Clearblue Fertility Monitor Support Group Buddies Vol 4!!

[boba82]

Time for us to move home again ladies!

Morning ladies. Just a quick one to say that AF was due today and i did a superdrug test this morning which was negative. I also dipped a 10 miu IC and there was the faintest line, much fainter than yesterday - sadly it seems the hcg isnt increasing but it looks like its on its way out at 14 dpo i should be getting some decent lines especially from a sensitive test like superdrug.

Just a question of waiting for AF now.

Im going to take a break from posting for a while and ttc probably too. Its the second chemical in as many months and im seriously pissed off and fed up - i think id rather not try than be so disappointed, three days of positives tends to get your hopes up.

Just want to say thank you all for being such lovely companions and i will be back in a couple of months im sure (also will lurk and keep an eye out for any bfp's) Really wishing you all the best of luck and hopefully i will see you on here again soon :) xx

Just reposting stats and taking my name off

In School
wantbaby TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM cycle 4, age 38, UCL 30, CD35
MissLolita TTC#1, Cycle #5, CBFM Cycle 1, age 31, UCL 30, CD34
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC #3 Cycle #3, CBFM Cycle 3, age 34, UCL 26-28, CD25
Stormbird TTC#1, Cycle #4, CBFM Cycle 4, age 28, UCL 28-32 CD24
EmmaC29 TTC#1, Cycle #11, CBFM Cycle 1, age 29, UCL 26-29, CD24
Missyraines TTC#1, Cycle #12, CBFM cycle 7, age 33, UCL 32, CD22
Ses TTC#2, Cycle #4, CBFM cycle 6, age 37, UCL 30, CD19
Birdietimestwo TTC #1, Cycle #2, CBFM Cycle 1, age 36, UCL 24-25, CD18
chocciechip TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM cycle 9, age 39, UCL29, CD16
Starlet22 TTC#1, Cycle #15, CBFM cycle 9, age 34, ucl 25, CD16
alien06 TTC#,1 Cycle #4, CBFM Cycle 1, age 28, UCL 30-33, CD14
Boba82 TTC#1 Cycle #18, CBFM cycle 5, age 28, UCL 30 (FX), CD11
Lychees TTC#2, Cycle #13, CBFM cycle 9, Aged 36, UCL 30-35, CD8
Keziah TTC#1, Cycle #27, CBFM Cycle 15, age 35, ucl 28-31, CD7
AnytimeNOW TTC#3 Cycle #6 CBFM 5 age 38 UCL 28 CD7
KnackeredCow TTC#1, Cycle #14, CBFM Cycle 3, age 31, UCL 28, CD3
PinkCustard TTC#2, Cycle #11, CBFM Cycle 6, age 33, UCL 30-32, CD3

Headbanger TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM Cycle 2, age 30, UCL ?, CD?
Notnearlyasblondeasiwas TTC#2, Cycle #1, CBFM Cycle 1, age 33, UCL ?, CD?

Playing Truant
FlyingCat TTC#1, Cycle #26, CBFM cycle 2, age 30, UCL 28-29, CD131
Rach879 TTC#1 Cycle #7, CBFM cycle 1, age 30, UCL 30-34, CD98
Jenni4 TTC#2, Cycle #5, CBFM Cycle 2, age 36, UCL 26, CD78

Graduates
HairyTriangle BFP?
Emmylou30 BFP 22/10/10
MissLolita BFP /10/20

Hi Boba - just a quick post wanted to let you know still thinking of you and wishing yyou well. Glad you have sorted out your treatment and FX it will be your time soon xx

Looks like there have been a few BFP lately so congratulations all.

take care all xx

RosiePosie Sorry to see you go, but fully appreciate why. I'm sorry to hear that you have had another chemical pregnancy.

I think we X posted as my stats had gone back a day, so I've reposted mine.

Boba Wishing you loads of luck for this month. I hope the Clomid does the job nicely.

