Clearblue Fertility Monitor Support Group Buddies Vol 4!!

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Time for us to move home again ladies!

Keziah I am so sorry. I don't know what to say at all. Have they provided their decision in writing to you disclosing the exact reason for refusal to treat?

Could you consider treatment abroad?

Notnearlyasblonde Congratulations on your BFP. Wishing you well for a successful pregnancy.

Notnearlyasblonde Congratulations!

Hi Ladies,
Most of you probably don?t remember me but this used to be my sanity thread too! I can?t tell you how grateful I was for the support and encouragement I got from ladies like you going through exactly to same as I was. It really did keep me going when times looked very bleak. My TTC journey was such an emotional and frustrating time in my life and I really believe that this thread helped me through the days and there should be more help out there for ladies like you. Keep doing exactly what you?re doing and never give up.
After a gruelling three years TTC, I got my BFP on this thread on 3 Feb and although we had other treatments I always used my CBFM to reassure me that the medication was working. In a few months (if DH has his way) I?ll be dusting off my CBFM and joining you again!
Anyway I just wanted to say hang in there and miracles do happen. My beautiful precious son is 11 days old today!

Keziah I am so sorry, thinking of you & please do not give up. As izzy says there has to be a solution. x x

notnearlyasblonde many congrats to you on your BFP!

vikks I remember you from when I first joined thread. CONGRATULATIONSon your wee boy, I bet he's gorgeous! You give me hope x

keziah I am shocked. I imagine that you are struggling now to hear anything anyone says to you, because of the awfulness of your situation.

But the one thing I want to say to you is that no matter what medical situation you are in, you have a right to a second opinion. Believe me, I KNOW how exhausting and hard it is to fight the mega-system, but keziah, you must try. This decision is beyond horrific given the implications for your future. Give yourself time to gather your thoughts and strength, and then fight back hard.

DH and I were talking about this, and he thinks this is the sort of thing you really need to speak to your MP about. If there is any possibility that NHS trusts are using 'depression' as a way to deny treatment for budgeting purposes, then its utterly unacceptable.

I also think that if the treatment has been denied on the grounds that you are a 'significant risk' to children, then surely logic dictates you should be put on some kind of register and stopped working with them? I doubt the NHS want that... so I would also explore legal-aid and talking to someone there to find out if your rights have been compromised.

The other thing DH said, and I agree so strongly with him here, is that you should get in touch with a leading depression charity (www.depressionalliance.org/) and describe your experience in detail. You need a powerful lobby group to support your position, and advise on how this can be rectified, and if there is anything they can do to help.

Finally, I wonder if its not worth writing to MN HQ, and telling them what's happened to you. From what others have said on this thread, I wonder if you are one of many people in this situation - and if things will get steadily worse as spending cuts bite. If people like you are so understandably devastated by the news, I think it is entirely possible that maybe people aren't coming forward. It might be worth finding out more and getting some sort of campaign going by linking up with a big organisation.

All I can say keziah is that I am horrified and devastated for you. I have no idea what will happen to DH and I (we have our first meeting next week). My gut insticnt is we might be OK - we're paying, and I bet that makes a difference. But it's also what makes me so so angry for you.

If you want any help writing letters please let me know. I'm sure I and all the ladies here will support you as you go forward. But don't give up - its too important to you.

Choccie: I agree wholeheartedly with everything you have just suggested to keziah, and if you read back a few days back you will find that I also suggested similarly to you, for keziah to seek a second opinion and to contact her MP. However, if you read back, it didn't go down too well, for whatevever reason. . .
Inspite of this I wish keziah the best of luck and hope that she finds a way of achieving her dreams.

Sorry for weird post and layout- am on iPhone!

Vikks I remember you - congrats on your son!!

Thanks Choccie, KC and Fedup for supportive posts here - you will all be fine getting treatment, it is just me. We are going to take some weeks to just get over the hurt right now (after all as a teacher I can't have holiday right now!!!) and then use all the info and advice and try to forget how much older my eggs are getting,... and keep ttc with CBFM, ie naturally ... I have read all your great ideas and posts, just bit too sore right now to act!!

Keziah: wishing you all the best. Sorry we cannot be of further help. Totally understand where you are coming from. Feel free to vent,rant and express your feelings and experiences here anytime you want. That is what this thread exists for, after all. Xxx

Fedup - you and people have been so kind, so thoughtful, the only people who have "heard me" ... in real life few know about desire for a child, after all that makes things harder and those that do - well you would explode if I said what they told me!!

