We're taking the train...some now boarding, some delays, some still standing on the platform! TTC 'Waiters' IIT!

[bebejones]

Old thread here

Welcome aboard, make yourselves comfy I have a feeling it's going to be a bumpy ride!

Speaking as someone who has been waiting well over a year it will pass in a flash! I cannot believe we are nearly in November already!!

Make a list of all the things you would like to do/achieve that are seemingly impossible with a very small baby/child in tow. Then set about trying to do/achieve them! I wish I had done this before DD! It will focus your mind, & occupy your time!

Had a bit of a :( moment last night! DH & I were talking about my diet. He told me to stop stressing, go a bit easy then I can start again in the New Year trying to lose weight! I want to be gaining another person (and their weight) not dieting!!!

Hi all! I caved too and did a test this morning - came out negative. I thought that getting pg immediately was too good to be true! Still no sign of AF though, but I'll probably be on the august bus soon :)

AC it's good that you finally have an end date and hope you can make the most of the child free months.

jbells how was the fudge?

wyorkslass shame about the flat, but I'm sure the market will recover and you will eventually sell. And if it doesn't, having rent as a source of income while you're on maternity might not be such a bad thing?

I've already been waiting and wanting to start trying for over a year. It was November last year when I joined MN. I guess it's passed quickly in a way... Any suggestions for things to achieve that are seemingly impossible with a small person in tow? I need cheering up!

Sorry about the negative test Squirrel. I'll keep crossing my fingers for you. It's not over till AF comes up the path! Are you charting?

Squirrel - sorry about the negative test :(

AC - I may well still be waiting with you! Going to use the Christmas break to bully persaude DH to TTC in Jan, but he doesn't usually give in to my demands very easily! I'd definitely suggest a really nice longish haul holiday (somehwere where you might need jabs?!), and also getting completely trashed (I do sometimes miss that, although don't miss the hangover). I'd also say make an effort to be spontaneous as much as possible! I miss just being able to go and do random things on a whim! Basically, do anything that you would require a babysitter for! In that time your DH might change his mind & you could end up being one who TTCs earlier than planned!

Thanks bebe and AC - I wasn't really expecting a positive test anyway, so I'm not too disappointed! Am probably just adjusting to lack of hormones :) I'm not charting, might give it a go in a few months if still no success.

I guess my things to do before kids include an extravagant holiday, lots of eating out, visiting friends in different parts of the country, go to the gym lots, take an evening class, drink lots of wine, splash out on nice clothes that aren't going to get ruined by baby sick, have lots of lie-ins and probably more that I can't think of!

I will second the "getting absolutely trashed" bit..... although hangovers are never fun.

Am dying today after a "compulsory fun" team outing that finished with me attempting to walk home at 1am.... not big or clever!

Squirrel - so sorry to hear that you didn't get a BFP

Oh yes....lie ins!!! I remember those! Forget going out, sleep as much as possible! :o

Lie ins would definitely be on my pre-kids list. I think that is one of the things i would miss most. Also, go out for lots of romantic meals with your OH.

I do actually have a "things to do list" some of them would be easier pre kids but i guess i can do after i retire!

Things that are/were on it include
Learn to Ski
Go scuba diving
Run a marathon - actually done 2 now!
Do a triathlon - done many!
Go to the Carribean - done, OH took me to Barbados for my 30th and proposed :-)
Go to New York - going on Honeymoon :-)
Visit pyramids in Egypt - not done, yet!

I am actually really enjoying this waiting time. We are making the most of it and doing lovely things. One of the nicest in the summer was a lovely meal in a Yorkshire Dales pub followed by a walk along the river ending in afternoon tea on the village green reading the sunday papers.

Hello . Please can I join your thread? I'm currently in the 'waiting' stage and it seems to be going on FOREVER!!! DH and I have agreed to start TTC in May (the 1st!!), as I have some issues to sort first (weight and no periods-just a minor detail) Look forward to getting to know you all.

Oh yes JBells how was the fudge? It sounded too simple to work iyswim? If it's yummy I'll be making some.

Squirrel re charting didn't mean to suggest you need to obviously, but if you were we could all peer at your luteal phase temps and go "ooooh" and "hmmmm"!

Oh dear so the advice is just carry on as normal, basically! It's a shame you can't properly appreciate lie ins unless you are deprived of them. Same goes for everything really.

