Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all, laughing. All welcome (Part4)

[PrettyVacant1]

Hello and welcome to all.
Grab your OPK and stash of POAS' and join us on this quest to many a BFP.
This ones going to be lucky!

PFF Congrats on the arrival of AF and good luck on your first cycle :)

There's no way my friend could've heard about my MC, I think she's just been busy at work and in process of buying a new house which is why she hadn't been in touch. I feel much better about it today though and am genuinely pleased for her. It's just something that took me by surprise and set me back a few steps when I thought I was doing ok iyswim!

Two months waiting for AF..sigh..I'm only 2 weeks post mc and it already feels like an eternity!

Hello all, and good luck for all of you SWI!

Am beginning to get worried because I'm not showing ANYTHING on the ovulation sticks, not just faint, literally NOTHING.

Maybe that's why it took 7 years TTC before the one pg I had and couldn't even manage to keep....

Feeling a bit miserable again. Chocolate supplies needed! I seem to have passed most of mine out to you lot

Still, on the plus side the works we had planned to the house when we discovered the pg are still going ahead so if we manage to actually ever create a baby again the house will be all prepared for it.

heaves a sigh and tells herself to snap out of it

Must go and google more IUI scary stats! Have a good eve all....

oh Harriett, maybe you should see your GP if it's worrying you?

I had acupuncture this evening (for conception) and it was really lovely. Acupuncturist explained EWCM etc again and how much sex we should have LOL.

We have SWI'd for three days in a row so far !
But no 'peak' on the CBFM and I'm day 11.

Had a lovely girls night out and just popped by before bed! . Not been here long harriet, so sorry if you've had this conversation before but can the GP not carry out some tests to confirm?

Hi there
knitter, last time, when I had an ERPC in this it was about 5 weeks before my AF arrived.

Velvetcu - everyone does it differently, it took me about 5 months to get my first BFP and I started temping at about month 3. After the MC1 this year, I started with a Clearblue Fertility Monitor mainly because a friend told me she'd used one and got pg 1st month, but it did put a lot of pressure on us so if I decide to use it this time around I think I'll have to be be extremely discreet about it. I think it's good to go 'low-tech' as much as you can, lots of things I've read have said that trying to time sex is not the greatest idea, and that just having regular sex throughout your cycle is the most effective.
My issue is that if we're not TTC our 'normal' pattern is no-where close to 'regular sex throughout the cycle' and I start getting extremely stressed about the likelihood of sperm actually ever meeting egg. So I HAVE to know when to 'encourage' DH a bit more.

Sarah if you don't want the Downs Syndrome screening done just tell them that you don't want the nuchal measurement taken at the scan, they'll still make a whole lot of measurements - head, body, femur length, crown to rump - this will give you your 'official' due date. What is 'clown town'? Oh, and yes, Sherlock was brilliant, baddy definitely yummy in a twisted way. They were on tv this morning saying more episodes will be made but producers & writers have other 'commitments' at the moment.

Jolls I can't tell you you'll be fine, but I can tell you I've got everything crossed that you will you be.

Hopefully, good luck with that early scan, hope it's reassuring.

pinkfondantf, your description of living under a cloud struck a chord. I am still really up and down at the moment. I get little flashes of 'me' sometimes but othertimes I seriously start thinking I should get to GP to discuss imminent depression. It's quite worrying, but I'm pretty sure it's associated with hormone levels more than anything. I had a little bit of post-natal depression after DS and that coincided with changes in hormones BFing etc. I do find that being with close friends helps hugely though, it's like being plugged into an emotional battery and getting recharged. So I'm making the effort to see friends wherever possible.

moof really good to see you today. Don't feel bad about not posting but equally don't feel you need to namecheck.

Hi Sarah

I live in NW4. I don't know much about play groups as I work full time so have a mix of nursery and childminder. I've been meaning to go to clowntown but just not got round to it. It's partly because where we used to live soft play was part of the leisure centres and about £1 for the under 3s not £6 for rubbishy things in brent cross....

If you go a bit further down the north circular you could go fruit picking. We did it one sunday with friends and i'd definitely recommend if the weather is nice.

