Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all, laughing. All welcome (Part4)

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Hello and welcome to all.
Grab your OPK and stash of POAS' and join us on this quest to many a BFP.
This ones going to be lucky!

Popped in to see how empty is doing but she's not been on today.

Thinking of you dorcas

hopefully good luck with getting an early scan

harriet I don't discuss such things with mil, and if she ever said anything like that to me I would expect dh to do nothing less than give her a big telling off.

ladybee glad you're feeling more relaxed.

We are not swi-ing much. Opks are neg and Dh in a bad mood today anyway.

Morning all, blimey, it's been very busy again! I can't keep up, I'm on my phone but will try to catch up as best I can.

cheepz yup, almost top of list but I'm positive I'll be down the bottom in no time. No symptoms of either to speak of but got home from work yesterday and went into a cleaning frenzy so the arrival of RTD is imminent! Good news the new job is going well matey. And I know what you mean about not wanting to TTC. The break is more relaxing than you give it credit for and makes you realise quite how stressful the whole TTC process is. I quite often wonder if it's all worth it and I don't even have and kids yet.

moof glad to hear you're ok honey. As for waiting for the tests before you TTC again, the consultant I saw advised us to wait for the results, which are another 5 weeks away, eek! I think the advice differs as cheepz had different from me. I guess as long as you are ok with carrying on then that's what matters x

dorcas thinking of you chicken. If it makes you feel any better my mate bled all the way through both of her pregnancies and she has two gorgeous boys now. It's not necessarily a bad thing although I know how easy it is to think the worst x

Harriet hello, welcome and sorry you have such a knob of a MIL! Perhaps she didn't realise what she was saying? Trying to make light of something she shouldn't because she feels uncomfortable? I have a friend like that, I despair of her sometimes but she means well, most of the time! Like dorcas said, I don't discuss anything like that with MIL, too personal, and DH prefers it that way too as she can take over a little bit and be a bit of a drama queen!

pretty er, what are you doing on here young lady?!?!? I thought you told us to chase you away if we caught you on here! Naughty! Get back to work!

boods how you doing?! Nice to see you x

Hugs to everyone else, sorry if I've missed anyone but posting on my phone means I can only scroll up the last page and rely on my memory for the remainder (most of the messages) and it's not the greatest at the best of times!

Have a good day peeps x

Dorcas, forgive me I can't remember how many weeks you are. Words aren't enough to reassure I know; but just wanted to say I had a bright red bleed and lots of it, a dribble to a gush and an absolute soaking in an hour at 14 weeks with DS. I was working 100 miles away that day and drove home like a lunatic, went to the loo, saw how much blood, and thought NO way will this be ok. It was (I carried on bleeding but lighter for a couple of days). Hope all ok this morning.

hopefully know how you're feeling, phoned EPU myself yesterday as woke with a strange sensation of all not being well. No joy for an early scan for me "unless there's bleeding". sarahmia and anyone else feeling wobbly, big squeeze for you.

Sorry not to name check further, but I am feeling for everyone and their oh-so-individual worries and stresses. It reminds me how bloody mental brave anyone is to try again after MC. I raise my mug of morning Assam to us all xx

Morning all!

hopefully step away from the CBD stick! You don't need me to tell you it will only stress you out whatever it says

Dorcas fingers are most definitely crossed for you, hoping you're okay and the same goes for sarah and our other lovely BFP lurkers.

Hi to all,

Harriet I know what you mean about people not accepting the fact that you might use ivf it's their form of denial let it go over your head. If you are ready for it then go for it. We were given unexplained infertility due to already having a baby and no real reason for it. Everyone said I was mad etc etc etc but it was the only way to have another for us. So it was a deep breath and plunge into the pool of ivf.

Dorcas I bled with ds unto 16 weeks and every time I had a scan blood was not in uterus or gestational sac so they kept saying it's fine. Thank g-d it was but it is worrying so I really do understand. It's all the knicker checking and anticipation that doesn't help. But it can be fine so please try and relax. Feet up as much as poss slowed it down for me even if it's on another chair under desk at work

Sarah how you doing today keep your chin up all will be fine

julia1969 that's exactly how I feel at the moment, someone recommended reading Marilyn glenville book and using her supplements, apparently they rebalance everything as well as get body ready for pg and help prevent mc

Anyway someone coming so got to go hi to everyone else

Dorcas all things crossed for you today x Sarah and Hopefully how are you ladies feeling this morning?

Jolls could you not have a word with your GP and see if you can be referred for a scan? Although if my failing memory serves me right you are not far off 12 weeks now are you? I am sure all is ok. Do you mean strange sensation as in cramps or just a feeling?

