We're taking the train...some now boarding, some delays, some still standing on the platform! TTC 'Waiters' IIT!

[bebejones]

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Welcome aboard, make yourselves comfy I have a feeling it's going to be a bumpy ride!

Hugs for JS and AC and anyone else who wants one ((((((((((((()))))))))))).
I hope everyone is feeling better now. I was a bit down in the dumps at the beginning of last week but i think that's because i was off work with a flu-like bug and PMT to boot :( I'm back to happy again now though.

I am also a bike lover and have a Giant SCR road bike as well! I also have an ancient mountain bike with broken gears and dodgy brakes, it is mostly used for cycling along the canal. I did cycle to work occasionally but the driving is so atrocious round here it makes me nervous on the road and i nearly got knocked off by a white van man last time. I have a turbo trainer too but it hasn't had much use lately, i need to get it setup somehwere. I do find it pretty boring though. When i lived on my own i used to carry bike up to my 1st floor flat and do it in front of the telly :o

I had my 1st wedding dress fitting on Friday and it fitted perfectly :) It was a bit long but that's to be expected. I can't wait, 8 weeks to go, arghhhh!

AC I think you need some hugs. I couldn't imagine stopping contraception to only have to start it again. :(

I don't understand the bloke who say there is no difference between TTC now and in 2 years time, it's a who broodiness thing and wanting a family etc thing the reasons you want it now, and 2 years to wait is a f*cking long time etc etc, it may not make any difference to them, but to women I think it makes a lot of difference. Fortunately my OH is very understanding of my broodiness and knows if I am a little down why I might be that way, he is exceptionally good and I am hugely grateful for that.

jbells I've been dreaming as well about babies, although I'm not upduffed yet. Mine aren't quite as vivid as yours.

just shagging sorry you are still having shit at work :( Poopants really for ya. Regarding your DH meeting his ex, for me at the moment with my OH I am very laid back, chilled and have no worries when he meets his ex or one of his female friends, however with my ex I was totally the opposite, I was jealous and insecure, and hated the thought of him even texting one, though I would have never stopped him. Now with OH I am fine, I think for me it's to do with how he makes me feel generally and I know how much he loves me.

WYorks Yay, another bike lover :) This is ace. I used to have to carry my bikes up 3 flights of stairs, you get the knack of it after a while. Glad your dress fit perfectly for you, excitement building then :)

I'm feeling proper broody again today and I'm not enjoying this whole waiting thing. It's not good when you are counting down to your period, and even then it's not been 100% confirmed that its is next month. I have warned OH that there will be tears if he puts it back and I may take to acting like a small child. I can't remember if I have already posted this in here, but it's how I'm doing at the moment. Hopefully less than 4 weeks to wait. I dread hearing that someone else is preg at the moment, I just want it to be me and I want it to be me now.

I have booked appointment at the docs for Friday so will know then about the meds I am on and if I have to stop them.

Was hoping to have a swim this morning but the pool had some kind of pool party thing going on and so I couldn't, I think that might be accounting for my lull in mood as I am missing the exercise, got a gas man round at the moment so I'm stuck in till he's finished.

Must cheer up

hello again

JS so sorry to see you are sad . i know what you mean, i would want my OH to see his ex ever again, (though wouldnt mind if he met up with his ex ex)
He doesnt like it if i see my ex, but trusts me and if i do i do. we talk on facebook occasionaly and he doenst mind
hope your boss gets nicer [hug]

100 years good luck with your Drs i have managed to get an appt for next week where i am going to discuss the flu / swine flu jab and see of i can have it before TTC, (will explain that i wont have it while pg, end of) will also make it a pre pregnancy check up! ooh how exciting

right i should be doing school paper work now i better get on with it

no one has even mentioned the flu jab to me at drs etc, is this something that they reccomend?

just a quick message go to malta to see my family tomoro for a week, and wont have internet access, i hope u all have a good week, and i will speak to u all when i get home... i just hope this blooming sickness passes... bye bye

this new piece of advice was only isued on 30th September 2010, so only very recent

as well as the at risk groups, (elderly / ill etc) they recommend that all pregnant women have the new flu jab (which this year is seasonal flu + swine flu)

However when i am pregnant (or breast feeding) there is NO WAY i will allow them the inject me with all that stuff

jbells hope you feel better soon

Swine Flu jab really hurt last year, so I'm hoping that the new combined one won't be painful. For me I just think that the risk to baby & me if I get swine flu whilst PG would outweigh the risk of the vaccine. But is irrelevant since I get it anyway.