Kezia: this is why I keep on reiterating that you are welcome to support us and we you, because from that perspective we are all in the same boat. We all want a baby, and cannot communicate that in RL constantly without attracting clever comments from people who we hold dear. MN is a saviour forces in that we let off steam, share each others ups and downs and still retain some sort of sanity in the process! This ttc malarkey is a hard slog- and without this fantastic resource to channel our thoughts it can seem quite bleak. Please let us know how we can help you, or even have a moan and let us know what you are going through. It helps you offload, helps us to understand that to feel like that is normal, so when we feel down( which is more often than not! ) we can accept it as such and most importantly the advice on here from ladies of strength and wisdom - like KC is invaluable. Hang on in there hunni- I hope in time this will be a distant bad memory, when you languish in your baby's laughter. It is better that you focus on the positives that you have in your life Joe, your health, your family, etc than to linger with bitter feelings towards the prejudiced few who made all these life changing decisions for you. Your approach: to heal yourself first will stand you in good stead in the long term. I have faith and hope for you. Don't lose sight of your goals and purposes. Xxxx sorry for such a lengthy post :-)

I'm sorry, there's lots of misprints in there. This predictive text on the phone is doing my head in. Hope you got the general gist of where I am going with this. Please accept my apologies :-)

Congrats notnearlyasblonde!

Keziah, sending you my best wishes. Hoping and wishing for a natural BFP for you.

As vikks said earlier, some of you may not remember me either, but I've used this thread in the past and found all the ladies a great support when I went through my ectopic pregnancy in April.

I had to post, firstly to send big hugs your way Keziah. I catch up with this thread regularly so have been following your story. I really don't know what to say other than I'm so sorry for you. As some of the other ladies have said, my fingers will be crossed for a natural bfp for you xxx

... and secodnly, cogratulations vikks on the brith of your little one. I'm 19 weeks now and have found out it's a boy .

Big congrats and good luck to everone else who have had, or have tentatively had, bfp's recently xx

Love Harry xxx

Forgot to say congrats on your new baby boy, Vikks.

Also, Harry, glad that everything is going well for you.

Today's stats:

In School
wantbaby TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM cycle 4, age 38, UCL 30, CD43
Notnearlyasblondasiwas TTC#2, Cycle #1, CBFM Cycle 1, age 33, UCL 28-39, CD39
Stormbird TTC#1, Cycle #4, CBFM Cycle 4, age 28, UCL 28-32 CD32
EmmaC29 TTC#1, Cycle #11, CBFM Cycle 1, age 29, UCL 26-29, CD32
Missyraines TTC#1, Cycle #12, CBFM cycle 7, age 33, UCL 32, CD30
Ses TTC#2, Cycle #4, CBFM cycle 6, age 37, UCL 30, CD27
chocciechip TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM cycle 9, age 39, UCL29, CD24
Starlet22 TTC#1, Cycle #15, CBFM cycle 9, age 34, ucl 25, CD24
alien06 TTC#,1 Cycle #4, CBFM Cycle 1, age 28, UCL 30-33, CD22
Boba82 TTC#1 Cycle #18, CBFM cycle 5, age 28, UCL 30 (FX), CD19
Lychees TTC#2, Cycle #13, CBFM cycle 9, Aged 36, UCL 30-35, CD18
Keziah TTC#1, Cycle #27, CBFM Cycle 15, age 35, ucl 28-31, CD15
AnytimeNOW TTC#3 Cycle #6 CBFM 5 age 38 UCL 28 CD15
KnackeredCow TTC#1, Cycle #14, CBFM Cycle 3, age 31, UCL 28, CD12
PinkCustard TTC#2, Cycle #11, CBFM Cycle 6, age 33, UCL 30-32, CD11
Birdietimesthree TTC #1, Cycle #3, CBFM Cycle 2, age 36, UCL 24-25, CD5
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC #3 Cycle #4, CBFM Cycle 4, age 34, UCL 26-30 CD5

The Dog Ate My Homework
Headbanger TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM Cycle 2, age 30, UCL ?, CD?

Playing Truant
FlyingCat TTC#1, Cycle #26, CBFM cycle 2, age 30, UCL 28-29, CD132
Rach879 TTC#1 Cycle #7, CBFM cycle 1, age 30, UCL 30-34, CD99
Jenni4 TTC#2, Cycle #5, CBFM Cycle 2, age 36, UCL 26, CD79

Graduates
HairyTriangle BFP ?
Emmylou30 BFP 22/10/10
MissLolita BFP ?/10/20

Good job I can add four onto things in my head .

Been a bit quiet on here of late. Hope everyone is alright.

