[nurse47]

Hi ive been posting on the miscarrage forum but now feel ready to start all over again!
My story, Had my first MMC in nov 2007, followed by an erpc (worst moment of my life) this was my first pregnancy and i felt robbed. Waited for two periods and got pg with my little DD in feb 2008, i had a great pg and birth but was on constant knicker alert. We decided when she was two we would like another baby to add to the familiy, we decided to try in sept this year and got pg first time! (very shocked) I was so hoping this would be my time to have a stress free pg and actually enjoy the experience! How wrong i was, i started to spot at six weeks had a scan which showed a sac but no baby, i then enjoured the worst two week of my life by having scan and blood tests. I was told on the 8th on nov the pregnany was not going to continue and i had a blighted ovum, and on the 9th i had a erpc. I have recovered well and stopped bleeding the day after the procedure. I went to see my doc last week who told me i could start ttc asap as long as i feel up to it?? anyone else ttc straight away, last time i was told to wait and i did but this time i have read that there is no lit to say wait apart from to date the pg?? Im hoping there are some people who can share there experiences and someone who wants to join me!

Excuse my bad spelling there.......

oooh worm that does sound promising.....keep us updated please.

mana like wombat says that seems to have gone by so fast but I'm sure it doesn't feel like that for you.

So I'm a bit slow wombat but does that mean your weekend is Friday and Saturday? So it's like Friday night there for you now and you're probably getting stuck into some vino? Even though it's Thurs here, I'll be having some vino too.....because Thurs is the new Friday..but I'll have some Friday too! (sticking to my drunken binges=pregnancy theory)

sparkly where are yoooouuu...

ooooooh worm - I don't know if I can hang on til tomorrow to find out...! Sweet of your DH to let you sit out on the rides .

yellow - yes, the weekend here is Fri/Sat. In Saudi it's Thu/Fri which is even weirder. It probably took me 3 years to get used to it and kept referring to saturday as sunday and sunday as monday - old habits die hard! Only got stuck into 1 glass of as I was driving last night. Went with a friend to see her gorgeous 7 year old at her riding lesson and had such a nice time chatting to the other mums and I got to drive the daughter back to their place and we had so much fun chatting in the car - it made me realise that I really, really want one of our own.... sigh.....

Here's to your drunken binge theory!

Off shopping now (need a few bits and bobs as most of it is still in Christchurch!) - hope you all have a great Friday.

Morning wombat and whoever else may come along later,

well I am back to CD1 today and trying too hard to see it as an opportunity :)

we really didn't have a hope this month with the move and dh's grandma dying and the NZ trip which was lovely but was all spent staying in other people's houses [wink}

anyhow - it's looking good for worm so I shall hang out for news!

waves to everyone else!

ah wellie sorry that the witch got you.....sounds like it would have been a difficult month to conceive anyway. Have some not sure what time it is there but I think if it is the opposite of here it must be wine drinking time!

wombat That weekend thing would take a bit of getting used to, it's so ingrained. And starting the week on Sunday too.....how long have you been there? Would you still like to move to NZ or did the events put you off?

worm any more news/symptoms? So if af doesn't come you can POAS Sat/Sun? Come on, we need another win!

Morning!

Really sorry I didn't get back the other day, I'm really struggling atm. It's 7 weeks today since our horrible scan, and I feel worse than I did 2-3 weeks ago. Is it normal, or am I a complete freak??!

I had yesterday am off to get my hair done, but pulled a sickie in the afternoon and just sat on the sofa and moped really. I did phone the Miscarriage Association and have the number of a peer to peer lady. Just need to phone her I guess....... I'm now on 2ww, and I really don't know which would be worse, bfp or bfn.

worm - sounds promising!!!

yellow - I'll second your drunken binges theory. When I had dd I got a bfn so had a hugely drunken girls night out. Felt a little weird the next despite the hangover so poas again and got a bfp!

I'm out tomorrow, but think it's more of a sedate evening. Plus not had a drink since November...

Wombat - enjoy your shopping.

Wellie wow, lots of pma!

In work today, then tonight I need to do some housework. Tomorrow I have ebay stuff to post, and an appointment with out letting agent. Our landlord has decided to sell the house and offered us first refusal. No way!! Nice house, but needs a lot of work, and they want too much for it. Plus my savvy father says to hang on again! So need to find out how this is going to work. Typically dh is working tomorrow.

Hello harassed really sorry to hear that you are struggling......in my experience this is totally normal. 7 weeks really is not long to have got your head round it all and the first af can be particularly emotional.

I can totally understand about not being sure about whether you want a bfp or bfn because even now although I would love a bfp I would be terrified at having another mc and would def be a mental case.

Well done for phoning the miscarriage association, go on make the call to the peer lady, I'm sure it'll help.