Feeling very mopey this evening. Have eaten too much cake & now have serious dieters remorse! Must be a better behaved bebe 2moro!

DHs week from hell has been bad enough already & it's only Monday. If things don't improve soon I'm never going to convince him to TTC. :( Took a big gamble stopping my meds & was trying to be positive (v unlike me!) everyone keep their fingers crossed that we win the lottery on Friday! £112m would be very nice! :o

Hi all! This thread goes quite quickly! I've only just managed to catch up sounds like last week was an emotional one for everyone!

bebe how exciting that you have no more jabs, have you talked any more to your dh about it?

jbells I've been to japan once before, but I find it quite hard to get by there! Not being able to read anything is tough. Enjoy your holiday, Malta sounds fab

amummy and js sorry to hear about your work situations :( I have work issues too, but mainly I'm just a bit bored and don't think that management care enough about the area I work in! Luckily I have no issues with any of the people I work with. Am sticking it out here for the maternity pay!

ac that's tough about going back on the pill. Any more progress with your oh?

wyorkslass exciting about the wedding dress! What does it look like?

Hi also to everyone else

I got lost on the bike talk too - although I cycle to work every day, my bike is an old fashioned style one with only 3 gears and a wicker basket! I prefer to run for serious exercise.

I also read the 'is it all worth it' thread, and it seemed mostly positive to me! Difficult, yes, but worth it in the end. TBH i think there were so many different opinions expressed that reading it would just amplify your own thoughts.

I had a quick look at the vax thread, have to say I'm not fussed about getting vaccinations while pg. Don't think they'll do any harm. But I had the swine flu one earlier in the year and it made me feel rough for days so I'm keen to avoid this year's if possible!

Exciting news here is that I get the coil removed tonight, so I guess that makes me officially ttc #1. DH is very excited, he keeps talking about babies - I think it's only kept in check because we have a friend staying short term, and obviously we don't want to let on to her! I'm excited and nervous, but mostly just in denial at the moment.

lol Squirrel, the only reason i'm still in my job is maternity pay too :) I'm soo bored, the only thing keeping me going is the fact i could be out of here in under a year (fingers crossed), this message board helps too!

Very good news about your coil, how exciting! My OH is also very excited and i'm sure brings the topic round to babies more often than i do. This is in stark contrast with a year ago when the the very mention of "baby" freaked him out. So have hope you others with reluctant OH's.

The dress is a fairly simple white (actually ivory but that's a bit poncy for me!)strapless number with a bit of a train and some silver detailing at the left hip.

I'd probably have the flu vaccine whilst pg too. They use a "dead" virus so can't cause flu etc. I do have quite a lot of faith in doctors though which may be naive. Having said that my Grandma was offered Thalidomide when she was pregnant many years ago, thankfully she didn't take it. Perhaps i need to research!

Hehe, glad to hear I'm not alone! It's not just the pay itself, but also I'm not keen on starting a new job and then almost immediately taking a year off. I don't think that'd go down well with any employer.

Your dress sounds nice too - simple and elegant is my style.

Ooh Squirrel look at you standing on the edge of the precipice and getting ready to jump! So excited for you.

I think you speak wise words about threads 'amplifying your own thoughts' by the way, I'd never thought about it like that. I think I definitely felt a renewed sense of 'agghh!' when thinking about the amount that one's life changes when one has children. But looking at it positively has made me think about whether or not I'd feel fulfilled as a full-time SAHM though (I don't think I would) and so to give some thought about what I'd like my ideal set-up to be and has lead to some interesting discussions between me and DP about how we would manage to retain the important bits of our life around caring for a child (not easy but at least we're discussing it positively).

I think it's nice that we're all at different stages of things on this thread, it helps to put the whole thing in perspective.
WYorksLass it's really good to hear about OHs who have moved their position in regards to having babies. When you're stuck in deadlock over something like this (as some of us here are or have been) it feels like nothing will ever change, so it's good to hear that it can and does. Saying that I definitely feel like mine is moving his position quite rapidly compared to a few months ago - I don't think I could have foreseen that tbh.

