The Bus Stop - Waiting to TTC (part 3)

[bebejones]

New thread ladies! :)

Old one here

Will go get the list.....

i get really emotional to bebe :( he just doesnt seem to understand that it is effecting the way i feel on a daily basis wanting a baby

Happy birthday nannyl!! Hope work and your meeting tonight is ok!

Have lost 2 lbs this week! I have also bought my dress for my birthday party next weekend! Yey! I had a fab time at a friend's birthday celebration yesterday (a family buffet that turned into a boogie in the dining room later on!)

You are very skilled to make a roast dinner bebe! I have never attempted a proper one....being vegetarian I just can't be bothered for two of us but OH's mum is a really good cook and I enjoy all the veggies and Yorkshire puds she makes. I would be more than a bit dissapointed if I'd gone to all that trouble and DD did not eat it! Aaarrghh! But that is what parenthood is all about I suppose, at least she has her own personality and ideas (already!) and will be a free thinker when she is older! Have you talked to your nurse yet?

mummyinwaiting you naughty girl! Where in your cycle are you now? Do you think the SWI over the weekend could have potential? He he!

AC I love the rolling of the eyes about your DH's dramatics! If my OH is troubled he tends to just go quiet which is difficult to deal with as I like to talk a problem into the ground. I do think men are so different to women in the way they think that it is a miracle we can get anything sorted at times!

Have a good week everyone! :)

Hi Strawberry Pie - well three times over the weekend meant nothing as started my period late Saturday. good in one way as I know I am having them again but bad as means their isnt a chance this month.
I went on one of the websites that gives you information on fertile days etc and it falls for next month when we are on holiday with my mom and dad but I am trying very hard to think of it as not being ttc just being that we are not using contraception....as I know I will get to wound up in it all if I look at it like that!
jbells I think that although men can get really broody they just dont get the same gut wrenching feeling as women- if I get upset it freaks dh out, I swear on the many few times I get upset he thinks I'm unhinged!
Oh and happy Birthday to nannyl too!

Strawberry - I love it when impromptu events happen like that, always much more fun!
Haven't rung nurse yet, waiting til DD is 'napping'
Didn't feel that annoyed with DD yesterday as she isn't very well :( but she is an awful eater generally anyway, always has been! I got Gina Ford's contented toddler book from the library this morning and completely at how much she says an 18month old should be eating. DD is 2 and wouldn't eat half the amount, and she is better now than she was 6 months ago!
Well done on your 2lbs! :)

Lots of naughtiness on here at the moment! There'll be babies before I'm even PG at this rate! :o

Amummy - I think my DH thinks I'm unhinged too! Last time I blubbed 'I can't just turn these feelings off' his response was 'have you tried?' MEN!

hey all

strawberry- well done on your weight loss :)
amummy- well thats good news that your periods r returning to normal atleast u know u are ovulating now :) theres always this month, it will b like being 16 again and having sneaky sex while the parents rnt around hehe

bebe- let us know how u get on with nurse, im sure she cant really critisize u since it is for a good cause :o

my DH definatly thinks im unhinged at times, has even thrown the postnatal depression word around b4 now lol which by the way i am definately not men just seem to like to stick labels on things

well i have been up the wall with my hormones this wk been really horrible and upset, AF still not arrived now on day 39 did another preg test just to make sure and still negative god knws wots going on, think ill just out it down to stress and tell DP he needs to be xtra nice to me and that i need a spa day hahaha ( as if that wud eva happen)

You get maternity pay if by the 15th week before your due date you have been employed by your employer for 26 weeks, so I could ttc as soon as I get a new job and would still qualify. I wouldn't get any contractual maternity pay in this job anyway, so financially I would be no worse off. I'm just worried about the politics of it all.

The shark agent has put me off until tomorrow now.

Quiet in here! Helloooooooooooooooo?!?!?!

JS - how did the interview go?

Nannyl - hope you had a good birthday :)#

Whywait - I always rehearse in my head too, but it never comes out right when I do it for real!

AC - that's not so bad if you could still get mat pay. And like Whywait said, they aren't to know it's not an accident. At least it gives you options hope the meeting with the recruitment bloke goes ok 2moro.

Been reading GF contented toddler today (borrowed from library) have to say IMO alot of it is very very OTT! Not really my 'thing' at all. Looked up online if my library had TCOYF & I would have to request it from another library & can't bring myself to do that as I'd have to actually go in and ask for it! That's just not in my very prudish English nature I'm afraid!

JBells - have you spoken to GP bout this long cycle? Might be worth giving them a call, especially if you are having pains.

Didn't ring nurse, DD didn't nap & we snuggled up on the sofa together instead! :o

Hello all

Just popping my head in - was on (lovely) holiday last week and getting back there was SOOO much to catch up on!

Happy birthday Nannyl!

(why has our thread stopped having pages and turned into one long page?)

Have you linked to it through "I'm On" instead of from the forum main page?

Oh it's sorted itself out now. I was linking through the main page - very bizarre!

AC - BTW you mentioned the Epi-No upthread. I have to admit I am fascinated with the idea of this - though not sure whether I find it horrifying or a good idea!?

Ha ha it's quite expensive! I wonder if it's really any good, or if it's just one of those seems-like-a-good-idea things or if it's worth trying. Can youeven imagine being 37 weeks pregnant and trying to inflate it inside you?! How do you even reach?!

