We're taking the train...some now boarding, some delays, some still standing on the platform! TTC 'Waiters' IIT!

[bebejones]

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Welcome aboard, make yourselves comfy I have a feeling it's going to be a bumpy ride!

Yeah, but you could get it all out of the way in one month

I kind of wanted it to be an after September baby originally as I wanted a baby at the beginning of the school year not the end, now I really don't give a fuck I just want one-- am not bothered about when it happens!

I'm getting more and more counting the days, it's been ahem 8 days since we ditched the condoms, another few days and I'll be wondering if we ditched them at the 'right/wrong' time LOL Still no sign of things, still symptoms of all kinds, probably pre period symptoms I'm just wishing were early pg symptoms

Ooops I cocked up my don't there, but you get the idea!

Sorry, no I hadn't watched 'the wire' OH really enjoyed it and I hadn't really heard of it till I met him! With shift work I didn't really get chance to watch the programmes normal people do with either working a night or having to go to bed early ready for an early start

morning all

pleased your Drs appt was "ok" bebe.

JS I will be SWI on the weekend before Xmas, with the aim of having a baby due date 12 / 13th September (my birthday!) so you could start trying even earlier for one of the oldest!
When we very 1st even mentioned TTC and me wanting an Autumn baby it was January this year, so in effect i have waited a year, (although back then we were undecided weather or not to try jan 2011 or jan 2012!)

wow all those recipies look yummy! i LOVE making chutneys jams etc. Am VERY lucky and IL's have the most amazing house which rediculously huge garden and they grow EVERYTHING growable in england so we have been jam / chutney making on their AGA all summer

its so satisfying to see the shelves full of home made preserves in the pantry.

I called the Drs yesturday and got a flu jab for yesterday afternoon. Tha jab itself was painfree but My arm hurts so much now(it woke me at 4am) but other wise i feel fine, and it should be 7 weeks before i start TTC so fingers crossed that should be ok, and not effect baby.
Nurse was very surprised i was having it before TTC but i said 1) it was due to asthma so i was eligable, and 2) i wouldnt risk having it while pregnant

Got very sad news this morning... one of best friends Dad died.... on her birthday yesturday. (Ok he has been very sick for along time and was given just weeks to live in July 2009 and has made it 15 months, but even so it really upset me )

On a brighter note one of my best school friends, her DH, their 7 year old and dog are on there way to stay with me now cant wait to see them.

If i dont make it on here much hope everyone has a good weekend

morning all,

thankyou so much for recipes and suggestions, can u make chutneys now and they will last till xmas? sorry very limited cooking knowledge

BEBE- i think i will have a go at making that very simple fudge today dont think even i cud make that wrong, ill try to do a trial run today and if all goes well then make a batch closer to the time to put in hampers, wud also like to make sum treacle toffee will have to find a recipe online

nanyl- hope u have a lovely wkend with your friend and her family, and so sorry to hear about your friends loss, especially on her birthday :(

100years- if u like the wire have u tried the shield there is 7 seasons and they ae brilliant, also if anyone has virgin there is fab seasons called fringe on the on demand at the mo, well worth a watch my DP is a dvd buying addict so we have a collection of prob more than 500 dvds

JS- i also record loads of trashy series tyo watch while im alone, especially cos my dp wont watch them with me anyway

quod- also u shud try shield if u liked wire

squirral- i really like your idea of chocolate truffles and the nuts :) not sure on the alcohol tho none of my family really ever drink my friends on the other hand wud like it tho hehe

so my jeans even my ones that r lose r feeling very tight :( im at the stage of just looking like im getting fat rather than pregnant tho, im growing so much quicker than last time round really praying its not twins

Nanny, glad you got the flu jab now :) Sorry to hear about your friend :(

jbells, I might look into them, to be honest we don't actually watch a lot of telly and last night I only watched about 1hr 30 the whole night.

I've now started to think I will give AF till sunday before I POAS, having not even thought of POAS this month I'm now quietly wondering WTF is happening!!! LOL I very nearly caved in and did one this morning, but I stopped myself.

Lots and lots to do today, hope you all have a good day.

JBells - As long as you sterilise the jars properly it should keep for a good few months! I have chutneys/jams that I made back in June for xmas! MIL has just used a jar of mincemeat that I made last October & it was fine!

My DH is a dvd addict too, at last count we had over 350 (including many, many box sets! Just counted over 50! ) Dread to think the total if we include videos as well (which we need to get rid of as we don't actually have a video player!) We really need to get out more!

