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We're taking the train...some now boarding, some delays, some still standing on the platform! TTC 'Waiters' IIT!

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bebejones · 20/09/2010 07:59

Old thread here

Welcome aboard, make yourselves comfy I have a feeling it's going to be a bumpy ride! Wink

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100years · 02/10/2010 19:44

bebe sorry you are fed up. :( Want me to tell a joke? (bearing in mind I'm not sure how long I will be on here!)

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bebejones · 02/10/2010 19:50

Do you know any good jokes?

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100years · 02/10/2010 19:53

Little girl Crying, "Mummy, quick! Get me a glass of cider!". "Why" asked mum. "I cut my hand on a thorn and want the pain to go!".
Confused the mother poured some cider. She immediately dunked her hand in it.
"Ouch! It still hurts! This cider doesn?t work!"she whined.". "Why did you think that cider would ease ur pain?".
"Well, I heard my big sister say that whenever she gets a prick in her hand, she can?t wait to get it in cider".

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bebejones · 02/10/2010 19:55

:o

Thanks! I shall tell it to DH, might cheer him up too!

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100years · 02/10/2010 20:03

Cool :)

jbells · 03/10/2010 09:05

hey ladies, just to let u all know i am keeping up just havnt had time to write as been busy sorting out our holiday stuff for monday, i am not looking forward to plane trip with DD especially on a 6am flight :(

hope everyones feeling a bit less down, seems the blues have been affecting most of us.

i had a strange dream last nite that i was in hosp waiting to have twins and there was another woman in there pushing 5 out, i cudnt understand y she wasnt having c-section then someone passed the baby 2 me and it turned from a baby into a cat :S and i kept falling over cos my bump was so big, really strange, best not be twins lol

thanks for adding me to list was unsure whether i shud b on it or not

nannyl · 03/10/2010 09:09

has anyone here read this mumsnet swine flu vac thread?

I certainly will NOT be having this (or any other) jab while pregnant (and i dont really believe in vaccines full stop) but am wondering if i should make an appt with GP now to discuss having this jab, as i want it before i TTC, and it has dauned on me that Dec is only 2 months away, so if im gonna have this, the sooner the better.

had anyone else thought about this?

AmandaCooper · 03/10/2010 09:44

Jbells did you have a load of crazy pg dreams last time too? The bit where your baby turned into a cat is weird! I dreamt about babies too - I dreamt that all my friends who have babies and young children all descended on my house at the same time and there were kids everywhere!

Worried that we have all got the blues at the same time. Hope the whole winter's not going to be like this! Actually what I really hope is that we all get out BFPs very soon and stop feeling so fed up about waiting and start feeling fed up about morning sickness, stretch marks and impending labour instead!

Not sure about the flu jab nannyl. I've never had one before but it does sound like a good idea. Don't they only have a fixed amount though earmarked for the elderly, pg women etc?

nannyl · 03/10/2010 09:46

i think they do BUT if planning to get pg, (as i am) surely a doctor would allow us the choose to have it before we have the baby developing inside us? cause there is NO WAY i will risk taking it at any stage of my pregnancy

AmandaCooper · 03/10/2010 10:31

I thought that. How long before ttc would you have it?

nannyl · 03/10/2010 10:33

well tbh i have a wedding coming up, then on holiday for a week, then friends up, so realisticly wont get a chance to have it until 1st week of november, which would be either 6 or 10 weeks ish before TTC, depending on if we opt for ttc in dec or jan

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bebejones · 03/10/2010 12:34

Nannyl - I know before (last winter) on this thread someone convinced their GP to let them have it before TTC. I get flu jabs anyway (coz of the MS) so doesn't actually apply to me. But probably worth talking to your GP. I think that if I was PG in 'flu season' I would have it. But I know it is a really personal thing. I guess this year it'll be about 2 months before TTC that I have it.

