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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

More ongoing and continuing conceptions and follicling ahead of Feisty, Fabulous Forty somethings

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Beattiebow · 11/09/2010 21:02

I've started a new thread!

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Beattiebow · 12/10/2010 19:18

hi there, no not shagging like mad sadly. Am at ov stage though so will try to tonight. (dh being resistant grrr).

On other news here, I finally cracked up, went mad, and handed my notice in yesterday. far too hard to work 50 hour week (am paid for 28hours), commute for 2-3 hours a week and look after 5 children. My sanity was cracking. Now panicking about having no career, or money. or self worth, or independence. etc etc.

hippy sorry about your dh (and his timing too!), hopefully it will only be a couple of days. Sounds as though you have to fastrack IoW.

Jolls hospital experience sounds horrendous. When are you at private app? I saw E yesterday - I had just emailed handing in my notice and was very emotional. She bore the brunt of it! (very well actually).

Gum sounds promising!

40somemum are you testing soon?

I like the chart - I am definitely in vest and shorts stage, but roll on slanket stage!

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Beattiebow · 12/10/2010 19:19

sorry commute for 2-3hours a day

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Curlylox · 12/10/2010 20:34

We knew what you meant BB. You have my sympathies Hippy it is difficult dealing with someone with depression.
I have news, I have news she says punching the air jumping up and down (can you hear the Rocky theme tune).......AF has finally arrived after 56 days! I am now CD1 and will officially be joining you all in SWI in due course but first I must, must retire to my bed with a huge bar of chocolate and sleep for as long as I can (after I've ate the chocolate of course) This is one of the downsides to AF, am drained of every ounce of energy I possess. Sorry for self indulgent post, waves night night to all of you lovely ladies Smile

gumblossom · 13/10/2010 00:39

Yay Curlylox! This is good news. I know how you feel. I was waiting for post partum AF for a really long time, at at my age, didn't want to wait too long.

Hippy, sorry to hear your DH is feeling low.It can't be easy for you or him.

Beattie, you poor thing - you can't possibly keep up that lifestyle. 2 - 3 hours a day commuting? Oh my God! That's crazy.Especially when you have to come home to 5 children. I hope you can find a happy medium.

I tried for years and have been happiest being relatively poor and not working at all.My sanity just couldn't take working full-time and juggling 4 kids (before my last baby).

Now I work 3 hours a week and even that feels a bit of an inconvenience!

No news here.Don't feel very different.I have stayed away from the tests and plan to for a bit longer.

Diege · 13/10/2010 09:58

Morning! Good for you keeping away from the tests Gum - you are very strong Grin.
BB phew, your work situation sounds manic. How are you feeling now that the deed has been done? I have fantasies of also giving in my notice. Thankfully things are a little easier than they were last year when I too had a lengthy commute (4 hrs a day round trip on bus, train, bus) but am now coming in with a colleague in her car so a lot quicker. I don't think I could have carried on either with your situation. Is there any way they could make your working week a little more flexible (some working from home etc?)
Curly excellent news about your af - pretty much what the drs said then?
Hippy we know where you're coming from with your dh! I can totally see how his health issues impacted negatively on his childhood. Did you manage to chat about possible effects of his depression on the ds's?
I'd better go - teaching at 10. Back later x

Beattiebow · 13/10/2010 10:04

diege I am sitting at work just feeling really upset. I probably didn't handle it well at all as I could have discussed more flexible working possibilities, but on the other hand I have tried quite a few patterns and none have been ideal. I am torn because it is important to me to have a career, and I do really enjoy my job, but it was/is just too much. I left home at 6.50 this morning (and didn't even see 3 of my dcs) and won't get back until around 7.

it is hard giving it all up, but otoh I am looking forward to watching loose women having a clean house and being able to bake cakes, do homework, go to the park, the beach, toddler groups (well maybe not the last one).

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Italiangreyhound · 13/10/2010 20:03

Curlylox so glad af has finally arrived can you ask it where mine is please? I think they may have been together in their own version of the snug! Ha ha.