In School
wantbaby TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM cycle 4, age 38, UCL 30, CD35
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC #3 Cycle #3, CBFM Cycle 3, age 34, UCL 26-28, CD25
Stormbird TTC#1, Cycle #4, CBFM Cycle 4, age 28, UCL 28-32 CD24
EmmaC29 TTC#1, Cycle #11, CBFM Cycle 1, age 29, UCL 26-29, CD24
Missyraines TTC#1, Cycle #12, CBFM cycle 7, age 33, UCL 32, CD22
Ses TTC#2, Cycle #4, CBFM cycle 6, age 37, UCL 30, CD19
Birdietimestwo TTC #1, Cycle #2, CBFM Cycle 1, age 36, UCL 24-25, CD18
chocciechip TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM cycle 9, age 39, UCL29, CD16
Starlet22 TTC#1, Cycle #15, CBFM cycle 9, age 34, ucl 25, CD16
alien06 TTC#,1 Cycle #4, CBFM Cycle 1, age 28, UCL 30-33, CD14
Boba82 TTC#1 Cycle #18, CBFM cycle 5, age 28, UCL 30 (FX), CD11
Lychees TTC#2, Cycle #13, CBFM cycle 9, Aged 36, UCL 30-35, CD8
Keziah TTC#1, Cycle #27, CBFM Cycle 15, age 35, ucl 28-31, CD7
AnytimeNOW TTC#3 Cycle #6 CBFM 5 age 38 UCL 28 CD7
KnackeredCow TTC#1, Cycle #14, CBFM Cycle 3, age 31, UCL 28, CD4
PinkCustard TTC#2, Cycle #11, CBFM Cycle 6, age 33, UCL 30-32, CD3

The Dog Ate My Homework
Headbanger TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM Cycle 2, age 30, UCL ?, CD?
Notnearlyasblondeasiwas TTC#2, Cycle #1, CBFM Cycle 1, age 33, UCL ?, CD?

Playing Truant
FlyingCat TTC#1, Cycle #26, CBFM cycle 2, age 30, UCL 28-29, CD131
Rach879 TTC#1 Cycle #7, CBFM cycle 1, age 30, UCL 30-34, CD98
Jenni4 TTC#2, Cycle #5, CBFM Cycle 2, age 36, UCL 26, CD78

Graduates
HairyTriangle BFP ?
Emmylou30 BFP 22/10/10
MissLolita BFP ?/10/20

Can't remember if I said congrats so sorry if I'm repeating myself ... Congrats, MissLolita.

Sorry AF got you Pink.

Boba, I'm doing okay. Just getting lows on my CBFM so far. This is our last attempt before going back to the FC for a follow up consultation so hoping for a natural BFP to avoid having to make a decision about what to do next. Hope the Clomid helps to regulate your cycles soon.

Sorry about the BFNs Rosie, totally understand your despair but wiching you lots of luck and hoping that you'll be back to announce your BFP soon.

Rosie - sometimes a break from ttc can help, hope it does you.

KC do share how you get underlined headings

Keziah you use the underscore symbol (Shift + minus key) before the first word and after the last word in the section you want to underline.

Hello everyone,

V. quick post from me.......

Sorry about the BFN's Rosie , I hope a little break can help. xxxx

Boba fingers crossed the clomid helps hun.

Congrats MissL I hope you enjoy your pregnancy.

Sorry to anyone who AF got!!

No news from me, just wanted to let you all know I'm still lurking. I am determined that when AF arrives and my cycle starts again it will be a much more relaxed affair. I'm done with obsessing!! Its not good for me or DP and I am determined to make it more fun than anything.

Will post again soon. xxx

Oh - did I post, my brain like a sieve today - Gp sort of "apologised" to me ... so maybe treatment???

Storm - relaxed sounds good!!

KC - thanks, I like it underlined!!

Thanks very much Angel how are you getting along? Can't be long now?

Thanks KC trying not to get my hopes up but it is hard not to.

Lychees hope you get it too x

rosie sorry to hear you'll be leaving us but totally understand. Best of luck with everything. x

Argh sorry, the dog did really eat my homework miss!

Sorry RL has taken over in the shape of my mother putting her back out and DD getting conjuctivitus so I have been a bit frazzeled.
I am CD 31 UCL 28-39 - I did a test yesterday just to see and was a BFN so am just waiting for AF to start.

Am thoroughly sick of never knowing when I am going to come on, I am always rushing off to the loo just in case, am sure everyone thinks I have a bladder issue. Used to have a bang on 30 day cycle

Will go back and read everyones updates in a bit (sneaky logging on at work emoticon!)

Have popped you into the list notnearlyasblond.

Sorry to hear about all the RL stresses at the mo.

