Charter's Anonymous: Volume 3, here's to better luck this time for us all!

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A shiny new thread girls and hopefully we shall all get merrily up-duffed with sticky beans

digi - everyone is entitled to feel depressed and shitty - this is exactly the right thread for you. We all know how it feels to see the months whizz by. After my MC in October I made DP take the cot down and put the pram in my friends attic. We bought them at the begining of the year before my 1st MC - before I knew how common and crap MC's are, xxx so don't be worried about posting your thoughts and feelings xx

terrys have you and your dh collapsed in an exhausted heap yet? :) hope you get your crossed hairs soon!
mouse it took me a bit of time to get to grips with FF too, - the first time I entered my temp it told me it didn't believe me as I chart in celcius too. You just need to have a play about with it xx
lady meant to say I am really pleased that things are going well for you xx

Nothing going on here, AF still here, still light but am going with it for now. I go and see dp on thursday and then he is over here after that so I hope we hit my OV (if my body reverts back to my usual cycle ) so FX for this month :)- The only trouble being is that everytime I see him I end up with a raging urine infection from too much sex

Oh digi it's not the wrong thread at all (or at least if it is they should have all told me to bog off by now too...)

Is it about CD30 for you now?

This baby making lark can be so soul destroying and I really do feel for you. Wish I could say something helpful or promise you success but I can't. I really hope it happens for you soon and the next one sticks.

Remind me, what blood tests are you waiting for? Is it for thrombophilias?

Thanks battery and spilt. Yes am cd30 today, I started counting CDs from first day of red. I was ov-ing between cd23-24 between mc's and hoped body would only be a week out as I've been taking ac and had a session of acupuncture. But maybe I'm just still too upset. Everyone on here just seems to be hatching egg after egg while I'm still waiting. I know it's not been that long, I am just having a down day.

We have a cot, carseat, Moses basket, baby bath, bouncer and hundreds of baby clothes that I haven't wanted to lend out to anyone just in case.

Is anyone having trouble getting into FF today? Tried a few times and it's not loading....

Its working for me GetDown

digi we are here for good and bad, I have found TTC-ing to be a very emotional process (and I have not gone through the difficulties that some of you have) so this is the place to share the good and bad of it all. I hope you have a nice evening! Do you have a cellar or shed as somewhere to store the baby things until you're ready for them?

I don't think you should give up yet coastgirl your temps are still quite above the coverline.

spilt I felt exactly that way about charting this week, just so impressed and clever that our bodies can be predicted and we can understand the whole process. No SWI this am, DS is up tooooo early for that (6.45am).

battery I hope you and DH can time it right this month, FX for you!

Nice evenings all. I am very excited about watching X-Factor tonight - both shows!!

BTW - I don't think I can get crosshairs tomorrow as my temps were so high in the beginning, maybe on Tuesday morning. What do you think??

Chart here

Sorry you are feeling low digi I think we all run a little low on hope from time to time, however, we have to keep picking ourselves up and trying again (frustrating as it is).

Thanks Terrys I am in FF friend now, don't know what went wrong earlier

I've been feeling a bit low too Despite apparently timing things just right this month (had positive OPK, EWCM, soft open cervix etc) I have absolutely NO symptoms, and amd feeling very non-pregnant. AF due on wednesday but don't think I'll even bother to test

Arrrghh. What could have happened when you time it right but nothing? Do you think you usually conceive but the problem is with implanting? Or do you usually just not get the egg to fertilise?

Terrys hopefully you will get another temp uplift tomorrow. It's great you had a positive OPk and other signs. My chart showed a gradual increase in temp over a number of days after ov. so maybe that will be the case with yours too...
GetDown's Chart

HELP!!!! Please help me.

Temp went up again today and I think I'm either12 or 14 dpo. I POAS - Internet cheapy = twp so naturally I peed on a FR = BFP

what the hell? What if it's fake and I need another operation?

What are the chances 44 days post erpc I'm pg again?

Can't stop shaking. Don't know what to think. Mouse xx

Hi mouse - it can happen that you are pg after your erpc - my friend is 16 weeks pregnanat now - she fell 3 weeks after her op. I really really hope you are - :) did you get a negative test after your erpc ?

Same as what Battery said. Did you ever get a negative test? I would think is more likely you are pregnant personally esp as you have been able to identify ovulationa and your temp is rising and not falling! Options: Test again tomorrow using same type of test, same time of day etc - if it is darker is prob pg; if lighter prob not; Go to Doctors and get a Quantitative HCG test, they will repeat that in a couple of days and if it doubles then you are pregnant.

But I think/hope congrats may be in order! How do you feel? Any symptoms?

Want to give you a huge hug, lovey. Is a scary and exciting time xxx

Hi all

Mouse congrats - how do you feel?