Beattiebow How do you feel about giving up your job? I am so sorry you have given in your job, if that is not really what you want, was it heat of the moment type thing? How come they were expecting you to work 50 hours but only paying you for 28. That seems very unfair. What do you do or can? t you say?

Gum greetings, what do you do three hours a day for work?

Thanks all, for your comments about my bloating, yes I saw the doc, twice, two docs really. One said what bloating went on an un-bloated day (must have been mad) he said he looked for the 5 Fs - flatulence, fluid, foetus, fat or faeces or something like that! Later another doc, a lady, said yes it was bloating and referred me to the dietician. She suggested avoid resident starch, whole grains, potato skins etc, which I did.

Anyway, I have now borrowed a book called Japanese Women Don't get old or fat by Naomi Mariyama www.japanesewomendontgetoldorfat.com/

I am going to be soooooo healthy at the end of all this!

Waves to all.

NotanOtter · 13/10/2010 20:31

hello all

curlylox so pleased for you - i have longish cycles and once went through similar to you and soo frustrating

Beattie - i hope you feel ok about work etc - YOU know best!

I am feeling a bit blue- wondering if i can keeep doing this ..i am sure i will but.....

gumblossom · 14/10/2010 00:19

Morning Ladies.

I'm feeling so tired, if I'm not pregnant i want to know why I feel so fatigued when I've just got back from holiday...

My DS3 is going through a non-stop whinging or tantruming stage. Please can I have my lovely boy back!

Italian, I only work three hours a week! Not every day. I'm a tutor for high school students. I tutor in English mainly.It is a very easy job.One on One, mostly very willing students and get paid $50 an hour. But it starts at 3.30 in the the afternoon.One hour Monday, 2 on Wednesday. At that time of the day it is sometimes hard to leave the house.I'm usually trying to get dinner ready, and my wee boy is sometimes still asleep and has to be woken.

It is winding down now as the year 11's and 12's have their final exams soon.All my students will probably be done in a couple of weeks, so then I can relax until Feb next year.

Despite feeling very tired, I really don't hold out much hope for a pregnancy.I just don't have any symptoms...

Chin up NotanOtter, I sympathise, if you do keep ttc it'll be worth it when you have your LO in your arms, right?

Diege · 14/10/2010 14:05

Hello! Just a quick one from me. Gum I wouldn't normally say this but maybe do an teeny weeny test - not a 'real' one as such just a little internet cheapie?? Italian sound sike you are on track to sort out the bloating - I like the 5 Fs Grin
BB I think things will resolve themselves if you follow your gut instinct. Do you have dh's support re: work? Agree about toddler group though an rather partial to the odd class of Jo Jingles, in small doses.
My boss is being very nasty to me at the moment after a mistake I made (admin). I've come clean (several of us have done the same thing so I'm not alone - that's what happens when you give paperwork to academics Blush). So feeling a bit glum about it all, esp as it transpires that I'm not really to blame after all(complicated). So I have serious 'packing it all in ' envy BB!

hippychick66 · 14/10/2010 14:39

diege you tell 'em not to mess with my bezzie mate Grin

BB I hope it turns out to be the right decision for you. Can't imagine how you manage to work at all with all your kids and a home and a DH etc. All sounds very stressful. I hope you are ok, lovie.

italian Loving the 5 F's. There is a 6th actually - f'ing don't know. Which is what most doctors think.

gum hope the tiredness is a sign that you're preggers. It's horrid when our little ones hit a hard patch isn't it. He's still your Charlie underneath it all Smile

As for me - well after about 3 days of DH being very grumpy and me fantasising about leaving him and running off to a new life with the boys tucked under my arm, we made up last night. This had nothing to do with the faint positive I got on an OKP yesterday Wink. We ended up having a good talk and resolving things with a shag at midnight Shock this is very unlike us 1) DH isn't usually 'up' at that time and 2) I'm usually asleep by then. Anyway I got a further positive today (the second line was even darker than the control line) so am defo due to ovulate soon. Will keep up the SWI - now we are speaking again.

muchlove · 14/10/2010 14:53

Hey gang

GUM I agree with Diege can you do a little IC just to rule out a reason for the tiredness (I will do one if you will)Grin

ITALIAN What does resident starch mean ??? Is it a starch that lives with us ??? I never knew potato skins were a problem Shock I love them it's the best bit of Jacket Potato for me..... I really hope you get to the bottom of the bloat because I'm sure we would all be interested... it is the bane of our lives at certain times of the month... I'm sure I can speak for us all...