I don't know if this would be helpful at all but ovulation is usually 10 - 16 days before AF. You should get your first CBFM peak about 24 hours before ovulation. Could you perhaps use the CBFM to work out when AF is due? I get my first peak day 14 - 16 days before AF. For example, if you don't get a peak until day 20 one month then AF is probably due around day 35. HTH

In School
wantbaby TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM cycle 4, age 38, UCL 30, CD35
Notnearlyasblondasiwas TTC#2, Cycle #1, CBFM Cycle 1, age 33, UCL 28-39, CD31
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC #3 Cycle #3, CBFM Cycle 3, age 34, UCL 26-28, CD25
Stormbird TTC#1, Cycle #4, CBFM Cycle 4, age 28, UCL 28-32 CD24
EmmaC29 TTC#1, Cycle #11, CBFM Cycle 1, age 29, UCL 26-29, CD24
Missyraines TTC#1, Cycle #12, CBFM cycle 7, age 33, UCL 32, CD22
Ses TTC#2, Cycle #4, CBFM cycle 6, age 37, UCL 30, CD19
Birdietimestwo TTC #1, Cycle #2, CBFM Cycle 1, age 36, UCL 24-25, CD18
chocciechip TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM cycle 9, age 39, UCL29, CD16
Starlet22 TTC#1, Cycle #15, CBFM cycle 9, age 34, ucl 25, CD16
alien06 TTC#,1 Cycle #4, CBFM Cycle 1, age 28, UCL 30-33, CD14
Boba82 TTC#1 Cycle #18, CBFM cycle 5, age 28, UCL 30 (FX), CD11
Lychees TTC#2, Cycle #13, CBFM cycle 9, Aged 36, UCL 30-35, CD8
Keziah TTC#1, Cycle #27, CBFM Cycle 15, age 35, ucl 28-31, CD7
AnytimeNOW TTC#3 Cycle #6 CBFM 5 age 38 UCL 28 CD7
KnackeredCow TTC#1, Cycle #14, CBFM Cycle 3, age 31, UCL 28, CD4
PinkCustard TTC#2, Cycle #11, CBFM Cycle 6, age 33, UCL 30-32, CD3

The Dog Ate My Homework
Headbanger TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM Cycle 2, age 30, UCL ?, CD?

Playing Truant
FlyingCat TTC#1, Cycle #26, CBFM cycle 2, age 30, UCL 28-29, CD131
Rach879 TTC#1 Cycle #7, CBFM cycle 1, age 30, UCL 30-34, CD98
Jenni4 TTC#2, Cycle #5, CBFM Cycle 2, age 36, UCL 26, CD78

Graduates
HairyTriangle BFP ?
Emmylou30 BFP 22/10/10
MissLolita BFP ?/10/20

Thanks for that knackered (great name!) that is very good to know. Only thing is I didn't get a peak this month, am hoping because it was my first month using the CBFM and not anything more sinister. But hopefully will be able to use next month!

It isn't it strange what little things affect you!?! I'm thinking of un-friending my cousin's wife on FB because she's pregnant with their second and posts things like, "another month closer" on her status. For me, "another month" just means another month that we have failed to get pregnant and now, I'm sitting at my desk, close to tears and unable to concentrate on work.

I was perfectly fine before. Is it just me?

P.S. Sorry about the "me" post.

No Lychees it isn't just you at all.

Sometimes I feel quite positive and optimistic, and then something small suddenly makes me feel all sad and 'it's not fair-ish'.

Today I'm feeling quite fed up that I have spent the past 10 months thinking, obsessing, planning and getting upset about something which happens so effortlessly for other people and yet which still hasn't happened for me.

It is very very hard, but I'm just hoping that when (if?) I finally get pregnant this time in my life will seem unimportant and will fade away.

Can you nip out of work for 5 minutes to clear your head?

No Lychees it isn't just you at all hun. I too feel like this all the time ATM. Visited BF in hospital @ weekend (she's just had her second) and cried the whole drive home. It is unfair and you are entitled to feel angry and upset. However I would say I don't think people think before they post things like that if they haven't been in our situation. She won't realise how you're feeling - ie shut up you lucky smug cow!! Someone once posted on here that just because someone else is pregnant/has a baby doesn't mean they've taken your chance etc IYKWIM? I find this quite helpful when I get in a state but totally with you and understand completely how you feel. x x

Pink hugs to you too, hugs to us all!!!

Lychees it is certainly not just you, I think Pink summed it up so well.

Boba sorry you had that drive home, I have had a few of those.

I cried today, lots (thankfully day off work!) for no real reason ... other than the obvious!

Hugs to all -think we need them sometimes x

Hello lovely ladies,

I've been thinking and have a question: why are men asked to refrain for 4 days before providing a sperm sample (sorry for diving straight in with the use of the word 'sperm' at this time of the morning)? Does it provide a 'better' quality of sample? If it does then I'm considering the radical action of not having sex throughout all the High days, and maybe holding out til the final High (and then still doing it on the Peak days too). Is this a crazy idea?? Thoughts please...

