We're taking the train...some now boarding, some delays, some still standing on the platform! TTC 'Waiters' IIT!

[bebejones]

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Welcome aboard, make yourselves comfy I have a feeling it's going to be a bumpy ride!

wow lovely im so jelous wish my DP was that romantic

Wow, congratulations jbells!! it must be a bit of a surprise to find yourself pregnant when you were hoping to ttc.

And how nice about the qweekend away 100years. Where are you going?

A belated happy birthday strawberry :) sounds like it was a big success.

js yes let us know how the interview goes!

I am feeling virtuous after going to the gym last night and finding out that I'm not too unfit after all :) just need to keep going, but I'm doing a fun run later in the year (only a mile) so at least there's something to aim for.

thanks squirral whywait i was surprised but had a feeling i was pregnant for weeks, was more shocked when the tests i was taking kept saying negative, hopefully my refferal form will come today

JBells - Wow! Congratulations! Try to relax, I'm sure it will be fine & worrying won't be helping (I know that's easy to say!)

AC - at your DH for saying that to you! Hope you are ok today. Think that any contraception that takes a while to get out of your system would possibly not be wise if you are planning on TTC (DH willing ) but you need to do what feels best for you!

100 - very , wish my DH was that romantic/spontaneous!

WW - glad you had a nice time at wedding! :)

DHs depression is really starting to drag me down. Feel so miserable today & just can't shake off this big dark cloud. So much to do and just lacking all energy/motivation to do it!

It's been over 18months of DHs up & down work depression starting to really get on top of me now I think! Plus he has an abcyss (sp?) on one of his teeth & can't get a dentist appt for 2 weeks...and that's as an emergency! So he exactly like a bear with a sore head tooth!

One more injection to go. Then am on the home stretch! Got loads of things to cook today, none of which I ought to eat! :( Cake for toddler group, Lemon Curd for my mum, homemade pizza & homemade wedges for DH & DDs dinner! I shall be having vegetable soup at 115cals! So can I request virtual warm choc fudge brownies with vanilla ice cream & chocolate fudge sauce?! :o

jbells Huge congratulations on your BFP!!! THink that makes you the train driver as you wer already onboard before it pulled ino the station!!!

AC credit to you for putting your DH's needs and desires above your own. I hope that yo gave him hell for his "hopefully you;ve learnt your lesson" comment. [anrgy] On the contraception front, I would be tempted to say to him that he has 3 chopice:

1. no sex
2. SWI and the possibility of a baby
3. Persona and condoms (think that this was what you were planning on doing once your cycles settled down after the pill)

Do not let him force you into going on the pill or getting injections if you don't want to. If only they had released the male pill, I wonder how he would feel about taking that?!?!?

bebe It must be awful for you to have to deal with DH's depression and stree as well as your own feelings about TTC and your injections. Hopeullyyou hliday will give you a little bit of time to get away from things and talk over the reaswons he is so stressed at work etc. Men can be funny buggers and never seem to want to talk about 'emotional issues' but when youd drag it out of them they feel a lot better. Daft buggers!

My interview went ok this morning. Really hard to tell what they think but I should have an answer by the end of the week. They are considering 2 other candidates, one external and the temp that is covering the position at the moment. The agent thinks that I should have a pretty good chance but I am now a bit worried that they will go for the temp because they know her....... damn it! Please can you all cross your fingers?!?!?

bebe it is so hard to stay positive when your hb is stressed out! My hb has had a lot of stress in the past year, but luckily for him things are changing now. Is there an end in sight?

I'd like one of those choc fudge brownies, but after I've eaten bebe's wedges and pizza :)

Am resisting the urge to take a spoon to the jars of lemon curd I just made....it's so yummy! (Even if I do say so myself :o)

JS - Got everything crossed for you, hope they let you know soon, the waiting must be awful!

WW - unfortunately we just can't afford for DH to go private, he needs lots doing & it would cost us hundreds, which we simply do not have!

WW/JS/Squirrel - I know alot of what is going on already for DH. It's mega stressful. Without saying too much, DH is self employed (technically, he works for/with his dad) the business is financial (mortgages, loans etc) and so they have been hit really hard in the recession. There is always light at the end of the tunnel but it just feels like everytime they get close the light moves further away or goes out completely! :( Just hoping that something improves soon coz at the moment I really can't see DH being in a mental state to have another DC :( Let alone him feeling finacially stable enough to TTC. Just hoping that he manages to get a couple of days holiday with us, he really needs a break & it'll give him some time to breathe & re-focus IYKWIM?