DIEGE Hope it all sorts itself out for you on the workfront it's crap when your boss is being mean x

NotAnOtter Course you can still do 'this' I know those down days very well but we are here to help you up and keep you positive....hopefully....

HIPPY I know it didnt have anything to do with first faint possy Wink.... now are you gonna go for it tonight or.....maybe do tomorrow ??? That could be right on OV.... or both 2nite and 2moro night ???... Anyway in the words of 'Delboy' Im really glad you and DH are 'CUSHTY' now .......

BB Sometimes in life things are just meant to be....you know.. and you just have to let things happen how they are gonna happen.... oh that all sounds a bit 'new age' or something but I'm sure it's gonna be ok ....

Love and waves to all xx

hippychick66 · 14/10/2010 18:10

What disgraceful behaviour - telling someone to do a test - shame on you. How many days post ov are you gum - might be worth a shot!!! Grin ha ha - I've just checked and you're only 9 days post ov - so I say don't do it yet - it will tell you nowt!

otter not sure how old you are exactly but I do understand how you feel - I keep thinking "I can't really do this!" But keep at it for a while longer. Our mate alba is proof that it can be done - she's about 30-something weeks now Grin

jolly how are you, Mrs? All ok?

Diege · 14/10/2010 18:13

Test, test, test!!! You might get the faintest of lines, and there again you might not and still be pregnant...it's win-win situation Grin

40someMum · 14/10/2010 20:23

eek - just supposed to be incognito on here but as some of you will have noticed am not TOO clever about it....

just ignore my real name please and pretend you haven't noticed Confused!

Italiangreyhound · 14/10/2010 22:10

Oopse, muchlove sorry, it is resistant starch resistant not resident! Wink

Wikipedia describes it thus.....

"Resistant starch (RS) is starch and starch degradation products that escape digestion in the small intestine of healthy individuals.[1] Resistant starch is considered the third type of dietary fiber, as it can deliver some of the benefits of insoluble fiber and some of the benefits of soluble fiber.

Some carbohydrates, such as sugars and most starch, are rapidly digested and absorbed as glucose into the body through the small intestine and subsequently used for short-term energy needs or stored. Resistant starch, on the other hand, resists digestion and passes through to the large intestine where it acts like dietary fiber.

Resistant starch has been categorized into four types:

* RS1 Physically inaccessible or digestible resistant starch, such as that found in seeds or legumes and unprocessed whole grains

* RS2 Resistant starch that occurs in its natural granular form, such as uncooked potato, green banana flour and high amylose corn

* RS3 Resistant starch that is formed when starch-containing foods are cooked and cooled such as in legumes,[2] bread, cornflakes and cooked-and-chilled potatoes or retrograded high amylose corn

* RS4 Starches that have been chemically modified to resist digestion. This type of resistant starches can have a wide variety of structures and are not found in nature.

There is some discussion about resistant dextrins being described as "resistant starch". Resistant dextrins are not starches, and they can be soluble or insoluble. They might be described as "starch degradation products", which is literally included in the EURESTA definition, but their characteristics and performance are very different than insoluble resistant starches."

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Resistant_starch

BUT this is what my dietician said for ME, it is because I am experiencing bloating and pain and she said MY guts are obviously not digesting this food well. It is not for the general public. Obviously whole grains are normally recognised as healthy.