I was only offered the nuchal test once and refused as I always understood it as only applying to downs and I knew I wouldn't abort for that and took the view that I'd rather not know.

See if you can get some more information from the hospital about the test.

Good luck!

Morning lovelies x

A big kiss to those of you who are feeling low. Hope you have brighter days today. x

As of yesterday morning, my CBFM has 'lost' six hours, which means rather than ticking over to a new day and asking me for sticks at 6.30am when i get up, it's now asking me for them at 12.30pm. Fuck knows what's going on, but at least it's finally given me validation that using OPKs AND the monitor means I'm covering all bases.

So, got a :) on the OPK yesterday morning and again this morning, so DH finally relented and it's all actions go. Thank christ - to quote one of the great philosophers of our time, Phoebe Buffay, "A girl's gotta eat"

xxx

Hello and good morning to y'all :)
Its been great to have been so welcomed here, thank you..

Sorry to whinge on about AF, but omg I'm having the heaviest ever... Anyone else have this the first after a m/c? Im on day3 and its horrible, crampy and so heavy. urgh.

It feels like another slap in the face too. I mean I know Im not pg anymore, and this is just another reminder :( Doesnt help my mood much.

Anyway. Hows everyone else here? Im fluctuating between wanting to ttc asap. Id also like to ttc gently without stress or being too military about it. dont know if thats possible with me, I am a bit gung-ho. If you know what I mean!

Sorry this is a novel! :)

having a shit day. had a horrific dream last night. Am just totally convinced ive miscarried and my stupid crappy body wont ackowledge it. just wanted to tell you all :) jope you lovely ladies are having a better day

Oh sarah Im sorry you have to go through this, all you can do I guess is try and think positively, it aint over til its over, and hope remains until you know things for sure.
Aww bless ya. I totally understand how you are feeling though... I can't say anything to put your worries away... Try to Hang in there.

sarah sorry about your rubbish day - nightmares seem to be common at the moment - I am having weird dreams, that wake me up in a cold sweat. Like sunchild says - you are still pregnant until you KNOW otherwise! x

viv thanks for the temp advice - sure enough I spiked when you said and now am 3 DPO, and symptom spotting like the loon person I am.Has anyone seen the haddock ? I could do with a slap if anyone feels inclined?!

Just popping by really - am in 2ww so time is dragging of course. I have had 3 friends in the past 2 days tell me they are pregnant. I am pleased but too !

cheepz tell me cycle buddy - are you doing the symptom spotting ridiculously early too?? NO? Just me then

Morning all!

sunchild yes, I was the same but the next one was (thankfully) back to normal so hopefully you'll find that too.

sarah chin up, my lovely - here, distract yourself from the stressing for a moment by slapping Battery with this 'ere kipper > for her FAR TOO EARLY symptom spotting

Ladybee no harm in having a chat with the doc if you're feeling grotty - particularly as if you do feel you want to talk with someone it can take weeks and weeks to actually get to the top of the waiting list. I've also found spending time with friends is a big lift. Hope the cloud goes away soon :)

pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle WTF, UCL 30(??) CD34
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 15 UCL26-9 CD23
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 1 (post MC#2) UCL 27 CD22
digitalgirl TTC#2 Cycle 2 UCL41 CD21
PenguinsMummy TTC#3 Cycle 1 UCL25 CD20
Curlylox TTC# 3 cycle 6 UCL 28 CD19
batteryhen TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 28 C18
cheepz TTC#2 cycle 1 (round 4) UCL28 CD18
Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 cycle 2 UCL28 CD17
VivClicquot TTC#1 cycle 9 UCL28 CD14
PrettyVacant1 TTC#1 Cycle 3 UCL26(?!) CD14
Loopymumsy TTC#4 cycle 2 UCL26-28 CD13
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 1 UCL31, CD13
delilahbelle TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL28 CD13
Harriet75C TTC#1 cycle WTF UCL28 CD13
hairytriangle TTC#1 MC April/May/June CD12
saffronbun TTC#1, cycle 2, UCL 28, CD6
barrenbrook TTC#1 cycle 3 (post MC#3) UCL 28 CD5
Honeywitch TTC#1 Cycle 1 UCL 28, CD4
sunchild77 TTC#3 cycle 1 UCL ?, CD 3
pippaandpolly