I had swine flu last year - do I still need a vaccine for it this year or would I be immune anyway? I would get one if I asked as I am asthmatic.

Quod - as I understand it the swine flu is now in the seasonal flu jab rather than separate like it was last year. Could be wrong but that's what I thought

WYorks - Dress sounds lovely, bet you can't wait!

Squirrel - exciting! Hope it all goes ok for you tonight!

Really hacked off with DH today, well at his dad really! V long story, suffice it to say I am not happy!! It's a bit trivial I guess, but quite annoying!

Is everyone hiding in their luxury cabins today?

I am here but still at work.

Maybe George and Jake decided to put on some entertainment to distract everyone ;-)

Well, I jumped! Having the coil out is so much easier than having it put in, but now it's kind of weird. The nurse made a point about how I could get pregnant from sex in the last week - very scary thought. She was also quite relaxed about alcohol and caffeine, which was good to hear as I'm not keen to give either up entirely.

quod I think people have a tendency to be persuaded by thoughts similar to their own. So when reading a thread with loads of different opinions on you tend to notice the ones similar to your own, and disregard others. I have just about accepted that life will change completely after a baby, and will be tough for the first months, but I don't feel scared about that anymore. Just a strange sense of inevitability!

The work satisfaction thing is something I'm still not sure of though. I can't imagine not working and being a sahm, but equally I think that both of us working full time will become a massive juggling act. It's something I think we will both have to think about more, but I'm lucky in that DH understands how I feel and I know we'll decide together.

squirrel Yay for you and your coil removal :)

I've got another F**king migraine, I have no idea what the doc will say when I ask what I will be able to take when I am (hopefully) pg, if it's only paracetamol I can see a lot of time spent in bed. I'm going to start a journal of stuff to see if I can pinpoint anything, having cut certain food groups out I am struggling to work out why I am still suffering. OH thinks this may have something to do with my mood, as I was down in the dumps yesterday in 'coping' mode as he called it, I shall be monitoring food, mood, sleep, exercise and anything else I can think of.

The days are ticking by slowly, but they are ticking away :o

100 - :( Migraines are horrid. My GP used to say that chocolate was a trigger But for me anxiety used to bring them on, until I learnt to cope with that I went through a phase (mid teens) of having one every day. Now they are rare but I know when one is coming & can avoid it by lying down in a dark room (cliche I know) for a while. Really hope you feel better soon

Squirrel - glad it all went ok :)

Been massively over broody & weepy tonight. Have been perusing the Next Christmas catalogue & got all upset over the maternity clothes, then the baby clothes set me off again!

Oh Bebe sorry to hear you're upset and annoyed with DH. You've had such a lot on your plate recently. Sometimes having a bit of a weep gets it all out though?!?

100years oh you poor thing, my DP gets the occasional awful migraine (he used to get more), I've never had one but can see with him that it's excruciating. He definitely gets more of them when he's stressed. It seems like they can sometimes be headed off now if he catches them in time and gets me to do a really thorough massage of his neck and shoulders (well, that's what he's persuaded me, anyhow!)

We had a total disaster in our house this pm when I accidentally pulled DP's external hard-drive off the table, and it fell on the floor and broke. He's been working day and night for weeks for an unbelievably important deadline next week and for a moment we both thought that all his work - and months of previous (irreplaceable creative) work - might all be on that drive. Really really awful couple of hours while we frantically googled 'hard drive rescue' places (££££!!!!!!) and checked files. Spent the early evening feeling gut-wrenchingly guilty. However, turns out it's not as bad as first thought and that lots of it was backed up in other places. But he's now having to work all night to replace the stuff that wasn't. :(
Am now providing a penitent beer- and takeaway-fetching and massage service(!) to try to make up for it.

Oh dear Quod! That sounds exactly like the kind of thing I would do. I am mega clumsy! Hope your DH managed to 'rescue' his work!

It's just niggly things that are bugging me with DH. I know he has a lot going on at work & that it is really stressful, but I just wish he could be a little bit more considerate. It'll pass!

