Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all, laughing. All welcome (Part 6)

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A lovely place for those either lurking, waiting, WTFing or SWI after MCing...

...with optional fish slapping

Hello all . Posting and running but will try to catch up tomorrow.

hcg has more than doubled and is 980 and they will scan me next Friday!!

Jesus crying my eyes out to grand designs .... HELP!!
WAVES to everyone just been catching up with all the news...was feeling really proud of myself earlier...I work in a kids dept!!!!! my first week back was a bit shakey, but not because of the clothes, endless fresh babies and bumps... But because 2 others are preggers. So today I finally looked One in the eye and talked about her pregancy.... She is or was 10 days ahead of me.....
and the other is was a week behind. So happy I crossed that bridge with no tears, obviously I have some really difficult milestones to share with her as we work in same dept. Like you all I'm hopeing to be preggers before the due dates......O dear up & down...up & down

thinking of you all xxxxxx

hairy what does that mean? Fab news - could there be a pair of beans in there!??

Thank you all so much for your advice and help. I had a ERPC (which btw is the most disturbing, horrible term ever!). I think I am just being impatient for my body to return to something approaching normal. I will do a pregnancy test to see if I am still testing positive (very weird to want a negative!)

Well done Urbanlolly. Everyone seems to be pregnant and it is so hard to not spend the whole time thinking That is supposed to be me! My sister is 20 weeks and one of my friends only 5 weeks ahead exactly same as for our other two.

Thanks to all for being so helpful!

Gosh nickster no! It should at least double every two days and it has :)

Hello a&rmum Sorry you too find yourself here i too lurked for quite a while before saying hello to everyone. You'll find great support here....I too had a mmc and only found out @ first scan, Its devastating.

Time and the girls here will most certainly ease some of the pain.

But be warned it's impossible to keep up with them!!!

Xxxxxx

hairy fantastic news about your hcg! really really delighted to hear that things are going well.

A&R yeah you are right it is the most horrific term and I reckon it should be renamed. My baby was not a P of C. He or she was a little human life.

lolly that must have been so hard going back to work in that environment. Well done you! It is really hard to see other pregnant people when you know you ought to be too.

. Haven't seen you for a few days, how're you doing?

a&rmum - welcome to the thread. I'm so sorry you're here, I also had a mmc after two normal uneventful pregnancies and healthy births, found out at 16 week appointment. I know how much of a shock it is and I'm sorry you've had to go through it . I had an ERPC and made sure I got the -ve on a HPT before trying again because I didn't want to be worrying about whether it was s new pregnancy or leftover hormones. For me it took a week to get the BFN, so you may not gave to wait too long.

((( urbanlolly ))). Sorry you've had a crap day, it's really hard to see pg women and think "that should be me!". I have had 4 birth announcements on fb in the last 10 days, I'm really pleased for them all but the relentless onslaught of happy baby pics is starting to get to me now.

nickstermum - I would second the sexy if uncomfortable underwear, cooking and beer. Another sure-fire technique in this house is doing the early morning shift with DCs and granting a lie-in, especially a weekend lie-in. Guaranteed to bring on Gratitude Sex within 24 hours

Nearly forgot - hurray hairy!!!!!! Go, mini-HT !!!!

Hairy fab news....

Cant use the "up all night" excuse, thats for today DS decided to get up for the day at 2am We both finally went back to sleep at nearly 5am... now i have a monster day to get through before my weekend starts tonight!

Izz thankyou Gratitude Sex?? Not heard that one before.... up there with the term Sympathy Shag!

I find that waking him up with sex usually works, get his body to agree before his mind catches up!

I suspect ERPC was thought up by a man in a big office, or a robot, or a combination of the two.. manbot?

Go Hairy HpT! thats very good news.

oh, I forgot, can I have a fish slap? Despite being only 8 dpo, and even worse, having not had any meaningful sex this month, I did a POAS. Which was of course...
A) Negative
B) Stupid
C) A waste of a quid
D) All of the above.

Send me the whale

YRMOTB has now earned the title of widdlesticks! TBH DH is a morning person, sadly i am not.. far too grumpynot alert before coffee kicks in!

mamap by dimple do you mean the opening to the cervix? I thought it felt a bit different last night and am now panicking slightly thinking that I am actually ovulating, on time, after all. Tried to seduce DH last night with an 'honestly, I just feel a bit saucy, it's not cos I think I might get pregnant' line, but he didn't fall for it and was highly uncooperative. Sooooooo frustrating when they do that. Will try again tonight

Sorry for not name checking everyone but hello and welcome to any newbies

Tunnocks ((hugs)) it will get better.

I'm really sorry I'm not writing personals. I'm struggling to keep up with the thread and don't want to miss anyone out, so end up not posting at all. Am also struggling emotionally and suspect my posts would not be very cheery at the mo. Will try to do better.