Overall my advice is just to be kind and gentle with yourself, don't have expectations about how you should or ought to feel...everything is normal. And it's a cliche but it does take time and you'll feel better and then you'll have little set backs, it's all part of the process.

No drink since November! Wow...gosh....i can't imagine that....

House stuff/moving is such a pain, make sure you get DH to do his part, I always end up doing the most of these kind of things.

Do you have any other nice weekend things planned?

Morning ladies!
I have been lurking, just been on a thread where someone has said peas are a natural contraceptive! I love peas, is there no justice in the world!

I'm really bad at cutting out things, last night I had a large and a chunk slither of cachel cheese, which is like blue cheese but without the feet-y taste, and today I am tucking into a peanut butter (bad) muffin (bad) with a cup of builders brew (bad). Tonight I am having more (evil), I might as well just eat some festering oysters and have done with it!
The reason I've not posted is that I'm in that 2 week limbo period, feeling the usual symptoms of pmt (insane rage at cars not stopping for me at zebra crossings, getting teary at the sight of 2 ducks companiably waddling to the water's edge, that sort of gubbins) so feeling a bit detached from the whole conceiving thing. Determined not to test until after af is due, and just take life as it comes.
Not yet been on cervix-cam, I can't just sit at my desk looking at lady-passages and rummaging around internally like Wombat
Harassed, have a bourbon with your x

Ooh, ooh, for anyone who lurks on AIBU, I had a spat with Hecate over how to pronounce ginnel, I was right, oh yes, (hard G) and I made her and had a proper frisson of excitement. Engaging with MN Royalty!

sparkly you never fail to cheer me up!!! Also lurking as nothing to add, am off today so thought id spend sometime uploading on the info onto my ff chart, sad or what??
Still appear to have not ov,d still and am on day????? Lost bloody count!!!! 17 saw my reflexology friend last nyt, think she has a point that maybe she over stimulated my ovarys whilst my reflexology session and maybe i ov,d then?? Which was day 5 i think....
So not holding out for a bfp this month, boo hoo!!!
Worm, yellow, sparkly, im keeping everything crossed for you both this month
wellie,wombat god you 2 seem like uve got the world aginst u at the minute, and harrassed, chin up, weve all been there, lean on your friends here, and we will try and help u as much as possible.
Im also on a personal 2 week wait as my would be due date is fast approaching, 22nd march, am dreading it.
Waves to all x

Hey pecka really, that can happen the over stimulation? Put a link to your chart here and let's have a look......erm only if you want to! It's not sad at all, I spend ages looking at my chart wondering if it's going tri-phasic or whatever it's called and why I haven't had an implantation dip.

sparkly I love peas....surely this cannot be true or it'd be more widely known?? I can't give up peas...or wine for that matter. I don't think cheese and all that stuff matters until a bit later on...or something.....anyway I've had so many bfn's that I won't change any behaviour until/unless I get a bfp. Although I did drink less wine than normal last night.......when is af due? cervix cam is def worth a look but better not in an office environment!

"Peas contain estrogen chemicals considered to have some contraceptive activity. Dr.Norman Farnsworth of the University of Illinois has acknowledged the oral contraceptive properties of P.Sativum (pea) oil.
Never depend on peas to keep you from conceiving, but men and women who are having trouble with fertility should avoid over consuming peas."

Define over-consumption though?

will do yellow will upload it today, taking my temps hasnt been my best quality as i have to get up at differnt times everyday due to my job, so there all over the place...
Sparkly, facinating info on the peas, i kinda glad i dont like them tbh, but its yet another thing to avoid when trying to conceive isnt it, i should be a size 8 you know with all the stuff i should avoid, not a size 12!!!

It wasn't a real fight. I want to make that clear so nobody thinks I'm a cow

And I am not royalty!

I am a sad old bint who pisses away far too much time on here.

[regularly advanced searches her username so she can see if people are being mean about her, the sad old bag emoticon]

...... She aint here yet ,
dunno if she will be on UK time or US but in Uk she would be here by now! Surely I couldn't be that jammy lucky could I? O god oh god oh god!

oooooooooooooh worm! Really trying not to get too excited for you! What time would it be if you were on US time?

Harassed - sorry to read you're feeling down and to add to others' wise words here, it is completely normal to be feeling that way and to also have days when it feels as if you will never be able to move on and days when things seem to be getting better and then days when you feel great and then something like the sight of another pregnant woman is enough to send you way back again. As yellow says - be kind to yourself, give yourself time and also I second making the phone call. MN is a brilliant support and it can also help to speak with someone in RL too. I saw a clinical pyschologist for a couple of sessions after 2nd MC and it really was hugely helpful so if you do have the opportunity to speak with someone else (on phone or in person) I'd highly recommend it. Sending hugs and many biscuits. Hope you enjoyed your night out.

sparkly - sorry too that you are feeling fed up about the whole ttc thing - completely understandable and I hope the cheese and wine have cheered you up a bit. If it makes you feel better, I had tears of laughter running down my face when reading about your pea t-shirt - you are officially the funniest person on mn!