Nannyl - I hate that 'bruised' feeling you get after jabs. Last year the actual flu one didn't hurt but the swine flu one was painful afterwards for a week! Think swine flue is in this years normal flu jab Ouch!

Mentioned to DH last night, whilst taking my vitamins, about asking the doctor what I could take when pregnant. He just sort of grunted at me & changed the subject I know he is mega stressed about work & money but he won't even listen to me let alone talk to me about TTC! :( Really hoping I can convince him that we need to give it a go from January. Especially with the trouble my friend is having. Just have this gut feeling that it won't be straightforward, coz this time I really need it to happen quickly! Last time we wanted it to take a while & it happened straight away! It'd just be sod's law!!

bebe, I'm a bit dense in the mornings and forgetful at times. Have you sat down with him and said we need to discuss this. I approached my OH with a 'can we talk about this at some point' to which we talked about it there and then. Maybe you need to say to him 'I need to talk about something, when is OK?' Then you can go in with your reasoning re worried it'll take a while, knowing you are not on meds etc etc. As opposed to just dropping hints re what meds doc said you could take etc, in my experience blokies don't often pick up on hints. It's only a suggestion, and you may have been through it already and if so I'm sorry my head is a mess first thing in the morning.

I've tried that approach, but he just says, 'yeah we will, but not now' or 'I've got a lot going on at the moment I can't really think about it' or 'we'll see'! He is quite perseptive about the hints, I know that he gets what I'm going on about, but he ignores it because he doesn't want to talk about it! I think he thinks that if he ignores it it will just go away. I don't want to push it too much because I know how stressed out he is! But it is driving me insane!!!

Morning all! I may have let slip to my friend last night that babies could be on the cards, and instead of shock and disbelief, her reaction was a very calm 'makes perfect sense, in many ways it's ideal timing'.

So now I have my first imaginary pg symptom! Have I really gone up a cup size in the last week? Or, more likely, have I only just noticed that I have gone up due to putting on a bit of weight over the last year? Either way, I realised this morning that none of my bras fit

I second the wire, DH and I watched the whole thing, last year I think! We have just finished the Glee boxset - think we are slightly addicted to boxsets!! Much easier to watch a boxset than a series when it's on TV.

I had the swine flu jab earlier in the year and it made me feel bad for a few days. Real flu must be so much worse.

jbells where can I put in an order for a Christmas hamper?

bebe sounds like you need to catch your DH and talk properly. He knows that you've stopped your meds so if he is having a change of heart then you really need to know.

Squirrel - that's so lovely that your friend was so positive & supportive :)

DHs heart wasn't completely in it when I stopped my meds. Was more of a case of I told him that it was what I was doing because it was what we had agreed when I started! (He'd changed his mind by the time it was planned that I would stop, but I pointed out that he wasn't the one who had to stick a needle into his leg muscle every week!) He isn't sure about having number 2 for a whole host of reasons & said he didn't know when he might feel differently but I can't keep waiting forever! Was hoping that stopping my meds would force his hand a bit IYSWIM? For me it makes the most sense, both financially (long term) and health wise to have another DC NOW! It's really difficult because I can see his points as well, but I am trying to think of the bigger picture & what makes most sense for us as a family. He is thinking more short term & is (IMO) being a bit blinkered about the future & what it potentially holds for us! :(

bebe do I remember right that you and DH originally both decided to start in Jan, but now he's not so sure? I know he's stressed out at work, but I don't think that's a valid reason for not being able to think about stuff. If anything, he needs to find ways to address the stress and stop it affecting him (and you) so much. Easier said than done I know!

I LOVE the wire! I found the dialogue hard to follow for the first few episodes because of all the 'street talk' but I was saying 'true dat' with the best of them by the end! And the main guy (McNulty) is English-you would never guess, he plays a really good part (and pretty easy on the eye too although Idris Elba/Stringer Bell was my fave...very hot) :)

I think I need to watch the Wire, sounds good!

Squirrel - Originally (way back when we first started talking about TTC) it was going to be last Xmas...then June...then this Xmas...then he said he didn't want anymore! Everytime it gets close he changes his mind! He is very stressed out & things are very difficult right now with work etc but it can't get any worse & surely a baby would be something to look forward to? It's not like it's the first one, we don't have any big stuff to buy! So him talking about 'cost' is irrelevant coz I can't see that there will actually be any more strain on our finances than we already have! Maybe I am being totally naive?! By the time DC2 arrives DD won't be in nappies (God willing) so still only one set of nappies to buy. I'm going to try & bf again (and hope I have more sucess) so for the first 6months there isn't even a 'food' cost involved! Plus when weaning comes along they don't actually eat as much as an adult anyway so it's not like it costs that much to feed really little ones! Plus, if we have a second girl we don't even need to buy clothes!!

