We're taking the train...some now boarding, some delays, some still standing on the platform! TTC 'Waiters' IIT!

[bebejones]

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Welcome aboard, make yourselves comfy I have a feeling it's going to be a bumpy ride!

Glad you're feeling better 100years :) I am still planning to cycle (and run) when pg - I'm not a hardcore cyclist but do use my bike as my main mode of transport, so it'd be a pain to have to walk everywhere. I have read that cycling in the third trimester gets difficult as balance is affected, but I will see how things go.

strawberrypie hope you find a way not to have to work on your week off!

bebe love the chic chip cookies! I just know I am going to bake far too much when I have young kids!

100years - i'm glad you're feeling better. I missed Pilates last night due to a headache, fortunately Ibuprofen and a bath sorted it. I'm very grateful i never get migraines, it must be horrendous.

OH started and i re-started our new healthy regime this morning. We got up at 6.15, went to the gym and then had banana + blueberry milkshakes for brekkie followed by scrambled egg in homemade bread. I am feeling very virtuous :-) Hopefully we can keep it up!

I fully intend to exercise when pg although i am a bit scared of falling off my bike (so deffo no spd's for the cyclists!). I will probably mostly be walking, swimming and some Pilates with the odd run and tootle along the canal on the bike.

I was knocked off my bike last year, had pretty bad concussion for best part of a month and 3 hospital trips in a week, but 10 days after I was back on my bike. I think I will be covered in high viz stuff when I cycle if pg. I am an SPD user and am quite confident in them, have had a couple of silly forgetting to unclip incidents but to be fair I could cycle on normal pedals and my foot would slip off, so I am staying as I am. We shall see how long the plan lasts though.

4 weeks today and we are going away, on the little surprise trip OH booked for us, this morning he said 'guess where we'll be in a month' :o Woohoo I'm hoping we leave the pregnancy delayment devices(condoms) at home.

I'm off for a walk in a bit, it's really misty here and I don't fancy risking a bike ride in it, so a walk it will be, prob do 3 or 4 miles.

I'm trying so hard to not think/talk about my next period and the thought of us possibly trying next month, it's so hard though. I want OH to bring up the topic instead of it being me all the time(which isn't every day but I do bring up the topic more) The last week has actually gone really quickly, so I'm hoping the next few do the same, may have something to do with the fact I've been working lots and sleeping the rest of the time.

Hello train!

100 - very of your holiday! I'd love to be surprised, what a lovely OH!

So tired today been very busy! And annoyingly, whilst out, had to make an emergency dash for tampons...23 day cycle this month!! Very very weird. But I am sure it is my body's way of scuppering plans. ILs are having DD for a few hours on Saturday! But 'practise' TTCing is now out the window! Really hoping cycles settle down over the next couple of months! At least it explains why I've had the muchies all week! :o

Hello?!?!

Have we pulled into a station?

Hope everyone is ok? :)

Hello everyone! 100years you are so close! I hope the trip away is the start of ttc for you. Sorry to hear about the migraines, they sound a right pain to manage.

Will try and pop in over the weekend to catch up on everyone's news. Have a nice day all x

Hi Bebe!

Hi All!!
Been trying not to come on here too much lately as I'm really struggling with the whole broody thing and the fact that most people on here are going to be TTC very soon makes me a bit sad :(

Hope that you're all well xxx

Hey all

JS sorry to hear you're struggling. Are you feeling a bit stuck-in-the-same-place? You're not the only one, we still have no fixed date to TTC, just a series of 'definitely after x'. We'll all get there eventually I'm sure. Sorry you're finding the present a bit rubbish though.

I went to a brilliant event the other night which was a panel discussion organised by people in my industry to talk about how working in this particular creative field can work with having children. Oh my god it was so helpful! Particularly hearing some women who I really respect and who are at the top of their game talking about how it has made them more focussed in their work as well as totally transforming their lives for the better. Clearly everyone in the room was breathing a massive sigh of relief at it being discussed openly, as it's not usually discussed at all..Anyway it really helped me to put my own work situation in perspective and to look at the positives rather than the negatives.

bebe yep I have to say that my OH is the best person to me ever, I've never had anyone do as much or be as thoughtful kind and caring as him. And I would just like to take a moment to say I love him so much sometimes it takes my breath away. Right sicky stuff over and done with now. :o

AC I hope so, it's not actually been confirmed that it is def next month, talked about twice, he said good when I said I was at the docs tonight, but until it actually happens gah, and I'm hoping it is only a few weeks away, I think I will burst if anything changes, patience patience I know, but it's all I fucking think about, much as I try to change that.

JS Sorry to hear you are feeling like that, I am feeling grr and wanting to be trying now, of anyone who is preg etc etc but I feel I get chance to talk about it here which helps me and stops me from inwardly going mad. Keep popping in though and saying hi, we will be here when you get on the train.

I'm predicting a few tears or watery eyes for me this weekend, tomorrow we are going to see some friends who had a baby in August, then on Sunday we are seeing some closer friends who had a baby a couple of weeks ago. I know how this will end for me, and much as I am so happy to see them, have a hold etc etc I will still be sitting there wishing it was me.

Docs this afternoon :o yay

JS I am exactly the same. Now that I am back on the pill I've lost all my momentum. Can't face the train, despite the total loveliness of all you excellent ladies... or thinking too much about it at all.