I'm [kind of] on the 2ww but still planning on bd'ing every other day and hoping for the best.

Hello,

Just wanted to pop in to say that I'm quite excited to have gotten a High today - on day 11! I normally don't see any until day 13, and it was day 15 last month, so it was a pleasant surprise this morning. Am hoping my Peaks arrive earlier than my usual day 18/19 now.

Good luck Lychees here's hoping it's a successful month for us all xxx

Hello I'm new to this thread. Need your expert guidance please?! Am leaving all dignity at the door. Have only started CBFM last month. Have noticed a funny thing on this my second month of CBFM use. I routinely put the pee-stick in the monitor and then a little later I come back to switch it on and check the result. When I switch it on there appears a stick removal symbol with arrow, but also a disconcerting exclamation mark. This is CD13 and this exclamation mark has been happening regularly this month.

Only other question is: if I go to sleep at 10PM and have first morning pee at 3am, does that count as first morning pee or should I wait until next pee 3 hours later?

Hi Everyone,

Arabella not sure whats happening there, I hope someone else can advise. Welcome to the thread x

Notnearly congrats on your BFP thats brill news. Whoop!

Vikks congrats on your baby boy, its encouraging to read the success stories.

Harry I remember you, can't believe its 19 weeks already. Glad to hear your doing well.

Well you may or may not have read my other post but I'm gearing up to test in the morning. I will be 20DPO tomorrow and still no AF??? Just don't know whether t use the FR or CB Digi HPT?

Will let you know how I get on tomorrow. Hope you are all well

xxxx

Exciting Storm fingers crossed - how have you managed not to test before now?

Arabella the exclamation mark appears because you've been switching it on with a stick still in. You need to remove the stick before you switch it back on, and it will just show your status without the scary exclamation

I don't know Pink - I'm just so scared of the dreaded BFN.............

Hi ladies

I have been using the clear blue monitor the first time this cycle and when I googled I found you, and have read so many of your messages and am so happy to see what lovely ladies you all are and hoping I might be permitted to join your gang?!

Well a bit about me; my name is Lizzie. Im 34 and got married in January to my lovely canadian husband. we decided to start trying for a family in May 2010 and were lucky enough to conceive in the first cycle. It was hard work as I also have type 1 diabetes and basically everything you do makes balancing insulin hard work! anyhow, things progressed nicely until 12 week scan. the nuchal fold was huge and after a series of tests we learnt that our baby had a chromosomal abnormality which had a bad prognosis and we had a termination. we later learnt that our beautiful baby was a little girl whom we named kitty elise. regardless of the choice we made (which i believe was best for her even though i miss her constantly) i love that little girl more than i thought possible to love anyone and i hope that this experience makes me a better mummy some day.

the last few months have been tough, mentally and physically. physically, it has taken a while to get my cycle back and am still very irregular; we have finally decided to try again and got a CBFM to help work it out.

stats wise; my cycle used to be 28/29 days like clockwork(at moment its all over the shop!). we are trying to conceive number 1, first cycle of trying (excluding my beautiful daughter) and on first cycle of the CBFM. im on CD 12....with minor cramping and hopes for an egg soon!

anyhow, i hope you girls will welcome me into your group i would love to be a part of it.

loads of love and hugs

Lizzie xxx

ps i should have said. things have got better gradually and we are both feeling a little happier and back to ourselves, and ready to start trying again...i thought i better add that as its quite important to say that whilst i love my lost baby, im emotionally and physically ready again xxx

Lizzie, welcome to the gang. I hope your stay here is brief for all the right reasons.

You've had a really tough journey so far so wishing you lots of luck with the CBFM.

If no-one else does, I'll add you to the updated stats tomorrow.

Good luck for tomorrow, Storm.

Morning Ladies,

Welcome to Lizzie . I have a very similar story to you Lizzie. We found out back in May at 15wks PG that our baby had Annencephaly and the doctors described he/she as incompatible with life. We made the decision to terminate also. I'm pleased to say that this thread has been a godsend. The support you receive is second to none and I hope that you find it as comforting as I have. Good luck to you, I hope you get your BFP soon.

Well, is every body ready for the happy ending cos its nigh....... I got my BFP this morning on a CB Digi - 2-3 weeks. I am happy and so is DP but as you can understand we are very frightened about the next few months.

Thank you all so much for your support, I hope that we see another BFP on here very soon. I'm not going anywhere if thats ok I'd like to lurk for a while and stick my two peneth worth in every now and then LOL!!

Love to you all and oodles of baby dust

xxx