10000fireflies · 14/10/2010 22:18

Evening girls! Just thought I'd say hi! Was thinking the other night how nice it to be part of your group - really helps, even if I'm not joining in too much. Don't have any RL friends in their 40's TTC. Think I'll just have a little snuggle in the corner with that lovely pink fleece slanket. Nearly the weekend....

gumblossom · 15/10/2010 00:10

O.K. So I did what you said deige and I tested with a First Response. No go...big fat stark white,only one line, negative.

Can't say I'm surprised. Maybe all the running around after my 2 year old is making me so tired.

After a lovely day outside yesterday - gardening and tidying up the clutter, I managed to sprain my ankle! So mad at myself because I was getting right into it and didn't want to stop. It isn't too bad, but should probably try to stay off it a bit today. I feel like our family is accident prone!At least DH and I are both hobbling! It is pathetic. Hope it heals soon.I have a big week next week, preparing for my DH's 50th party.

I don't know if I'll bother testing again.I just don't feel there is any point. I'm beginning to wonder if I should forget the whole thing. Maybe my eggs really are past it...

AlbaDeTamble · 15/10/2010 08:40

Awww, Hippy I'm flattered at you holding me up as a beacon of hope... even better, look at TFLS who now has a healthy baby boy! And IIRC ILGH must be due soon, then KiwiKat soon after... And more recent bfps Lunatic and Liahgen... there, did I remember everyone? Wish they'd pop in and update us. But there's lots of hope for you.

Gum I used First response tests with DS. Didn't get a positive till a few days after AF had been due. Wait a few more days, it does sound hopeful Smile

galwaygal · 15/10/2010 12:20

100000ff - good to see you are still with us, I am into slanket phase now too, when will you be poas???.

40some - hmm, you did have me confused but I had not put 2 n 2 together to work out alias'!!!! Do your posts mean you have reached cd 1 again? You do sound a bit low. Hope you get some tlc over the weekend.

gum - testing early again, naughty naughty!!! anyway, hope you get a better result when you next test, you are sounding a bit low, so hope it is not just pmt.

Alba - great to have you reminding us of all our recent success stories, it is very encouraging.

hippy - good to hear you are back to swi again.

Diege · 15/10/2010 12:37

Hello Smile. Oh Gum I feel guilty now that I made you test Blush. It may well be too early, so don't give up yet. Don't feel too down either - you have good form and will get pregnant x
40some I'll admit to be baffled by the post where you say you gave your name. Or is it more complex than that? I feel I need to know your name!
Fireflies I agree, I don't know any other 40-some ttc-ers in real life, so great to have this space where we can all obsess together Grin
Hippy, are you on for tonight then??? cd 14 here for me, but no real sign of ov after a few 'false' ones. With be SWI tonight anyway, as will you I think? Temps really odd this morning. Have been round about 36.34-36.41 , normal for me pre-ov, but dropped to 36.09 this morning. Grateful I've not missed the ov boat anyway!
Love to all x

Beattiebow · 15/10/2010 17:38

Hi Gum, sorry it's negative - but maybe it's too early. I am in a similar place to you tbh.

I had peak on cbfm 3 days ago. dtd (just once bloody dh) temp went up and so I stopped. next day temp went down!! TodayI have bloody cm so think maybe ov is today 3 days after the peak. (or af has turned up on day 18), and now I have to bloody dtd again! all the other swis are to no avail. am in a bit of a dodgy place atm about my work anyway. so maybe should just stop.

40somemum, I have to confess I worked out who you were before your post! (weird stalkery emoticon). I am also someone else on rest of board, and have come across you before. Sorry you are back here.

Hippy how is your dh now? did you manage to get any swi in?

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Beattiebow · 15/10/2010 17:40

am on prosecco in real life already Blush its been a hard week!

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40someMum · 15/10/2010 18:30

chemical pg for me this month girls - sweet!
last one in august - so feeling like shit a wee bit blue tonight

snuggle down in the snug and i'll be back when i've mustered some strength

40someMum · 15/10/2010 18:31

Beattie you swot! I thought you asked a leading question once!! Wink

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