Hi Getovaryit and welcome to our alternative form of transportation! Is your DH fully on board?

Welcome Getovaryit! Make yourslef at home!

JBells, how's the fudge! It's a bit of a cheaty one the simple one, it is sort of chewy chocolate IYKWIM? Tis yummy tho! :)

AC - yes carry on as normal, but probably super-size it! :o

Thanks for the welcomes! Have found myself a comfy seat in the corner of the platform!

Yes DH is fully on board, although he isn't too keen on talking about it- probably just a man thing, lets wait until it happens philosophy!! Needless to say that I have been driving him mad with my constant talking about folic acid and zinc etc etc.

Fudge sounds delicious-chewy or not!!

Can I join too? I'm due to start ttc in Dec/ Jan ish (hoping for an end of sept baby but realistic that it may take a while- it took my Mam 7 years to have me). Finished my pill on Tuesday and on my withdrawal bleed, wonder how long it will take for my AF to arrive-I've been on the pill since I was 15 and I'm 30 now.

I have been lurking for a while- but took the plunge to say Hi as you all seem so nice
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hello ladies

so scan was today,gud news they sed all looks well bad new in they have put my dates back and i am only 10.1 weeks not the 12.1 that i thought, cant figure out when i possible concieved with these dates tho, due date is 26th may, so may well end up having a june baby.

also i was concerned that i had done the fudge wrong as it was less like fudge and more like a chewy chocolate but read earlier posts and bebe says its meant to be like this very tasty but very sickly lol

the cake-welcome :) glad u plucked up the courage to join everyone is very nice promise hehe

getovait- also welcome :)

bebe- i will try the otha fudge one next week, c which one i prefer to put in the hampers going to try and do a couple of trial recipes of different things each week

AC- as for things to do while u are waiting, i wish i had gone on another longhaul holiday, also wud have liked to have done a half marathan, and wud have continued with my dancing it is the one thing i keep meaning to get into since having DD but never have, oh and i agree on the cat i had a dog for years and think my maternal instincts were filtered into looking after him :o

squirral- sorry for your negative hopefully AF will arrive soon and u can start a fresh month

hope everyone has had a nice day

Hi getovaryit and thecake! Nice to meet you :)

jbells sounds like the scan went well, you must be relieved! Was it good to see the pics?

AC all the charting sounds kind of interesting, but I'm not very good at getting up at the same time, especially at the weekends, and I thought that you really need to take your temp at the same time every day? I am curious to try though, being a scientist I love numbers and graphs and stuff!

wyorkslass I'm impressed by your marathons, don't think I could ever do that! I'd quite like to do a half one at some point though.

Jbells - glad scan went ok! :) A May baby would be nice!

Welcome TheCake! We are all lovely! :o

Have eaten my considerable bodyweight in bad stuff this evening! Feeling miserable & comfort eating! :(

hey squirral

to be honest i was very disappointed with pics they were very blurry and no where near as good as the ones i had with DD im glad its not my first time or it wud hav bin more dissapointing i think it was a bit clearer on the screen and i saw him/her moving about atleast and the little heartbeat

also found out i have a very rare shaped uterus lol

Oh wow JBells that must be amazing, seeing your tiny baby on the monitor! It's a shame you didn't get good pictures. My top tip of the day is to video it on your camera phone. Someone was showing their's off in the pub last week, it was awesome!

Squirrel you are right about the temping it was a PITA to do. The only way I could manage to take my temp at the same time every day was to set the alarm for 6am every day, and even then I often woke up early anticipating it. I've slept much better since I went back on the pill!

Welcome thecake, have you been planning this long? When did you decide you were ready to ttc? It's good to have some more first timers on board!

By the way Getovaryit and The Cake most us us have pictures on our profiles.

JBells - :( on pictures front! Hopefully the 20 week ones will be better! 'Rare shaped uterus'...what like?!

AC - I found the charting a PITA as well! My sleep is precious & mostly disturbed enough as it is without having to wake up at 6am everyday!

Hoping to get away with just using the OPKs, will try them out next month! Eeeek! Still think DH will say no to TTC though :(

Hey folks,

LOADS to catch up on, sorry if I miss anyone out, I'm suffering with a first day back at work migraine again, and although I'm writing this separately so I don't miss anyone out I can't guarantee it.