Temp went up this morning, highest its been this cycle - yay. FX for another rise tomorrow and I think FF will give me a OV day of CD16 as I thought.

Chart here

Oh wow mousebacon - sounds exciting! Hope it really is what you think it is! Do you want to link to your chart?

Glad your temp has gone up again Terrys looks like CD16 for ov.

I'm on 11DPO. Have some very mild cramps but nothing else. I'm sure I would have sore boobs by now if I was pregnant wouldn't I? Trying not to feel too disappointed...

Thanks ladies, I feel fine. Had some shooting pains down my boobs a couple of days ago but nothing else. My wee has smelt rather strange (which I did wonder about!) but nothing else. I didn't have any early symptoms with the failed pg either.

Right, will phone the docs. I have 1 internet cheapy left so will do that either in the morning or in a couple of days to see if it's getting stronger. Don't know if you can remember but I did 6 last time and had all manner of shades!

Have resolved not to tell DH coz if it's bad news ie - need another erpc it might just tip him over the edge.

I did have a negative about a week after the erpc and they were very confident that they'd got everything.

Oh God, if this is it I'm so happy but I don't want to get excited yet. I know you know what I mean.

I have some v mild cramps but that means nothing.... I wish my tummy was transparent!!

Thanks for your responses and GOOD LUCK TERRY!!!

I think if you were clear after the EPRC this is prob it! What you could do is call the EPU and explain your concern - they might do the bloodwork. And could scan to see if they can see anything leftover from last time or if they can see a new sac? Not sure how early they can do this though.

Just spoke to the doctor who said after an erpc it's highly unlikely to be product from a previous pg. His advice was to wait 2 weeks and test again!! Aagghh!!! xx

mousebacon have everything crossed for you. What a rollercoaster of highs and lows. Hope you get good times ahead.

Terrys fingers crossed too and hope some of the recent runs of good luck rubs off here.

I am only CD7, so expecting to wait at least another 9 days before any hope of ov. Have had 2 acupuncture sessions though, so am closely watching CM in case it brings it forward.
My acupuncturist lives on a farm in the middle of bloody nowhere though so this week's session may well be off if the roads are too icy.

I will join Getdown in that it is very frustrating and low to be continually trying with no success (DP pointed out I need to stop worrying though). We SWI so much last cycle and still nothing, though ff says I ov CD25, despite no EWCM by then and we stopped SWI everyday by CD23.
I think the plan this cycle is to start SWI from around CD15 and then do it every other day till CD26, just to be sure given my slow rise temps.

TBH, I'm half tempted to do what we did with DD conception and throw caution to the wind and eat and drink what I like, assume I won't get pg and then have the law of sod interrupt me! (I can dream).

Digi like you, I have kept all DD's baby stuff and don't know when is the right time to give up. I'm 39 in March - am getting too old I think....

Oh and have completely failed to find cervix. My tummy is too big fingers are too short

mouse tentative congratulations! Really hope it's a new pregnancy for you. How terrifying and fantastic!

My chart. Would you agree it looks like I laid an egg yesterday? (Had flu jab on CD3 which is prob why CD4&5 show a bit of a peak)

How are you feeling coastgirl?

MrsA yup it took me ages to locate my cervix. I can do it now when sitting on the loo and putting my hand behind me and going in that way. Can't do it from the front. TCOYF reckons squatting is a good position as the cervix drops lower then.

GetDown hope it's your month. It's perfectly normal to have no symptoms this early so don't rule it out.

Hope you're ok digi xx

Hi there MrsA it is so frustrating isn't it, that you can do everything right and still not get pregnant.

The throwing caution to the wind is a good approach, but just don't think I could do it! I'm too much of a control freak!

Hope you get ov soon. 9 days is not too long to wait really, and as you say, maybe your acupunture will bring it forward a bit.

It's easier to find your cervix if you kind of, ummm, squat down

great minds GetDown

thanks spilt I really hope you're right... when I've been pregnant before I've always had sore boobs and a little bit of nausea by now, so kind of don't think I can be....

But they do say every pregnancy is different, so I'm not going to give up hope entirely. Will test on thursday I think.

yep the good old squatting trick

You may well have ov'd yesterday spilt as you have a good high temp today. Give it another couple of days to confirm it.

Maybe one of you can help? I've remembered I'm due a smear test (was due when pg but obviously they didn't do it then). I ought to get that done before we ttc again. I've never had one before. How do I sort this?

Is it a nurse or GP appointment?

The nurse does smears usually. Just ring up your surgery and ask for one.

My surgery do "well woman" clinics that you can book in advance.

It's not pleasant, but certainly worth doing, esp while you know you are not pregnant.

My last one went fine, apart from the fact the nurse was a family friend . Must check name of nurse next time I book!

Thanks will do. Maybe will have a session with the Veet first too