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Dozeyduck · 2025-12-24T19:47:07+00:00

I just did. Feeling overwhelmed. It's all on me. Presents haven't arrived, so much to do, wrapping, food prep, husband working all over Xmas. I just want to lie on the sofa with a baileys and relax but I can't. Sending hugs to those that need it xx

ShelleyCarpenter · 24/12/2025 22:02

nunsflipflop · 24/12/2025 21:59

I am so sorry for your loss xx

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Thank you very much

Summerhut2025 · 24/12/2025 22:04

Oioiqueen · 24/12/2025 20:13

Secondary cancer diagnosis a month ago. Struggling a little and have found myself a bit snappy today with the kids and not meaning to be. I think it's felt worse as my hair has started shedding today from the chemo I'm on. Ideally I want to shave it off as my head is sore and losing it is freaking me out but I'd like this year's pictures where I have some hair on my head as vain as that sounds.

However I'm trying to make myself feel positive as the kids are 4 & 6 and they are in their believing era and I'm all for it. The excitement has been wonderful to see and hear today. Now just sitting on my own doom scrolling whilst DH is in his office doing the last of his wrapping and I'm listening out to hear if the kids stir but don't think it'll be much longer until I can distract myself getting everything out. Then my sedative meds will kick in and it'll be zzzzz until the kids dive into our room at some insane hour.

My god honey how are you doing this! You’re a trooper. Wishing you all the best with your treatment 🥰

HermioneWeasley · 24/12/2025 22:07

I’ve been feeling sorry for myself for various reasons and absolutely seething at teen DD who was unbelievably rude to me this evening, but the stories from those of your suffering bereavement had put things in perspective.

sending love and peace to all those struggling

tiredconfusedhungry · 24/12/2025 22:08

Yep. Dd1 is 10 in January and is questioning everything this year. I know this will be the last Christmas she believes in Santa in this way.

Also DH and I separated in April and this is likely to be the last one I have in my lovely lovely home. The home we built together over the last 9 years will be sold in the spring and I’m heartbroken. He is spending tonight here with the kids and me so he can see them open their presents then he’s off to his girlfriends at 11. I’ve got the DC all day tomorrow and Boxing Day but next year will probably be split between us and I can’t bear the thought of it if I’m honest. I didn’t have kids to only see them for part of Christmas, none of this was my doing and it feels so unfair.

neilyoungismyhero · 24/12/2025 22:08

LoisGriffinskitchen · 24/12/2025 20:01

Me, had to have my 12yt old cat pts on the 22nd. My heart is honestly aching that she is not here. It was the right decision but not easy. Just not feeling it this year as a result. Luckily no children as DS is 23 now so I’m allowed to feel sad.

We are up early to head to Wales and my elderly FIL tomorrow. I might get some feeling of the season when all the family are together.

Hugs. I had my 19 year old moggy put to sleep last week with liver failure. We miss him and his funny little ways.

i8gratedcheddar · 24/12/2025 22:08

Me too. My life is a fucking mess right now and my head is fried trying to paint on a smile until shit really hits the fan in the new year. The pressure of trying to pretend everything is OK and give DC a good Christmas is so overwhelming. Would love to think things can only get better, but it’s going to get a whole lot worse before that’s ever going to happen.
Love and hugs to others struggling or feeling emotional.

TheTecknician · 24/12/2025 22:10

Christmas can be so black and white, can't it? Joyous and festive or utterly cruel and heartbreaking.

Raisondeetre · 24/12/2025 22:10

Screenager · 24/12/2025 21:53

This was me last year. I got so overwhelmed with the busying of it all and remember having a cry.

I vowed not to put that unnecessary pressure on myself again.

This yr, although I’ve had the usual responsibilities, i feel much more chilled

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I’m not doing it again either. I’ve decided this is my last year.

AmyDuPlantier · 24/12/2025 22:11

ShelleyCarpenter · 24/12/2025 21:57

Me, my sister just died.

Oh my goodness. I am ever so sorry.

SpiceGhoul · 24/12/2025 22:15

Me! Discovered cheating yesterday (again), kicked him out immediately (it's my house). I wasn't looking but went to take his phone off charge as he'd fallen asleep and seen the messages on the home screen.

Not the first time, but I forgave the first time because, well I don't know why I just loved him and I'm dumb. First relationship after my 10 year relationship ended, also due to cheating! I thought he was my happy ending, obviously not.

Christmas was planned to be with his family, mine are in another country and it's just too late to make other arrangements. I am curious how he'll explain my absence, doubt he'll admit he's been shagging a pensioner! (I'm 35, he's 37 and she's 67). I'm not hating on older women but this feels pretty shit, she's not a victim at all as she knew about me and slagged me off in messages.

Sounds pathetic compared to what others have been through, but it is what it is.

EllaPepper · 24/12/2025 22:18

yes. me too. it's just all a bit shit. feeling a huge amount of of pressure to be festive and joyful. it's my first christmas eve on my own after divorce earlier this year. kids at ExH's. currently in bed with vermouth and watching victoria wood. it's helping a bit. sending you all heaps of love.

Hadenough2022 · 24/12/2025 22:18

Me too. My mum died a few weeks ago. Daughter and my husband clashing about something trivial earlier and it was too much.

popupandsayhi · 24/12/2025 22:20

Binfire · 24/12/2025 19:55

Me. Husband thinks he’s a wonderful family man by doing 5% of the work and leaving the rest to me. He had told me he’d make brisket for dinner then forgot he’d ever said it, and denied all knowledge. Safe to safe that dinner was left to me. I finally snapped this evening and have ruined the atmosphere for everyone. Brilliant. Merry fucking Christmas.