Harriet - big welcome as I don't think I have said hello yet and I am completely shocked that you have had to put up with that. What did DH say in the end? Big welcome also to Pinkie !

Wonder what DIY Pretty has already done this morning?

Hi to Barren Saffron Loopy Digit Hairy and anyone I have missed! Plus an extra hug for Moof x

Hello!
8's the answer to that is none!
To be fair I was painting till 10pm last night.
Have to wait for brushes to dry so I'm on pooter.

Dorcas honey, will be thinking of you this morning.
Please don't ever worry about being inappropriate or being mememe, that's what we are here for.
I hope all is well at your scan and it's just your body telling you to step down a gear. xxx

Harriet blimey! How can people be so insensitive.
@ BarrenBrook
I'd definitely be having DH have a word or 6 in your MIL's shell like!
I'm so lucky that my MIL is the best a gal could ever wish for!
My Mother on the other hand

Jolls you ok?
What 8's said.
It's shocking that we don't get early scans with our histories.
When is your scan?

Oooops, I've not said hello properly to Pinkie and Harriet either.
How very rude!
Hello!
Paints addling my poor Brian.
Brian is crap at edges too btw.

Best shift myself....
Today I will be mostly clearing crap from one room to another, painting woodwork and erm..... going round with a white/red brush covering bits of white/red that doesn't belong there.
Brians fault!

Hi to (in no perculiar order cos I luvs you alls) Moofs , Freezing , Lady, Tigger , WhatBabe , Sarah , Cheepz , Digi , BarrenB, Hopefully , Hairy , Vivster , Julia and Loopy
and MaryLou and John Boy and Shep and Skipper

I'm going, I'm going............

fanks lovelies
My scan is Monday week (16th). No cramps or signs, just an absence of some I suppose. Just woke with an absolutely clear "I am not pregnant" feeling.... then of course the paranoia kicks in, wasn't as tired yesterday, didn't really feel sick, just ate a lot, tummy feels less solid etc etc etc. Bollox stuff probably.

Pretty - keep them windows open, them paint foooomes are scary! Can send you bonkers... oh no, too late .

Tigger - belated, sorry. I got a yellow micromini for DS 2nd birthday - he TOTALLY loves it. Went for yellow, as so many bloody blue ones in the park, would forever be checking it was the right one (plus avoid gender colours where poss).

Oh and a belated hello to all the newbs too... harriet, words fail me ref your MIL...

x

Just quickly popping in and waving to everyone - back to work this morning but first a trip to take DS to GP.

Jolls hope all turns out well at your scan, try not to be too paranoid. ~hugs~

magic8 how are you doing?

harriet your MIL sounds...~coughs~

now, I'd better go or we miss our appointment and I'll be late for work (of course, I'm itching to take 12 under 5s on a daytrip. joy.)

Jollster I hate that so many EPUs (I don't know if mine is included) will only scan you if you're bleeding - I think if you've MC'd previously, an early scan is a perfectly reasonable request, and only giving scans to bleeding women just encourages people in our position to lie through our teeth to get a scan, which doesn't benefit anyone. Pet peeve of mine.

Saffron I have stayed away from the CBD, but only because DP has been in the bathroom when I've walked through it to go to the toilet (separate rooms, adjoined), and if he saw me with a pregnancy test I think he'd truly think I'd lost it. I can imagine the conversation:
DP: Ummm... that's a pregnancy test
Me: Yup
DP: But you know you're pregnant
Me: But I want to see if I'm more pregnant
DP:

In other news, I am beginning to get the hunger. I got it with DS, and I think I put on literally a stone from 6-12 weeks. Am desperately trying to stick to healthy snacks, and only eat when i'm seriously hungry, as I really don't want to put on all that weight again, especially with only 16 weeks to lose it afterwards (all being well).

Well, we had the scan and the little one was bouncing around, waving and dancing. Healthy heartbeat and measuring well for dates so all seems okay. They think I may have been bleeding from my cervix, possibly from doing too much. (Good excuse to put my feet up for a few days!) I am so relieved, still a bit scared to believe it as well, and terrified every time I go to the toilet, but it is good news for now.
Thank you so much for all your support. Freezing that wasn't an insensitive suggestion at all about watching crappy movies last night, thanks, and it was exactly what I did. Didn't sleep much last night though and I've been awake since dawn- totally exhausted now. Everyones messages really helped me get through these last horrible twenty four hours, I can't tell you how grateful I am. It does make a difference knowing that people are thinking of you, you are all very kind.

dorcas that's brilliant news . Put your feet up and milk it all you can xx

Dorcas Fantastic news

lovely news dorcas

and hello to everyone else too....!

Hello, Haven't been posting much recently, mainly because am feeling v stressed.