Morning all

Pink I think it is so there are more sperm in the sample rather than quality but I'm not sure. I think the best advice is every other day during fertile time?

keziah a good cry does you good sometimes doesn't it? Hope you're feeling better today. x

Hi All,

Boba I remember that post about "just because someone else is pregnant/has a baby doesn't mean they've taken your chance " - I have tried really hard to remember that!!

Lychees Its definately not just you - I try to remember when these times come around that thats their life - not mine, and when my time comes around and I'm the one thats up the duff, then there might be someone I know who feels the way I felt when there were all these PG women about or announcements and they were struggling!! Its a horrible way to feel but its normal.

My problem is that I hate it when people gush about how theu 'are now 12 wks PG and can tell everyone and its been so hard trying to keep it a secret' (recent situation). I also hate it when someone is over sensitive and has to tell me first like I'm some kind of special case (also a recent situation & yes I know she meant well) - You just can't win with me. I blame hormones!!

Anyway Lychees I hope you can feel a bit more upbeat soon hun. On a lighter note (and please take this in the most lighthearted way possible) sometimes I deal with situations like that by thinking 'she might be up the duff, but she hasn't got my legs' - thats terrible isn't it .....

Keziah , Boba is right, sometimes a good cry for no real reason does us the world of good. I'm expecting one soon, a) cos AF is on her way so am feeling rather volatile on the mood front, b) cos a week today would have been my due date! I'm hoping that as this is the last (for want of a better word)'Milestone' then I will get some sort of closure from it - I will be going to Epsom Downs to let off some chinese lanterns to mark the occassion.

Pink Good question ..... I never thought about that. Hope someone can shed some light on it.

Will post again soon.

xXX

Todays stats:

In School
wantbaby TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM cycle 4, age 38, UCL 30, CD36
Notnearlyasblondasiwas TTC#2, Cycle #1, CBFM Cycle 1, age 33, UCL 28-39, CD32
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC #3 Cycle #3, CBFM Cycle 3, age 34, UCL 26-28, CD26
Stormbird TTC#1, Cycle #4, CBFM Cycle 4, age 28, UCL 28-32 CD25
EmmaC29 TTC#1, Cycle #11, CBFM Cycle 1, age 29, UCL 26-29, CD25
Missyraines TTC#1, Cycle #12, CBFM cycle 7, age 33, UCL 32, CD23
Ses TTC#2, Cycle #4, CBFM cycle 6, age 37, UCL 30, CD20
Birdietimestwo TTC #1, Cycle #2, CBFM Cycle 1, age 36, UCL 24-25, CD19
chocciechip TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM cycle 9, age 39, UCL29, CD17
Starlet22 TTC#1, Cycle #15, CBFM cycle 9, age 34, ucl 25, CD17
alien06 TTC#,1 Cycle #4, CBFM Cycle 1, age 28, UCL 30-33, CD15
Boba82 TTC#1 Cycle #18, CBFM cycle 5, age 28, UCL 30 (FX), CD12
Lychees TTC#2, Cycle #13, CBFM cycle 9, Aged 36, UCL 30-35, CD9
Keziah TTC#1, Cycle #27, CBFM Cycle 15, age 35, ucl 28-31, CD8
AnytimeNOW TTC#3 Cycle #6 CBFM 5 age 38 UCL 28 CD8
KnackeredCow TTC#1, Cycle #14, CBFM Cycle 3, age 31, UCL 28, CD5
PinkCustard TTC#2, Cycle #11, CBFM Cycle 6, age 33, UCL 30-32, CD4

The Dog Ate My Homework
Headbanger TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM Cycle 2, age 30, UCL ?, CD?

Playing Truant
FlyingCat TTC#1, Cycle #26, CBFM cycle 2, age 30, UCL 28-29, CD132
Rach879 TTC#1 Cycle #7, CBFM cycle 1, age 30, UCL 30-34, CD99
Jenni4 TTC#2, Cycle #5, CBFM Cycle 2, age 36, UCL 26, CD79

Graduates
HairyTriangle BFP ?
Emmylou30 BFP 22/10/10
MissLolita BFP ?/10/20

Storm that sounds an absolutely lovely way of marking the date. Hope you get through this week ok. x

Hello all - sorry haven't been posting, I have been lurking though. I've been irrationally at the CBFM this month because it gave me a peak on day 20 but my temps confirmed ov on day 23 so I think we missed the window. It also gave me 10 highs before the peak which has to be wrong, so generally hasn't been very helpful!