I for one am ignoring the pea ban as I love them but feel certain I'm not going into the over-consumption mode - am curious also about over-consumption and having visions of American women shoving fistfuls of peas in them to ward off pg! (when I say shoving in them, I mean in their mouth in case of any you were wondering!)

Hecate - welcome to our thread. I have to confess that your name brought a warm glow back to A level English classes! BTW, what is a "ginnel"?!

pecka - how very frustrating for you re: ov - here's hoping your shagathon did the trick - heaven knows you should get a medal for trying. Sending hugs.

yellow - what DPO are you on now?

wellie - sorry the red witch got you, as you say, it's been a pretty stressful time. Here's to next month for you and hope you are enjoying the delights of Sydney in the mean time.

Not much to report from here other than I am doing the domestic goddess bit this arvo and have just put a batch of scones in the oven - never done them before so could all be disgusting!

Still thinking about worm....!

Waves to all x

thank you. I won't crash your thread because it's your private place, but will just say that a jennel is a footpath between two rows of houses or a covered path between to joined houses. jitty is also used for footpath between two rows of houses and jennel is really the covered path between two joined houses, but gets used in place of jitty too.

Oooh worm sounds promising, when are you back and when can you get hold of some sticks to POAS?

wombat I'm keeping with the peas too, love 'em! Thank you for the image of where else they might go, it hadn't occurred to me till you put that thought there!

Wow scones, love them, how did they turn out? Last time I tried I made them too thin.

I am on 10DPO, am feeling v optimistic based on nothing at all. Af due thurs or fri which would be extra annoying as it is interview day.

wwwwwhhhhhaaaaaa hecate i love the fact your search for your name to see if someones talking about you!!! And then BOOM!! In the middle of a conception thread u talk about a ginnel?? Or gennel, who cares i say??? Did make me laugh out loud though, x
worm i have everything crossed for you, u deserve a bfp, yellow praying and wishing she stays away for you interview next week.
wombat pass a scone, stuff the diet.....

Waves to all x

you not your bloody phone!!!

worm - where are you? Update please..... sorry, don't want to put any more pressure on you than you are probably putting on yourself....!

Ooh yellow - glad to hear re: the optimism. You're usually pretty regular right? Here's hoping she stays away for 2 reasons. Scones weren't bad though I say so myself - just plain ones (but did the lashings of obligatory cream and strawberry jam of course). pecka - help yourself! For some reason, they seemed to sell them everywhere in NZ and it got me inspired enough to buy a book of scone recipes while we were there, which of course is still in Christchurch - sigh.... so, good old bbcgoodfood.com came to the rescue with one of theirs. Would love to try some with rosemary, sundried tomatoes (sorry, not yellow ones though!) and feta but not sure of the proportions. Oh and in answer to your qus re: Dubai / NZ. I've been here just about 5 years now (arrived freshly single after about 13 years expecting to live the fun single life for a good while and then bam! - I meet DH about 6 weeks after I got here! Best brunch I've ever been to!) Despite the earthquake, I still would love to try living in NZ - DH not too fussed, he'd prefer Europe - I think it's one of those things where the UK is always there for me and NZ is always there for him. We have no fixed plans as to how long we will be here - quite a bit will depend on his job.

Gosh, what a me me me post! Hope everyone is having a wonderful weekend so far.

Not me me at all wombat I'm very nosy interested in hearing about it. So is that why you moved to Dubai for fun and sun?

I can't imagine living anywhere other than London as I love it so much.

Realised i am actually only 9DPO. Thurs will be 14DPO and CD 27 which was length of cycle last month but month before was 31 days so who knows!

Scones sound delicious. I love having afternoon tea but have never tried fhe type of savoury ones you describe, they sound delicious

I've been to the gym and am about to have a nap. Off to see friends tonight who live outside of London, will have to get a train and everything. The journey back will take nearly 2 hours but hopefully it'll seem faster as I'll have had plenty of wine!

Hahaaaa, can't believe I got she who must not be named (

Oh too late, you're on my thread's I'm on now.

And my List...

But seriously, you have me worried that I come across like I think I am Royalty. (which is a bad thing. Royalty is code for 'Thinks She Owns Mumsnet')

I don't. Honest.

at Yellow venturing outside the Smoke tonight - a train you say Yellow, remember your compass and Kendal mint cake, be safe!