Yeah I know I was not expecting it to be positive, but it was still a bit gah. Now I've not been charting properly, ie I only started doing temps since we ditched the condoms but this morning I had a dip of 0.3degrees and am (since yesterday) spotting, so I reckon AF is here in a slow form and will start properly soon. Thanks for the wishes though everyone. I'm only charting so I know when I have ovulated so I can stop certain meds that I shouldn't take if pg.

Oh and I've started knitting!!! LOL

AC Kind of sorry that it's still over a year away for you, but glad you have a final date over it, that means you can focus on stuff between now and then.

bebe I've found that by not focussing on dieting strictly I have actually lost weight in the past few months, so maybe relaxing a little might help you, although it does seem as though your DH is totally trying to ignore the whole baby thing entirely.

squirrel sorry your test was neg too. :( I shall make a space for you on the August bus. :o I'm now replying to another post you have made, I work shifts and I am just taking my temp when I get up, after a long sleep, I don't think it's quite as accurate but I have seen a definite drop in my temp. Next month will be the first full month I've done it, so I will have a see and hopefully see it all.

WYorks I have done a few of the things on your list, Ski, scuba, triathlon :o Not long now...

getovaryit welcome to the thread. Love the name, it's cool. Glad your DH is fully on board :o

TheCake welcome to you too. We are a lovely bunch, there are some of us in here who have just jumped off the cliff, some who are growing a baby and some who are waiting patiently for their OH's to get on board. Hope you have lick when you do jump off the cliff.

jbells blimey re the dates being put back, that might explain the fact the test was neg for so long? Who knows. But glad all looked OK on the scan :o I so love seeing other people's scan pics, think it's amazing really.

Hello all - welcome TheCake and getovaryit!

jbells really glad your scan went well, how exciting. I've just got back from my first visit to Liverpool (ANOTHER wedding) and have to say I really really liked the place on first impressions. Loads of great buildings and the people are so much friendlier than London.

Discovered at the wedding that one of our close friends is v v early preggers (not drinking gives it away) which is very exciting but understandably they're keeping it under wraps for now. Her DH is one of my DP's best friends so it'll be interesting to see if it influences him at all!

AC to add to your list - how about a really big music festival or two? Seconding having some really great holidays too. Also I reckon it's a good time to challenge yourself to get in really really good physical shape (working around the partying, late nights and lie-ins of course). Oh and last-minute spontaneous dirty weekends away .

(WYorks your list is really impressive btw!)

Our long-haul holiday in Dec (we're going to Oz) definitely has an element of 'live like it's your last childfree year' about it! Personally I have swung recently between wanting to put of TTC a bit longer (realised when AF was a week late last month that I was absolutely terrified of the prospect!) and being really broody and wanting to get on it immediately! So actually having 'TTC' vaguely parked in the spring next year feels all right to me at the mo and weirdly I feel more relaxed about it than I have for ages!

Morning all.

AF arrived yesterday, bringing with her a load of shitty stomach cramps that I don't get every month. :( But it's here, the real trying starts as soon as she is gone :o HUGE GRIN I must admit I'm a little bit that I'm actually doing this and OMG OMG if it works out(first time) then this time next year I will have a baby. Actual realisation of the whole thing is now coming to me. I am both nervous/scared and excited.

We have no hot water, eeep, my hair is in desperate need of a wash and I feel ick not showering when I have AF, boiling kettles for a sink/flannel wash, skanky me today.

Yesterday morning something fell out of the bathroom cupboard and has cracked the sink, so I had to ring landlady and explain to her what had happened, she's coming round later so OH can tell her about the water situation then.

And we live in an apartment block, someone has once again busted the main front door lock so now people can get in and out of the block without a key.

I also seem to be suffering with my sinuses in the morning, very painful :(

It's all going great here isn't it!!! LOL

Anyway it's only a couple of days till I go away with OH on that little holiday he booked for us without me knowing. Thursday cannot come soon enough.

Hope everyone else is OK.

Oh god no my music festival days are definitely over! I definitely won't be wishing I was at Glastonbury when I'm sat at home with my baby!

We don't seem to have got the right idea just yet, the Halloween party we went to last night was a family party with lots of LO dressed up as ghouls and ghosts and witches! One little witch came and cuddled up with me with her blanket and her bottle and fell asleep. So cute! Even DH thought so!