Sorry about the migrane 100years, hope you're feeling better today.

quod hope your DP managed to replace all his work! Strangely, someone on another forum said they did the exact same thing last week, and lost a lot of his work, so you're not alone.

bebe I think the little niggly things that people do when they're stressed can be far worse than the big things. Hope your DH can relax soon!

Hi everyone!

Great to know another cyclist on the thread wyorkslass!

100years my MIL (sort of, DP and I are not married but you know what I mean) gets migraines regularly and they all seem to be due to chocolate or red wine when she is hormonal. If AF type hormones affect you then maybe you would be ok during pregnancy??

I bet you felt sick quod when the hard drive broke! What a nightmare! Thank goodness it was not as bad as you thought. :)

Great news re: coil squirrell! How exiting to think you could already be pregnant!

Hope you feel better soon bebe, looking on the bright side at least your DH has a job........my DP has not managed to find a teaching position yet, I might have to do a week as a locum (in what was supposed to be my week off) before I start my new job to get some extra money :( Boo.

But never mind, nearly the weekend now (!) and am going out for a meal with friends and a nice cycle ride if not hung over so looking forward to that! Have also lost 2 lbs this week after STS last week :)

Strawberry that sucks having to work on your week off! Your poor DH job hunting, can he do any supply work at all? My Uncle only does supply & a friend of my mums does supply work, often they take on the supply teachers permanently.

My DH might have a job but rarely gets paid things are tough & being a nice guy he always makes sure the staff are paid before himself, so gets his 'wages' in dribs and drabs! Makes life interesting!

On bright side I have the possibility of doing some paid illustration work. Plus being 'creative' I am making most of the Christmas presents. Have a cupboard full of jams/chutneys, have made applique cushions & also doing some painted glass vases/cocktail glasses. Oh and done some small stuffed toys for the childerbeast in the family! :o Busy busy busy!

Made choc chip cookies today with DD, definitely not diet food & really need to be good after my holiday blow out! :)

Oh and well done on your 2lbs! :)

Hi all

DP is quite cheerfully getting on with it all today so data crash was definitely not as sickeningly bad as we first thought. His ability to look on the bright side is one of the things I do love about him most! Have had to pay out my penance on Tottenham Court Rd this morning though buying another drive, bleugh.

Strawberrypie I am another cyclist too - definitely not of your fitness level, more toddling sedately round being a Pashley Princess! I used to bomb it around on a hybrid but a slipped disc a few years ago means cycling leaning forward does my back in now, so I'm content to be upright.

Bebe hurrah for your illustration work! And your creative christmassing sounds brilliant, I love handmade presents, think they communicate so much more love than things off the shelves. Have you got any pics of things we can see?

100 - are you feeling any better?

everyone(that's my cheap way of saying your names individually) I have cut out a lot of foods, caffeine and red wine are triggers along with cheese(not eaten any since 1994) and too much dairy stuff, along with being tired, sleeping too much/not enough, sometimes my period, strong smells, crying before bed, missing a meal, cold air on my head, sometimes I can eat chocolate, other times I can't.
I can sometimes sense I am going to get one, and other times they hit me without me realising, and sometimes I click and realise that the warning signs were there, other times I just get them and cannot put a finger on why or notice any warning signs. For me pre-migraine I am lethargic, yawn a lot, crave sweet food. It's a nightmare really. I'm also on preventers for it, fat lot of good they are doing at the moment. :(

But I am feeling better today, not 100% but loads better than I was.

quod I am now using OH's computer, we are sharing his as mine was slow and it's nice to share, except the first day I used it I accidentally pressed open on my pictures, I had thousands in there, it made everything freeze and I couldn't do anything with it till he got home, I was hoping I hadn't broken it entirely. Back up is the way forward, we do ours all the time.

Yay for the cyclists amongst us. Right then who is going to cycle when pg, I fully intend to, and intend to for as long as I can physically sit on the bike without budging my bump every time I pedal, I know someone who cycled right up to their 38th/39th week. My mum was cycling when peg with me, she did fall off her bike, I say it's got a lot to do with how I am now

I've applied for a slightly different position at work, it's only a temporary secondment, but it would mean better hours and more pay during that time, eep.

Just been out for a run, that ended up being a run for part of it, and then reset the garmin and walked the rest as my legs felt odd running, only slightly slower walking, so I think I will stick with that for a while