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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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We're taking the train...some now boarding, some delays, some still standing on the platform! TTC 'Waiters' IIT!

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bebejones · 20/09/2010 07:59

Old thread here

Welcome aboard, make yourselves comfy I have a feeling it's going to be a bumpy ride! Wink

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bebejones · 01/10/2010 20:09

JBells - Sleep does make all the difference. DD slept 6-7hours a night from about 4 weeks. (We were very lucky) Her sleep is alot more up and down lately :( She is so fiercely independant & stubborn & hideously strong willed that she has always been (what her Grandad calls) a 'force of nature' the last few months have been...erm...trying! Hmm Wouldn't change her though...she's great fun! :o

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bebejones · 01/10/2010 20:10

Amummy - sorry you are feeling rough still :( Cosy down to watch Strictly...that'll help! Wink

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strawberrypie · 01/10/2010 20:26

STRICTLY!!! WOO-HOO! De de de de de de de, de de de de de!

100years I have got a trek 1.5 but I am quite new to cycling, I only really started last year but am loving it. What events do you train for? I did a charity ride last year (Manchester to Blackpool) but went pretty slowly! My OH wants a turbo but they seem so expensive for what they are-very useful though especially in winter or for when you have a LO!

Glad you are back ok bebe! You can cheer up your OH by making him watch strictly! He will be so pleased (if he is anything like my OH!) welcome to the first NO JAB FRIDAY! Yey! OH and I made home made pizzas this week in honour of you and they were great x

Take a thermometer to work amummy and make sure the temperature is within the legal limits! I hate being cold, much rather be too hot than too cold.

AmandaCooper · 01/10/2010 21:45

Is anyone around? I am utterly utterly utterly fed up of all of this. AF arrived today, which is good news, because obviously I wouldn't have wanted to be pg after all the business with the MAP, but now it's time to take my first contraceptive pill again and even though I want to get our sex life back on track, somehow I can't quite get round to taking the bloody thing. All the 6am temping and charting and everything. I wish I'd never started. God I'm so sick and tired of the whole thing.

amummyinwaiting · 01/10/2010 22:42

Hi AC,
Are you ok?As I said before I can understand how it is when you start to resent thaking the contraception. Could you just ease yourself back into it slowly and not do the temping for a while (I havent really got a clue about it so I'm sorry if that sounds flippant.) But there is a reason that you are doing all of this and it will be worthwhile.
Hugs to you.

AmandaCooper · 01/10/2010 23:29

Hi amummyinwaiting. See it's my turn to have a mini breakdown - we politely take turns on this thread! I have no idea why this has just come upon me today like this, I'm really fed up.

AmandaCooper · 01/10/2010 23:33

How are you doing? I hope your AF isn't overstaying her welcome!

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bebejones · 02/10/2010 07:57

Strawberry DH only allows me to watch Strictly because of Ola! Hmm Oh and now Aliona aswell! Hmm Hmm

AC - Sorry you are feeling so rubbish. It won't be forever. Maybe if your DH sees how miserable it's making you he might change his mind?

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strawberrypie · 02/10/2010 08:29

AC at least you now know you ARE ovulating and that you can interpret your cycles when the time comes. That is useful information to have and should give you a bit of peace of mind until you do start TTC?

Also remember about that post pill fertility spike too- as soon as you stop the pill next time you will be up-duffed at light speed! If I were you i wouldn't want to have to go through the whole MAP issue again so maybe taking the pill is the easiest option? Although I know it is not easy at all :(

bebe my OH also thinks Ola has a lot going for her! Kristina is another favourite! Hmm

nannyl · 02/10/2010 08:44

AC sorry you are feeling so rubbish Sad

hope you feel better soon

amummy GRRR at your boss, hope things sort themselves out for you. GRRRRRRR

bebe glad you are home but sorry your journey was crap

I am having a quiet weekend this weekend. (by quiet i mean not driving 500miles + which i will be doing EVERY weekend between now and november, and as i did last weekend too Shock)

am patiently waiting my breakfast in bed Smile

am VERY confused with my temps though... had +ve OPK on day 13 and 14, temp rise day 15, up steeply until day 18, day 19 steep drop ON to cover line, went up again day 19, but day 20 steep drop again to one point above cover line. Am very Confused about it

continueing your thread bit bebe

bebejones - still waiting to TTC #2(less than 3 months to go)
nannyl waiting to TTC #1. been here since may and waiting until Xmas to start trying.