Bebe are you ringing tomorrow then?

I might try ringing today, depends if I can get away from DD long enough not to have her screeching near the phone! It's always a very quiet line!

Re the Epi-no, I do know of people who have got their DHs to do perineal massage for them! My DH would have run a mile had I even suggested it! Maybe he would have been more inclined if a gadget was involved?! :o

morning

hey bebe, i have booked a drs app for weds for them to hopefully do a blood test and c wots going on with me, its strange i feel like im going to come on my period everyday but nothing and ive been feeling like this for 2 weeks now, considering 2 pregnancy tests have come back negative im 99% sure im not pregnant just bugging me as to what it mite be
its so hard trying to talk on the fone and have a serious conversation isnt it, as soon as your attentions of them they tend to start shouting for it, i find it hard to even type a message on here without her dragging me somewhere

take it your lil one has been up since the crack of dawn to lol

No, she is still asleep!! DH got up late & his dad rang the home phone at 6.45 to tell him he was outside waiting!

DD has this nasty habit of being very loud as soon as she sees that you are on the phone. Also acts up something rotten as she knows you aren't in a position to stop her!

Glad you booked an appt, hopefully they can find out whats going on!

lucky u shes still asleep my lil one has been up since half 6 she normally wakes at 7ish but every day this since sat has been b4 half 6 :(forgot wot a lie in is

sleep deprivation is def one thing that puts me off having more haha

Had to go & wake her up, she was awake chatting & singing in the middle of the night! Subsequently she hasn't eaten breakfast & is very grumpy! Im in for a long day! Sleep deprevation is horrid & disrupted sleep is rough too! That is probably the worst thing about having children, the disruption to your sleep pattern! Funny how you just sort of 'adjust' to it though!

lol,wot was she singing, my DD didnt sleep thru till afta 13 months she was a horrendous sleeper used to be up atleast 2-3 times a nite, my mum sed i didnt sleep thru till i was 2 so atleast she was a bit better than me, now she sleeps from around half 7 to 7 tho so alot lot better cant really complain anymore, just praying that the next one will sleep thru from 3 months not 13! mayb my skills at getting them to stay asleep will be better nxt time around tho :o

Think she was singing as many verses of 'wheels on the bus' as she could remember! How old is your DD again? Mine has always been a fairly good night time sleeper. From about 4weeks she would sleep from midnight-6am, we used to put her upstairs about 9pm, feed her about 10.30/11ish when we went to bed & then we'd get a decent night. Gradually we just lengthened it. Now she really only wakes up if she is poorly. Although she has been having night terrors lately :( Her sleep also improved massively when she went into her nursery at about 5months. My GP told me not to go to her when she went through a phase of waking all the time at about 7/8months, and leave her for 5mins then not speak to her if I went in as she was doing it for attention did work though & she soon stopped doing it! Now she usually sleeps from about 7.30/8pm til 7.30/8am! :)

Meant to say, even from newborn she was a rubbish napper! And used to feed & nap for 10-15mins then just sit in her chair wide awake! That probably made a difference, as she got into the habit of doing her sleeping at night very young!

my DD is 17 months now, thankfully we dont have napping or sleeping problems anymore, she will nap from around half ten till 12 in her cot i can just put her in and she will sleep, and the same at nite put her in cot at around 7ish and will stay asleep till about 7ish usually, so glad the hard work is behind her, it was prob my own fault for the problems as whenever she woke up in the nite she wanted a bottle to go back to sleep with and it wasnt till about 11 months that i plucked up the guts to try and break the habit, im just thankful shes a good sleeper now sont think i cud have stayed sane for much longer if it hadnt of improved

Good morning Waiters!!!

Was out of the office yesterday assisting with a golf day and so wasn't really able to get on MN

AC I am sorry that your shark cancelled on you but good that they rearranged it. When i was looking for a job 18 months ago I met with so many awful recruitment agents in London. This time around I have limited it to a few in Bath and Bristol and they seem much nicer and a lot more helpful. The problem is that because the job market is so quiet still, they hold all the cards and so you have to be super nice and suck up to them even if they are vile!!! Stick with it though and hopefully you will be able to find something that makes you happy until you go off on maternity leave!!!

Had my 1st interview this morning and the feedback is that they want me to go for a 2nd interview in the Bath office, possibly on Friday. Trying not to get too excited about it yet but it's hard not to as the role sounds perfect and is a 7 minute walk from you house!!!!!

bebe it sounds like you have got your hands full with DD this week! I hope that she gives you enough time to call your nurse about stopping the medication - vvvvv exciting!

Think my DH thought I was a bit unhinged to start with but since sitting down and talking through my points with him in our "meeting" he now knows that I have done a lot of thinking and that my desire to TTC is well researched and thought out!!!

JS - glad the 1st interview went well! Got fingers crossed for you!

The nurse won't object to me stopping, they have said before that it's fine, I just have to keep them informed & I think they might have to contact the drug company to stop the prescription or something

JBells - it's so hard to know what's the 'right' thing to do isn't it?! Glad she is sleeping through now, I feel very lucky that DD has (on the whole) been very good at sleeping through. My MS makes me super tired & that has knock on effects, sleep makes so much difference! Think I've probably cursed myself to having a bad sleeper next time though...allthough maybe they might be a better eater?!