The Bus Stop - Waiting to TTC (part 3)

[bebejones]

New thread ladies! :)

Old one here

Will go get the list.....

"Ladies, need some information...did any of you have any side-effects when you finished on the pill" Yes, my daughter

I'll get that out of the way first - Hi everyone!

I think that Besh means Best, but pronounced in a slightly drunken way.

It's really bad that some of you are having such a horrible time at work - I had a job I really hated once and it's just vile. Get those CVs sorted and get something better.

100 years if you are worried about the medication thing then ask a doctor. I have to take tablets for chronic heartburn and I asked about pregnancy about 2 years before I actually got pregnant. It was preying on my mind, and the answer was that they were safe

JS - it's great that you've had a big chat, at the risk of being negative though about the India thing - have you been there before? My brother's been twice and both times ended up with really nasty stomach upsets - when you are pregnant you tend to be a bit paranoid about that kind of thing. I know that I wouldn't go and generally I think of myself as not being overcautious (but then I'm not exactly adventurous in terms of travelling either)

Hello all

Just thought id clock in and say i have decided NOT to test until Saturday (day 28)... simply because if it were positive (which i just get the feeling it wont be) id have to whizz off to work within a few minutes, and wouldnt be thinking straight.

At least on Saturday OH is with me, its not the morning rush, it will be more accurate as another day later, and i have a whole weekend to accept it!

But i dont feel pregnant anymore so hoping for a BFN, to allow the wedding and holiday celebrations to continue as planned

I selfishly hope it's a BFN actually, I want us to all take the plunge together after Christmas!

well my temps have been the same (pretty much) not higher for the last 4 days so im taking that as a BFN sign

lol at all taking the plunge together! Sort of a TTC pact with us all blindly jumping off the metaphorical cliff edge at the same time holiding hands! :o

Trying to work up the courage to call my specialist nurse & say i'm stopping my meds!

well so far i think correct me if im wrong there is
myself
bebe
nannyl
and 100 years

all wanting to start trying in jan :)

And me if DH lets me (and if I don't have a new job)

I want to join you on the metaphorical cliff in January :(

Brettgirl2 I've not been to India before but am pretty adventurous with my travel and we wouldn't be doing it on a budget so I'm not overly concerned on that front. With my gluten intolerence I am very well versed in stomach issues and so India can;t be any worse than that!!!

Went for a 10k run last night. All the way home form the office. Wasn;t too bad but my hips are killing me this morning and I look like an old lady hobbling around the office!!!!

Hi Ladies,
please excuse the typo's as I have got really upset writing this and feel miserable.
I joined a few weeks ago but always seemed to post when nobody was here,and then had shit time at work so just wallowed by myself! So I'm bringing a big plate of fairy cakes and asking if I can rejoin and also if you can help me.
Right so- dh has gpt new job and is on 3 month trial (not a new thing for him,just a mandatory thing) and then hopefully will be on more money (they have told him this) for 12 months we thought he was going to be made redundant but both wanted a child so when he got new job we agreed ttc would start January. I had been more desperate than him so it was a huge thing and very exciting that he had said it!
But now I've started to get cold feet. We own own house, both paid ok so not relying on new job increase, although I only work part time (but this would be better when we have a child because of child care) entitledto website says we would get credits that would pay for substantal amount of childcare. dh has debts but all consolidated into a loan that he is paying in managable chunks and only has another 4years to pay (its for £11,000 which scares me but is under control)
But I've started to panic as I worry what if tax credits change and we wont have enough to pay for childcare? Me leaving work wont be possible because of mortgage and debts and I think if I left work we wouldnt get any money.
What if we had twins and we havent budgeted for that?
I'm fat (size 22 on a good day/24 on a bad) and I read that you dont get a bump and that if you do you just have like two bumps (because I've got a bit of a belly) and I've longed to have a baby so much I want to enjoy it all. I am fit though as I walk a lot but now I've started to think that the hospital/midwife will critisise me, that I will harm the child being this size and that I wont be able to look after it properly so shoiuld I wait till I'm a lot smaller?
And I'm having problems at work with my boss and also have realised that I want to change career and want to work with special needs children. But I need an nvq level 3 which I havent got and I'd need todo course and work in a school so that would take a year...and I've started another job that is as and when that might lead to more prmenant so shall I give that more time.
All I want is to have a child as does my husband but I just dont know what to do and I worry I'm just putting things off and we never will because the time will never be right. And I worry if I say this to dh he will say we'll postpone it and then we never will.

hi Amummy- sorry to hear u are so sad, if u do start ttc in january u wud be in it witha lot of us, i found this thread to be a great support and help and i hope u will to. me and my partner are in the same boat as u financially pretty much i think from wot u have said we are about to plunge into a big mortgage that will in total with insurances be mounting up to nearly £700 along with us both having car debts and credit cards etc :( not good but hoping we will struggle thru, we have a DD 17 months now and i am desperate for another one DP not keep on another one yet tho u do just seem tyo cope financially even if u dont think u will, great that u will get help from tax credits we get no help as we apparantly earn to much i wish that was the case. Have u been trying to lose weight i know a couple of people on this thread have been dieting in prep to try for a baby mayb if u had others doing it with u it mite be easier, and once u start losing even if its just a lil bit at a time i will help improve the way u feel about yourself :)
a lil idead for career change mayb while you were on mat leave u cud start an evening course doing your level 3, mite be worth looking into

hope u feel better about it all soon

Had a dream i was pregnant last nite, hope it comes true soon enuf

JS just push it forward by a wee 5 months haha, we will prob get to jan and all r lovely other halfs will get cold feet and push it back again anyway

amummyinwaiting so sorry to hear that things are tough with you at the moment. I don't really know very much about tax credits (other than I probably won't qualify for them) but I cna totaly understand the feeling of being overwhelmed by life and worrying about when to TTC.

