Clearblue Fertility Monitor Support Group Buddies Vol 4!!

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Time for us to move home again ladies!

Thankyou so very much for expressing so eloquently what I was trying to convey in such a haphazard way KC. After jumping in headfirst with Keziah's treatment a few days ago, I've had three very similar stories related to me in RL by people who are close to me. I had 'no' understanding of how commonplace this is. With there being 'no' evidence of a change to the way this system is played, it scares me to think of all the people denied a family. You are a brave and lucky lady KC, for having the foresight to learn from your experiences and making life changing and enhancing decisions. Not everyone will be strong enough to do the same. For some, it proves to bed the final straw which in extreme examples can send them on a downward spiral and into deep depression, thereby becoming a self fulfilling prophecy for the smug health professionals. Not good.

Boos75, I would set it to CD1 when your AF is first in "full flow" and then make sure you do that each month [hopefully, you won't need to do this next/subsequent months ... for all the best reasons]. I think the key is to be consistent from month to month. Good luck.

Boos Agree with Lychees and set day 1 for tomorrow assuming flow starts in full.

Fedup thanks for lovely commments

Keziah thanks for good luck about interview. Find out tomorrow if I am short-listed, but not hopeful. Had a bit of a Bridget Jones moment

Hi All Sorry for long absence, have been on my 2WW & have been trying not to think about it or focus on it too much for my own sanity, we tried really hard this month, i did an early PG test yday and it was a BFN i'm not due on, until Saturday - my friend seems to think that there is still a chance as she did a test the day before and it was whiter than white and then the next day there was a faint line, so still have a little hope - we'll just have to see!

Have got my doctors appointment Saturday at 9am, gonna ask for that 21 day test that KC has been talking about - Glad yours KC came back as good, that's good news, fingers crossed for your i/v have had a quick read through the posts and MissyRaines good luck for when you get the results of your bloods.

Is all going well with MissLolita?

xx

Thank you so much for your responses knackeredcow and Lychees. I'll do what you suggest.

Sorry again for jumping on here, especially given I've just realised you're having quite a sensitive discussion. I have anxiety/OCD (and was diagnosed with depression after my mmc) and am on A/Ds so I wish you ladies the very best of luck and I really hope that we can change peoples views towards people with mental health issues. x

Boos Welcome to the thread. Please feel very free to stay if you want to....

Emma Sorry to hear about your BFN. Maybe it's a little early to test? I think your friend could be right.

Good luck for your dr's appointment on Sat. x

Hi Boos - once you use the CBFM a few times it will come really easily. I am not bothering to use sticks with it right now but still look to see what the date is, . It is fine to interrupt our discussion, good to hear from you. But thanks for your kind comment and hope you don't need FT!!! If you do, I know some pitfalls to avoid now.

Fedup and KC and Choccie - thanks; agree funding is an issue, but it is the same if I paid as it is getting access to the treatment that is the problem. Grr, know we as a country have issues with finances, but each baby is worth 200,000 to the UK so good investment!! ~And some counties give 3 cycles free, it is only 1 here. Just feel like life is on hold, if we get treatment it will be 13months from testing beginning (my gp did not refer until all tests back KC!!)... dare not spend money as keep saying "we need it all for FT costs", but no real holiday this year etc ....

Going to ttc naturally, as it were for 2 months and may think of a holiday to reduce stress.

Keziah I agree. The problem with the HFEA I think might be that the "rules" are there to protect the NHS but follow through to private healthcare. At the end of the day it is the government, with a vested interest in reducing NHS spend, that pass laws. They will then be implemented in the private sector otherwise it would become obvious that the NHS is discriminating.

Only 1 free cycle where I live too.

I also think you should take that holiday and enjoy it. If you need a break, you need a break. Things are really stressful for you at the moment - perhaps you need a bit of time out?

Love it just realised there's a spell checker on the text box at last - hooray!

Keziah Hope I didn't sound patronising re the holiday. I hate it when people suggest I take a holiday!

HeHe - no you are far from patronising KC, after no hol 2010 as such, an early hol is tempting right now - just need to know what clinic is going to do adn timings if go ahead etc.

Have the FC given you an indication of when they might communicate their decision, Keziah?

The person dealing with us is fighting for our corner, but not just their decision. Got all paperwork through, they need to meet I think. Dh sent a great email today - with factual information of what I do and have done consistently with children etc for last 5-10years!! Also offered a letter from my work (I work with kiddiewinks!!) etc, so feel we doing what we can. But know not to get my hopes up now. trying to "work with" and not blame as it is quicker!!