WTTC
LadyBee TTC#2, MC#2 conf July 21
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, MC#2 (post ectopic) conf July 22
Moofold MC#2 conf Jul 29
getawiggleon TTC#2, MC#1 conf 1st Aug, UCL 26

RECENT GRADUATES
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
Jollster BFP 22 June
SarahMia BFP
northerngoldilocks - BFP 12 July
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July
Hopefully BFP 22 July
IvySedai BFP 1 August

freezing of course you can join our semi-lazy ttc!

battery you're right,it is far too early, but i understand your feelings!

woo, viv*! will you be MIA for a few days now? Enjoy!

ladybee what film was it? Hope you enjoyed the rest of it.

viv woop! It's like 'tag TTC and SWI' isn't it here! ? !

My CBFM hasn't shown peak yet - and I'm day 12. Not overly concerned as spots and EWCM are doing what they are supposed to.

Am due to have some cheapy ebay POAS arrive today so perhaps they'll be positive!

thanks for all the chocolate :)

sarah - sorry you're feeling so bad today - try to think positive and hope this helps big squeezy hug and passes an enormous bar of chocolate over

having a bad day - although the sticks say no, it feels like about the right time to SWI and DH just rang me to say he has to work late tonight. And he's also out tomorrow night.

How's a girl supposed to get pg if there's no time to SWI!

Think I'll go out and buy a massive supply of chocolate for all of us!

Hey Ladies..
41 and TTC and lost 10 weeks ago ..im new to all this cycle talk and abbreviations so excuse me till i catch up ..eeek
all i know is i had a normal 28 day cycle right after the mc ..and then this month i was 10 days late so i dunno wth is goin on is lost
Had to go Hosp monday for a 2 day test thing and again on day 21 ..
im on day 4 now...making no sense am i lol :)

Hi ladies - been away for a few days and yesterday finally got a positive opk, so looks like I'm on course for another 40 dayer. Been doing well on the swi-action and will continue on for another couple of days to be sure
Am crazy busy at work but will try and read through later tonight to catch up on the goss.

Hey all

Sorry you're here Jerzygurl, but welcome all the same.

Sarahmia Can you go to your local EPU to get an earlier scan if you think that would put your mind at rest. Big hug for you.

sunchild sorry about the bad AF this time round.

Battery tis FAR too early to symptom spot. I say that because I'm not symptom spotting at all, no way not me

Actually came on here because I had a bit of wobble this morning - a good friend annouced she's pregnant at our weekly coffee morning this morning. I already knew she was pregnant and she's had a m/c late last year, and I am happy for her but I just felt very sad and couldn't really be very enthusiastic for her. Was a bit taken aback by my reaction actually. I feel terrible because she's so lovely and has been very understanding and sent me a text afterwards saying she knows how hard it might be for me. Plus another of our friends is due next week (same time as I would have been) so generally feeling a bit down right now. sorry for the me, me, me post when others are having a rubbish time at the mo.

Anyway just reading this thread has cheered me up a bit so thank you.

Hoping pretty is not stuck to the ceiling
Digi no need to catch up tonight, you've got other things to busy yourself with

Hi to everyone else of course

Freezing, if it makes you feel any better, I had a bit of a teary moment in the office yesterday when a colleague revealed she was pg.

She's, how can I put this kindly, erm, a bit high maintenance, but is the kind of person for whom everything always lands in her lap. So two years ago, she decided she wanted to get married and bagged one of our partners, they got married in May and lo and behold, she's got her honeyoon baby. It's lovely news and I don't begrudge her or her husband one bit, but it definitely invoked a touch of the, "it's not fairs" in me.