As so many of us on here are trying to loose weight or get fit before TTC then how about setting up a Waiting to TTC "leaderboard" on mapmyfitness

It basically allows you to set up a board and then you put in all of your exercise (walking, running, classes - literally everything) and it tracks the calories you burn. If we all join then we can keep eachother motivated. What does everybody think?? everybody would need to register with mapmyfitness (free of charge) and the OI can invite you to the tracker.

JS that sounds like a great idea, i have managed to lose 2lbs this wk, so i am now 7lbs of my goal weight then i can get pregnant and fat and lose it all over again lol

Thank you jbells and Js. I think there will never be a "perfect" time but I need to atleast start to get things into order. Will feel happier when dh job sorted too. map my fitness sounds good.(she says eying up the chocolates she was bought for her birthday yesterday) It sounds stupid but I am scared to start dieting incase I fail so am burying my head in the ground. And fingers crossed 4months (atleast) is a good chunk of time to make a difference. I want to be a size 18- as I looked really good when I was that size so that is 3 dress sizes.

:D
Go to the website and sign up then post your username on here so I can add you to my friends and start the board running (no pun intended!!!)

Sorry amummy cross post.

Everybody worries about failing at dieting, it's completely natural but if you have a good plan (NOT a diet) and support then you should be fine. You don't actally have tell anybody in RL that you are on a diet. I know that bebe is on a thream on MN that is a kind of support group for weight loss and she has done incredibly well through hard work. It might be an idea to ask her advice.

Hello amummyinwaiting I can't post just now but I will come back I promise.

Hello!!

Firstly, amummy, I was about a size 18/20 when I had DD & had no weight related complications with that PG and had a baby bump! So being overweight is no guarantee that you will have problems. I have lost just over 4 stone this year (now a size 12/14) in preparation to TTC#2, I just felt that I wanted to do it to give the HP less excuses to poke and prod me during PG (My MS is already going to give them excuse enough). I joined a weight loss thread on MN, here come and join us if you like, we are all super nice! :o The ladies have been a massive support to me & we all give each other kicks up the bum gentle encouragement when needed!

I really feel for you with the financial side of things. DH is most likely going to lose his tax credits now he is self employed & I only get a teeney amount. I am a bit clueless about entitlement as DH does it all, I just don't have much of a financial brain whereas it's his job!! We struggle sometimes but honestly you do find a way of coping. Definately look into if you can retrain part time. A lady at our local playgroup is doing a NVQ level 3 & she does it part time & works part time too. Ultimately only you can decide what is right for you to do. But don't dissmiss the idea completely without exploring all avenues!

JS - I'd love to sign up to the fitness thing, but at the moment I just don't seem to have time to fit in exercise! :( DD has dropped her daytime nap!!! Aaaaarrrrrrggggghhh!!!! :(

OMG - bebe That is so strange I just picked up a GF chocolate brownie (not sure it's fat free but nevermind) - do you have magical powers that can teleport cake items?!?!?

Sorry for chatting about you in your absence. Was just holding you up as a fabby example of successful weight loss.

I have actually made brownies today (not GF and not fat free, but v scrummy) they are my jab night treat! I do have a great GF choc cake recipe though, it is soooooo rich!

Eating the brownies is the only way to keep me sane with the dieting! I'd never have stuck to it without the odd treat!

amummy- it is scary dieting but more so only if those close around you know that u are doing it and keep asking u, have you lost weight etc i have lost around 3 and a half stone since having DD and never really told anyone i was trying to lose and lost it so slowly no one even really commented plus im still bigger than i was b4 had DD and its been seventeen months now and i have hardly done any exercise except running round afta DD which is just as tiring as going the gym lol also always allow myself one treat a day i just try never to over indulge or when i do ill try to be even better the next day, slimming world do some great recipes

Bebe-hmmm to chocolate brownies you will have to start sharing your recipes with us :) im looking forward to when DD is old enuf to enjoy making cakes and biscuits with me

hello all

welcome to amummyinwaiting .

bebe your brownies sound very very yummy, licks lips

I am pleased to have made it to friday and have learnt the names and faces of my 19 new 3 year olds
about to have a quietish birthday weekend with OH, seeing FIL, and MIL + stepDIL for birthday celbrations, as its my 30th on Monday

will spend the day at work, and we might then have a full very boring staff meeting afterwards so even more boring than a usual monday. oh well.

hope everyone else is ok, and if im brave enough to test tomorrow ill let you know asap.

Have had a tiny bit of spotting today, which i guess could be AF starting early (for the 1st time in my whole entire life ) hmmm...

Eeeeek, just worked out each Brownie is 226 calories!!!!

Nannyl - my SIL is 30 on Monday too! Hope you have a lovely weekend. Spotting, if you have never been early, could be a PG symptom couldn't it?! Keep us posted!!

bebejones, yes it could... am now terrified...

told OH who is just desperate for me to be pg, and now im here im really hoping im not!

also if AF is coming my temp should have dropped a bit before, and it hasnt... im hoping it drops tomo so i can reassure myself it dropped late, but it has been the same VERY high for several days now...

Hopefully tomo i'll know and can put my 1st ever early AF down to coming off the pill, confusing my body...