Boos: sorry for hijacking the thread a bit! Feel free to bring us back into line again!
KC: you are very clued up, which is cool!
Keziah:excellent plan to go with the flow, swimming against the tide harder and takes longer to reach your destination.
We are taking things easy for a while now- looking after mil:who is home now after a few days in hospital. Charting, etc taking a back seat now. We'll see, what will be will be. We are sort of resigned to heading to the ARGC in the New Year (when we are both on holiday), we've given it our best shot so far, and that's proved futile. Ultimately, it doesn't faze us how we get there-as long as we DO get there! Don't know if that's the right approach, but feels right for us.

Morning ladies, changed name to birdietimesthree from birdietimestwo - long story.

Anyway - AF got me this morning. First proper CBFM cycle and we BD'd on both peak days. Phht. And I came out in hives last week for the first time in my life and stupidly hoped it might be preg related !

Boos75 I'm no expert but I would take that as day 1 - if you normally have a very light period on day 1.

fedup, hope your MIL makes a speedy recovery.

Sorry AF got you Birdie.

Keziah, I have my fingers crossed for you.

Todays stats:

In School
wantbaby TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM cycle 4, age 38, UCL 30, CD39
Notnearlyasblondasiwas TTC#2, Cycle #1, CBFM Cycle 1, age 33, UCL 28-39, CD35
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC #3 Cycle #3, CBFM Cycle 3, age 34, UCL 26-28, CD31
Stormbird TTC#1, Cycle #4, CBFM Cycle 4, age 28, UCL 28-32 CD28
EmmaC29 TTC#1, Cycle #11, CBFM Cycle 1, age 29, UCL 26-29, CD28
Missyraines TTC#1, Cycle #12, CBFM cycle 7, age 33, UCL 32, CD26
Ses TTC#2, Cycle #4, CBFM cycle 6, age 37, UCL 30, CD23
chocciechip TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM cycle 9, age 39, UCL29, CD20
Starlet22 TTC#1, Cycle #15, CBFM cycle 9, age 34, ucl 25, CD20
alien06 TTC#,1 Cycle #4, CBFM Cycle 1, age 28, UCL 30-33, CD18
Boba82 TTC#1 Cycle #18, CBFM cycle 5, age 28, UCL 30 (FX), CD15
Lychees TTC#2, Cycle #13, CBFM cycle 9, Aged 36, UCL 30-35, CD14
Keziah TTC#1, Cycle #27, CBFM Cycle 15, age 35, ucl 28-31, CD11
AnytimeNOW TTC#3 Cycle #6 CBFM 5 age 38 UCL 28 CD11
KnackeredCow TTC#1, Cycle #14, CBFM Cycle 3, age 31, UCL 28, CD8
PinkCustard TTC#2, Cycle #11, CBFM Cycle 6, age 33, UCL 30-32, CD7
Birdietimesthree TTC #1, Cycle #3, CBFM Cycle 2, age 36, UCL 24-25, CD1

The Dog Ate My Homework
Headbanger TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM Cycle 2, age 30, UCL ?, CD?

Playing Truant
FlyingCat TTC#1, Cycle #26, CBFM cycle 2, age 30, UCL 28-29, CD132
Rach879 TTC#1 Cycle #7, CBFM cycle 1, age 30, UCL 30-34, CD99
Jenni4 TTC#2, Cycle #5, CBFM Cycle 2, age 36, UCL 26, CD79

Graduates
HairyTriangle BFP ?
Emmylou30 BFP 22/10/10
MissLolita BFP ?/10/20

My stats got all out of sync. Hope everyone elses's is still correct. I'm on CD14 and still lows ... a little bit unusual but still bd'ing every other night and hoping for highs/peaks soon.

Hello Everyone,

Sorry AF got you Birdie. Hope next month is your month hun.

Keziah it sounds to me like everythng is looking slightly more positive, I hope that everything works out ok. So sorry to hear what you've been through...

Nothing to report here! I'm going aweay this weekend to visit my family up north so may not post for a few days. I hope you all have a lovely weekend.

XXX

Thanks KC tomoz night I will know for sure, will keep you posted x Thanks for the good luck wishes for tomoz, will report when I get back from the Docs! xx

Hi everyone, sorry for the long absence, I've had a bit of a frenetic week and haven't had time to get online much. Well, on Saturday 30th I did a test and got a BFP! I haven't really had any symptoms and tbh it hasn't really sunk in.