nannyl · 02/10/2010 08:45

i mean went up day 20 but day 21 steep drop

amummyinwaiting · 02/10/2010 11:19

AC - sorry I didnt get back to you last night. Was feeling very rough and had to go to bed. Af came back with a vengance last night after having nothing all through the day so had pains etc and was feeling very sick.
Strawberry pie is right-you know that you ahave got everything working right, and as soon as you start ttc you will be super organised and ready whereas none understanders like myself will still be dawdeling along Smile
bebe and strawberry I can add another husband to the list she is such a good dancer (nothing to do with her twinkling around nearly naked!)
nanny1 - work really riling me. Am used to the cold (rats are a new addition though!) so dont think it would bother me as much if it wasnt for boss being so shit. Wish they would stop changing mind and let me get on with it. In the 6years I have had my work pattern changed every single year. I hope your breakfast in bed was nice!

bebejones - still waiting to TTC #2(less than 3 months to go)
nannyl waiting to TTC #1. been here since may and waiting until Xmas to start trying.
amummyinwaiting ttc #1 but getting narked and niggly at nebstrual cycle!

Quodlibet · 02/10/2010 12:19

AC sorry it's your turn to feel shit. As strawberry said, now you have done temping and know that you're ovulating, will that be one less thing to worry about if you're on the pill? One thing I've realised is that you've got to choose your contraception on balance of the effects it has on your body and the effects it has on your mind - probably best to go with the one that stresses you out the least, whatever that is? I think I'm in the same position as you and don't really know what the answer is, tbh.

What I'd really like someone to tell me is how I can stop thinking about something too much - to the extent where it's distracting me from other areas of my life. I feel like that's something (from reading boards on here) a lot of us have an issue with.

amummy - I could probably ignore the rats but I HATE the cold, urrgh. Sorry to hear your boss is being such an arse too.

What are everyone's weekend plans? DP is working non-stop at the moment so he's not much fun, but it's my sister's birthday this weekend so going out tonight for that.

AmandaCooper · 02/10/2010 12:46

Morning all. Things are still up in the air this morning. I took the first pill in the packet but now I want to throw the rest of them away and DH has told me to do it. He was completely against the idea last night as well. So it's back to charting!

Nannyl that's exactly like my chart last month. I had a definite sustained rise and my post OV temps never dropped below the fertility friend coverline but some of them will be below the TCOYF coverline once I input them. Really spiky chart.

AmandaCooper · 02/10/2010 14:25

I don't know Quodlibet. I spent a long time researching whether there was any kind of therapy or medication that could help with keeping the obsessive thoughts at bay. I thought there might be books on it but couldn't find anything. Horror stories about motherhood helped for a while by putting me off!

What does worry me is that from reading MN it seems that broodiness isn't even cured by having a baby. You hear people on here wishing for a baby a couple of days after they've just had one, or when they've already got six!

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bebejones · 02/10/2010 15:38

AC - have you thrown them out? Broodiness is definitely not cured by having a baby. Wink Soon after you have one your hormones go haywire & alot of people find that they want another one really quickly. Must be Mother Nature's way of making you forget about labour!

Had quite filthy dreams last night Blush but was actually all about TTC! Blush I am not 'safe' from my broodiness even while sleeping!

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AmandaCooper · 02/10/2010 15:57

Should I throw them out?! Lol at the naughty ttc dreams! Have you told your DH about this?