Well you know how impatient I am, I couldn't wait till Sunday to POAS - it's negative, I'm betting this will bring AF on now. I only did it as I was feeling sick and stuff so I did it anyway. Kind of knew it would be negative, so have no idea why I really actually did it, but it's done now.

I am off out now, going clothes shopping if I can find anything I like.

Sorry to hear about your friends Dad nanny, i hope she is doing ok.

I'm loving all the recipes. We were talking about making hampers for Christmas this year too. The parents will also be getting a framed wedding picture of them and us, hopefully. When we were kids my brother used to love making peppermint creams and i loved to eat them. I think they are very easy. I don't have a recipe but you should be able to google one.

OH and i went over our finances last night and after paying for wedding and honeymoon we are pretty skint. It's very frustrating as we have quite a bit tied up in my flat which we have been trying to sell for the last year, this also means we are paying 2 mortgages :( We really don't want to rent it out but may have to reconsider. We really need to have it sorted by the time i go on maternity leave! We've already reduced it to less than i paid for it 3 years ago :(

x-post 100.
I was wondering how you managed to resist POAS, i would have been dying to!

I'm sorry it was neagative and hope AF turns up soon so you can get on with it. Only 1 more for me after this one then we can join you :)

100 - :( But you did think it'd be a long shot!

WYorks - we desperately want to get rid of our flat but we wouldn't make enough to pay off the mortgage stupid negative equity rubbish! So we are stuck with it & hate renting it out after it got trashed!
Weddings are an expensive business aren't they! We didn't get a honeymoon & it still costa small fortune! We will be expecting a picture of you in your frock!

Nannyl - tis very sad about your friends dad, at least there must be some comfort for them that they got more time with him than was expected. Still very hard though :(

i am pleased to report that i have just finished making the easy chocolate fudge :) just wanted to share that hehe

evening all DP is upstairs putting DD to bed so got time to catch up on the days activitied :)

100years- i was also wondering how u had such control with a test in the house, think id test even if i wasnt trying if i had them in the house lol, i hope your AF comes soon so your not stuck in the am i arnt i was the test right limbo si annoying

wyorks- ooh wot r u planning on putting in your hampers i am planning on doing 3 one for DP's dad one for my mum and step dad and one for my nan and grandad, hopefully i can master sum recipes by xmas

bebe- i really hope your DH takes the time to speak to u it is so so frustrating when they just dismiss your thoughts grrr, we also must have about 50 boxsets, and likewise dont get out enuf in fact cant remember the last time we went on a nite out or out in the day alone for that matter hence the huge dvd collection, wot r some of your fave boxsets?

strawberry- i agree about the wire's first few episodes it does take u a while to grasp the whole thing, the shield wasnt like this tho has u gripped from beggining, im also a big fan of 24

squirral- not sure whether youl want a hamper the food mite taste rubbish yet lol wot is it they say its the thought and effort that went into it that counts hehe

been feeling really sick agen today wish this nausea and exhaustion wud bugger of soon so i can start feeling like a normal person again

JBells - our collection is very varied! I quite like the 'West Wing' box set, and DH & I did once sit and watch the entire 'Sharpe' set in a weekend once! (pre DD!) DH has a lot of sci-fi & I have the entire skyline edition of 'Friends' which I will have to start watching when E4 stop having it on all the time!

Sorry you are still feeling rubbish, hopefully you'll be feeling better in time for xmas!

Hi girls! Well this is interesting: I have my long stop date for ttc. Unfortunately it is January 2012. But at least it is agreed. By this time DH will be settled in his job and we will be in a better financial position (supposedly). I guess it's sensible really. May as well make myself comfy on the train if I'm going to be waiting here another 15 months .

Well, hurrah to an agreement in the AC household! Do you feel better about it? Looking on the bright side, it's good to be out of limbo-land surely, and at least now you know you have a year to really enjoy being child-free, if the notion takes you! Call it going the scenic route?

Lol I guess so Quodlibet! It does seem like the sensible solution, as long as I can put out of my mind the worry that I'll be 34 when we start trying. Other than that and the emotional factor it all makes perfect sense. Maybe I'll get a cat instead. Or two cats and call them George and Jake!

How are you doing yourself?