And hi jerzygirl - welcome to our lovely little home :)

Am assuming I have added my self correctly - if not please let me know!

pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle WTF, UCL 30(??) CD34
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 15 UCL26-9 CD23
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 1 (post MC#2) UCL 27 CD22
digitalgirl TTC#2 Cycle 2 UCL41 CD21
PenguinsMummy TTC#3 Cycle 1 UCL25 CD20
Curlylox TTC# 3 cycle 6 UCL 28 CD19
batteryhen TTC#1 cycle 2 UCL 28 C18
cheepz TTC#2 cycle 1 (round 4) UCL28 CD18
Freezingmyarseoff TTC#2 cycle 2 UCL28 CD17
VivClicquot TTC#1 cycle 9 UCL28 CD14
PrettyVacant1 TTC#1 Cycle 3 UCL26(?!) CD14
Loopymumsy TTC#4 cycle 2 UCL26-28 CD13
youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 1 UCL31, CD13
delilahbelle TTC#1 cycle 1 UCL28 CD13
Harriet75C TTC#1 cycle WTF UCL28 CD13
hairytriangle TTC#1 MC April/May/June CD12
saffronbun TTC#1, cycle 2, UCL 28, CD6
barrenbrook TTC#1 cycle 3 (post MC#3) UCL 28 CD5
Honeywitch TTC#1 Cycle 1 UCL 28, CD4
sunchild77 TTC#3 cycle 1 UCL ?, CD 3
pippaandpolly
velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 1 UCL 30, CD 8

WTTC
LadyBee TTC#2, MC#2 conf July 21
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, MC#2 (post ectopic) conf July 22
Moofold MC#2 conf Jul 29
getawiggleon TTC#2, MC#1 conf 1st Aug, UCL 26

RECENT GRADUATES
BUnderthebonnet BFP 20 June
Muser BFP 22 June
Jollster BFP 22 June
SarahMia BFP
northerngoldilocks - BFP 12 July
Magic8ballhastheanswers BFP 14 July
Hopefully BFP 22 July
IvySedai BFP 1 August

Ladybee thanks for letting me know! We started TTC in March and it happened straight away. We regularly DTD but DH actually asked when we need to up the ante last night! I didnt think he was actually that interested but obivously I was wrong!

Hi YRMOTB and Loopy - this is scary stuff huh?

Just got home and found a letter from the clinic outlining the investigations we'd had and the IUI they've recommended.

It was good to know that we are 'a delightful couple'!

It wasn't so good to read that the consultant had apparently explained to us the increased risk of mc and down's. um, when exactly? i must have missed that part of the consultation... although I was there for the whole of it, so burbles gently to herself wondering whether she was in fact asleep or whether the consultant in fact mentioned nothing about it...

am now really worried and i'm going to have to go and start a thread asking people what they know about that!

i'm sure I'll be back here later. have a good eve ladies....

Hi everyone. Can't help you out with that Harriet, are they saying IUI increases the risk of MC and downs? Our best friends are going through IUI just now and haven't mentioned anything about that. Hope you get some answers.

Viv and Freezing big hugs for you. This has happened to me lots. Don't know what's worse, forcing a happy face or feeling guilty later about not really being happy for someone else. When it happened to me I didn't begrudge people getting pregnant or wish that they weren't - was just that I was genuinely happy for them either, which made me feel mean.

Sarah if the jitters are getting to you this much you should get to the EPU or pay for a private scan. Getting into a state can't be good for you. Try your best to chill in the meantime.

Bee good to hear from you too pal. You mentioned before you got a letter from GP to visit so maybe you should be upfront about how you feel, can't do any harm. Chin up, its early days for us both but we'll get there.

The DIY is obviously going well MrsP!! Waves to everyone else and hello to Jerzygirl

moof - not sure whether it's the IUI or some other unexplained factor that increases the risks - all the letter says is: 'I explained the increased risk of miscarriage and down's syndrome'.

This was not mentioned in the consultation.

I am 34, so the increased Down's thing could be because I'm nearly 35?

But no idea about the mc thing...

Now sg myself that even if i get pg ever again it'll all go wrong again and if it doesn't there'll be a chromosomal disorder in the baby.

slinks off into corner to feel sorry for herself and sob quietly. and then increasingly loudly until DH comes to give her a hug. which he can't 'cos he's working late. looks like the neighbours are in for a fun night of it then