TTC after MC, ERPC anyone want to join me??

[nurse47]

Hi ive been posting on the miscarrage forum but now feel ready to start all over again!
My story, Had my first MMC in nov 2007, followed by an erpc (worst moment of my life) this was my first pregnancy and i felt robbed. Waited for two periods and got pg with my little DD in feb 2008, i had a great pg and birth but was on constant knicker alert. We decided when she was two we would like another baby to add to the familiy, we decided to try in sept this year and got pg first time! (very shocked) I was so hoping this would be my time to have a stress free pg and actually enjoy the experience! How wrong i was, i started to spot at six weeks had a scan which showed a sac but no baby, i then enjoured the worst two week of my life by having scan and blood tests. I was told on the 8th on nov the pregnany was not going to continue and i had a blighted ovum, and on the 9th i had a erpc. I have recovered well and stopped bleeding the day after the procedure. I went to see my doc last week who told me i could start ttc asap as long as i feel up to it?? anyone else ttc straight away, last time i was told to wait and i did but this time i have read that there is no lit to say wait apart from to date the pg?? Im hoping there are some people who can share there experiences and someone who wants to join me!

Thanks for the reassurance ladies - you know how it is when you get an idea in your head - it breeds. Just been lurking on another thread and 1 lady took 11 weeks to get AF - yikes - hope not me too thank you. MrsB33 definitely take what the fortune teller said with a pinch of salt - I was told by one that I would only have 1 child that would take a long time to conceive - think she sensed my desperation. I have 2 now! Am chickening out of my blood test tomorrow - want to know where I am but scared of finding out I am nowhere in my cycle. My DS1 is 3 tomorrow - boy how the years have flown - feel like shedding a little tear at the loss of his babyhood - 3 is definitely little boy territory - no more a baby like they be still at 2!

Hello, would love to join you ladies if that's okay? The lovely kool and yellow found me on my own a bit confused and lost on another thread and kindly invited me over...

DH and I are ttc#1, but a few weeks after getting the BFP suddenly all my symptoms seemed to vanish. After a week of worry I managed to get a kind GP at our surgery to take me seriously and refer me for a scan - despite no pain or bleeding - and we found it was indeed a mmc. I was at 8 weeks. I had an erpc two weeks later (26th Nov), and am now suffering from retained products, just wishing it was all over because I'm desperate to start ttc again and hate seeing the days and weeks slip away. I'm next due a scan at the start of January and have been told to hope that my body will sort itself out with next AF (which I was concerned would never arrive until kool shared her story and made me feel much more optimistic). Its lovely to be able to chat about what's going on to someone other than DH, as heroic and wonderful as he's been I'm starting to feel that giving him regular bleeding/clots updates can't be pleasant for the poor bloke and maybe I need to take that sort of talk elsewhere...! Its just so hard and feels so all-consuming at the moment, and we haven't told anyone other than our parents in RL so I'm desperate for a bit of female support.

Its lovely to see so many of you on here getting AF after your erpcs - and in sync too! I'll have to hope to join in next month fingers crossed.

Looking forward to meeting you all and hopefully getting lots of BPFs together

hi and welcome strawberries and cream, your in a safe place on this thread and support and advice is exactly what you will get, i found mn a great form of support when i suffered my 1st mmc back in sept 21st, i was also 8 weeks, discovered at 13 weeks, and i naturally miscarried as the process had started already. I got my first af 5 weeks later and am just starting to ttc now. Give yourself time to recover after the mmc, it took my body 8/9 weeks just to get back to some kind of normality with my first af being fairly normal to only start bleeding again 5 days later???

Thanks for the advice of the fortune teller ladies, i think she was just saying it for effect too, i just really hard NOT to get obsessed with the details at the moment... Anyway!! Back to positive mrsb now.

Af due 22nd fingers crossed its late for at least 9 months!!! X

Hi strawberries and while I'm sorry you've had to find yourself on this thread, you're very welcome. As the others have said, it's a terrific place for support and reassurance that you're not turning into an OMW (obsessive mad woman) ! It must be incredibly frustrating re: the retained products but good to hear that you have an early Jan appointment. Time is a bugger - where is that fast forward button when you want it?! FWIW, after my first MC in June (natural at approx 7 weeks), we didn't tell anyone other than my parents. After the 2nd (ERPC mid Nov), we did decide to tell a few close friends and while it wasn't easy, we're definitely glad that we did - the support has been lovely.