Anyway enough about me, hope you're all doing ok - rosie sorry honey, that's really rubbish luck, especially two months in a row . Totally understand you taking a break, hope it helps and you get your sticky bfp soon x

Right, now I just need to update my stats which were a couple of days out. Am not getting close to testing though as although at end if normal cycle length, I'm only 5dpo . I'm hoping AF will just be delayed and give me something resembling a decent luteal phase but as I only got 8 days last cycle I'm not too hopeful!

Todays stats:

In School
wantbaby TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM cycle 4, age 38, UCL 30, CD36
Notnearlyasblondasiwas TTC#2, Cycle #1, CBFM Cycle 1, age 33, UCL 28-39, CD32
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC #3 Cycle #3, CBFM Cycle 3, age 34, UCL 26-28, CD28
Stormbird TTC#1, Cycle #4, CBFM Cycle 4, age 28, UCL 28-32 CD25
EmmaC29 TTC#1, Cycle #11, CBFM Cycle 1, age 29, UCL 26-29, CD25
Missyraines TTC#1, Cycle #12, CBFM cycle 7, age 33, UCL 32, CD23
Ses TTC#2, Cycle #4, CBFM cycle 6, age 37, UCL 30, CD20
Birdietimestwo TTC #1, Cycle #2, CBFM Cycle 1, age 36, UCL 24-25, CD19
chocciechip TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM cycle 9, age 39, UCL29, CD17
Starlet22 TTC#1, Cycle #15, CBFM cycle 9, age 34, ucl 25, CD17
alien06 TTC#,1 Cycle #4, CBFM Cycle 1, age 28, UCL 30-33, CD15
Boba82 TTC#1 Cycle #18, CBFM cycle 5, age 28, UCL 30 (FX), CD12
Lychees TTC#2, Cycle #13, CBFM cycle 9, Aged 36, UCL 30-35, CD9
Keziah TTC#1, Cycle #27, CBFM Cycle 15, age 35, ucl 28-31, CD8
AnytimeNOW TTC#3 Cycle #6 CBFM 5 age 38 UCL 28 CD8
KnackeredCow TTC#1, Cycle #14, CBFM Cycle 3, age 31, UCL 28, CD5
PinkCustard TTC#2, Cycle #11, CBFM Cycle 6, age 33, UCL 30-32, CD4

The Dog Ate My Homework
Headbanger TTC#1, Cycle #9, CBFM Cycle 2, age 30, UCL ?, CD?

Playing Truant
FlyingCat TTC#1, Cycle #26, CBFM cycle 2, age 30, UCL 28-29, CD132
Rach879 TTC#1 Cycle #7, CBFM cycle 1, age 30, UCL 30-34, CD99
Jenni4 TTC#2, Cycle #5, CBFM Cycle 2, age 36, UCL 26, CD79

Graduates
HairyTriangle BFP ?
Emmylou30 BFP 22/10/10
MissLolita BFP ?/10/20

Bless, that sounds a a really nice sentiment, Storm I'm thinking of doing that on Christmas day for my Dad who passed away 2 years ago. I'm hosting Christmas this year so I'll get everyone to write a letter to someone no longer with us and send them up.

As you said, I also think about that 'just because someone is pg it doesn't effect your chance any more or any less.

I've finally made an appointment with the doctor for tomorrow so I can at least start the ball rolling. I'm going alone first just to see what he says the next step is as I'm 34 in Feb so want to 'register' while Im still 33. Sounds weird but it makes sense in my head!

Hugs to everyone as sometimes that's what we all need.

Hi All

Izzy to put your mind at rest it sounds like your CBFM is working just fine. Women are fertile up until the day of ovulation, but generally not beyond as the egg doesn't live for very long. NICE guidelines suggest that women are most likely to conceive if they BD 2 days before ovulation. Temping tells you when you ovulate, so it confirms ovulation has taken place, but by this point it's generally too late to conceive. The CBFM looks for the peak in LH, which occurs 1 - 2 days before ovulation. It sounds like your CBFM was spot on and temping has confired that you did ovulate.

Been doing some reading around the subject and sperm has to undergo a biochemical reaction before it can fertilize an egg. This is induced by the female reproductive tract. It does take some hours. Although sperm can get to an egg very quickly, it isn't ready to fertilize an egg for some hours. The process is called capacitation. Therefore, you need to have sex before you ovulate so the sperm are not only in the fallopian tubes waiting for the egg, but they have also undergone capacitation.