Hopefully the group midwives I've registered with were lovely and found out about me getting an earlier scan than 12 weeks for 'reassurance' and said I could just turn up at the EPU. Am waiting until I'm 8 weeks so just less than a week to go (hence the increased stress). On the CBD front I cracked this morning and did the other one that I had. It did go to 3+ weeks which obviously made me feel better than if it hadn't, but can't say that its actually that effective as a way to make you more relaxed (plus peeing on a fiver when you already know you're pregnant is a bit silly!)

Jollster I hate to say this, but you could always just say you've had a bit of spotting to get a scan. Horrible that you'd have to lie and not something you want to make up, but being so stressed isn't great either.

Dorcas thats brilliant news - resting seems like a good idea.

PV loving the decorating chat. Not sure if you knew, but if you're painting every day you don't really need to wash the brushes, just wrap them tightly in foil so they don't get exposed to the air - saves time, but does probs limit your mnet posting time, which isn't something I'm keen to encourage!

Viv - booked a holiday yet? Cheepz hope the new job is still going well, enjoy the honeymoon period!

Haven't put the posts on 'view all' so can't check further back than this page. Fingers crossed for all those on the 2WW, waves to everyone else.

V pleased for you dorcas

Went to the clinic this morning - did lots of scans etc. The good news is that they found out what they think might have taken us so long to get pg in the first place.

The bad news is that they think it's my ovaries and so they think although we can have a go at IVF etc. they aren't convinced they'll get enough eggs to give it a good chance of working, so the odds of us getting a baby without going through loads of cycles are minimal.

They want us to do a stimulated IUI cycle first to see how my ovaries respond before we go for IVF.

Bring it on! I don't think I've been so keen for my cycle to start EVER!

Good luck jolls

Oh - the CBD thing - I checked every single day. DH even bought some for me cos he knew I was really worried! I was so pleased when it went up to 3+. Hope it works out for all of you closet CBD checkers

DH has not yet spoken to MIL. She did not answer her phone yesterday (apparently). He is under pain of death to do it today, or I will stop cooking his dinner and washing his clothes, and a few other things

at harriet, I think thats definately the best thing to do, to shock him into action! Hope it all goes well, glad you seem a bit further in the long trudge towards another bean!

Glad your scan went well dorcas. Personally,I don't think i will ever underestimate the joy that can come from seeing a healthy scan from now on. So, YEY!

I am busy. hopefully has inspired me to sew a quilt, and i'm gonna take our wallpaper off in the bedroom tomorrow, DS will enjoy helping!

When I get some time, I'll post you my mouse story(vom).

Speak soon, love and positive vibes to all.

Ps I am festivalling at the end of this month!

Huurah, dorcas that is ace news.

Hopefully I fully sympathise with the and must confess that during last pg I also succumbed to the CBD to see if I was more pg. This is why they all think we are nuts

Harriet hopefully it will all work first time and then you won't need the IVF

Back for a few hours yesterday and then perpooter went loony with virus. Have got the virus off (I think) but can't get tinternet to connect now so am on DHs ...so won't 'be allowed' on here for long!

Dorcas top banana! Preggo bleeding is, supposedly, really quite common but terrifying whe it happens especially as we can't control it, huh? That is splendid news, truly.

Harriet thing is at least you have some kind of info now and a plan and it seems that so much of the time it's the unknown that makes it harder to manage. Exactly as you say, just bring it on now. X

Jollster I agree with northerngoldi - fib! You need to look after yourself and if you are trying to use resources to help you and they aren't cooperating well I think you need to 'persuade' them to help you. Just my two pennies, hope I haven't overstepped the mark.

So earlier this week I got the O/egg sign on Persona and then checked (OCD .. .whadyoosay??) with FR Ov POAS and also got the two pink lines so went for it - 4 x SWI in 3 days .

So, prepare my scaly friends .. ..

Laters.

Yay for dorcas !

And wow julia - that'll be me from about Monday til weds

Hey lovelies

Really really flying visit from me as I'm having a mental day at work but wanted to say a big whoop whoop for dorcas and good news for harriet that things are moving in the right direction.

Will be back when things are less crazy! x

Yay Dorcas so great that everything is OK

I think I have low blood pressure (had it throughout with DS). Have a constant feeling that I've stood up quickly. Good symptom, I suppose, but I keep wandering round in kind of a daze!

Harriet glad you got some joy at the clinic, and fingers crossed your ovaries do their thing straight away.

Youremindme yay on the quilt! I think I'm up for some quiet hand sewing tonight in front of the TV. No wedding dress concentration thanks to the freaky stood-up-quickly-thing continues.
Eagerly awaiting mouse story