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strawberrypie · 03/10/2010 14:10

nannyl I think you have got to weigh up the risks involved in having the swine flu vaccine whilst pregnant (very low) against the risk of contracting the infection (potential death for both you and the baby) and decide. It would be an ideal option if the GP could give it to you before TTC though. I certainly believe in vaccinations for what it's worth.

Do you think one of the reasons you might be feeling so frustrated AC is that the timing for TTC seems to be entirely up to your DH at the moment and he keeps changing his mind?

I find things are easier to deal with if you have some degree of control over a situation. I know you can't force him to give you a definite date to start TTC but I think to be fair on you he really should!

100years I see what you mean about the cost of the turbo compared to gym membership! Looks much more sensible now! :)

100years · 03/10/2010 16:56

I had the swine flu vaccine earlier on in the year/end of last year(whenever it was out) through work, I'm currently undecided about getting the flu vaccine this year, it does contain the swine flu vaccine and 2 other strains, I can't remember off hand what they are, we had all the bumpf about it at work again. I think for me I potentially only have one month before I would have to think hard about having it done. When I see the doc I will ask her about it and see what she says. If she says they will give it me then I will have it there and then, but I'm not sure when they start rolling out the vaccinations.

strawberry this is the one I am thinking of getting, it has good reviews from people I know who have one, turbos can be quite noisy, this one apparently is one of the quieter ones.

Started the day with a cross trainer session :o Feel good for it, but a little tired now!

I think someone commented about how nice this thread was because we talk about all sorts, I must admit I think the same, I may have a look at some of the other threads soon, but for now I will stick to this one.

AmandaCooper · 03/10/2010 22:50

Well not sure whether it's the right decision or not but I'm back on the pill for now sigh See you all tomorrow x

AmandaCooper · 03/10/2010 23:31

Strawberrypie I think you're right. DH thinks it's only right that we should wait as long as it takes for him to be completely ready and takes the view that there is absolutely no difference between ttc now and ttc in, say, 2 years time.

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bebejones · 04/10/2010 08:18

AC - I have to say I don't think my DH was 100% ready when we had DD. But he kind of had to be IYSWIM? In fact I'm not sure I was completely ready! Confused He has no guarantees he will feel any different in 2 years, or more! Have you asked him what exactly it is he is waiting to 'feel'? That must have been a really tough decision for you to go back on the pill

DH has got the week from hell ahead at work. I'm not looking forward to his mood, which has been rubbish since we got home, and is not going to improve!

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jbells · 04/10/2010 08:59

morning all,

sorry youve had to go back on your pill AC i do agree with bebe that most people are never 100% ready, if i waited for DP to be a 100% sure about anything i wud be waiting forever he over thinks everything, it sucks that men think u shud just wait for them to be ready what about your needs and wot u want? sorry for rant just feel like babies are something there shud be more compromise on and tends not to be

so on another note had another i had another dream last nite this time i was having triplets and i remember being in labour and pushing them out which was suprisingly unpainful but by the time the third one was ready to come out i was to tired so they kinda pulled it out my belly hehe, i am having such vivid strange dreams every nite, least theyve moved on from being really scary like they were in beggining

i am supose to be going on hol tomoro, and DD is starting to come out in rash, i really hope its not chicken pox :(

JustShaggingForNow · 04/10/2010 10:04

Morning laides!
What a lovely grey Monday it is..... :(
Sorry I've not been on here for a while, things have been quite hard at work and DH has been away so I've not had anybody to talk about it with and have ended up getting pretty miserable.

BFH has been a complete C*ck (so much so I was in tears on Thursday night !!! Blush) He made me stay late on Friday night because they hadn't got their shit together for a big presentation they were supposed to be preparing for today. No thanks or anything......

DH has gone off on business again today. He's back on Wednesday at about midnight. Feeling a bit sad as I really missed him last week.