So, enough of me, me, me & dragging everyone down! It's only Tuesday, things can only get better right?!

Yup - things can only get better as the wek goes on!!

Was supposed to clean the house this aftenoon but only managed to sort out my wardrobes and clear our bedroom..... Was feeling wiped out and so had a litle naand now I'm feeling like a complete space cadet. Must be the cold making me feel so spaced and rough.

Thanks everybody for the good luck wishes for today. Lets hope they work :)

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thanks everyone, just bin reading thru thread will reply properly lata when DD is in bed and i can get 5 mins to myself

congratulations jbells! How amazing that you knew all along that you were pregnant!

bebe is your DH receiving treatment for the depression? If not have you thought about mentioning it or would that be difficult? (men don't like talking about stuff like that do they?) It's a shame that when we are feeling down we take it out on those closest to us-I hope things improve soon-you sound much more positive after the virtual choc fudge cake though! :)

Fingers and toes still crossed for you JS!

whywait - I got some lovely presents thank you including LOTS of champagne......DP talked about saving some for celebrating a pregnancy/birth but then realised I would't be able to drink it then anyway! Oh well, I'm sure I'll think of another good excuse... :)

JBells congratulations! Hope you're going to stick with us now you're up the duff. Hopefully someone will be joining you before long - it just won't be me. See what a lucky thread this is - you don't even have to try and you can get pg!

Just wanted to defend DH a bit. I totally forced the issue on the NPP (I physically restrained him from opening the drawer) which was a bit crazy. I did think it was probably a safe day but I wasn't completely sure. DH is happy to use any contraception - in fact thank goodness there's not a male pill, or I'd never have children! The problem with contraception is that I seem to be in a bit of a mentally fragile state and can't cope with taking pills to stop babies or putting on condoms to stop babies. It makes me so miserable. My ideal would be to use FAM with Persona for back up, with abstinence on red days. But (probably quite rightly!) DH doesn't trust me to do that.

JS glad the interview went ok. The temp might not have an advantage, she might be not that good. Will keep my fingers crossed for you.

Bebe things sound very bleak indeed. Your poor DH must be at his wits end. It's a very stressful time for everyone but being self-employed must be particularly difficult.

Strawberry pie it's lovely that your DP is so on board. I'd get on with it if I were you! The champagne will put you in the mood!

Whywait thanks for the advice about the injection. I thought about the diaphragm but it wouldn't be much different from condoms IYSWIM? Basically I don't want to use any form of contraception that prevents pg lol.

JBells can I add another congratulations! What exciting news. Promise us you'll stay aboard the train and keep us updated.

AC sorry about your MAP bollocks. I think you made the right (hard) decision to take it - however hard it was to take it, I'm sure you want your conception to be a happy occasion, not one marred by dishonesty with DH. I can totally understand where you're coming from with the contraception aversion though - such a hard place to be in when your body's going BREED! BREED! and you're also trying to make some room for the rather half-hearted 'rational' voice that 'agrees' to do the contraception. I've got no idea what the solution is either I'm afraid. A nunnery?

JS crossing many things for your interview.

Bebe I am amazed at your restraint - I would find it impossible to cook a pizza and then not eat it.

And WhyWait I am well jealous of your weekend away! I have been thinking about doing the same thing for my DP, he really needs a holiday.

Drumming my fingers over here still waiting for AF - currently on 33 days which is a long time for me (first cycle off the pill - although last time I came off I don't recall it buggering things up). It's so blimmin distracting!

hey everyone i wont be going anywhere i really like this small tightnit little community weve formed and now im comfy on a luxury train with loadsa lovely goodies made by the lovely bebe as she is always cooking and baking away, but still manages to lose weight, dont know how u do it bebe if i was that good a cook i would be constantly eating lol, i like that we talk about other things on here other than babys appointments and the competition to how sick your feeling lol

AC i hope your feeling better now, and things with your DP have improved

bebe i am having a tough time with DP at the moment to with DP's work hes just got new job and its putting a lot of strain on things which just isnt good at this time, i supose its much harder when your self employed because u can never just switch yourself off from work, hopefully things will improve soon

quodlibet have u done pregnancy test i was only off pill for one week last time i got pregnant with DD and this time just missed a few and when in previous years i have come off pill it hasnt really affected my period, fingers crossed 4 u, r u feeling any diff?

