Would you surrender Christmas to your DH?

[Vaster]

This year, as always, DH has moaned that the children have too many gifts and has spent most of the day eating the food that I planned and bought and cooked and cleaned up as if it was all provided for by a magic fairy.

When I asked him to help me clean up he said I am always looking for a fight and I don’t get what Christmas is about (love, peace, family).

He doesn’t seem to realise that I am Christmas. Without everything I‘ve done over the past weeks, today would have been just another day.

I am sorely tempted to surrender Christmas to DH and see where that gets us next year. But I value my DC‘s happiness too much.

So, just for fun- what would Christmas look like if your DH took over? If it would be the same, or just as great, then lucky you- hold on to him tight. Because after sitting in silence for the past 2 hours, I‘m regretting my life choices tonight.

I agree but unfortunately it appears that a lot of posters are married to useless men who are incapable of simple tasks.
Makes me wonder if any of these men manage to hold down a job or are they useless there as well as at home?

There would have been lots of food from the deli section of some posh shop - but none of it would actually make a meal.

It would be beef, not turkey, and there would be no sides.

The kids would have one present each, unwrapped unless they offered in the shop, of a computer item, or trainers that don't fit - no stocking, and a bottle of fizzy wine (expensive brut probably, when I prefer sweet asti)

There would be no lights or decorations, there might be a tree bought the day before, and a box of baubles from tescos to hang on it.

No cleanup would be done.

I am embarrassed how long it took me to realise he needed to be an ex.

Your husband is a dickhead.

My does all food shops, makes packed lunches and does almost all cooking. He pays the kids school meals accounts. He is in charge of filling the cars up with petrol and, of course, bins, which includes the christmas day ‘dad bin bag’. He is also in charge of going into the loft. He obviously also does the Christmas dinner as standard. He buys mine and his mum’s presents. He might also suggests something for our son. He also takes instructions, so ‘put the garland up’. Done. ‘Get the tree from the loft’. Done. ‘Go to the til with this’. Done.

One November he was sick of cooking so demanded we swap jobs. He did all present shopping. I refused to do any lists either as if lists and presents was my job, that full job was now his. He did fine because he isnt a selfish, sexist manchild. Thankfully, he decided he preferred cooking every evening to the bitty and weekly jobs of windows and mirrors, dusting, vacuuming, cleaning the bathroom weekly, bed sheets, ironing, washing, sorting the clothes, the toilets cleaning daily and started he the cooking again before Christmas day.

Best thing about my dh is when he is pissed off, he angry cleans. So if we have an argument I will hear him vacuuming the stairs 😂

Ours would be great as he’s a perfectly competent adult who is quite capable of cooking a roast. Although he’d totally ruin my Christmas because he doesn’t like pickled onions so wouldn’t buy me any. And the tree would stay up far longer than I’d like it to.

Ex DP hated Christmas and only bought gifts under sufferance. There would be no tree, shit decorations bought on Christmas Eve, and gifts he’d bought from B&M in a panic two hours before closing time. Lots of alcohol and hardly any food, which would be fine for him as he’d probably be out the door again Boxing Day so he could get to the pub.

Couldn't be more glad to be single, frankly.