Am also feeling a little bit funny because he is going for dinner with his ex tonight. I know that I shouldn't care and I do trust him 100% but there is still something about it that makes me feel a bit uncomfortable. She was his last love before me and I think that she ended things and broke his heart. He only told me on Saturday that he had arranged it and didn't ask if I was ok with it. I guess that he just assumed it would be ok as I am prety laid back about things and don't really get jealous but this ex is different.

The week from hell also made me really frustrated about the TTC issue. I know that if DH would work on my timetable then I would be so much happier in general and the problems at work would seem much less important.

Just want to be tucked up in bed with a hot water bottle and a good book, not in the office :(

jbells · 04/10/2010 10:45

hey JS, sorry your felling so bad, know how you feel with DP being away its really lonely isnt it :( y is your boss being so difficult, do u think he/she is doing it on purpose?

and wow u must be very laid back am a really jelous person, my dad cheated on my mum loads and my first serious boyfriend i caught in bed with someone else and i dont think that was the first time he did it, so i know i have some trust issues, do u know why hes meeting his ex, have they stayed good frineds since theyve split up? dont want to fuel the fire but he prob shud of checked that u didnt mind b4 he arranged to meet her :( do u ever speak meet up with any of your ex BFs? i think if it is worrying you that you shud tell him because like u sed he may just think that meeting her wudnt bother u

JustShaggingForNow · 04/10/2010 10:52

I don't think they've met up since they broke up about 4 years ago. She lives in Germany and isn't often in London so they have never really had the chance. I think they email but probably not that often.

I haven't really stayed friends with my ex's but I occasionally bump into one of them at the station and DH knows that.

I should know that he won't do anything but sometimes you can get paranoied!! Think it's probably because I am really unhappy with everything else at the moment that I am worried about it.

jbells · 04/10/2010 11:05

i ma definately the paranoid type, an when you r unhappy with things it def accentuates the feeling, atleast she will be going back to germany thousands of miles away soon :)

JustShaggingForNow · 04/10/2010 11:08

He's in Germany - and meeting her. Confused

Quodlibet · 04/10/2010 12:09

JS sorry you're having a shitty time. I think definitely when you are down about stuff generally it triggers you to feel more paranoid.

It's a difficult one with exes, isn't it? I am still friends with all mine and see one of them really regularly as he's still a very close friend, luckily DP doesn't have a jealous bone in his body! (And of course he doesn't have any reason to be jealous.) I also have another ex who lives abroad and if I was in the country I'd definitely want to catch up with him. I suppose what I'm trying to say is that IME spending time with exes can be totally un-"charged" and just about spending time with someone you obviously liked as a person for good reasons.

Still, I can understand why you feel uncomfortable and it's annoying that he didn't check how you'd feel. If he hasn't seen her for ages perhaps he's nervous about it and not really dealing with it very well? I think it can be really cathartic to see an old flame in the right context when you're happy and secure in a new relationship, and put old ghosts to rest, if that makes sense. Maybe he wants her to see that he's happy and fulfilled without her...and quite possibly he'll come home going 'Oh my god I'm SO glad I'm not with her anymore!'. Saying all that though I think you have to be really sensitive about your current partner's feelings about it and maybe he's not been as sensitive as he should have been.

Totally understand that it's hard when they're away a lot, my DP has been away 2 or 3 nights a week for the last month or so and loads more coming up. It definitely makes me feel lonely and exacerbates anything I'm feeling a bit low about.

Sorry to hear your boss is being a bell-end too...

jbells · 04/10/2010 12:22

oh i thought she was here, like quod says he prob wants to see her for all the right reasons, and i do bump into and speak to my ex every now and agen, but i know his gf does not approve of him speaking to me, i wouldnt ever go for a meal with him not because it wudnt be nice to catch up we were great friend more for the reason that i wudnt want DP to do it as i wud be extremely jelous, panoia and jelousy are def something i need to work on, not good traits and i know im wrong for it, its great that u can be so relaxed bout it like quod, i think im just a generally very insecure person tho :S