Now ladies, here's a question for you. On this website www.pregnancyloss.info/first_period.htm they say that you should have no bleeding for a minimum of 20 days post the bleeding after ERPC for it to count as a proper period. What I thought was AF yesterday I don't think could be as it was less than 24 hours and very light.... nothing close to a normal period for me. Does anyone have any light to shed on this topic? read / heard anything about the first period / intermittent spotting? While that website does seem to contain lots of useful info, I don't know if the author is a health care professional (but don't want to discredit her as she's clearly very knowledgeable!)

Hope everyone else having a good Wednesday so far

I'm sure that an update on my AF is just what you want as you log onto this today(!), but panic stations over I think because as soon as I logged off here and went to the loo, AF seems to have returned and a bit more normal too.... please return to whatever you were doing before!

Ha wombat I was just about to type about mine been a slow starter too, when I saw your next post. Welcome to the AF club! and step away from the google!

Welcome strawberries I am here even though I was a natural but have found these ladies all lovely and supportive, christmas will help the time fly until your appointment.

I have everything crossed for you mrsb33 hopefully we will have our first BFP.
kitkey If you think 3 is tear enducing try having one aged 11 and wanting to go off to the school bus all on her own!!

Right the laptop is dying and I have to go to work now :( 3 more days then 17 off :) !!
Laters ladies xxxxxxx

Morning all
wombat hurrah for the AF arrival, it's exactly what I want to read about over breakfast I went for acupuncture yesterday and he stuck the needles in extra hard to stimulate hormones and get AF on her way. So fingers crossed I'll be joining you guys soon.

Welcome creamtea i am ttc my first as well but am on my second mmc. Apparently that only happens to 5% of people so I'm quite special My ERPC will be 5 weeks ago on Friday and still no AF but I'm hopeful! please feel free to share any of your worries here and there is no such thing as tmi, that's what we're here for

broughthim 17 days off? Wowzer that'd be so fabulous. Plenty of time to scoff chocolates rest and prepare yourself for lots of baby action in the new year.

kitkey have you decided to go ahead with the blood test today? Hope we both get AF soon.....

MrsB33 and the opposite to you, hope the AF doesn't arrive at all for 9 months!

Right am definitely going to the gym today! Even thought it's very cold, about 1 degree, I need to be brave before I run out of clothes that fit me!

Aw....you guys are great! Where else in the world could we spend so much time and detail on our AFs?!!

Welcome creamtea I'm glad the link worked and you joined us.

MrsB I have everthing crossed for you

winter I liked your AF update, made me laugh! I've looked at that website lots and found it pretty useful but I'm not sure I fitted exactly into the scenarios. It sounds like you're all up and running in the AF department now anyway but mine too started much more lightly then started 'properly' the next day. Mine only usually last a few days but this one is on day 4 with no signs of slowing down yet . Mind you I don't mind really as it'll hopefully get rid of my remaining tissue too.

brought wow, 17 days, enjoy!

yellow ouch! I used to have accupuncture too. Do you think it helped you conceive originally? Enjoy the gym today!

kitkey how are you today?

Hurrah I went to the gym, feeling very proud.

Re acupuncture, I don't know. For the most recent pregnancy we'd been trying for nearly a year, I had 2 sessions of acupuncture and was pregnant.......but it took a year the time before too so it could just be that it was time.

Hi everyone :)

Sorry i've not posted in a couple of weeks, i've felt a bit deceitful as i think we are holding of TTC til May, and going away to Florida May/June time. And this is a TTC thread after all.

I have been catching up daily with you all and all the new girls too. I'm glad to hear everyone is doing well and we have a few AF's arriving, yay!!

I'm 4 weeks and 3 days post ERPC and still no sign of AF arriving.
Funny enough, i had a call from a midwife today trying to get me to arrange my next appointment with her. I had to break the news to her and i think she felt really bad. Is there not something in place to stop this happening? I would have thought the hospital would pass on the info to the GP for the midwives to be notified!!

Looking forward now to Florida and a friends 30th birthday weekender in March and will then crack on with TTC i think. The kids have developed an obsession with Harry Potter at the moment so it feels that's all that is on in our house. We missed the Harry Potter World opening in Orlando last year by 8 days so they're very excited to be going back again.