I don't know how I would cope if I had stopped contraception and had to start it again :( Hugs

JS/AC - I sometimes feel like it's all a bit much too. I think maybe I will be on the train forever. :( DH just hasn't been in the right frame of mind for me to talk to him about TTC. We have hardly even talked about the fact that I have stopped my meds. In fact I think I've talked to my mum more about it that DH!

100 - Be strong, it will be you soon! Try & enjoy the cuddles, you're nearly there :)

Thanks bebe, yeah I should be overjoyed he moved the date to November, instead I'm whittering on about the fact I'm still waiting, never bloody happy, that's my problem (this fact is not wholey true)

My heart goes out to the women on the other threads who have been ttc all this time. I can't even think what if that happens for me. The longer I leave it the more likely that is. Less than month now till my 33 birthday.

I'll be 33 in December, obviously 1977 was a great year

No I must admit I don't like to think too much about the what ifs what if it doesn't work, what if is does and it goes wrong, what if this that and the other. I think the thing is to (quoting my OH) only worry about things you can do something about and not all the other stuff.

Decided to try singing "always look on the bright side of life" in my head now when I think gah it's not happening yet. It will happen, we will try, we will hopefully succeed, OH said ages ago if we didn't then there are other options available, I have a wonderful man who loves me unconditionally for who I am and takes all my flaws as they come, and he wants me to be the mother of his children and in time his wife. Now there is a lot to be happy about. Although I can't help the bloody hormones that hold me hostage I can think of the better things.

This post was sponsored by a positive moment, please be aware these moment may be few and far between and I am at liberty to go back to whinging at any time - because I am female and that's what I do :o

100 - My DH says that...about worrying! But then he is the one banging on about me relapsing!

Now I know what I'm dealing with if I relapse with a young baby (like I did with DD) I know what to do, how to recognise it, how to get it treated. We are in a completely different boat but DH is blind to that!

AC - It is so sad to read stories of people who have been trying for so long. Try and stay positive, I'm sure that helps.

It is a month today until my birthday!

bebe feel free not to answer questions if you don't want to. I know you were on meds for something, what was it? Did you have depression or PND? Last year I was really bad with depression but gradually came off the meds myself without seeing the Dr, I know it's the wrong way to go about it, but it happened naturally. There are days when I feel I still suffer from it and worry I will go back, and then the next day I am fine and dandy, my moods do go up and down, but I know what to look for and what to do, I think it's helped me realise a lot about my life and there are certain aspects of it that I am trying to change everyday. But I didn't want to be on meds or have them in my system when I knew we would be trying at some point, it's not the reason I came off them, but it is the reason I am keen to monitor things and not go back on them. I've waffled a bit there haven't I!!!

I don't know everyone's back stories so if I miss something when you talk about it then I am sorry. But you can also tell me to mind my own :o

Right I have to go get ready for the docs and then work. Catch you all after the weekend as I'm not sure how much chance I I will get to come on here.

100 - I have (to give it its full name) 'Relapsing & Remitting Multiple Sclerosis' (MS) I was diagnosed when DD was 5months old, when she was 3months old I started losing feeling in my left hand & by the time I was diagnosed I couldn't use my arm or feel the right side of my face. Because of the type of MS I have it is somewhat 'treatable' with medication (not 100% effective though, reduces the risk of relapsing by about 30-50%) but most of the time I am absolutely fine for which I am extremely thankful. The risk of relapse is always there, and the not knowing when it will happen, what it will affect, or how bad it will be is a complete bitch!

Depression is just so awful, I feel for you. DH suffers with depression but he refuses to take medication he has spent some time with a therapist which does help him.

Good Luck at the doctors!

Think I'm just fed up and unhappy and that is making me even more impatient. I think that if work and home life was good then i would be a lot better at dealing with this waiting but the job is making me miserable and I hate being in London and not at our "real home".

When DH and I 'agreed' to wait until June 2011 or even November 2011 (we'' he said to wait until then and I didn't really have much of a choice) there was a good chance of me getting another job. Now that there isn't anything on the horizon I am not sure I can wait.

I know that bringing it up again is going to irritate him. Particularly as he thinks that the issue is resolved and that we are waiting for a year. I think I am going to have to though as it's making me miserable.

Sorry to be such a downer on things on a Friday!!

JS - I really think it might be worth chatting to him. If he knows how miserable it is making you he might consider doing things sooner. You could use maternity leave to search for a new job whilst getting paid from the old one!

Bebe your birthday is the day after mine!

At least with all this waiting everyone will be jealous of us still having our little babies to come when their DC are growing up!

What a great month to have a birthday! :o

Children grow up far too quickly, I'm over halfway to DD starting school! :(

I'm just trying to think of things one AF at a time! :o Each one is a step closer to TTC, whenever that may be!

Just a quickie from phone at work so can't reply to messages.

The dr was the nicest dr in the world and was almost as excited as me about it. Coz she was so nice I said I'd see her when I am pg. She seemed chuffed. Have to stop some but not all meds and she gave me flu jab and didn't seem worried about my weight. Yay.

Gettin ridiculously excited now.

100 - Really glad she was so nice. Glad she let you have the flu jab too! :0)