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bebejones · 02/10/2010 16:42

Didn't tell DH, don't want to scare him! :o

Totally up to you about throwing them out.
On the one hand, you hate the condoms & don't want another MAP situation.
On the other hand it makes it hard to chart & is obviously not sitting well with you or your DH.

Interesting that he wanted you to throw them out, what does he want to 'use'/do?

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AmandaCooper · 02/10/2010 17:32

He doesn't want to have anything to do with the decision, which I don't blame him for - he's being lovely but he's walking on eggshells all the time.

Just found out one of my best friends from Uni is pg expecting in March.

Quodlibet · 02/10/2010 17:54

AC: Toss a coin?

Oh dear. Clearly we're all fucked if even having a baby doesn't sort out the obsessive broodiness.

Gender reassignment anyone?

Do you think, in days gone by when women didn't have any proper means of birth control (aside from restraint) and you couldn't plan your families, they didn't really think about it anywhere near as much as we do?

(but then again they were all probably too busy mangling their washing etc...and of course didn't have the internet to stoke the flames...)

Eggshells rather evenly distributed in our house at the moment; DP really really really really stressed with a big work deadline, which seems to be taking over both our lives atm and feels like it has been going on forever and will continue to do so...

I tell you what AC if we could come up with an AntiBroody therapy we'd earn a bloody fortune.

Quodlibet · 02/10/2010 17:58

PS Baby just remembered I had a dream last night where I was trying to make a fancy-dress costume to go to a party dressed as 'a frayed knot'. As in 'I'm afraid not'.(!?!?!) It was rubbish (my costume). My subconscious is clearly just upchucking total nonsense!

AmandaCooper · 02/10/2010 18:06

Ha ha you nutter! I think we should sell some bullshit therapy anyway make some money to find our baby addiction and then have as many as we want!

I think in the past women were probably facing the opposite problem i.e. how to stop getting pg before it eventually killed them!

100years · 02/10/2010 18:57

Evening all folks :)

How are we all?

I've been on my bike again :) Just over 23 miles done today, not bad off a night shift. Just waiting for a roast dinner to finish and then it's grub time.

Hopefully be around a bit later on, if not I will be about tomorrow.

Any news, I've added myself to the list and added jbells as I thought she ought to be on the list.

bebejones - still waiting to TTC #2(less than 3 months to go)
nannyl waiting to TTC #1. been here since may and waiting until Xmas to start trying.
jbells Train driver Wink
100years 'still' waiting to TTC #1, been here since Aug, hopefully TTC in November(was originally Jan 2011)

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bebejones · 02/10/2010 19:33

AC/Quod - maybe hypnotherapy might work...like it does if you want to give up smoking Hmm Wink

100 - Shock that's a loooooong bike ride, my bum feels sore at the thought of it! Wink

Back a little over 24hours & DH is doing my head in!! Moping around, being snappy, doing work! Feeling a bit fed up! :(

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100years · 02/10/2010 19:43

bebe yeah I suppose it is, feels quite normal for me now as I have done a lot over the summer, but there was a time not so long ago where I thought 15 was a long way. I must admit to having a little bit of discomfort, something I hadn't had over the summer, maybe I was just cycling differently.

strawberry not really trained for anything in particular, did Manchester to Chester in July, was a smidge over 50 miles, was a good day and I enjoyed it, was very tough though, loads of hills. Turbos are only around £120 for a decent silent one, I think it's well worth it, if you think a gym membership would cost that for 3 or 4 months and the turbo will last for years.

I love my OH, he is ace, he's so supportive of me, and seems to understand the hormones more than I do! We are seeing some friends next weekend hopefully, both lots of friends have a new baby, one will be about 3 weeks, the other will be about 6 weeks, I forget, time goes by sometimes, and I have pre-warned him what I will be like on the way home, he said "you don't need to actually tell me that" or words to that effect, he already knew! Bless him.