strawberry glad u had such a lovely bday, im sure we can find u lots of excuses to drink the champagne and im sure a small glass wudnt do u any harm when u get pregnant to celebrate ;)

JS glad your interview went well :) i think we all have that fear that they will pick someone they know, but hopefully they will do the right thing and just pick the person that will be the best for the job, will keep my fingers crossed for you

whywait glad u had such a nice wkend and hopefully the time around all those cute lil ones will rub off :o

i promise i wont bore u all with all my symptons and raging hormones lol

I had a bite of pizza & 5 potato wedges, I think that was very restrained! I did however have to share my bread roll with DD My food is not my own anymore, I always have to share!!

AC - anti contraception that prevents PG so, abstinence it is then Whether you restrained him or not, he still didn't have to 'do the deed' did he?! Blame on both sides I guess, don't put it all on you! You have the added burden of battling with your hormones & sometimes they have the loudest voice!

Quod - think odd cycles are to be expected after you stop. Can't remember what happened with me when I stopped but mine have always had a tendancy to be a bit all over the place

Strawberry - I still have a bottle of Champagne from my 21st...not sure it'd be wise to drink it now though You could save it til after LO is born, I had a glass when I got home from hospital & I was BF, but I drank it after a feed so it'd have time to not be in milk before the next one! Or you could just drink it all now to get you in the mood for some SWI!!

DH was prescribed anti depressants last year but he didn't take the prescription to the chemist, he thinks I don't know this but I found it in the desk drawer! He also saw a therapist for a while but hasn't seen her in months, it's a bit expensive! Just hoping that things will turn a corner soon, but feel like I've been saying that for a year!

So desperately broody at the moment, just know I'm going to get a grilling from my mum about it on holiday! She wants more grandchildren!!

xposts JBells - hope you are feeling ok & get some rest tonight! Did the referral form come today?

Jbells are you just thinking constantly about the fact that you have a little secret in your belly? Do you want to keep doing more tests?

Lol Bebe he was already doing the deed when I restrained him and it's not like I'm stronger than him, quite the opposite.

I totally think it was the right decision Quadlibet. I wonder where your AF has got to...

morning all, still no referral form, and yes AC i would prob do a tet everyday for the nxt few weeks if i cud but im trying to restrain myself lol

Morning ladies!

Back in the office and still feeling bloody grim - why oh why can't I get rid of this bloody cold?!?!?

AC do not feel bad about "restraining" your DH from opening the condom drawer, I am sure that if he was really against UPS then he could have stopped. As for the non contraceptive contraception..... I'm not really sure what to suggest!!

bebe I think you have earnt the position of the luxury train chef thanks to your baking and cooking skills..... looking forward to our 4 course extravaganza tonight, what's on the menu?!?

Quod Sorry to hear that your cycles are a bit funny. I thought I was lucky with mine after stopping as they settled into 30 days cycles. I was then completely thrown when I had a 35 day one that came from nowhere (cue me being very excited about being possibly PG and then a little bit gutted when AF arrived )

bebe sorry to hear that your DH decided against the anti depressants. Men can be really funny about them. When I met my DH I was taking them after years of having problems with eating disorders. He hated that I was on them and I eventually weaned myself off. I think they don't like the idea that they will change your emotions but if it is for the better and makes everybody more happy I don't really see the problem. If you have the flu, you take pills for that so why not do the same for depression??
Maybe you should talk to him about gettting the perscription filled?!?

Had a rubbish evening. Was feeling awful and DH had booked theatre tickets to a play I was really not that bother about seeing. At the end he asked if I had enjoyed it and I was honest and told him it wasn't really my thing (what I was dying to say was that it was terminally depressing and over acted!!) We somehow got into an argument about me being miserable and not positive about the job I had interviewed for and it escaleted until we were shouting at eachother for no aparent reason - we NEVER argue! Think I was just tired, feeling ill and a bit down about the prospect of having to stay in my crap job. I really think that they are going to choose the temp for the role and so am not getting my hopes up. I don't know how much longer I can stay working for the complete arse I work for before I crack and tell him what I really think!!!! We made up as soon as we realised how stupid the argument was and all is well but I think it is all just getting on top of me at the moment. I need a break :)

jbells sorry that your refferal hasn;t arrived, bloody NHS!!!