I'm a bit worried still as I've been spotting every day so I don't know whether it will stay or not. I registered with a doctor this morning but the nurse just said to book a midwife appointment and that isn't until 1 December. I don't know if I should be worried or not?

Congratulations MissL...FX it's a sticky one for you. Not had time to read from beginning of the thread. What is your history? Hopefully everything will be fine. If you DO have previous worries or concerns then discuss them with your gp. HTH x

Just popping in to update the stats...AF got me today after another rubbish 8-day luteal phase

sorry I'm not posting much atm, but I am lurking and reading your posts...big un-MN ((hugs)) for those who need them, thinking of you all x

In School
wantbaby TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM cycle 4, age 38, UCL 30, CD39
Notnearlyasblondasiwas TTC#2, Cycle #1, CBFM Cycle 1, age 33, UCL 28-39, CD35
Stormbird TTC#1, Cycle #4, CBFM Cycle 4, age 28, UCL 28-32 CD28
EmmaC29 TTC#1, Cycle #11, CBFM Cycle 1, age 29, UCL 26-29, CD28
Missyraines TTC#1, Cycle #12, CBFM cycle 7, age 33, UCL 32, CD26
Ses TTC#2, Cycle #4, CBFM cycle 6, age 37, UCL 30, CD23
chocciechip TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM cycle 9, age 39, UCL29, CD20
Starlet22 TTC#1, Cycle #15, CBFM cycle 9, age 34, ucl 25, CD20
alien06 TTC#,1 Cycle #4, CBFM Cycle 1, age 28, UCL 30-33, CD18
Boba82 TTC#1 Cycle #18, CBFM cycle 5, age 28, UCL 30 (FX), CD15
Lychees TTC#2, Cycle #13, CBFM cycle 9, Aged 36, UCL 30-35, CD14
Keziah TTC#1, Cycle #27, CBFM Cycle 15, age 35, ucl 28-31, CD11
AnytimeNOW TTC#3 Cycle #6 CBFM 5 age 38 UCL 28 CD11
KnackeredCow TTC#1, Cycle #14, CBFM Cycle 3, age 31, UCL 28, CD8
PinkCustard TTC#2, Cycle #11, CBFM Cycle 6, age 33, UCL 30-32, CD7
Birdietimesthree TTC #1, Cycle #3, CBFM Cycle 2, age 36, UCL 24-25, CD1
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC #3 Cycle #4, CBFM Cycle 4, age 34, UCL 26-30 CD1

The Dog Ate My Homework
Headbanger TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM Cycle 2, age 30, UCL ?, CD?

Playing Truant
FlyingCat TTC#1, Cycle #26, CBFM cycle 2, age 30, UCL 28-29, CD132
Rach879 TTC#1 Cycle #7, CBFM cycle 1, age 30, UCL 30-34, CD99
Jenni4 TTC#2, Cycle #5, CBFM Cycle 2, age 36, UCL 26, CD79

Graduates
HairyTriangle BFP ?
Emmylou30 BFP 22/10/10
MissLolita BFP ?/10/20

And congrats to misslolita - that is fab news!!

Congrats MissLolita - great news.

Sorry for making things sound positive... found out today that despite gp doing what was asked they not going to treat me. No treatment for me, no support - and unless I find a miracle no child as issues are with dh - his sperm clump together adn destroy each other. And my eggs are gettign older which never helps.

all the best to those ttc.

Lychees: thanks for your kind thoughts re mil. Unfortunately ultimately it's a slippery slope in that mil has degenerative kidney disease as a direct result of diabetes. Thankfully, she is stable now, and as comfortable as she can be. Feel so sorry for her and helpless at the same time. She's such a fabulous mil and to watch her suffer in this way is pure torture.
Keziah: so so sorry, hunni. Wish there was something I could say, but words escape me. Main reason for this is the fury I feel towards the approach to fertility treatments this country takes and also the utter disregard for the way in which they treat their patients. Grrr...
Please try and stay strong Hun, it's hard- but even though it sounds impossible, miracles DO happen. Do not despair. If nothing else, stay strong as a couple who knows you may fall pregnant naturally. I have heard of this in RL- it's not unheard of. Not trying to raise your hopes- just some food for thought.
I really am very sorry and feel furious...

Hi ladies, I got a positive test today on CB digital 1-2 weeks. Am in complete shock. Hoping it is going to stick tight and I will continue to lurk to cheer you all on.

notnearlyasblonde HUGE congratulations!!! That's fantastic news!!

keziah I don't know what to say - that is so unfair. Please don't give up, there really has to be a way around a decision like that . Thinking of you x