(((((( big hugs )))))) to wombat and tunnocks - I'm sorry you're both having a bad time of it

tunnocks I remember after the ERPC feeling like everyone expected me to just return to normal and I just felt so so sad, and empty and alone, and I really really missed my baby even though we had never really met, does that make sense? Two months on, and it's still hard, and I still have wobbly moments but they're getting further apart all the time. It does get easier to bear, but try not to put too much pressure on yourself to get there too quickly. x

I wish I could see happy things in the future too. At the moment I just can't get past the fact that I have a c.60-70% chance of losing any future pregnancy. It makes achieving our dream of a family seem almost impossible. And I'm getting more and more paranoid that physically there's something else wrong. Argh, I'm driving myself demented.

((((((huge hugs)))))) to tunnocks and wombat sorry you're both feeling so down.

tunnocks it is really tough after the ERPC, but it does get easier... little by little. Don't beat yourself up about your mothering skills, I think all of us with a dd or ds already have been there. You're doing the right thing, taking care of yourself and letting DH look after your DS. I highly approve of curling up on the sofa with brothers and sisters on...in fact, I may do the very same thing this afternoon

hehehe jam you make me giggle. I think hubbies should be much more obliging!

good luck persuading DH nicks, think you've got some pretty good steps there.

and hairy WOOOOOOOOOHHHHHOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!
so pleased for you. that must put your mind at rest a little bit? Now... we just have to keep you sane until the perfect scan next week and it'll be plain sailing!

any news from MummyA with results? Thinking of you lovely. x

welcome AandR, so sorry you've found yourself here... snuggle down on the sofa and help yourself to copious amounts of wine/tea and chocolate!

I'm doing better today, feeling more positive...like maybe things WILL work out well in the end.

hello to izzy, mamap, lolly and everyone else

Big hugs tunnocks (haven't worked out how to bold yet?!?) I completely empathise with the 'not settling' thing. My DD having happily been at nursery since Jan has suddenly started crying everytime I drop her off. I can only guess she is picking up on my rather unsettled state. I am sure it will get better soon ((She says hopefully))!

hello everyone

I too am suffering from not keeping up, and posting all about myself guilt. Sorry!

tunnocks massive hugs for you, its really is a rough time. Its normal to use all your strength to just "get through" the ERPC and medical aftermath, and then really start feeling the loss emotionally afterwards. I think it the body's clever way of protecting us from having to deal with it all at once. I have a DS too, and found that I just couldnt give him the attention I used to, I was forever lost in thought instead of being there for him. I also rushed him out of nappies and into a big bed while I was pregnant, left him with nannies while I was at hospital appointments and then felt so incredibly guilty when I saw it was affecting him. He is fine now though, and I feel better too, partly due to time (its 6 months on) partly because I am not beating myself up as much. We do the best we can to get through it! I found reading this helped me realise everything I was feeling was so very common.

wombat big hugs for you too! Why do you have a 60-70% chance? (sorry if you have already explained this and I missed it) I know how awful it is to let worry start taking you over. I am need to make a massive effort to stop worrying so much, because its not doing me any good at all!

My news: scan results are complete gobbledegook. Have an appointment with a lung specialist on 7 Oct (my due date!) so I should find out then if all is OK. I am massively relieved that at least I have done it (was quite scary and the contrast dye hurt and made me feel sick) Starting Progesterone today to bring on period.

I thought we all might need a bit of this! Enjoy xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hi to apple, jamface, YRMOTB, Izzy, Nix, Kat, Lolly

and hello to AandRMum

How are you feeling today?

Your wheelbarrow sounds just the ticket MA. Am completely ignoring my two DDs with the effect that I just tracked DD2 through the house by finding the poo which was falling out of her nappy and have DD1 moaning so much I just want to screaaaaaammmmmm. Nice to know it possibly gets better as I am worried I am doing permanent damage whilst I am MIA. Waiting for lump results is the worst - brilliant that you have had it checked though. In the same week as my mc, I had to have tests for a lymph node in my neck (which I had ignored for over a year in the hope it would magically resolve itself) - of course I managed to google links between mc and thyroid and also high cancerous risk for thyroid lumps during pregnancy (I presume this is a classic fish slapping episode!) In any case it resulted in me blubbing madly at my consultant after a weekend of imagining every worsening scenarios -the consultant was completely perplexed that the seemingly sane woman from the week before had turned into the moronic idiot sitting in front of him!! Thankfully all was fine! Good luck with the 7th Oct!

hmm definitely in brain dead mode - just noticed all the helpful hints right next to the text box explaining how to do all the cool editing tricks ... wine and sushi fix required tonight (there have to be some benefits of not being up the duff)