We all do it. Still tomorrow to relax and lower expectations and have an ok day. Don’t be so hard on yourself, you’re only human and had reached breaking point.

Sugargliderwombat · 24/12/2025 22:21

Me. Dad died 6 months ago. Grandma currently in the funeral home awaiting her funeral.

I cried happy tears though, sat with my 3 yesr old watching the grinch and the little poem just set me off. How short life is and how happy I am to have them.

Sugargliderwombat · 24/12/2025 22:22

SpiceGhoul · 24/12/2025 22:15

Me! Discovered cheating yesterday (again), kicked him out immediately (it's my house). I wasn't looking but went to take his phone off charge as he'd fallen asleep and seen the messages on the home screen.

Not the first time, but I forgave the first time because, well I don't know why I just loved him and I'm dumb. First relationship after my 10 year relationship ended, also due to cheating! I thought he was my happy ending, obviously not.

Christmas was planned to be with his family, mine are in another country and it's just too late to make other arrangements. I am curious how he'll explain my absence, doubt he'll admit he's been shagging a pensioner! (I'm 35, he's 37 and she's 67). I'm not hating on older women but this feels pretty shit, she's not a victim at all as she knew about me and slagged me off in messages.

Sounds pathetic compared to what others have been through, but it is what it is.

Doesn't sound pathetic at all. It sounds royally shit. Hope the day passes by quickly for you xxx

itbemay1 · 24/12/2025 22:23

Me. Lost my darling dog this time last year and I miss him so much. So overwhelmed with prep. So took myself off to bed for a scroll on here and to watch some crap TV in bed. Will need a brave face for tomorrow x

ShergarAgain · 24/12/2025 22:24

Me. The 15th Christmas in a row I’ve hosted and cooked, the first since my Dad died, and tomorrow DH’s brother and dog arrive. Our DD (21) is back from Uni and I spent ages cleaning and sprucing up to make a nice relaxing family Christmas for her (v intense med school course), but DH announced that his son (39) is unexpectedly coming to stay after only just being discharged from a psychiatric facility after starting antipsychotics for paranoid delusions that saw him arrested for threatening to murder various people. DD and I are no longer having any form of relaxing Christmas - she has a doorstop to keep her bedroom door closed but mine opens outwards, so currently getting very little sleep listening out at night. DD got personal alarms for her and me too. I am furious with DH, who likes to impose his decisions without discussion. Absolutely sick of his manbaby son from well before any of the psych issues too…..here every year mansplaining the science of my own job (which he doesn’t understand) to me, never brings anything with him so DH buys things for him to give, and never learned to drive so needs collecting and driving back to his own city FFS. Unable to relax in my own home while he’s here so I always end up in my bedroom watching TV. Next year he can sod off, I’m going to arrange Christmas in a hotel with DD. I’ve come to really hate Christmas.

NonieS5 · 24/12/2025 22:25

Yapper73 · 24/12/2025 20:07

Me too - I’m sorry, it’s really hard

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And me...😢

ChocoChocoLatte · 24/12/2025 22:25

Me. I miss my parents. I’m on chemo & exhausted. Folk were dicks at work today and have just seen in IG all my cousins are having a ‘thing’ - we weren’t even invited. Gutted.

fuck. Fuck them all and fuck cancer frankly.

Bippidee · 24/12/2025 22:26

Nope. I really need one. Or a rage room session.

bestcatlife · 24/12/2025 22:27

I'm just about to have one. It's just been such a shit year and I'm burned out. The shit hasn't ended either and more fun to come in the new year in the form of wisdom tooth extraction which I am terrified about 😥
Hugs to everyone teary today x

Hellohellohello25 · 24/12/2025 22:27

I haven't cried but I always feel depressed around this time. This year I was so happy to be pregnant but had to terminate for medical reasons (tfmr) 3 months ago at 4.5 months. It's not a death of someone I knew but it's still a heartbreak. It was my first pregnancy. I hope to have better luck in 2026. Sending hugs to all those that have lost loved ones. Xx

NewNameforThisPost2025 · 24/12/2025 22:27

mynameiscalypso · 24/12/2025 19:53

I went to church with DH and DS (6) and the sound of his little voice singing O Come All Ye Faithful had me in tears.

And how did your DS sound?

🤣🤣

NewNameforThisPost2025 · 24/12/2025 22:28

doodleygirl · 24/12/2025 19:50

Me, it’s the first one without my mum

It gets easier. 💐

Raisondeetre · 24/12/2025 22:28

ShergarAgain · 24/12/2025 22:24

Me. The 15th Christmas in a row I’ve hosted and cooked, the first since my Dad died, and tomorrow DH’s brother and dog arrive. Our DD (21) is back from Uni and I spent ages cleaning and sprucing up to make a nice relaxing family Christmas for her (v intense med school course), but DH announced that his son (39) is unexpectedly coming to stay after only just being discharged from a psychiatric facility after starting antipsychotics for paranoid delusions that saw him arrested for threatening to murder various people. DD and I are no longer having any form of relaxing Christmas - she has a doorstop to keep her bedroom door closed but mine opens outwards, so currently getting very little sleep listening out at night. DD got personal alarms for her and me too. I am furious with DH, who likes to impose his decisions without discussion. Absolutely sick of his manbaby son from well before any of the psych issues too…..here every year mansplaining the science of my own job (which he doesn’t understand) to me, never brings anything with him so DH buys things for him to give, and never learned to drive so needs collecting and driving back to his own city FFS. Unable to relax in my own home while he’s here so I always end up in my bedroom watching TV. Next year he can sod off, I’m going to arrange Christmas in a hotel with DD. I’ve come to really hate Christmas.

I would have refused to have him there if I were you and certainly leaving my husband.