Well done yellow! Am seriously impressed with anyone who can venture out in that sort of weather. Interesting re: your acupuncture. koolforcats are you going to go back for some?

We had our yoga session tonight (we have a fab lady that comes to our place to do it privately but for virtually peanuts). She knows all about our issues and so concentrates on lots of fertility poses etc. Bloody hard work at times!

Thanks for all your reassurances on AF - I felt a bit of a twit this morning....

Ditto for me keeping everything crossed for you mrsb - well, not entirely true - I hope you will allow me to uncross my legs in about 3 weeks time!

brought - am v about 17 days off but of course for you.

kitkey - any news on the bloods?

strawberry - I hope we haven't put you off with all our chatter. We're not always this active or indeed madly comparing mildly interested in each other's cycles...

sparkly, nurse - haven't heard from you guys in a wee while, hope all is well.

Right - off to luxuriate on the new couch - ttfn

star - good to hear from you and please don't feel bad. Be a lurker if you prefer, but we'd still love to hear from you. Fingers crossed for your AF soon too and sorry to hear re: your MW call.... enjoy Florida if we don't speak to you before and happy Christmas

ooh winter tell me more about fertility poses, that sounds interesting. I'm ready to try anything.

I finally got my pre-seed in the post so I'll be ready to go once my AF finally comes...

star good to hear from you, you're still very welcome here. Although we are going to start trying straight away it's taken so long each time before that I'm sure I'll still be here in May.

yes wombat, you keep those legs firmly crossed and high in the air mid month, i will allow it, as long as you keep your fingers crossed for me too, i need as much luck as possible.
Yellow, yes thats what i meant sorry, was stuck in a 3 hour traffic jam so wasnt fully concentrating, im hoping and praying i get no af for 9 months now! Xx

ladies ive also ordered some pre-seed and ov sticks from amazon just incase af raises her ugly head again this month!! As above fingers,legs and toes crossed for me please!

And brought 17 days off im dead jealous, try working in retail over christmas, ill need it come boxing day!
17 days off would be Amazing, maybe next year, (again fingers crossed)
X

Welcome Strawberries - sorry your about your MC - hope you get back to normal asap

Well me - I am baffled by my own investigations into my f**ked up body. So I had a positive OPK last Wednesday and Thursday with EWCM. Then spotting started on Monday eve which was only 5dpo - I did some bloods yesterday and my progesterone was 37 which is pretty indicative of ov - in all other phases of your cycle and to get AF it should be very low like 2 or 3 as the low progesterone is what cause the lining to shed. Good news - but I am still spotting and mild cramping - WTF?! I am really upset about the spotting and feel bamboozled by more body. The spotting is not reaching my pants except for mon but just apparent on a wipe ( TMI -a high wipe!!) I suppose all I can do is see if it turns into a normal AF. What i really hope is that this non exisistant bleeding is not a sorry excuse for AF. As you all know I have a bad fear of having ashermans syndrome post ERPC as was a bit reluctant for the op as my sister knows a bit about ashermans but I decided to go ahead for closure and now deeply regeret not waiting for a natural MC. Sorry to be a misery but think i am the rare case that has got it as was so apprehensiveto start with.

Hope you all have a good day - i'm off to count the pennies in the jar to see if I can afford to see a gynae privately if need be.

Oh kitkey sorry to hear that you are feeling so troubled. I guess in a 'normal' cycle if you ovulated last week you are still a week away from AF? Not sure about the spotting but as it is so light it might not really mean anything and you'll get the full flow next week? I had EWCM for about a week which ended nearly two weeks ago and not got AF yet. i guess I'm trying to say don't give up hope yet and try not to worry too much (easier said than done I know) until it has been at least 2 weeks since your ovulation.

MrsB33 you made me laugh, covering all bases. Hoping AF doesn't come but got OPKs and pre-seed just in case. I'm a bit nervous the first time I'll use it in case I put too much and .....well I guess it could get too erm slippy or something

Yoohoo ladies and welcome Strawberry! Sorry I haven't been in touch for a while, DH and myself went off for a boozy saucy couple of days in exotic Leeds, to do some Christmas boozing shopping and see James, who were fantastic. It was some sort of 20th anniversary tour, how old do I feel! Managed to mosh our way into the 2nd row, not bad for two old codgers! We'd got the tickets ages ago, I'd planned to park myself at the back with my 22 week bump, oh well!
Whilst away, guess what arrived? Go on go on go on.....yep, AF! I am in sync! It is my second since erpc so I feel a lot more back to normal, and ready to go for it in the New Year.

Just spent the night helping look after my 9 week old niece, she is at the lovely, smiley, attentive stage and made my heart melt, I want one! Won't be as angelic as that though, I have no doubt Love to you all, great to catch up and glad to see most people are more up than down, it does get better. Wombat, your hiding AF made me giggle, we are perhaps a little too paranoid in tune with our bodies at the moment! x

Thank you so much for such a warm and lovely welcome!

MrsB good to hear you're already at the ttc stage, and fx that AF stays away for you next week, what a fab Xmas present that'd be!

wombat I agree totally about the fast forward button, am so wishing these next few weeks of my life away! Glad AF made a proper appearance for you after the false start.

brought hope you're enjoying the 17 days off!

kool thanks so much again for sending me across here, everyone's lovely!

yellow so sorry to hear you've had to go through this twice, wishing you lots of ttc luck and hoping AF shows up for you v soon.

kit hope your body gets back to normal soon and puts your mind at rest.

star sorry you had to deal with the midwife call - I had the scan that showed up my mmc on the day I was supposed to have first meeting with the midwife, I was lucky that the EPU made the call to tell her we weren't coming (I think they felt sorry for me as I burst into floods of tears and started furiously scribbing out the midwife appt details in my diary).

sparkly Leeds sounds amazing and yay for AF!

All these AF appearances are making me feel much more positive for my own! Had another big bleed this week (bit scary even though I'd been warned it might happen) and am hoping that was the last of the retained products, fx.

Xmas has also managed to throw all my good intentions into turmoil, I'd decided I was going to stay off the alcohol and on the healthy living after the erpc - but now I know that AF (and therefore ttc) can't possibly arrive before Santa does I'm putting all the virtuous plans on hold until the New Year!

That's the way Strawbs, bottoms up

Hi everyone. I was clench234 on the due in June thread so recognise lots of you from there. Really pleased to find you as head is all over the place.
Went for my scan on 6th, development had stopped at 9weeks, 4 weeks earlier. I just wanted to get it out after it had been in there for so long so opted for ERPC the next day. Have been up and down ever since, never felt like this before - don't really know how to feel or what to do to shake this. I already have 2 ds so don't feel like I should be desperately wanting a baby, just feel really sad and a bit lonely. My GP signed me off work until xmas because I have quite a stressful job and I just couldn't face it. DH is being lovely, he was more shocked than me as he has been Mr positive when I was worrying (felt really anxious ahead of scan, think I must have known on some level), its hard for him as he has to go back to work and throw himself into all the xmas celebrations etc. How are your partners dealing with it?
Anyway, GP says can start trying again as soon as bleeding has stopped. It has, so we have, but it doesn't seem to make me feel any better.
Anyway, sorry for outpouring, lots of love to everyone else going through the same stuff. Good to hear that lots of you have AF and bodies seem to be getting back in synch. Sorry to hear so many traumatic stories. Hopefully we'll have lots of good news on here at some point.
Thanks for listening. x

Hi girls and welcome strawberry! Sorry I've been off the radar I too have been on a saucy few days away in york enjoying shopping!!! If my cycles are back on track I should ov in the next couple of days! Going to BD but to be honest I'm not thinking about it till after new year by the I should have had my 2nd AF and I'm going to diet and go T total for a couple of months its like rehab after xmas!! Is everyone ready for christmas?? I just have my wrapping to do!
:ow is everyone coping emotionally wise?? I've found out this week two more friends (not close) are pg and to be honest I've been fine not got upset once so I think I'm emotionally ready to try again!
Sorry to ramble on!

manamana Sorry you are here, but welcome all the same xxxx

Manamana sorry your here too but again welcome I hope you can seek some support and comfort on here its a great place to rant, cry, and share how your feelin without been judged! X

Manamana sorry your here too but again welcome I hope you can seek some support and comfort on here its a great place to rant, cry, and share how your feelin without been judged! X

I just made the mistake of looking on Jue in June